FabSwingers.com forum: BJ in club etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My wife will be giving a man a BJ for the 1st time in a club soon.

Is it normal to insist the man wears a condom?

Also what are the rules for cumming - does the man hold back or do ppl just carry on till the end?

Thanks!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It's your rules. Do you have any set out? Worth setting some in our opinion.

Our rules are oral without and no exchange of bodily fluids, ie. no cumming in the mouth, boobs are just fine to cum on, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks! She said would prefer condom but wasn't sure how that would go down with ppl. Also solves the issue of cum in mouth too. Good idea of cumming elsewhere tho as we also wouldn't want exchange of bodily fluids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes your rules. You set them people have a choice to either pass or play.

Hope you enjoy your experience when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Thanks! She said would prefer condom but wasn't sure how that would go down with ppl. Also solves the issue of cum in mouth too. Good idea of cumming elsewhere tho as we also wouldn't want exchange of bodily fluids"

Oral with condom it is then, if people don't like it, tough! Can't imagine many guys there with a raging hard on refusing though, lol.

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oral with condom it is then, if people don't like it, tough! Can't imagine many guys there with a raging hard on refusing though, lol.

Have fun

Oh my

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

"My wife will be giving a man a BJ for the 1st time in a club soon.

Is it normal to insist the man wears a condom?

Also what are the rules for cumming - does the man hold back or do ppl just carry on till the end?

Thanks!"

Totally up to you. Might be worth communicating beforehand rather than assuming. People in clubs are used to other swinging being upfront about what their dynamic and ‘rules’ are. X

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By *horeformoreWoman
over a year ago

Kensington

I like to be told when then are getting close, I usually swallow as its less messy and probably wont be the last one I give that night and dont want to me messy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confused (yes,it does happen) ... How are you supposed to control a guys pre-cum during oral sex when a condom is not used..?

I produce a lot of pre-cum and mos. guys are the same...

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By *horeformoreWoman
over a year ago

Kensington

while not as issue for me, if the woman has an issue it would be condom if not its mixed with the spit and swallowed or spat out I assume

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks, good advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That makes so much sense and is more practical as well as natural. Its just something neither of us are particularly keen on. It might change in the future but certainly for now is BJ condoms

Thanks for the response x

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

You know you can't catch anything from cum in the mouth apart from herpes. So the only reason I'd ask someone to wear one would be if I had tonsillitis (because that can pass as a bacterial infection to the guy) or if the guy hadn't got good hygiene. It's completely unnecessary to wear a condom for oral. I'm going to la chambre on Friday and I plan on giving many people blow jobs without.. Lol

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"You know you can't catch anything from cum in the mouth apart from herpes. So the only reason I'd ask someone to wear one would be if I had tonsillitis (because that can pass as a bacterial infection to the guy) or if the guy hadn't got good hygiene. It's completely unnecessary to wear a condom for oral. I'm going to la chambre on Friday and I plan on giving many people blow jobs without.. Lol

All it takes is to have bleeding gums from over zealous brushing or a graze for the cum to introduce any contaminate to your bloodstream.

It’s lower risk , but not without risk.

Not having the cum in your mouth reduces the risk further.

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

All it takes is to have bleeding gums from over zealous brushing or a graze for the cum to introduce any contaminate to your bloodstream.

It’s lower risk , but not without risk.

Not having the cum in your mouth reduces the risk further."

Sex with strangers is always a risk. Even with protection. Those poor guys who receive a blow job with a condom on!!

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

All it takes is to have bleeding gums from over zealous brushing or a graze for the cum to introduce any contaminate to your bloodstream.

It’s lower risk , but not without risk.

Not having the cum in your mouth reduces the risk further.

Sex with strangers is always a risk. Even with protection. Those poor guys who receive a blow job with a condom on!! "

The poor guys could always say no thankyou

I know people choose and weigh up their own comfort levels and risk factors , which is of course great. But it pays to have all the information to be able to make an informed decision that’s all.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Oral ghonorea can occur from oral sex without a condom. There is a risk but it's whether you're happy to take that risk or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You can catch gonnorhea in your throat from oral sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Deffo mixed views here! Plenty of ppl do it without. As a man id prefer no condom - it feels better and is sexier, however i would respect the womans views if she asked me to wear a condom - i wouldn't be turning her down anyway! I know my mrs would much prefer to use a condom when she gives her first BJ and I think thats the best option too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Crickey!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Deffo mixed views here! Plenty of ppl do it without. As a man id prefer no condom - it feels better and is sexier, however i would respect the womans views if she asked me to wear a condom - i wouldn't be turning her down anyway! I know my mrs would much prefer to use a condom when she gives her first BJ and I think thats the best option too

That's all that counts. I asked the guy to use a condom the first time I gave another man a blow job. You will get people telling you you're "doing it wrong" but apart from mutual respect there are no rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can also get chlamydia in the throat too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We will certainly manage expectations. Do u go without now then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ewwww

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By *rsFine-MrBallsCouple
over a year ago

markinch

As said its totally your rules,whatever you are comfortable with, me personally MR . I would say no thanks to a blow job with a condom on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Although very rare, HIV can also be transmitted through oral sex. Conditions such as bleeding gums and poor oral health increase the risk of transmission through oral sex.'

Just health, h.i.v basics

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We will certainly manage expectations. Do u go without now then?"

Use reply and quote so we know who you're responding to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jees!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys! Still finding our way in this new world

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks guys! Still finding our way in this new world

you're welcome. We all started somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NHS got it all wrong then?

Granted chances are lower with the other stuff, but nasties CAN be transmitted through oral.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hearing quite a few views like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No etiquette. You make your own rules. For me I do oral without as that's the way I prefer it. Only my fwb gets to cum in my mouth. Anyone else can finish on my face or chest but I can sense when they are cumming and pull back the last second so they don't even realise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then can be transmitted to a woman during oral sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this can be transferred to a woman during oral activities...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can assure you gonnoreah is highly transmissible by oral sex and is passed frequently that way. Syphilis can also be contracted that way. The jury is out on chlamydia passed that way.

I suggest you have a good read of the sex wise website before giving false advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good comment .... Thinking with your brain is safer than 'thinking' with your balls...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

If a man insisted on a condom for oral I would walk away. Does nothing for me. Our way if playing. Can honestly say in all our club visits we have never seen a condom being used for oral. Just be up front and play your way OP. Be educated on sti's and chose your own level of risk. Ours is no condom for oral but always condoms for penetration and regular testing.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's slightly scary that some people believe this.

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By *horeformoreWoman
over a year ago

Kensington

I know the risks and would still never suck a condom covered cock x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can catch gonnorhea in your throat from oral sex"

and chlamydia...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules are on both sides, but in general the lady will first suggest a condom. Also the guy shouldn’t cum in her mouth unless she’s agreed or given him a clear indication that it would be okay, usually he should warn her he’s close and if she continues in an enthusiastic manner, then this is I presume a good indication that’s she’s ok with it!

That’s if no condom was used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what's worse - that people are so ignorant about what STIs can be transmitted during oral sex or that soneone would identify poor hygiene on a man and suck his cock anyway, albeit with a condom.

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By *ude boy 2017Man
over a year ago

Bolton

The first blow job I had at a club was without condom and suprised when she swollowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's slightly scary that some people believe this."

I have heard that you can 100% get pregnant through oral sex.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

It is frightening how little some people know about sexual health.

Personally, I don't like blow jobs with a condom on, I know the risks and am comfortable with my choice.

Back to the OP, you do whatever you feel comfortable with and don't feel pressured to change it, your body, your choice.

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *atietvsheffTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

One guy wanted Katie to give him a BJ while he wore a condom so he could get straight into Katie’s pussy when hard and not to lose his erection by taking time to put the condom on, seemed a reasonable suggestion if he struggled to maintain a hard on I thought, however it was horrible tasting the rubber, made Katie gip, just not enjoyable at all

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By *obby69Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I am not keen on a covered BJ, but the choice is with the blower, show respect guys. Happy Swinging xx

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"It's your rules. Do you have any set out? Worth setting some in our opinion.

Our rules are oral without and no exchange of bodily fluids, ie. no cumming in the mouth, boobs are just fine to cum on, thanks."

This. A club is all about being yourself and playing how you want with consenting adults.

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By *ids_NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

I can assure you gonnoreah is highly transmissible by oral sex and is passed frequently that way. Syphilis can also be contracted that way. The jury is out on chlamydia passed that way.

I suggest you have a good read of the sex wise website before giving false advice "

Because everything on the web is correct lol

Here a fact...you more likely to die in a car crash on the way to the club to give said BJ...

I’m all for safe sex, and not taking silly risks, but some people’s posts on here amaze me, I’m amazed if they ever actually have sex at all as they make it sound like the worlds most dangerous activity ever... next they’ll be suggesting bleaching your cock and pussy!

But let me guess their kitchen cupboard is probably already full of antibacterial products, that are the reason the western world is full of people with allergies and ever growing superbugs, being pumped into our water supply.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"My wife will be giving a man a BJ for the 1st time in a club soon.

Is it normal to insist the man wears a condom?

Also what are the rules for cumming - does the man hold back or do ppl just carry on till the end?

Thanks!"

The etiquette for any sexual activity in any club is simple - everything by consent.

How it’s done is between your wife & the guy she plays with & no one else ... not even you OP!!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It’s actually terrifying that people believe this!!

STI’s most definitely can be transferred from genitals to mouth (M to F and also F to M) and it doesn’t even require the receiver to cum. Bacteria can travel through the saliva, pre-cum or skin to skin contact (ie deep throating). Equally, an individual with oral thrush, chlamydia or gonnorohea can pass this to another person by giving oral sex.

This is why STI checks should always include oral swabs to be thorough.

I do not use a condom when giving oral sex but I’m aware of the risks & am tested regularly. I also don’t play with people who aren’t tested regularly.

People indulging in unprotected oral play without being aware of the risks & getting regular testing are a ticking time bomb!!

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By *hilandHollyCouple
over a year ago

Newark

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