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BGHS - first time experience for a single male

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all,

I hope I can get some advice from the more experienced members.

I have never been to BGHS before.

I am single and male which makes it a bit harder.

From what I have read around, it is usually rammed with single males, is that true?

I am not the pushy type, I am not going there with only one thing in mind.

I want to chat a bit with a couple or a lady but how does one go about it without coming across as another perv?

I am kinda self conscious so preferably I would love to go when it's a bit quieter, any times you'd suggest?

Does the stuff / other clients just stare at you?

Maybe there's a couple or a lady wanting to accompany me? Check the place out, go for a massage, use the saunas and jacuzzis etc. just a normal relaxing day...

Apologise if it's all like a nonsensical rumbling, I want to get all my thoughts out and its a bit chaotic. Lets get the conversation started!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there

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By *ivelaughlove16Couple
over a year ago

norfolk/Suffolk border

Been there countless times and it has fantastic facilities,our advice would be to not hassle or follow people around as this puts us right off .Happy to chat and get to know people in either the bigger hot tubs or in lounge area .If you go with no expectations and just enjoy the place sure you will have a great time and maybe some fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go down on a weekday in the afternoon or evening, it's quieter than the weekends. There's usually a few couples and women around but generally men outweigh the women.

Forget that the place has "playrooms" and just go and enjoy the spa facilities. I take a book with me to read of I am going on my own.

If you do start chatting, keep the conversation off sex. There's nothing more off putting than a guy striking up a conversation in the sauna and then asking for a blowjob before you've even broken the ice.

Enjoy, it is a fabulous place to relax

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there "

I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.

lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D

Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been there countless times and it has fantastic facilities,our advice would be to not hassle or follow people around as this puts us right off .Happy to chat and get to know people in either the bigger hot tubs or in lounge area .If you go with no expectations and just enjoy the place sure you will have a great time and maybe some fun ."

That is exactly what I want to avoid!

I am not the pushy type, I don't want someone to feel like I am blatantly perving on them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go down on a weekday in the afternoon or evening, it's quieter than the weekends. There's usually a few couples and women around but generally men outweigh the women.

Forget that the place has "playrooms" and just go and enjoy the spa facilities. I take a book with me to read of I am going on my own.

If you do start chatting, keep the conversation off sex. There's nothing more off putting than a guy striking up a conversation in the sauna and then asking for a blowjob before you've even broken the ice.

Enjoy, it is a fabulous place to relax "

Bloody hell, sometimes it amazes my how blatant people can be, even about such things... then I remember why I tend to not socialise :D

I can't even imagine a conversation while fully naked or being stared at... lol I guess it's not just women that don't enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the encouraging messages!

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

It’s a great place, I’ve been going for years if you do fancy a woman play it cool keep it polite no sex talk unless the woman instigates it, and the most important rule ever is do not follow a woman around the spa for any reason

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By *ambsLad2Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Do as I always do, go just expecting a great relaxing time, and anything on top is a bonus. I've been going for many years now and have only had a couple of visits where nothing has happened. Couples/single ladies are usually thin on the ground, but sometimes lady luck does wave her magic wand in your direction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection?

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By *ambsLad2Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

You'll be provided with a towel - use that to conceal it! I've not seen a full stiffy outside of the restrooms. The staff to patrol regularly and take a dim view of any amorous activity, including public erections.

I was convinced I'd get a stiffy on my first visit but it didn't happen, even with plenty of naked bodies around. In the restrooms though, it was a different matter. You can be as hard as you like in there.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there

I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.

lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D

Might follow the advice below and take a book or something... "

A book?? You could do that at home!

If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there

I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.

lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D

Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...

A book?? You could do that at home!

If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.

"

Point taken!

I don't know, some people find it sexy...

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there

I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.

lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D

Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...

A book?? You could do that at home!

If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.

"

Or if it was a book you had read it could be a perfect conversation starter.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection? "

Jump into the cold pool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s a lovely place

If you stump up the courage to talk to anyone you’ll be ahead of most of the single guys we saw there

I'm afraid I would be exactly the same initially... I've never been fully naked infront of someone else than my partner.

lol just the thought of having to talk to anyone while stripped gives me anxiety :D

Might follow the advice below and take a book or something...

A book?? You could do that at home!

If I saw a bloke reading a book, I'd think it a bit weird and a sign that he did t want to be approached for a chat.

"

I take a book because I go to BGHS to unwind and chill out, not to loiter around in the rest rooms trying to get laid.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham


"Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection?

Jump into the cold pool."

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By *nvisible_manMan
over a year ago

TWICKENHAM


"Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection? "

Maybe have a safety wank before you go.

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By *ambsLad2Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection?

Maybe have a safety wank before you go."

Wasn't that Men Without Hats?

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"Might be a dumb question, but wtf do I do if I get an erection?

Maybe have a safety wank before you go.

Wasn't that Men Without Hats?"

It was the B side.

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By *ouple36DDCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

It’s a great place for a spa and to relax. Anything else is a bonus. We are in Brighton this weekend so might pay a visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is such a daft question, but where and what is Bghs please?

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham


"This is such a daft question, but where and what is Bghs please? "

Bristol Gardens Health Spa in Brighton.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

We love going to relax.

We've never actually played with anyone other than each other.

Have you visited the website as they have very strict rules?

At the weekends it's only opened from 12pm until 17.30 for single guys after that it's couples only and they do come looking for you. My advice would be as a couple of people have previously said.... Don't follow a woman around... I find it off putting. Strike up a conversation, don't be afraid to chat.

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By *aughty HimMan
over a year ago

Beds


"We love going to relax.

We've never actually played with anyone other than each other.

Have you visited the website as they have very strict rules?

At the weekends it's only opened from 12pm until 17.30 for single guys after that it's couples only and they do come looking for you. My advice would be as a couple of people have previously said.... Don't follow a woman around... I find it off putting. Strike up a conversation, don't be afraid to chat. "

I promise not to follow you around. (Actually, I can’t promise that)

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