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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Twice last night, it took quite a lot of self restraint to not point out the errors of some twats ways. thankfully on the last occasion the girl gave a clear indication that the other guys advances were not welcome. Would have thought he would have worked that out by the look on my face. As I’m also twice the size as most, I’d say he was either fucking stupid or brave!

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Well said.

Lost count of the times guys push in when I'm playing with someone.

I ask one question...

Have I spoken to you in the bar area?

If the answers no then I ask them to step aside as it's not a free for all.

Others may deal with it differently.

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By *heycallmehanWoman
over a year ago

nr wakefield

"it's not a free for all."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few times now I've told the wanking dead to back off else they'll be eating there own penis

Normally does the trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you actually gonna start a fight because someone else was trying to get their dick wet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can feel the testosterone of all these alphas, it's too much for me, in out!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I'm sure if the lady or couple didn't want the extra attention they would tell them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

“getting his dick wet” wow have some respect for the females would you! This is the problem that some single guys give others. They think they pay their money and then untitled to molleste who ever they choose!

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

You are still threatening people lol. What would it cost you, night in jail cell? If she's not interested she will say but if you are playing in a group play area then it's not unreasonable to think she wants more than just your dick. If you want her just for yourself go to a private room...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definately wrong, regardless of which gender it is, its not right just to assume play is ok and just to intrude without prior consent or acknowledgement.

Iv seen the "Wanking zombies" in their masses & never does it fail to amaze me the pure nature of such individuals (Crazy).. Shocking is an understatement.

Honestly a few times i have came close to losing it, just by the pure idiocrisy but the resolved it swifty.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!"

So you moan about on here. Next time have the balls to say something.

Whenever I have been with a woman and some unwanted touching goes on I'd say "who said you could touch?" Stops them in their tracks.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think that some people have developed a skill of intruding when there's possibly least potential to be stopped. This includes where people are focused on each other, not paying too much attention on surroundings, haven't agreed to keep it 100% just between the participants, so no ground rules set.

It's disconcerting when you suddenly realise that the number of body parts touching you is in excess of the human form and certainly those body parts visible as you commenced action.

Then your mood switches, as you need to deal with it. I now usually retreat to private rooms, as you can relax and enjoy, as soon as I can.

Maybe clubs could issue a spray that would be used against those who touch without permission, so you'd not need to stop to find management

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!"

I totally sympathise with you. Myself faced the same situation countless times. Unfortunately is not up to us to stop them but to the couple or single female you are playing with. In general in order to avoid the hassle I always try to play using private rooms when available. If not and I am on open play areas I just try to focus on playing and ignore the intruders.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

In a Swinger's Club it's about consensual sex, anyone should ask first if they want to join in.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Just as bad are those who push in front of you when you`re watching at a distance that`s not too close to make it uncomfortable but close enough to catch an eye for an invite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

Seriously, is she just a piece of meat to you?

We have always liked to play in the open, we get off on being watched but that’s it, just because we have invited another man to play and don’t mind people watching as long as they give us space doesn’t mean it’s open season.

I would expect the other man to be offering the same respect and care I do and making sure she is safe and no one is trying their luck uninvited.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

Not threating anyone? Read before you comment.

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just as bad are those who push in front of you when you`re watching at a distance that`s not too close to make it uncomfortable but close enough to catch an eye for an invite!"

Absolutely, shame that some males think that this is acceptable or correct behavior!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!

So you moan about on here. Next time have the balls to say something.

Whenever I have been with a woman and some unwanted touching goes on I'd say "who said you could touch?" Stops them in their tracks."

Have the “balls” to say and more, but more of a gentleman that i don’t want the female or others to feel awkward or ruin the day/evening for others. Have also been in a situation that the female wasn’t aware of the additional idiot! So she didn’t stop them.

Point being... males learn some respect, that’s the problem now a days, very little of it!

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By *aul n PleasureCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

One of the first times I attended a club as a single female back then I made the mistake of closing my eyes! The person I thought was playing with my boobs was a guy I’d not seen before or not even spoke to..wouldn’t make that mistake again

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

"You are still threatening people lol. What would it cost you, night in jail cell? If she's not interested she will say but if you are playing in a group play area then it's not unreasonable to think she wants more than just your dick. If you want her just for yourself go to a private room...?

So if there are no private rooms available, and a couple end up playing in a public/ general area, from the tone of your response that gives carte blanche to any randomer / card carrying member of the local Zombie Wanking Squad to come up and try and cop a feel. Why should the lady have to take time out from her enjoyment to tell some towel shuffling knobhead to jog the fcuk on.....and you wonder why Cpls have a downer on single guys

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"Wouldn’t wish to start any altercation, but I’d certainly tell the twat his attention was unwanted! if he wishes to extend it beyond that, well that’s his mistake.

While the normal life ends at the door, and swingers life begins... some normal standards extend beyond the boundaries of each world.

Some girls like to be touched gently to initiate play, others like to talk to get to know each other. Not all guys are looking to “fuck” anything... but do still have a conversation!

Politeness and being a gentleman doesn’t cost anything.

Being a dick could cost more!

Not true. A lot of couples go into an open room to play with each other and watch / be watched by others. Of course it is up to the lady first and foremost who she wants or not to touch her, but if she is there with a man and wants him to look after her, it is not unreasonable of her to expect him to say no on her behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has a very Lord of the flies feel to it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing with the swinging world is that it contains a broad cross-section of humanity, this includes the dickheads.

As has been said, private rooms will help eliminate this issue, though it isn't always possible to find one free, also some people are natural exhibitionists, us included!

Generally if we're playing with each other or other people then it pays to discuss beforehand the possibility of intrusion and how all the players feel about it? That way if it happens then there will be less awkwardness in the person who has the role of deterring such advances doing so.

If the intruder persists with being a dick after they've been told, well that's a different matter entirely and the management need to be informed as more fun will generally had by everyone without their presence sullying the evening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also up the man, I've been the victim of very 'forward' women at clubs but I didn't threaten to beat their vaginas in

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

This exactly! Why the hell should we have to retreat to a private room I (mrs) love playing in open rooms, but the entitled pricks who think it's a free for all can spoil things. Totally kills the mood to point out that I am not there to he touched by randoms. Yes they can watch but I always make it v v clear that I don't want randoms touching me, key jangling wankers or comments. If people can't abide by those simple rules then play stops.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!

So you moan about on here. Next time have the balls to say something.

Whenever I have been with a woman and some unwanted touching goes on I'd say "who said you could touch?" Stops them in their tracks.

Point being... males learn some respect, that’s the problem now a days, very little of it!"

I think unwanted touching would kill the mood more.

A gentleman stands up, I have a veri thanking me for rescuing a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!

So you moan about on here. Next time have the balls to say something.

Whenever I have been with a woman and some unwanted touching goes on I'd say "who said you could touch?" Stops them in their tracks.

Point being... males learn some respect, that’s the problem now a days, very little of it!

I think unwanted touching would kill the mood more.

A gentleman stands up, I have a veri thanking me for rescuing a woman."

You little white knight.... lol

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Here’s a rant,

As a single guy who attends a club, I do get really anoyed at other males, who seem to think it’s fair game for them to intrude when I may be playing with a female or couple!

True enough, she could tel them no if she minded. But actually I do!!! Iv stopped playing when some idiot just helps himself, stepped away and let them get on with it!

I’m all up for multiple male/female play, but should it not also be mutually agreed or acknowledged by the male and female?

Guys, have some respect. I don’t go around pushing in, or joining any play unless I’m invited! Simple, it’s not difficult and it’s not clever!

You may also find your enjoy your night as well!

So you moan about on here. Next time have the balls to say something.

Whenever I have been with a woman and some unwanted touching goes on I'd say "who said you could touch?" Stops them in their tracks.

Point being... males learn some respect, that’s the problem now a days, very little of it!

I think unwanted touching would kill the mood more.

A gentleman stands up, I have a veri thanking me for rescuing a woman.

You little white knight.... lol"
You better believe it boy.

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