FabSwingers.com forum: Single men buddies for clubs

By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham

Fantastic Idea.

I'd love a buddy for club f.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Great post Woody! I suggested a sm posted similar in the other thread but they put a post up asking for women to accompany them. Be reaslistic guys - there is nothing positive for a single fem going to a club with a random on here (I don't need to list all the reasons why but believe me they are numerous).

Sooooo guys be proactive. Find a fella who is local and wants to try clubs. Both go on the same night and voila you have someone to talk too. Don't go enmass tho, as clubs don't like packs of men.

Good luck.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Would love a club buddy iv never been to one yet but what to try one soon

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way."

Single guys end up chatting with each other anyway, as they tend to be the only people willing to chat with you

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

Single guys end up chatting with each other anyway, as they tend to be the only people willing to chat with you

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I feel sorry that you have had such bad experiences at clubs.

Yeah I'll chat to some if they're not weird or cramp my style.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way."

If it's not for you then that's ok, however it may help some men, so look at the positive.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

Single guys end up chatting with each other anyway, as they tend to be the only people willing to chat with you

Some men just need help getting thro the door. Once they are in then their social skills will set in. If its not for you then ok but it will help some get over their negative impression of clubs.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

If it's not for you then that's ok, however it may help some men, so look at the positive."

Possibly, or it might handicap them.

You have to be pretty confident to be a successful single guy and going on your own is just the first hurdle.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

If it's not for you then that's ok, however it may help some men, so look at the positive.

Possibly, or it might handicap them.

You have to be pretty confident to be a successful single guy and going on your own is just the first hurdle. "

Either way that is their choice and that is the purpose of this thread, to give them other options, not just be negative about clubs.

Clubs do need more of the right sort of single guy, hopefully this thread can stay on track and help those guys make the first step.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Theres slight stumbling block in that most clubs wont let gangs of sigle blokes in as they would single females. But I prefer to go by my self anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a brilliant idea. You go to a normal pub or club with a wingman or a mate. Why not a swingers or sex club? If you're worried people will think you may be bi or gay, I wouldn't worry too much about that.

There will be moments when you're stood around with nobody to talk to. In these moments it's nice to have someone who is in the same position as you. A laugh, a joke, a drink. You won't feel so bad about wasting all that money at the end of the night, if you had a laugh doing it.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Theres slight stumbling block in that most clubs wont let gangs of sigle blokes in as they would single females. But I prefer to go by my self anyway

Read my post above. I suggested dont go in groups. You could arrange to meet in there or go in twos. Look for the positives people!!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

If it's not for you then that's ok, however it may help some men, so look at the positive.

Possibly, or it might handicap them.

You have to be pretty confident to be a successful single guy and going on your own is just the first hurdle.

Either way that is their choice and that is the purpose of this thread, to give them other options, not just be negative about clubs.

Clubs do need more of the right sort of single guy, hopefully this thread can stay on track and help those guys make the first step."

I know and like I said it's a nice gesture. I'm a single guy I have a dog in the fight I want them to do well.

Just highlighting the cons of this idea so they know but there is pros too.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Theres slight stumbling block in that most clubs wont let gangs of sigle blokes in as they would single females. But I prefer to go by my self anyway

Read my post above. I suggested dont go in groups. You could arrange to meet in there or go in twos. Look for the positives people!!"

I didn't intend it as positive or negative I was just commenting. Apologies if it came across as a negative.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Theres slight stumbling block in that most clubs wont let gangs of sigle blokes in as they would single females. But I prefer to go by my self anyway

Read my post above. I suggested dont go in groups. You could arrange to meet in there or go in twos. Look for the positives people!!

I didn't intend it as positive or negative I was just commenting. Apologies if it came across as a negative. "

No apology needed. It is a valid point that clubs dont like gangs of men.

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By *sGivesWood OP Woman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

Theres slight stumbling block in that most clubs wont let gangs of sigle blokes in as they would single females. But I prefer to go by my self anyway

Read my post above. I suggested dont go in groups. You could arrange to meet in there or go in twos. Look for the positives people!!"

This was the idea lol.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I don't need a male buddy for clubs as I find chatting to blokes in a club easy. The difficult part is chatting to couples or women without coming across as clueless

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Inspired other club buddy threads this is one to get you guys together as club buddies. Sign up here and get talking guys. Not open to women or couples. Men only.

It's a nice gesture but you won't get in cheaper and people might think you're bi/gay. It's not a team sport for men.

Couples or ladies don't like approaching or being approached by multiple men it can be intimidating.

Lone wolf is the best way.

Single guys end up chatting with each other anyway, as they tend to be the only people willing to chat with you

I feel sorry that you have had such bad experiences at clubs.

Yeah I'll chat to some if they're not weird or cramp my style. "

Cheers mate

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Just so you know, some clubs don't let in groups of guys, small or large.

Plus, women feel intimidated by guys that arrive en mass as it musters a pack mentality and your chances of getting a play are reduced as ladies are less likely to approach a group of guys.

I still maintain that single guys are best attending alone as you have a greater chance of meeting people to play with.

On the flip side, I also know that guys feel intimidated by ladies who hang out together in clubs and will not approach and it's something that I try and tackle if groups of ladies turn up. To be fair, most ladies only come in twos or threes.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If I were a guy, it'd be good to have someone I knew there, just a friendly face. Don't have to arrive together, don't have to cling to each other, but hey, this is weird, yeah this is totally weird, but we're both in it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion....I think this is a great idea OP .

Personally, at a club, I would find a single guy more difficult to approach as I would wonder if he was there with a partner etc already but, if there were a couple of guys casually chatting/flirting with me, I'd feel flattered and relaxed.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I wouldn't want to be approached by a pack of guys, but I think guys who didn't feel like such a fish out of water would probably be less awkward/ inadvertently creepy.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

" I also know that guys feel intimidated by ladies who hang out together in clubs and will not approach and it's something that I try and tackle if groups of ladies turn up.

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Not me, let me at em.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

OK, I'm going to be totally open and honest here. I discovered clubs when I moved to Lancashire about 13 years ago. I went by myself a number of times and didn't really enjoy it - so I started using this site and another (A-F-F) in order to contact (mainly single) women who wanted to go to clubs here in the north-west but who for various reasons (shyness, lack of confidence, etc.) didn't want to go by themselves. In a very short space of time I met about ten women to go to clubs with - some became regular clubbing companions and we got on really well. My rampant clubbing days are now more-or-less over (health reasons), but I still go very occasionally and I still like to go with somebody. It's nothing to do with the money, it's the thrill of taking somebody - perhaps for their first visit - who are totally turned on by the whole thing. A number of the women I met became regular clubbers - one indeed met her now husband there! I remember one companion saying that she'd never felt so free as she did in partners jacuzzi! So it can be done!

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham

As long as me and my club buddy can use names from Top Gun then I am up for it.

(Those names are for our benefit and not to be used in public)

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