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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I recently read a tabloid exposé of swinging (FABS gets a mention!) and in it there are some club reviews.

I had been considering VA as it seemed to be a good middle ground between the more seedy and elite places. But the review in the article detailed this: "We were there once and there were around 150 people having a massive orgy in and around the hot tub, the water in the hot tub had gone milky, which did put us off a bit." That puts me off a bit too!

I'd previously looked at VA's website and their etiquette says that the hot tub isnt a playing area for hygeine reasons. Also, it says you must strip to underwear to enter the play areas. How does that happen on a practical level? Where do your clothes go when not being worn? Also, I'm not generally one for parading around in my underwear, I can't imagine I'd feel comfortable doing that so it wouldn't help me relax and get a feel for the place, let alone meet someone to play with.

Do all clubs have that rule? Are you chatting nicely in the bar area, feeling confident in a dress and heels, curious about what's happening in the play areas so you have to get your kit off before you can venture elsewhere and check out the vibe?

Thanks

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By *edsguyMan
over a year ago

south of Bedford

I’ve been to VA And Jaydees both are spotless and the hot tubs crystal clear!!

VA allows play in the hot tub Jaydees is a no play tub but loads of places to play in open or private

Please give them a try and make your own mind up

Rob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And VA is lovely...give it a try

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

At VA there is a changing area near the entry to the play space. In the play area people often wear towels when not in action, and it's fine to go back into the bar in a towel. Wandering round in a towel, or underwear, or nothing at all feels fine, because everyone else is that way too. The bodies on display are a good mixture of super-hot (like us, of course) and... erm... less so. There ARE more private areas to play in if you want, but for lots of us being (semi)naked around other (semi)naked people is part of the fun. Be daring- give it a try!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease. "

Thank you. I can understand that clothed people would be off putting when you're in lingerie or naked. For me it's an alien concept to be clothed and seddenly decide to whip them off just to have a poke around an area I may not like or want to stay. I can't imagine I would ever want to play in a group setting as I don't have any exhibitionist tendencies. I am really only interested if finding a single man to drag off soemwhere more private...

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease.

Thank you. I can understand that clothed people would be off putting when you're in lingerie or naked. For me it's an alien concept to be clothed and seddenly decide to whip them off just to have a poke around an area I may not like or want to stay. I can't imagine I would ever want to play in a group setting as I don't have any exhibitionist tendencies. I am really only interested if finding a single man to drag off soemwhere more private..."

This is the reason I prefer dress down clubs. I don't want people gawping at us playing whilst they are fully clothed and chattering about whether they are going to play or not. Very off putting. Maybe clubs aren't for you. Have you thought of just having private hotel meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease.

Thank you. I can understand that clothed people would be off putting when you're in lingerie or naked. For me it's an alien concept to be clothed and seddenly decide to whip them off just to have a poke around an area I may not like or want to stay. I can't imagine I would ever want to play in a group setting as I don't have any exhibitionist tendencies. I am really only interested if finding a single man to drag off soemwhere more private...

This is the reason I prefer dress down clubs. I don't want people gawping at us playing whilst they are fully clothed and chattering about whether they are going to play or not. Very off putting. Maybe clubs aren't for you. Have you thought of just having private hotel meets?"

It's not easy to meet the right person. We've had to hide our account as we were both getting sickand tiredof messages from men who hadn't read our profile and weren't suitable for us. That's what drove us away on our previous profile. I thought a club would be a way to cut out all the crap. You can just enjoy the social areas can't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease.

Thank you. I can understand that clothed people would be off putting when you're in lingerie or naked. For me it's an alien concept to be clothed and seddenly decide to whip them off just to have a poke around an area I may not like or want to stay. I can't imagine I would ever want to play in a group setting as I don't have any exhibitionist tendencies. I am really only interested if finding a single man to drag off soemwhere more private..."

There aren't any private play areas at VA, so it may not be the place for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do dress down when going into the playing areas at VA and some other places. In some clubs, you have to undress as soon as you go in or some events expect women to put on lingerie at a certain time. It's massively off putting to have people fully clothed wandering through when playing. It doesn't have to be underwear, I sometimes take a little robe, others have little sexy outfits and dresses. It gives a nice separation to play and social areas that makes me feel more at ease.

Thank you. I can understand that clothed people would be off putting when you're in lingerie or naked. For me it's an alien concept to be clothed and seddenly decide to whip them off just to have a poke around an area I may not like or want to stay. I can't imagine I would ever want to play in a group setting as I don't have any exhibitionist tendencies. I am really only interested if finding a single man to drag off soemwhere more private...

This is the reason I prefer dress down clubs. I don't want people gawping at us playing whilst they are fully clothed and chattering about whether they are going to play or not. Very off putting. Maybe clubs aren't for you. Have you thought of just having private hotel meets?

It's not easy to meet the right person. We've had to hide our account as we were both getting sickand tiredof messages from men who hadn't read our profile and weren't suitable for us. That's what drove us away on our previous profile. I thought a club would be a way to cut out all the crap. You can just enjoy the social areas can't you?"

absolutely, you can in many clubs...others do insist that you are dressed down everywhere...must admit, I really don't get the insistence on being dressed down in the bar or social areas.

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By *exPeopleCouple
over a year ago

near Rushden Lakes


"There aren't any private play areas at VA, so it may not be the place for you"

Would I be correct in assuming though that if you happened to be staying in one of their hotel room over night, you could treat your hotel room as a private play area and take people back there to play away from prying eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There aren't any private play areas at VA, so it may not be the place for you

Would I be correct in assuming though that if you happened to be staying in one of their hotel room over night, you could treat your hotel room as a private play area and take people back there to play away from prying eyes?"

Yes you can but they can't stay overnight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jaydees opens friday in the day ad sunday from 3pm

It might have a sun terrace coming soon for all day sunbathing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jaydees opens friday in the day ad sunday from 3pm

It might have a sun terrace coming soon for all day sunbathing "

I often wonder if you're paid to stalk VA threads plugging Jaydees...it's all you seem to do

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Which tabloid did you read that in?

You can't fit that many people around the hot tub at VA lol

It's the cleanest hot tub we've ever seen in a club. They do allow playing in it.

After the recent thread about that hot tub we have spoken to the owners of VA and it basically has the same filtration system on it as hydro therapy tubs in hospitals.

You do need to dress down to underwear or a towel in the play areas because it is extremely off putting having a viewing gallery of fully dress people staring at you while you are trying to play.

But that can be sexy underwear, a towel or naked.

You can look in from the arch leading into the play areas without dressing down as you are not then intruding on people playing.

The bar area is very seperate from the okay areas so there is never any pressure to venture through if you choose not to.

In our opinion it is one of the best club's in the UK.

You can also go back to A club hotel room to play in private if you choose.

Don't believe everything you read in the press go and experience it for yourselves. There arn't many better club's in the UK.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I don't believe much of what I read in the press, sensationalism sells after all. This is the article https://www.birminghammail.co.uk/news/uk-news/couple-reveal-what-its-really-15228916?utm_source=whatsapp&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=sharebar

Found it by accident but an interesting discovery none the less. If I am going to venture into a club, I want to pick the right one so I'm not horrified and put off for life. I'm in Norwich so there isn't exactly masses of choice around here but in terms of the general vibe, VA seems more in line with me. I don't want anywhere trashy where I wouldn't fancy anyone but equally not anywhere elitist and up its own arse. Sexy not seedy is what I'm after.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi

VA is a lovely club and you can take it at your own pace. Go and have a look. Have a drink in the bar. You can always leave afterwards.

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By *iberatedPairCouple
over a year ago

Suffolk

We live on the Norfolk Suffolk border OP. We have attended VA on numerous occasions and enjoy it. But we like private areas to play and that is one thing VA does not have. Although it’s still a lovely clean club.

We also go to Liberty Elite which is a bit further up the a14. Then if you go south. le Boudoir. We recently went and had a superb time at both. The private play rooms are ample at both LB and LE.

Please feel free to DM with anot questions OP. As geographic wise we are in similar location ask always willing to help out woth any questions

Tandh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

VA is super clean and very modern..the one thing that may be off putting is that all the play areas are open...so if you find someone to play with and you want some privacy..then that isnt going to happen..unless you have a room on site..still..horses for courses as they say..

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

VA is nice

I’m off there for milf club on 27th Feb with my partner.

I’ve never been on a Saturday and that’s probably the best night.

All open play, there are no private rooms, so if you don’t like playing in public then it probably not the club for you.

The bar/ social area is nice though, comfy sofas.

And a separate couples area.

I normally frequent at Jaydees though. Prefer Jaydees hot tub and I like that they have a mixture of private and open play... even though I prefer open play, quite a lot of men don’t, so I just tend to go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jaydees opens friday in the day ad sunday from 3pm

It might have a sun terrace coming soon for all day sunbathing

I often wonder if you're paid to stalk VA threads plugging Jaydees...it's all you seem to do"

Quoted for the truth.

I guess someone REALLY wants their free membership to that club!

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Jaydees opens friday in the day ad sunday from 3pm

It might have a sun terrace coming soon for all day sunbathing

I often wonder if you're paid to stalk VA threads plugging Jaydees...it's all you seem to do

Quoted for the truth.

I guess someone REALLY wants their free membership to that club! "

Don't use his cab to get to VA - he will probably end up taking you to Jaydees.

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By *riggler90Couple
over a year ago

Essex and Dublin

I Love VA. Mingles used to be my favourite but its closed now.

VA is well presented and spotlessly clean. The hot tub is immaculate too as far as I can tell. The bar area you can be clothed but theres a locker/changing area which is nice and warm and it's easy to transition. If Im there I'll usually be naked but towels are provided in the lockers if you want to protect your modesty xx

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I love it to, I'll be there tomorrow for MILF Club. Even though there's no private play areas there are nooks and crannies that offer some degree of privacy, plus a couples only area.

If I have my information correct, the hot tub is sand filters which means very limited use if any of chemicals, and I have never even seen so much as a hair in there, it is spotless and clean regardless of what's been going on in there.

Every club is unique, and I reckon it's great to visit a few to find the ones that you like best, what appeals to one person may be completely different to what appeals to another.

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