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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset

It has been increasingly noticed on here that single guys question why they are charged a premium at some clubs and why so few single ladies attend. Over the course of this year I have visited a handful of clubs and been approached by one in particular who 'buy in escort services' to cater for these single guys. I have also had the pleasure of meeting such ladies and understand that they operate on a separate adult web site and have a page here also. The single guys believe that they are not paying for these services but just because they see that you have spoken with one of these ladies believe that they are entitled to approach you for the same services. I personally do not provide the service that a paid escort does so find it embarassing and disrespectful when single guys do not respect that no means 'no' however politely you say it. I try whenever possible now to only go to a club with 'friends' I know. Please guys remember we are all people at the end of the day, escorts can be found on other adult sites.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It has been increasingly noticed on here that single guys question why they are charged a premium at some clubs and why so few single ladies attend. Over the course of this year I have visited a handful of clubs and been approached by one in particular who 'buy in escort services' to cater for these single guys. I have also had the pleasure of meeting such ladies and understand that they operate on a separate adult web site and have a page here also. The single guys believe that they are not paying for these services but just because they see that you have spoken with one of these ladies believe that they are entitled to approach you for the same services. I personally do not provide the service that a paid escort does so find it embarassing and disrespectful when single guys do not respect that no means 'no' however politely you say it. I try whenever possible now to only go to a club with 'friends' I know. Please guys remember we are all people at the end of the day, escorts can be found on other adult sites. "

I'm not sure what point you're trying to make tbh?

Having been to many clubs there's only one I know of (never been to it though) in the midlands that uses 'escorts' in the manner you describe and it's open and obvious in their adverts and online.

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, it might not be what you seek, but from a 'dosh per hump' perspective ...it's probably way cheaper than hiring an escort yourself ...another strand of the 'sharing economy' I guess! (just make sure to be first!)

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By *itty Kat AB OP   Woman
over a year ago

North Somerset

I only posted as I've been pestered moreso recently to the point of having to block requests for escorting services to single guys who have slept with escorts at a club and approached me on here for the same, just because they say they saw me also at the club chatting to who I thought was another club attendee but turned out to be a paid escort. I find it disrespectful when they do not accept a polite no and explanation that you are not an escort. Clubs too can be just as disrespectful. All I'm asking for is that we all respect the swinging rules as in no means no and for one particular club to respect this or you will keep getting blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A"

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time."

We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Plenty of clubs don't allow single men full stop so that argument doesn't hold water.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time.

We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Plenty of clubs don't allow single men full stop so that argument doesn't hold water.

A"

I've never heard of a club that doesn't allow single men at all, could you give an example? Have a "no single men" night once a week doesn't count.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time.

We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Plenty of clubs don't allow single men full stop so that argument doesn't hold water.

A

I've never heard of a club that doesn't allow single men at all, could you give an example? Have a "no single men" night once a week doesn't count."

Secrets in Totnes.

A

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I only posted as I've been pestered moreso recently to the point of having to block requests for escorting services to single guys who have slept with escorts at a club and approached me on here for the same, just because they say they saw me also at the club chatting to who I thought was another club attendee but turned out to be a paid escort. I find it disrespectful when they do not accept a polite no and explanation that you are not an escort. Clubs too can be just as disrespectful. All I'm asking for is that we all respect the swinging rules as in no means no and for one particular club to respect this or you will keep getting blocked."

If you’re being pestered on here to provide escort services then report those men for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time.

We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Plenty of clubs don't allow single men full stop so that argument doesn't hold water.

A

I've never heard of a club that doesn't allow single men at all, could you give an example? Have a "no single men" night once a week doesn't count.

Secrets in Totnes.

A"

Thanks.

I've checked their website and they charge £50 per couple. That's significantly higher than any club I've seen before charge a couple, even on "no single guy" nights. If anything, Secrets confirms my point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very confused.....

Are sex workers not allowed in clubs on their off time?

Can they not attend a club just to have fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m very confused.....

Are sex workers not allowed in clubs on their off time?

Can they not attend a club just to have fun?"

I believe the OP was referring to clubs hiring sex workers to, shall we say, "improve the customer experience" for single males, and the men subsequently assuming they're automatically in with any woman in the place.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I’m very confused.....

Are sex workers not allowed in clubs on their off time?

Can they not attend a club just to have fun?

I believe the OP was referring to clubs hiring sex workers to, shall we say, "improve the customer experience" for single males, and the men subsequently assuming they're automatically in with any woman in the place."

That's what I understand the OP is saying too, and is the reason why I wouldn't attend a certain SW club which may be the one OP is thinking of.

I don't want to attend a club where guys potentially go with the expectation of guaranteed play because sex workers are hired for some events to ensure everyone gets a shag.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm not sure this is a problem with escorts in clubs. It's a problem if they're on here. But it's also a problem of basic respect. No means no, including for escorts. Anyone thinking they can change it with money (or that anyone can override consent) needs a good hard look at themselves. And to be reported every time they do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure this is a problem with escorts in clubs. It's a problem if they're on here. But it's also a problem of basic respect. No means no, including for escorts. Anyone thinking they can change it with money (or that anyone can override consent) needs a good hard look at themselves. And to be reported every time they do it. "

We're talking about escorts attending clubs in a professional capacity, paid for by the club, likely without the knowledge of the other customers. Not escorts, or anyone else, attending for fun and being offered money as an inducement for sex.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm not sure this is a problem with escorts in clubs. It's a problem if they're on here. But it's also a problem of basic respect. No means no, including for escorts. Anyone thinking they can change it with money (or that anyone can override consent) needs a good hard look at themselves. And to be reported every time they do it.

We're talking about escorts attending clubs in a professional capacity, paid for by the club, likely without the knowledge of the other customers. Not escorts, or anyone else, attending for fun and being offered money as an inducement for sex."

Understood. But no means no means no.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?"

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement. "

I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be legally dangerous for the club. Openly saying that they employ escorts to have sex with their customers could arguably be an admission to running a brothel.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I personally wouldn't be happy attending a club where this happens. There is a huge difference between swinging clubs and private clubs where paid escorts are working. It's gives off the wrong vibe to the men that they can have and touch whatever they want

OP I can fully understand your concern about it. Report and block anyone who pesters you and you're right to stick to going with friends in the future.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement.

I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be legally dangerous for the club. Openly saying that they employ escorts to have sex with their customers could arguably be an admission to running a brothel. "

I know this has been discussed on here before, there were fliers for particular events I can't quite remember the wording of but implied that was what happened and people who were familiar with the club said that was effectively what was happening.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Reality is. That a lot of single women on fab also work. You just have to look through aw. And a lot that work go to clubs socially.

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

Single guys are generally charged a 'premium' as you put it at most clubs. Not because they are paying for escort services but in order to manage numbers and attempt to as best as possible balance the ratios of male/female/couples.

A very confusing post......

A

The idea that the "premium", as you put it, is to control numbers is a myth. Clubs control the number of single men by limiting the number they allow in - that's obvious from the fact that nights when they do this are booked out so soon. Single men pay more because there are so many more of them. The clubs need single women and couples to attend often in order to stay in business, so they are priced to make it a very cheap night out. It doesn't matter if individual single men can only afford to go to a club once a month, there are enough of them to fill the club every time.

We'll have to agree to disagree on that. Plenty of clubs don't allow single men full stop so that argument doesn't hold water.

A

I've never heard of a club that doesn't allow single men at all, could you give an example? Have a "no single men" night once a week doesn't count.

Secrets in Totnes.

A"

Secrets use to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reality is. That a lot of single women on fab also work. You just have to look through aw. And a lot that work go to clubs socially. "

Don’t want to look through aw...

And Kitty is saying that a club is paying escorts to come to the club to fuck men. That’s not a social thing, that’s business. Personally I wish they’d royally fuck off. They do bring fab down. That’s my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is that escorts would be welcome on club nights when off duty. I have as much of an issue with what they do for their job as I do with any other profession... It's none of my business just like my job is no one else's business.

If a guy hired one to come along and I've seen a fair few of these then so be it, I personally wouldn't play with the paid help but each time their own. They are still human

Eski

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East


"

A very confusing post......

A"

Nothing confusing about it.

Someone, somewhere sees a market and is trying to make money.

Here you have some feedback.

A perspective on what the OP observed.

Ain't so hard to figure out, is it?

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement.

I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be legally dangerous for the club. Openly saying that they employ escorts to have sex with their customers could arguably be an admission to running a brothel. "

What if the club has a licence to run as a brothel anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No means no also for sex workers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women in clubs are asked to attend and paid to be there. They're not paid to have sex. They are they to bring up the ratio. Once I went to a certain club where I could guess that 5 women had been paid to be there. The other 4 or so, plus me, were there as regular clientele. To be honest thank God for those other women. It's not like there's a shortage of men. It's also the same in a lot of nightclubs and I enjoy having a free table and alcohol and leaving at the end for my own bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement.

I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be legally dangerous for the club. Openly saying that they employ escorts to have sex with their customers could arguably be an admission to running a brothel.

What if the club has a licence to run as a brothel anyway? "

There's no such thing in the UK.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


"Is the club in question open about the situation in advance for the benefit of other guests, so people can decide to attend or not on the basis of that knowledge?

I believe so but my concern would be that people going on those nights assume that's always the case and attend on other nights with a sense of entitlement.

I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be legally dangerous for the club. Openly saying that they employ escorts to have sex with their customers could arguably be an admission to running a brothel.

What if the club has a licence to run as a brothel anyway?

There's no such thing in the UK. "

101 used to

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

the use of sex workers in clubs or if they have a profile on here (with the intention of luring clients ) does not fall within my definition of swinging..as its not !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has been increasingly noticed on here that single guys question why they are charged a premium at some clubs and why so few single ladies attend. Over the course of this year I have visited a handful of clubs and been approached by one in particular who 'buy in escort services' to cater for these single guys. I have also had the pleasure of meeting such ladies and understand that they operate on a separate adult web site and have a page here also. The single guys believe that they are not paying for these services but just because they see that you have spoken with one of these ladies believe that they are entitled to approach you for the same services. I personally do not provide the service that a paid escort does so find it embarassing and disrespectful when single guys do not respect that no means 'no' however politely you say it. I try whenever possible now to only go to a club with 'friends' I know. Please guys remember we are all people at the end of the day, escorts can be found on other adult sites. "

That's not the reason they charge guys a premium, the reason is because they can and men think with their dicks and are willing to pay a lot more than a woman would, also see betting

They limit men by literally just saying no you can't come in, that has nothing to do with entry price at all.

As for your issue. I would avoid that club if it bothers you, and cwrtainlyy block and report anybody who asks for Escort services on here. There are hardly any clubs that even allow let alone encourage and provide that.

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By *TI_GTI_1664Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Secrets charge £50 for a couple on a Saturday night, and when you look at the amazing venue, Pool, Hot Tub, furnished beautifully, free buffet, free sleep over, free tea coffee in the morning, I don't think you can argue this is great value for money. Same price as Ab Fabs was. I've paid less admission at lower Calibre clubs, personally I would rather spend the extra, rather than cheapskate on my night out to save 15-20 quid. Each to their own though.

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