FabSwingers.com forum: Newbie nerves and expectations

By *lleMcFearsome OP Woman
over a year ago

travelling...

Hi all,

I’m a solo plus sized woman, who can be shy at first, and I’d *really* love to go to a club but it’s quite an intimidating prospect on your own. And I’m not entirely sure if there’s a universal ‘etiquette’ aside from the individual rules at each club.

I’d love to hear words of wisdom, and from anyone who’s felt this way about how they overcame it?

Pls, no men offering to escort me, that’s not something I’m looking for just now.

Thanks friends x

By *onymarcelloukMan
over a year ago

Henley

Go with the understanding that you don’t have to do anything you do not want to do. The same goes for people. It’s ok not to like someone and say no. Go, watch others and join in when you feel comfortable and ready. There is no rush and I am sure you will get lots of attention and fully enjoy the experience.

By *lleMcFearsome OP Woman
over a year ago

travelling...

"Go with the understanding that you don’t have to do anything you do not want to do. The same goes for people. It’s ok not to like someone and say no. Go, watch others and join in when you feel comfortable and ready. There is no rush and I am sure you will get lots of attention and fully enjoy the experience."

Thanks, super helpful!

By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I’d echo that. Just because you’re here doesn’t mean you’re obligated to get involved.

Also, you will find most clubs are full of normal everyday women - some smaller, some average, quite a few who are size 16 & upwards, so curvier women are often the majority in clubs - depending on the night - and are rarely short of male admirers in clubs!

It’s nothing like going out in the vanilla world as a bigger girl, even when you’re only wearing lingerie!!