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By *hyguy 38 OP   Man
over a year ago

telford

If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just walked in. Nervous of course. But once you're in you're in.

And the next time felt quite comfortable.

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By *hyguy 38 OP   Man
over a year ago

telford

Think i would need few drinks what kinda people go in

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Don't turn into one of the Wanking Dead, shuffling about the place cock permanently in hand...

Mwah

Ms GR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going monday for for first time im well excited

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By *hyguy 38 OP   Man
over a year ago

telford

Lol if I knew somebody who would come along with me I think I've been bit more comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i would need few drinks what kinda people go in "

Sadly it's mainly humans, in 12 years I've never had the pleasure of an Avatar, one of those toothy things out of warcraft or even the green hotty on guardians of the galaxy. I still hope.

It's the same type of people thst post on here, except most of them have sex same as go in pubs and same as go to the coop. Just more sexually liberated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have never tried. Heard some bad stories about them for single guys so put me right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go in and talk to people. Forget what people are wearing (or not wearing). Go in with the attitude you're not going to get anything but if you do it's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t answer from a bloke perspective (obviously), but my first time flying solo, I drove there, parked up, sat in the car for a bit and drove home. The second time was a repeat of the first. The third time I emailed the club and introduced myself and had a great message back, put my metaphorical big girl pants on and made it across the threshold. The member of staff who greeted me was the chap who had answered my email and he took a very nervous gal under his wing and made sure I had people to chatter to.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok "

Your a big boy now ain't you,

You didn't need your mummy holding your hands to school did you?

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By *ltrMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Had to go back three times before I got the courage to go in but never looked back try talking to people not just expecting to have fun all the time it will come around , have fun and don't get kicked out for using your phone like a guy I saw last week

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Think i would need few drinks what kinda people go in "

It’s no different than walking into a pub on your own. There are people standing around in a bar area having a drink & socialising - the only difference is that there are rooms away from the bar where people can have sex.

It’s really not scary at all!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

The first time I visited a club by myself (No.3 Chorley), I parked right outside the front door, jumped out of my car and walked straight inside before I had time to think about what I was doing, and thereby talk myself out of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Visited Quest in Leeds for the first time the other day, yes was nervous but as soon as I got to resection I was put at ease and once in the club even better, try going during the day probably more chilled out not as many people so maybe less intimidating, I’ll definitely be going again

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why blokes don't/won't buddy up with another single guy who is nervous about trying a club and go to a club together. It's a very normal thing for friends who don't fuck each other to go to clubs together and nobody will assume that you are gay for turning up with a friend....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pull on your big boy pants & walk straight in, its not as scary as you think it will be. Then talk to people! The worse thing single men do in clubs is just stand & watch, you will get action, if you interact & socialise with others rather than stand & stare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP...

Maybe swinging in general isn't for you. Camming is all you've done for over a year.

We've all had our first time somewhere and never looked back.

Just go to socials where you keep your clothes on..

No inhibitions then or anxiety.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Pull on your big boy pants & walk straight in, its not as scary as you think it will be. Then talk to people! The worse thing single men do in clubs is just stand & watch, you will get action, if you interact & socialise with others rather than stand & stare! "

I’m sorry, but please don’t say “you will get action” if single guys interact and socialise with others, as it sounds like a guarantee, and is misleading. Single guys are MORE LIKELY to ‘get action’ if they interact rather than stand and stare, but they should have no expectations of play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pull on your big boy pants & walk straight in, its not as scary as you think it will be. Then talk to people! The worse thing single men do in clubs is just stand & watch, you will get action, if you interact & socialise with others rather than stand & stare!

I’m sorry, but please don’t say “you will get action” if single guys interact and socialise with others, as it sounds like a guarantee, and is misleading. Single guys are MORE LIKELY to ‘get action’ if they interact rather than stand and stare, but they should have no expectations of play. "

True that x

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"Pull on your big boy pants & walk straight in, its not as scary as you think it will be. Then talk to people! The worse thing single men do in clubs is just stand & watch, you will get action, if you interact & socialise with others rather than stand & stare!

I’m sorry, but please don’t say “you will get action” if single guys interact and socialise with others, as it sounds like a guarantee, and is misleading. Single guys are MORE LIKELY to ‘get action’ if they interact rather than stand and stare, but they should have no expectations of play.

True that x"

As ever, terms and conditions apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pull on your big boy pants & walk straight in, its not as scary as you think it will be. Then talk to people! The worse thing single men do in clubs is just stand & watch, you will get action, if you interact & socialise with others rather than stand & stare!

I’m sorry, but please don’t say “you will get action” if single guys interact and socialise with others, as it sounds like a guarantee, and is misleading. Single guys are MORE LIKELY to ‘get action’ if they interact rather than stand and stare, but they should have no expectations of play. "

And a lot comes down to how you look

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I would happily accompany you to a club , chat to you for an hour or so until you find your feet. I can show you around my fave club and give you some tips. But since your upper age limit is 30 and I am over 50, I am not sure that my company would be acceptable. Genuine offer if you want help for your first visit OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would happily accompany you to a club , chat to you for an hour or so until you find your feet. I can show you around my fave club and give you some tips. But since your upper age limit is 30 and I am over 50, I am not sure that my company would be acceptable. Genuine offer if you want help for your first visit OP"

That’s a great offer

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By *ungmagic10Man
over a year ago

Northampton

i remember my first time, even though i did go with a friend, if you attended by yourself you'll be fine. everyone's friendly and wanna get to know you.. just ask someone to show you around. You'll be fine

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"i remember my first time, even though i did go with a friend, if you attended by yourself you'll be fine. everyone's friendly and wanna get to know you.. just ask someone to show you around. You'll be fine"

AtlantisEVOLUTION some Clubs you automatically get a tour round, explanation of rules and introductions to some of the regulars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why blokes don't/won't buddy up with another single guy who is nervous about trying a club and go to a club together. It's a very normal thing for friends who don't fuck each other to go to clubs together and nobody will assume that you are gay for turning up with a friend.... "
many clubs won't let single guys in if they are buddied up with guys

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

No different to walking in a normal pub or club . Most likely to be given a tour by owners. Enjoy the views. Spark up conversation with people. But make sure you chat with both halves of couples. Those that walk around just looking are just wasting their time. If you can pre arrange social meet withcouple at club. Some only play with couples others like to play with singles. Justin take anything for granted to start with

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By *tuartsCelloCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As said previously its important to interact and talk to people rather than just sit and stare - you will be surprised how far this approach will get you

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok "

The first time I (Mr) went to a club was around 30 years ago and I went alone.

The club was (still is) on a main road and opposite a pub (not sure if the pub is still there though)

As I walked up to the door I could sense that everyone walking on the road, driving past in cars, and everyone in the pub were all staring intently at me.

They weren't of course but that was the feeling I got.

The 50 metre walk from the car to the door took about an hour and a half. It was under a minute really but it felt as long as that.

I got to the door pressed the bell and was allowed in and greeted by a guy who just said "How yer doin'

I paid the money, was shown around, and settled at the bar with a coffee (didn't know about BYOB at that time)

It was midweek so the club wasn't too busy but there were a few people in and although I was still feeling a bit self conscious I'd started to settle down.

When I had the tour of the place I noticed that there was a pool table downstairs and there were quite a few either playing on it or watching, so I decided to go down and have a look.

I watched for 20 minutes or so and then was invited to play.

We were all wearing towels and one or two of the women thought that a good way of putting you off your shot was to whip your towel away just at the right moment. Needless to say, mine got pulled a few times.

To me the pool table was a very good ice breaker and I soon got chatting with some of the people down there, including a couple of single women (they said that they were sisters but I didn't believe them) who were obviously regulars.

After a while one of them asked me if I wanted to play (not pool) so we drifted off into a small play room and you can imagine the rest.

After that I became a regular (two or three times a month) and got to know a lot of people, some better than others LOL

From my experience the tips I would give to a first timer would be.

1. Go alone or maybe arrange to meet someone from here (even if it is another guy) but not another first timer. DO NOT go with a normal vanilla mate. It will only make the anxiety worse.

2. Don't just sit staring at the floor. Make eye contact, smile, and if someone is next to you at the bar, say hello.

3. If the place has a pool table or something similar then go for it. As I said above it can be a great ice breaker.

4. As someone else has said above, DO NOT join the zombie wanking squad that form a conga every time a woman or couple go anywhere near a playroom.

5. Last but not least. Do not expect anything. Treat it as a social night and if you get lucky then happy days. If you are serious about the lifestyle then keep going back. If you behave properly you will be surprised how quickly you get to know people and over time it will pay dividends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find others that are club first timers. Chat to them on here. Get to know them. Then once you are ready, go together. Even if it’s just to support each other.

Explain you goings as friends and there are no expectations.

You never know. The visit could be the start of something special.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok "

What about if you went in with another man who'd been before?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok

What about if you went in with another man who'd been before?"
that's fine. If it helps you relax as you go in that's great.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Looks like the OP doesn't wantvti take up my offer. Hey no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it."

Dead easy! Sent a message to one of the promoters/party planners at the club I wanted to go too, on here, I got a reply, so I went.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to make contact with someone asap. It's most likely another fella. Socialise etc and get a genuine conversation going. Find enjoyment in that, because people will notice. Things should happen thereafter.

Avoid becoming isolated and trudging from one area to another. You will look lost and unfuckable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok

The first time I (Mr) went to a club was around 30 years ago and I went alone.

The club was (still is) on a main road and opposite a pub (not sure if the pub is still there though)

As I walked up to the door I could sense that everyone walking on the road, driving past in cars, and everyone in the pub were all staring intently at me.

They weren't of course but that was the feeling I got.

The 50 metre walk from the car to the door took about an hour and a half. It was under a minute really but it felt as long as that.

I got to the door pressed the bell and was allowed in and greeted by a guy who just said "How yer doin'

I paid the money, was shown around, and settled at the bar with a coffee (didn't know about BYOB at that time)

It was midweek so the club wasn't too busy but there were a few people in and although I was still feeling a bit self conscious I'd started to settle down.

When I had the tour of the place I noticed that there was a pool table downstairs and there were quite a few either playing on it or watching, so I decided to go down and have a look.

I watched for 20 minutes or so and then was invited to play.

We were all wearing towels and one or two of the women thought that a good way of putting you off your shot was to whip your towel away just at the right moment. Needless to say, mine got pulled a few times.

To me the pool table was a very good ice breaker and I soon got chatting with some of the people down there, including a couple of single women (they said that they were sisters but I didn't believe them) who were obviously regulars.

After a while one of them asked me if I wanted to play (not pool) so we drifted off into a small play room and you can imagine the rest.

After that I became a regular (two or three times a month) and got to know a lot of people, some better than others LOL

From my experience the tips I would give to a first timer would be.

1. Go alone or maybe arrange to meet someone from here (even if it is another guy) but not another first timer. DO NOT go with a normal vanilla mate. It will only make the anxiety worse.

2. Don't just sit staring at the floor. Make eye contact, smile, and if someone is next to you at the bar, say hello.

3. If the place has a pool table or something similar then go for it. As I said above it can be a great ice breaker.

4. As someone else has said above, DO NOT join the zombie wanking squad that form a conga every time a woman or couple go anywhere near a playroom.

5. Last but not least. Do not expect anything. Treat it as a social night and if you get lucky then happy days. If you are serious about the lifestyle then keep going back. If you behave properly you will be surprised how quickly you get to know people and over time it will pay dividends. "

Which club was that then? As far as I'm aware the first club in the UK Was La Chambre opened by Barry and Marie in 1998.followed by Liberties a little later. So I'd be interested to know which swingers club was running 30 years ago?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Looks like the OP doesn't wantvti take up my offer. Hey no "

Give him chance Lizzy; he's shy

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I just went. Was nervous but sometimes if you don't just do something then you'll just live in regret. So I went, was my self and turned out to be a great night. Got on well, despite being a bit weird and socially awkward. Turns out everyone else in a club is just human too. Never looked back since.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Looks like the OP doesn't wantvti take up my offer. Hey no "

If I knew you would make the offer,I would have taken up the offer myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12 years we’ve been using clubs and you get 4 types of guys 1s that just sit in a corner all night then moan on forums that they had no luck 2 ones that stay out of the way until people start playing then stand over them wanking then wonder why there told to do one. 3 the over cocky ones they may get lucky. 4 ones that go in treat it like any other place chat to people be themselfs and find that we ar all human and end up being regular club members. Bite the bullet and get to a club be yourself and don’t be afraid to talk to people.

Lots of people frown up on fuck buddies/ couples who have hooked up to get into a club it never works out to well in our opinion. If your not confident enough to go into a club on your own people will think your not going to be confident enough to do anything else or people think you think your chances are better by being a female along then there’s the ones that think your hooking up with a female so you get in cheaper. So as said before bite the bullet and get down to a club your will not regret it.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"

Which club was that then? As far as I'm aware the first club in the UK Was La Chambre opened by Barry and Marie in 1998.followed by Liberties a little later. So I'd be interested to know which swingers club was running 30 years ago? "

Adam & Eve Eccles.

To the best of my knowledge it was the very first club in the UK. Opened circa 1986.

By 1998 there were quite a few in the Manchester area.

The Boardroom (now long gone) was certainly open by '93 (probably earlier) and I can date Cupids to at least '98.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange to meet someone there

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"

Which club was that then? As far as I'm aware the first club in the UK Was La Chambre opened by Barry and Marie in 1998.followed by Liberties a little later. So I'd be interested to know which swingers club was running 30 years ago?

Adam & Eve Eccles.

To the best of my knowledge it was the very first club in the UK. Opened circa 1986.

By 1998 there were quite a few in the Manchester area.

The Boardroom (now long gone) was certainly open by '93 (probably earlier) and I can date Cupids to at least '98. "

Just to add. I was slightly out with the Adam and Eve.

According to their website it opened in 1982.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't turn into one of the Wanking Dead, shuffling about the place cock permanently in hand...

Mwah

Ms GR "

And that’s precisely why I wouldn’t go to a club as a single male - I wouldn’t want to be perceived as being just another dirty old man, just because I was single.

That and tthe cost, of course, flagrantly violating the Equality Act.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

The club we use is only £5 dearer for single guys. Which is nothing compared to what us husbands fork out for in lingerie

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Don't turn into one of the Wanking Dead, shuffling about the place cock permanently in hand...

Mwah

Ms GR

And that’s precisely why I wouldn’t go to a club as a single male - I wouldn’t want to be perceived as being just another dirty old man, just because I was single.

That and tthe cost, of course, flagrantly violating the Equality Act."

To (mis) quote Churchill.

Equal prices would be an equal share of watching blokes wanking.

Unequal prices are an unequal share of actually getting some action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That and tthe cost, of course, flagrantly violating the Equality Act.

To (mis) quote Churchill.

Equal prices would be an equal share of watching blokes wanking.

Unequal prices are an unequal share of actually getting some action. "

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Don't turn into one of the Wanking Dead, shuffling about the place cock permanently in hand...

Mwah

Ms GR

And that’s precisely why I wouldn’t go to a club as a single male - I wouldn’t want to be perceived as being just another dirty old man, just because I was single.

That and tthe cost, of course, flagrantly violating the Equality Act."

Not all single men at Clubs are viewed as dirty old men! Some know how to chat to couples and single ladies, maybe dance and maybe get lucky, but they don't see play as being an automatic given.

Some single men are also young not old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain."

There is a direct correlation between the cheapness off the attendee and the action they get.

To take a woman out for the evening with the hope of getting sex after costs way over £100. So even £50 including your own d*unks is a huge bargain.

We hate cheap people, single guys that drink 1 bottle of water all night and then get key deposit back and moan at no action. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok "
omg when I got naked

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain.

There is a direct correlation between the cheapness off the attendee and the action they get.

To take a woman out for the evening with the hope of getting sex after costs way over £100. So even £50 including your own d*unks is a huge bargain.

We hate cheap people, single guys that drink 1 bottle of water all night and then get key deposit back and moan at no action. Lol. "

Very true.

The ones that moan should try some of the German clubs.

In the more upmarket clubs they can pay up to 130€ (albeit with free bar and buffet) and action is by no means guaranteed.

In the cheaper clubs they can get in for 30/40€ (similar package) but the difference in the standard of the guys is very noticeable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain.

There is a direct correlation between the cheapness off the attendee and the action they get.

To take a woman out for the evening with the hope of getting sex after costs way over £100. So even £50 including your own d*unks is a huge bargain.

We hate cheap people, single guys that drink 1 bottle of water all night and then get key deposit back and moan at no action. Lol. "

"...take a woman out with the hope of getting sex..." Really? I've always taken them out because I liked them, I've never felt like I was buying their services!

£35 is a good night out, watching a couple of bands. OK, occasionally, you can still end up seeing a bunch of pricks

Perhaps that's the difference, I'll happily pay to hear music but I've never paid for sex, never needed to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain.

There is a direct correlation between the cheapness off the attendee and the action they get.

To take a woman out for the evening with the hope of getting sex after costs way over £100. So even £50 including your own d*unks is a huge bargain.

We hate cheap people, single guys that drink 1 bottle of water all night and then get key deposit back and moan at no action. Lol.

"...take a woman out with the hope of getting sex..." Really? I've always taken them out because I liked them, I've never felt like I was buying their services!

£35 is a good night out, watching a couple of bands. OK, occasionally, you can still end up seeing a bunch of pricks

Perhaps that's the difference, I'll happily pay to hear music but I've never paid for sex, never needed to."
exactly so to pay £35-55 or more in some clubs just to walk over the threshold and talk to people with your own alcohol in tow is really great value for money imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Discussion of club prices always make me laugh. How much do you spend on a good night out with friends that’s not just the pub? I know prices are higher down south, but around here it’s £20-£30 for a single guy, you generally bring your own booze and your mixers bill will be a couple of quid. So £35 for a night of sexy entertainment, laughter, possibly sex. I think it’s a bargain.

There is a direct correlation between the cheapness off the attendee and the action they get.

To take a woman out for the evening with the hope of getting sex after costs way over £100. So even £50 including your own d*unks is a huge bargain.

We hate cheap people, single guys that drink 1 bottle of water all night and then get key deposit back and moan at no action. Lol.

"...take a woman out with the hope of getting sex..." Really? I've always taken them out because I liked them, I've never felt like I was buying their services!

£35 is a good night out, watching a couple of bands. OK, occasionally, you can still end up seeing a bunch of pricks

Perhaps that's the difference, I'll happily pay to hear music but I've never paid for sex, never needed to."

I guess that's why you're single, £35 on a good night out sounds cheap.

Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"If you're a single guy going to a club for the first time how did you go about it. because I'm not sure if I could go in by myself if it was with a lady it probably be ok "

So long as you have your shield and sword to fight off the orcs, dragons and trolls, you should be fine... oh, and don't drink the water.

Seriously... a grown man is scared about walking into a building?

What do you think is going to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again "

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i would need few drinks what kinda people go in

It’s no different than walking into a pub on your own. There are people standing around in a bar area having a drink & socialising - the only difference is that there are rooms away from the bar where people can have sex.

It’s really not scary at all! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank."

Actually could be a membership fee to so add £90 if its chams

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank."

And that is this weeks "glass half empty" quote of the week.

So if you want some form of sex the options are:

Go to the pub try to chat someone up and have a small chance of getting your dick wet on the night. Probably spend £50+ and more than likely finish up at home having a wank on the strength of what might have been.

Go to a working girl and spend anywhere between £50 and £100 (in some cases a lot more) for half an hour (if you are lucky) of mechanical sex that usually leaves you feeling a bit disgusted with yourself.

Stay at home pop a porno into the DVD and wank yourself stupid all night and maybe drink a tenners worth of supermarket beer (cheapest option).

Or. Pay £35 to go to a swinger club chat to some like minded people and if you can hold a conversation and are presentable have a very good chance of getting laid (quite often more than once) but even if you miss out you can still go home and have a wank on the memories of what you have seen.

I know what my preferred option would be.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Oh I almost forgot the "mythical" option.

Send out scattergun messages on this site and others like it in the (forlorn) hope that someone might take you up on the offer.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank.

And that is this weeks "glass half empty" quote of the week.

So if you want some form of sex the options are:

Go to the pub try to chat someone up and have a small chance of getting your dick wet on the night. Probably spend £50+ and more than likely finish up at home having a wank on the strength of what might have been.

Go to a working girl and spend anywhere between £50 and £100 (in some cases a lot more) for half an hour (if you are lucky) of mechanical sex that usually leaves you feeling a bit disgusted with yourself.

Stay at home pop a porno into the DVD and wank yourself stupid all night and maybe drink a tenners worth of supermarket beer (cheapest option).

Or. Pay £35 to go to a swinger club chat to some like minded people and if you can hold a conversation and are presentable have a very good chance of getting laid (quite often more than once) but even if you miss out you can still go home and have a wank on the memories of what you have seen.

I know what my preferred option would be. "

Love this, very good summary. Yeah everyone has to have their 1st visit, all been there. Clubs is a great social night out with possibilities - end of - Fi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank.

Actually could be a membership fee to so add £90 if its chams"

Which is a one off, and £125 on a night out is about right.

We went on a vanilla date Friday, dinner was £104 in its own, plus a few drinks, etc. And I KNOW I'm getting laid at the end of the night well if I'm not too full, lol.

Then £30+ every other time you go. If you can't afford that you'd be better off looking for a new job rather than trying to find a woman who you can't help support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is the atmosphere in the club's? The lighting, music etc? Is it too dark? Too loud? ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank.

Actually could be a membership fee to so add £90 if its chams

Which is a one off, and £125 on a night out is about right.

We went on a vanilla date Friday, dinner was £104 in its own, plus a few drinks, etc. And I KNOW I'm getting laid at the end of the night well if I'm not too full, lol.

Then £30+ every other time you go. If you can't afford that you'd be better off looking for a new job rather than trying to find a woman who you can't help support. "

Lol and if you can't find a job either because you don't have enough experience then youre genuinely fucked.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"How is the atmosphere in the club's? The lighting, music etc? Is it too dark? Too loud? .... "

I would guess it varies from Club to Club and maybe even depend on the night as Clubs can have different events on.

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By *eorge n DragonCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Depends on what night and club you go to. We a big fan off cupids and event nights. Escapades on a Saturday night is just like being in a night club just with half naked people. Good time to socialise and have a drink and dance. None event night, music light, mood lighting and everyone relaxed.

Highly recommended but do not just sit in the corner and watch like a lot do. Got to mingle and talk to people.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Most club's would have louder areas....music and lots of people and quieter areas for chatting and playing. No flourescent strip lights are used. Softer lighting in most areas or disco lights or the dark room.

In summary volume and lighting varies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is I hate the dark areas...I prefer lighted area's ..

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Who cares if you're happy with it. If I took a, woman out and spent £35 I wouldn't expect to be seeing her again

But you’re not taking a woman, are you? You’re spending £35 to go as a single and have a wank.

Actually could be a membership fee to so add £90 if its chams

Which is a one off, and £125 on a night out is about right.

We went on a vanilla date Friday, dinner was £104 in its own, plus a few drinks, etc. And I KNOW I'm getting laid at the end of the night well if I'm not too full, lol.

Then £30+ every other time you go. If you can't afford that you'd be better off looking for a new job rather than trying to find a woman who you can't help support. "

Wow - how did you manage to spend that much in a Harvester?

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