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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one intrested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be fine just get a smile on your face and chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Still unsure lol

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Do you have membership sorted ? Not sure you can role up and join on the day as a single guy.

Once you get in , try and hover near the bar and just chat to people. Wander around and see what is going on. But dont follow a single guy conga line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh no not member was just going to turn up and join in the night I might call them and see then thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one interested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy"

no.1 ask if you can get on the guest list by call as will be a wasted journey otherwise.

no.2 see it a club where you can meet like minded others but they arent dressed up. some are in towels some are in lingerie and some in boxers.

speak to both of the couple if looking to play with a couple. smile relax and chill

Chams is a great place where the staff and most member's will put u at ease

and have a great time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think I'm going to go tonight eek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm going to go tonight eek"

Presume you’ve contacted them and are on the guest list?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yah I just rang them and emailed them

What sort of things can I wear there that I feel comfortable in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yah I just rang them and emailed them

What sort of things can I wear there that I feel comfortable in "

a towell they provide or boxers or shorts. its a dress down club (wet club)

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By *eedsortingMan
over a year ago

Radley

There really is nothing to worry about. Sure, we all get a bit nervous the first time but ocne you are in and relaxing you will wonder what you were worried about. All the advice above is great - be realxed and considerate and talk to people. Engage in some conversation rather than just look or stare or sit quietly on your own. You don't have to be the centre of the party but don't be shy of just starting a casual conversation with people that are there. That will also help to just loosen and relax you. Then see where the evening goes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take a book to read......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the positive comments I looking forward to going now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"take a book to read...... "

no need for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll be fine. Just don’t walk round following women wanking.

Say hi and be friendly.

And I’ll see you later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry to seem daft I wanna go chams tonight but I nervous any advice please I'm a single guy that just want to enjoy a night there first bother me at all if no one interested interested in me just want to go and enjoy the scene but worried bout what others will be like as I'm a single guy

no.1 ask if you can get on the guest list by call as will be a wasted journey otherwise.

no.2 see it a club where you can meet like minded others but they arent dressed up. some are in towels some are in lingerie and some in boxers.

speak to both of the couple if looking to play with a couple. smile relax and chill

Chams is a great place where the staff and most member's will put u at ease

and have a great time x"
I don't wear boxers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Eek I bottled it sad ain't i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww, u shd of gone. I might be going next weekend with a friend. I’ll be a bit nervous as it will be my first time going to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty sure there's a massive waiting list for single guys to join chams. If you're really nervous xtasia probably a better club to start with as it's more geared as a sociable space with less play, and not dress down.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"take a book to read......

no need for this"

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London


"Eek I bottled it sad ain't i"

Aww...

You will get there. Just treat it as if you're checking out a new pub.

There was a very good thread on a male's first visit to a club, which was initially scary but resulted to be a very positive experience for him. Without trying to break forum rules by mentioning other threads, I will say that I did comment on the subject, so you could find it by looking at my green arrow.

It is well worth the search, as I suspect that a positive experience from a male viewpoint will be far more reassuring for you and indeed any other male contemplating going to a club.

Best

Cx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pretty sure there's a massive waiting list for single guys to join chams. If you're really nervous xtasia probably a better club to start with as it's more geared as a sociable space with less play, and not dress down."

The waiting list is a myth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Eek I bottled it sad ain't i"

No not sad maybe you wasnt ready xx

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By *expuss2015Woman
over a year ago

Planet Sex

Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.

Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could

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By *ediMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Don’t be shy main thing is going and enjoying yourself, it’s all about the socialising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.

Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could "

Unless you are a member you cant.

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By *expuss2015Woman
over a year ago

Planet Sex


"Just an idea if you scroll down in the forum to swinging club/ads section look in there for parties at chams as most you can go to if not a member. Some are on Saturdays which single guys can’t attend as it’s couples and single ladies only but other parties are on Fridays. If you wanted to go to one on a Friday you’d have to make sure you’re name is on the list as couldn’t just turn up.

Also I must say I’ve got a single fem membership and think if I can go there on my own I’m pretty sure you could

Unless you are a member you cant.

If the party is actually hosted by chams then it’s members only but for parties hosted by a third party like for someones birthday then non members are welcome but name has to be on the guest list for that party

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for your comments and advice I prob sound daft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks all for your comments and advice I prob sound daft "

We all have nerves occasionally in life

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