FabSwingers.com forum: I got rejected from joining le boudoir

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I got an email today telling me that they are oversubscribed and that I am not accepted to join Le Boudoir. Has anyone else been rejected? What is their criteria? I am sad as a group of friends are going in a few weeks time and I can't go now

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By *uilt Free Girls PartiesWoman
over a year ago

London

Hi,

Did you send a clear photo in? I think it is LB's polite way of saying your application photo didn't meet their minimum standards.

It's a smart venue and they are renowned for maintaining higher standards of presentability (inc dress code) from members than clubs outside of London. They get a really good looking crowd there.

Can't comment further because you don't have any photos on your FAB profile. You can always ask them to reconsider, but, because you have friends going doesn't mean its a given that you will be or should be accepted.

S x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

As above, they told me they were oversubscribed for ladies and two friends applied a day later and were accepted. They went to a party and said the people there were all stunners and there were no ladies over about size 12 so obviously they didnt want a heffer like me there.

They are very fussy about looks, weight, dress code etc. Maybe try again with a different picture in a few days?

Good luck, it will be a shame if you miss out on going with your friends xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a club is going to reject someone because of their appearance shouldn't they at least have the balls to say so?

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By *heblackmacMan
over a year ago

Ladywell, Lewisham.

I've applied 5 times as a single guy,never heard from them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s crap of them as Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and there’s lots of guys looking for a normal or fuller lady......hate elitism it reeks of crap!!!!,there not worthy of you OP so sod them go elsewhere and maybe tell your mates your not going now even if they reconsidered there decision xx

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By *ub4uyorkTV/TS
over a year ago

York

If they have rejected you on appearance then fuck them and fuck your friends....... oh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got accepted, but haven’t had the chance to go yet, it’s about time we went!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a size 12, my size 12 friend got the rejection email this afternoon too. So me and my hot lovely friends will be going to the VA instead where we are welcomed.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I'm a size 12, my size 12 friend got the rejection email this afternoon too. So me and my hot lovely friends will be going to the VA instead where we are welcomed.

Wise choice. And not far from MK.

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By *uilt Free Girls PartiesWoman
over a year ago

London

It's nothing to do with being size 12 or under - I'm a fuller figure and Ive seen much larger ladies there too.

It's your overall appearance. They are not duty bound to accept you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s crap of them as Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and there’s lots of guys looking for a normal or fuller lady......hate elitism it reeks of crap!!!!,there not worthy of you OP so sod them go elsewhere and maybe tell your mates your not going now even if they reconsidered there decision xx"

I'm not keen on elitism and would never ever be accepted by them but there is clearly a market for it. But if they have a criteria and someone doesnt fit that I feel they should say so. If they are worried it might hurt feelings or they will look like epic cunts? Then dont exclude people on appearance. Can't have it all ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol unless they will stay busy forever we never applied now after reading this never going to apply for membership if lots of people do that then they will defenatily change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 12, my size 12 friend got the rejection email this afternoon too. So me and my hot lovely friends will be going to the VA instead where we are welcomed.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

xx"

With all due respect, there's some rank club's and real shitholes in the UK. Fair play to a club for installing some standards and making it more desirable. We can't guess as to why OPs application was rejected, only the club can offer that explanation and it may not have anything to do with dress size or looks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well perhaps they have changed their guidelines...... I visited numerous clubs here and o/s doing reviews on them and spoke to management for most of them - their guidelines were based on visual with regard to body size First as I said, then clothing and face etc - it’s about a certain presentation and creating connections with visual matches for their membership - they make no hidden agenda with regard to their requirements - when I spoke with them.

The VA - management friendly, fun and caring and facilities are suitable x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Clubs will maintain more respect if they are honest with their members and prospective members. 'Over-subscribed' means something completely different to what some have hinted may be the real reason for rejection. Of course, the application may have been received at a point that they were over-subscribed, so they may have been as clear as they could have been, on that day.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I applied about 5 months ago and I received a email within 48 hours saying they were over subscribed with single males at first I thought it may be my age but when I saw a couple of reviews from single guys a couple of years younger than me I wasn't sure it was that.The picture I used to apply was with me in smart jeans and polo shirt when I thought about it perhaps it would have been better if I was wearing the sort of clothes I would wear normally black trousers and dark shirt.I thinking of applying again the worst they can say is no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As for the comment posted about why I don't have any photos on my profile and suggesting that I must be visually unappealing and hence my rejection. I don't need to put my ass on fab to get men to be interested in me. I have plenty of guys to play with from my kink circles and swinging club networks already.

And I will very happily party with my friends at a club where everyone is welcome - not at Le Boudoir.

Thank you everyone for your comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As for the comment posted about why I don't have any photos on my profile and suggesting that I must be visually unappealing and hence my rejection. I don't need to put my ass on fab to get men to be interested in me. I have plenty of guys to play with from my kink circles and swinging club networks already.

And I will very happily party with my friends at a club where everyone is welcome - not at Le Boudoir.

Thank you everyone for your comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a member and am definitely NOT a size 12!

I encouraged a female friend of mine to join so we could attend an event, shes bigger than me and they accepted her also.

I've been there a few times and have always recieved a lovely welcome.

They've become incredibly popular, so maybe they really are just oversubscribed.

I'd try again, as it really is a lovely, welcoming club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get why clubs may want to vet members, but vetting them on what they deem ti be attractive just seems wrong to me. It smacks of the very worst sort of elitism and to then send a reply saying oversubscribed as justifivation is just bullshit. If your membership is over subscribed then just stop accepting applications. Or be honest and say sorry you're not for our club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have preferences about who they want to meet and some clubs do too. I'd imagine they have a policy to let people down gently. I see no harm in that.

Some clubs exclude single men or tv's. It's just the same kind of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well.... myself and Mrs marmite both got rejected last year, maybe they don't like the fact that we are 99% social and only play with people we connect with?

Either that or we are the ugliest fuckers in Essex? Who knows.... beauty is in the eyes of the beholder... and personally think Mrs marmite is a beautiful lady, we have been accepted at the VA and also Mingles clubs, which we enjoy visiting frequently

Le boudoir are missing out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Did you send a clear photo in? I think it is LB's polite way of saying your application photo didn't meet their minimum standards.

It's a smart venue and they are renowned for maintaining higher standards of presentability (inc dress code) from members than clubs outside of London. They get a really good looking crowd there.

S x"

Smart my ass. I haven’t applied for their membership and never will. Heard from various friends that they have paid girls to entertain clients. Op there are much better and classy places to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I had best times on the scene with plus size ladies. Not all under size 12 are good at sex.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I got rejected but didn’t even have an email I just got account blocked. I sent a picture of me in a suit

Clearly not what they were looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I had best times on the scene with plus size ladies. Not all under size 12 are good at sex.

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I applied but they turned me down cause I sound like a monotone farmer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This kind of petty shit is whyi dont bother with clubs anymore

Most are too cliqey and all it takes is for 1 member to not like you or have something bad to say about you (true or not) and your banned or ostrosized or given a bad reputation

Just stick to private meets a d if you dont like someone you just tell them straight up

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

C'est la vie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I daren't apply.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"This is why I daren't apply. "

You would get in for sure hh

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By *aughtius MaximiusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

I applied recently and got accepted within 48hrs. I just sent them what they asked for ie a recent clear waist up photo.

Maybe their policy has changed recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Le Boudoir doesn't judge size or age. That's absolute tosh. I've been many times and do not feel there is any "elitist" attitude at all.

I've seen all sizes and ages there, in fact my regular club friends some are in their 50's, some are bigger than size 12.

I do know they expect a certain level of presentation and profiles are expected to not be a few words and good description of what type of person you are.

I also know they can be over subscribed one day then not the next.

The people that run it are genuine lovely and I am disappointed that people are assuming it's based on looks, posts like this can make or break a club based on assumption, and I don't know if you've noticed but clubs are getting thinner on the ground!!!

Other clubs have rules and dress codes (ie no ripped jeans, no tracksuits etc) let's not drag a club through the mud for making it a decent place to go!!!

Sorry guys but I'm protective over our scene, I'm not massively regular there but mine and my friends experience has been a positive one. X

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"This kind of petty shit is whyi dont bother with clubs anymore

Most are too cliqey and all it takes is for 1 member to not like you or have something bad to say about you (true or not) and your banned or ostrosized or given a bad reputation

Just stick to private meets a d if you dont like someone you just tell them straight up"

Thats a shame as the vast majority of clubs do not operate in that way.... far from it, they are fully inclusive.

My experience was from few years ago, not long after they started up. Of course they have every right to select their guest list to fit the clientel they want to attract. Lots of slimmer, better looking people feel they want to meet a similar class of people and there is nothing wrong in that. We feel the same, indeed it says on our profile that whilst we are happy to socialise with anyone, we still prefer to play with people similar in mindset, age and build as us.... Its all about personal preferences.

I did find it odd that the day after I was told they were over subscribed with ladies (lets face it folks, when is that EVER going to happen?!) they accepted my two friends, one being a tiny size 8 the other a 10, but thats just the way the mop flops.

There are of course lots of events and parties specifically for larger ladies... Do the slimmer ladies and couples complain about those?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like with all things swinging if you put effort in you get lots back and if all the club has to go on is your profile and a picture, then if you haven’t put the effort in on your profile what do you expect x

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

"This kind of petty shit is whyi dont bother with clubs anymore

Most are too cliqey and all it takes is for 1 member to not like you or have something bad to say about you (true or not) and your banned or ostrosized or given a bad reputation

Just stick to private meets a d if you dont like someone you just tell them straight up

Thats a shame as the vast majority of clubs do not operate in that way.... far from it, they are fully inclusive.

There are of course lots of events and parties specifically for larger ladies... Do the slimmer ladies and couples complain about those?"

The problem is that thin people can get in anywhere and us with a little bit of meat get scrutinized.....oh well their loss!!!!!

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

abfabs suposidly had a dress and behaviour code, also said they controlled the number of single guys on a friday. now tell me, did they? nope, there were people there who looked like theyd slept in a skip. Le Boudoir is a private members club that actually has a policy and sticks to it, other clubs just want to collect the money. their fridays are never packed, they could throw the doors open and get more money if that was their only motivation. Best club ive been too, and ive been to a few.

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By *apillon500Couple
over a year ago

kent

I’m a generous size 14/16 and was accepted. Been a few times now and, whilst everyone there is sexy and stunning, by no means are they all skinny Minnie’s. All shapes and sizes - all equally sexy and I was by no means the ‘biggest’ there.

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By *crobatCouple
over a year ago

London

We applied and were rejected last week. We don’t consider ourselves unattractive but perhaps we just don’t meet the age and looks profile that LB has set itself.

Very disappointed as particularly with the demise of AbFabs, we aren’t indulged with clubs that some other regions are and did want to give it a try and meet existing friends at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a member, The last time we where there a couple who were also members were in front of us and they refused entry due to the guy turning up in a T shirt and jeans,I wish more clubs would

Do the same.

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By *aturally sexyCouple
over a year ago

watford

We won't apply any club that vets members on the basis of looks.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"abfabs suposidly had a dress and behaviour code, also said they controlled the number of single guys on a friday. now tell me, did they? nope, there were people there who looked like theyd slept in a skip. Le Boudoir is a private members club that actually has a policy and sticks to it, other clubs just want to collect the money. their fridays are never packed, they could throw the doors open and get more money if that was their only motivation. Best club ive been too, and ive been to a few."

Ive never seen anyone looking that bad at Abfabs

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By *crobatCouple
over a year ago

London

Completely agree with previous poster.

Guess it’s just disappointing (and a bit of a knock to our confidence) to be screened out through the application process which doesn’t ask for anything more than age details and photos.

Acknowledge that it is a Private Members Club who don’t have to be accountable to anyone, however.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also know they can be over subscribed one day then not the next.

How does that work then? I get that it can vary fir attending on a specific night but membership? Sorry but unless people are resigning or membership is for a fixed period how does membership going from over subscribed to available on a daily basis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Groucho Marx

I don't care to belong to any club that will have me as a member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both fat, ugly, and old and we're members. Well actually maybe we're not that fat or ugly, and not really that old, but still..

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"We won't apply any club that vets members on the basis of looks."

Seconded

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"I got an email today telling me that they are oversubscribed and that I am not accepted to join Le Boudoir. Has anyone else been rejected? What is their criteria? I am sad as a group of friends are going in a few weeks time and I can't go now

I applied a few months ago!

Pic wasn’t clear enough.

Totally forgot about it until

I was asked to attend with a guy as a +1 so found a new clearer full length pic!

A couple of days later I received and email rejecting membership

Oh well !

Just have to stick to the clubs that I already attend

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Ooh where to start.

They let me join, so that’s good reason to avoid the place like the plague.

To the guy who didn’t get in and says they have paid girls working there. They do, they’re called ‘the staff’ carrying out a wonderfully unobtrusive job keeping the club clean and ticking over each night.

I’ve been a member almost 3 years and have first hand knowledge. It’s a private members club. It certainly doesn’t judge on looks. Members cover every shape, shade and size possible, those of all faiths and none.

They may or may not take into account the amount of photos, CAPITAL LETTERS, spelling and punctuation in your online profile and / or application. But then again it’s a private members club and who they choose to let in or not, is entirely down to them.

I’ve seen singles and couples members get turned away at the door for poor dress sense, being d*unk / under the influence of drugs and trying to coerce a partner in.

These guys do things the right way. It might irk some, but it is what it is. Their club, their rules.

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By *ngel Of SexMan
over a year ago

london

The truth needs to be told, I think it’s unfair of you to portray Le Boudoir bad, everyone has preference, don’t be offended if your application is rejected, apply to other clubs. Same way you don’t want to meet couples and no one is shooting you.

As far as am concerned leboudoir is the best club in the UK and everyone have met in the club look on point, smells good and looks classy. I turned up there for the first time in a T-shirt and I wasn’t refused entry, friendly and professional staffs. Don’t take this personal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooh where to start.

They let me join, so that’s good reason to avoid the place like the plague.

I’ve seen singles and couples members get turned away at the door for poor dress sense, being d*unk / under the influence of drugs and trying to coerce a partner in.

These guys do things the right way. It might irk some, but it is what it is. Their club, their rules.

First of all I never applied for membership and not interested.

Also what staff you’re talking about. My reply to lady earlier on by looking at her profile and also backed up by my friends. Apparently the “staff” takes over orgy room and play. Not to mention £80 for 2hrs” “guilt free parties” says it all.

If club wants to run a brothel and swingers club at same time then it’s not fair on genuine swingers like op or everyone else on here.

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

"Ooh where to start.

They let me join, so that’s good reason to avoid the place like the plague.

I’ve seen singles and couples members get turned away at the door for poor dress sense, being d*unk / under the influence of drugs and trying to coerce a partner in.

These guys do things the right way. It might irk some, but it is what it is. Their club, their rules.

First of all I never applied for membership and not interested.

If club wants to run a brothel and swingers club at same time then it’s not fair on genuine swingers like op or everyone else on here."

I’ve been a member for three years, never seen the staff play. I’m fact I saw the bouncer (who actually does his job keeping people safe) be asked continually to play by a woman. He said he can’t, he’s not allowed. And those ‘guilt free girls” nights? Sorry to shatter any illusions but those gb nights at all the other clubs run by outside operators, what do you think the set up there is? Sounds like people applied for membership knowing they may not be acccepted, that inherent in applying for something, you were rejected. Just move on.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

Men too ?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Fuck it, I am now going to apply just for the hell of it. I am a lady with huge boobs and a wobbly mum tum. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread just reiterates all my fears of clubs

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’m gonna apply about of pure intrigue now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's completely up to Le Boudoir how they run their membership. Take it that if you were turned down, it's because it wouldn't be a comfortable environment for you. (I am a member, by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t we all choose sex partners buy their looks to a greater extent ? So why shouldn’t a club select who they want as members by visual appearance ?

Hasn’t everyone on here declined people because there’s zero attraction

What’s the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?"

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they read your profile op and think your not suited as your into kink and not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We won't apply any club that vets members on the basis of looks."

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

"This thread just reiterates all my fears of clubs

There's nothing to be afraid of, Le Boudoir are very much in the minority of vetting potential members. The vast majority of clubs don't, especially for couples and single females.

I think it's because Le Boudoir place themselves in the same sort of market as parties like Fever and Killing Kittens so they vet potential members to keep their nights for "their type" of crowd

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"Ooh where to start.

They let me join, so that’s good reason to avoid the place like the plague.

I’ve seen singles and couples members get turned away at the door for poor dress sense, being d*unk / under the influence of drugs and trying to coerce a partner in.

These guys do things the right way. It might irk some, but it is what it is. Their club, their rules.

First of all I never applied for membership and not interested.

If club wants to run a brothel and swingers club at same time then it’s not fair on genuine swingers like op or everyone else on here."

Key word in your reply is apparently.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

I find that if one wants to comment about something, then it’s usually best to be talking from experience of the subject matter.

As the subject is Le Boudoir, you’re relying on hearsay and friends to make your point. As you’ve never been and your friends clearly haven’t, do us all a favour and stop talking about something you have no experience of.

Every club in the country and overseas puts on themed events for members. A look at the events page here shows a selection covering delights such as:

Bi Mondays

Greedy Girls Night

BBW Thursdays

Girls Wanna Have Fun

Frisky Friday

KINKY NiGht

Debauchery XXX

Black Magic

Lock & Key Night - Le Boudoir take note!!

I doubt you’ll read this as you’ve gone into ‘hidden profile mode’. When you get back online perhaps you can let us all know where the ‘much better and classy places to go’ are.

Every club runs itself the way it wants to. Not every place works for everyone. Then again why don’t you apply for membership and see LB for yourself.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I'm most definitely not a size 12 or under

Having attended several clubs, a few of which I received very unwanted attention, going to a club that checks people out before accepting them as members is IMO a relief.

Yes they have a criteria, but it's based on more than just appearance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 12, my size 12 friend got the rejection email this afternoon too. So me and my hot lovely friends will be going to the VA instead where we are welcomed.

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread kinda gives me a chuckle, people are moaning that they were refused entry based on looks, now how many of those moaning have rejected a potential meet because they looked at the photo and said no not for us!?

Personally I wouldn't even try to apply as my wife already feels low about her figure so wouldn't want her to receive a potential knock on her confidence. Regardless whether it's because they actually are over subscribed or because you don't fit their criteria, nobody likes rejection.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

I’ve been to LB a good few times and it’s a classy club that maintains a high standard but as previous posters have said I’ve seen all sizes and ages there.

My application pic was in my suit they don’t need to see you in your underwear just looking your best.

The management do their best to run an amazing venue and they do it bloody well too!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie..."

How did I know you’d throw a grenade...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck it, I am now going to apply just for the hell of it. I am a lady with huge boobs and a wobbly mum tum. Lol"

I think we should all apply and let them be inundated with applications lol. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie...

How did I know you’d throw a grenade..."

I'm a knowledge sharer MrHG...all done for the good of the community

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie...

How did I know you’d throw a grenade...

I'm a knowledge sharer MrHG...all done for the good of the community

Not just knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?"

We should start one... Will definitely need a strict vetting policy in Newton Abbot though

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

We should start one... Will definitely need a strict vetting policy in Newton Abbot though "

I think YooHoo and I should pay a visit to discuss terms

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By *iss sarahcWoman
over a year ago

london

Hey well i host parties for everyone got one coming up on the 5th.

Pm me if you want info xxx

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Hey well i host parties for everyone got one coming up on the 5th.

Pm me if you want info xxx "

I know you host an amazing night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie...

How did I know you’d throw a grenade...

I'm a knowledge sharer MrHG...all done for the good of the community

Not just knowledge

What else are you suggesting I share Luther??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

We should start one... Will definitely need a strict vetting policy in Newton Abbot though

I think YooHoo and I should pay a visit to discuss terms

And conditions...conditions are v. Important x

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

LeBoudoir is in London town sweetie...

How did I know you’d throw a grenade...

I'm a knowledge sharer MrHG...all done for the good of the community

Not just knowledge

What else are you suggesting I share Luther??!"

Sharing is caring yoohoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got a email today from a woman on Fab telling me that she is not interested in meeting me for sex or a even coffee social. Has this happened to any other guy on Fab? What is wrong with me ? What should have I done differently? I’m really sad because I really wanted to meet this woman and have great sex with her. Now that she has told me no , I can’t do that now.....

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with?

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with? "

Must have been from New Jersey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with? "

She exercised her preference...... move on

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Fuck it, I am now going to apply just for the hell of it. I am a lady with huge boobs and a wobbly mum tum. Lol

I think we should all apply and let them be inundated with applications lol. ?? "

I agree,I'm just off to drag a brush through my hair and throw on some Primarny underwear that should do it.

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with?

She exercised her preference...... move on"

Prob cos she could see no condom....I would of said no too

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By *orth South DivideCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Alex and I joined and attended a month ago. Yes, some very sexy ladies and like me, not all size 12 or less.

Just wish they applied the same rules to vetting the guys - seems if they are coming with a pretty girl in tow it doesn't matter about their physique or looks.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

"Alex and I joined and attended a month ago. Yes, some very sexy ladies and like me, not all size 12 or less.

Just wish they applied the same rules to vetting the guys - seems if they are coming with a pretty girl in tow it doesn't matter about their physique or looks.

We went to a club in Paris which we were told had a strict entry policy and we read lots of stories of people being rejected on the door on age and looks grounds.

Given our advanced ages we felt there was a good chance we would get rejected so approached with some trepidation. The guy on the door looked the size 8 Katie up and down and let us in. He didn't even look at me.

And that was par for the course inside. Slim women and average men. The only guy Katie fancied was the barman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with?

She exercised her preference...... move on

Prob cos she could see no condom....I would of said no too"

I think the point he is getting at is why is it ok for people to say no to meeting him but is considered elitism if a club does the same.

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

What bit of ‘the girls aren’t paid’ do you not understand?

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"What bit of ‘the girls aren’t paid’ do you not understand?"

I’ve never seen paid girls at LB anyone there is there for the venue which is up there as one of the cleanest and classiest venues I’ve been to and the lovely folk that are lucky enough to be members

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

Some clubs in the north exclude tv's and bisexual men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange your own parties and see how many people you decline (if you're not out to make money from it).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the woman I’m referencing in my post a elitist? Or did she exercise her preference on who she would liked to spend her time with? "

Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a Le Boudoir in Newton Abbot?

We should start one... Will definitely need a strict vetting policy in Newton Abbot though "

Yeah, no mobility scooters allowed,except on Thursdays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I had best times on the scene with plus size ladies. Not all under size 12 are good at sex.

Totally agree

Me too...not saying skinny women aren't good at sex...just personally all my best experiences have been with bigger ladies...although in fairness some of that may just be down to personal preference as well

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

Some clubs in the north exclude tv's and bisexual men..."

Townhouse doesn’t - I get regular leg envy with some of our t-girls ... I’d bloody love to have legs that look so amazing in stockings!!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

Some clubs in the north exclude tv's and bisexual men...

Townhouse doesn’t - I get regular leg envy with some of our t-girls ... I’d bloody love to have legs that look so amazing in stockings!!

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"You should all come north - the clubs up here are far friendlier

Some clubs in the north exclude tv's and bisexual men..."

Which clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

Not at all...i'm not and we're members. The last time we went, it was a mixed crowd of people

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

Im laughing here at some of the comments re the club and females and size equals better sex etc etc.

Biggest load of presumptious bull Ive ever read !! Seriously.

These are merely our own judgments and opinions ..

Which we are all intitled too..

But is our reality the same as someone elses?? Definatley not...

Whenever Ive been to Le Boudoir on their own nights the clientale have been mixed ages,mixed cultures,and mixed sizes and the common quality appears to be well groomed and friendly..!!

Ive been rejected by elite party organisers in past... is what it is.

Just chill and enjoy.. theres an event and club for everyone xxx

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Im laughing here at some of the comments re the club and females and size equals better sex etc etc.

Biggest load of presumptious bull Ive ever read !! Seriously.

These are merely our own judgments and opinions ..

Which we are all intitled too..

But is our reality the same as someone elses?? Definatley not...

Whenever Ive been to Le Boudoir on their own nights the clientale have been mixed ages,mixed cultures,and mixed sizes and the common quality appears to be well groomed and friendly..!!

Ive been rejected by elite party organisers in past... is what it is.

Just chill and enjoy.. theres an event and club for everyone xxx"

Well said that lady

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Maybe once a month they should have ‘mingers night’ let in all of us not fit enough to have been accepted. Lol

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Maybe once a month they should have ‘mingers night’ let in all of us not fit enough to have been accepted. Lol"

lol

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By *insbury Park FabberMan
over a year ago

London

"Hey well i host parties for everyone got one coming up on the 5th.

Pm me if you want info xxx "

That sounds great - but you've blocked single guys from PM-ing you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alex and I joined and attended a month ago. Yes, some very sexy ladies and like me, not all size 12 or less.

Just wish they applied the same rules to vetting the guys - seems if they are coming with a pretty girl in tow it doesn't matter about their physique or looks.

We went to a club in Paris which we were told had a strict entry policy and we read lots of stories of people being rejected on the door on age and looks grounds.

And that was par for the course inside. Slim women and average men. The only guy Katie fancied was the barman! "

Bloody hell something else on the list of why I need to avoid clubs

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By *havenpussycatsCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We applied and were accepted. We have been once and are definitely returning. I wonder if maybe it's an automated thing recently.

I think feedback on the club forum gives an accurate idea, but we found the club nice. As stated you are expected to adhere to the standard dress code.

I liked the fact it was a bit hidden from outside, and inside we found the place done up nicely. The Polish lady and English partner who own the club were really nice, and we had a good chat with them as we were waiting for our Uber.

In regards the people, it was a nice mix of attractive people, typical to how you would find at the Vanilla Alternative - it wasn't intimidating. There were a few particularly good looking younger lifestyle people who made an above average effort with some spectacular outfits - but this just added to the mix. There was a lot of play in the mixed playroom on the upper floor.

We are friends on Fab with Leboudoirclub - why not message them if you think there's been an error or something. As stated above it was a friendly club and we would recommend it.

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By *ostBoySoulMan
over a year ago

London

I really enjoy Le Boudior and can vouch for my friend HornyGent has said. This is one of the best swingers club in London. Personally I have found the Le Boudior Team friendly, amazing and very helpful.

As an Asian man I never had a problem with my membership and I found people of all shapes and sizes at the club, different nationalities and cultures.

I have seen in the past all these rubbish claims that Le Boudior is elitist, sexist, racist, homophobic, and body facist.

I cannot disagree more! Le Boudoir

Run some amazing nights that cater for different people and they always welcome to ideas.

People made comments about a club they never visited!

They take pride in there appearance and maintain the place to a high standard. They recognise who they clientele are and do care for it. They are based it the city so operate as a Private city members club.

As for escorts and paid working girls, this is all bullshit! Le Boudior does not need to do this!

So all the haters of Le Boudior keep churning your shit as you give them more publicity! And make us loyal fans even more determined to visit out favourite establishment!

For those that say to boycott the club the proof is in the pudding they ever Le Boudior night is over subscribed!

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

So the general consensus is it’s great club.

Have a blinding time if you go.

Look forward to seeing some of you there.

MHG xo

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"So the general consensus is it’s great club.

Have a blinding time if you go.

Look forward to seeing some of you there.

MHG xo"

I will see you there. *looks at train to london*

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

wow.....

couple of things....

1) whole lot of "wagon circling" going be the people who do go to this place....... for as much as i get people defending places they go to.... I don't think some of the people doing the defending are doing the club any favours....

2) i am so opening up a club and calling it "uggo's"..... just to see who applies!!!!

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By *aturally sexyCouple
over a year ago

watford

"wow.....

2) i am so opening up a club and calling it "uggo's"..... just to see who applies!!!! "

We will be there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We visited Le Boudoir recently and had a great time ! With regards to the comments regarding ‘Elitism’ we found there to be wide range of couples and singles on the night we attended, all of which I’m sure appealed to different tastes - we’re all different after all !

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"So the general consensus is it’s great club.

Have a blinding time if you go.

Look forward to seeing some of you there.

MHG xo

I will see you there. *looks at train to london*"

Let’s hope Army win xo

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Maybe I’ll get to experience it one day !

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"wow.....

couple of things....

2) i am so opening up a club and calling it "uggo's"..... just to see who applies!!!! "

As long as I can wear my United shirt Fabio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have no hope getting into any club let alone this one

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

All this talk has made me consider poping along tonight. Great club. (PS, I’m decidedly ordinary looking)

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

I will come with you. You can carry me off into the LB sunset lol

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

I will come with you. You can carry me off into the LB sunset lol"

Deal!!

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By *ure fucking naughtyMan
over a year ago

St Albans

After seeing this post I became curious so applied. Application accepted

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"After seeing this post I became curious so applied. Application accepted

Well done mate it’s a fantastic club you’ll love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After seeing this post I became curious so applied. Application accepted

Your have a great time.. Lots of us are going next Friday. Great social group, perfect time to try it out.

S x

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I got accepted and I'm bigger than a 12. I sadly haven't been able to attend yet which sucks as I really do want to go.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

Thought you were going to take me MR!

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

Thought you were going to take me MR!"

I’ll take you all

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I got accepted a few weeks ago and I'm no racing snake.

I've booked for 13th July but I'm planning on going down before that, just need to sort a suitable date and hotel.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"I got accepted a few weeks ago and I'm no racing snake.

I've booked for 13th July but I'm planning on going down before that, just need to sort a

suitable date and hotel. "

I doubt you’ll have a problem there !

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

Thought you were going to take me MR!

I’ll take you all

Please

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

Thought you were going to take me MR!

I’ll take you all

Well if we weren’t swingers this would be awks as fuck! Haha

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

"I got accepted a few weeks ago and I'm no racing snake.

I've booked for 13th July but I'm planning on going down before that, just need to sort a

suitable date and hotel.

I doubt you’ll have a problem there !

Thanks - that's reassuring!

Really looking forward to it.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Like the poster above I will get to this amazing club at my earliest opportunity

Thought you were going to take me MR!

I’ll take you all

Well if we weren’t swingers this would be awks as fuck! Haha"

Haha rumbled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They have an unwritten guideline - u must be size 12 or under.

I got accepted and I'm bigger than a 12. I sadly haven't been able to attend yet which sucks as I really do want to go. "

Yep, we’ve also been accepted after reading this thread and fancying something a little different. I’m not under a size 12 either...looking forward to trying it out

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Fuck it, I am now going to apply just for the hell of it. I am a lady with huge boobs and a wobbly mum tum. Lol"

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I wpuld love to go to a club but if this is how it's going to be then I won't bother! Anyone want to suggest a NICE CLUB?

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!"

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Plus sex Luther ain’t young and they let him in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wpuld love to go to a club but if this is how it's going to be then I won't bother! Anyone want to suggest a NICE CLUB?"

Mingles in Colchester

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people "

Doesn't sound lie it?

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people "

Doesn't sound like it?

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By *ogue30Woman
over a year ago

Hackney

"Le Boudoir doesn't judge size or age. That's absolute tosh. I've been many times and do not feel there is any "elitist" attitude at all.

I've seen all sizes and ages there, in fact my regular club friends some are in their 50's, some are bigger than size 12.

I do know they expect a certain level of presentation and profiles are expected to not be a few words and good description of what type of person you are.

I also know they can be over subscribed one day then not the next.

Other clubs have rules and dress codes (ie no ripped jeans, no tracksuits etc) let's not drag a club through the mud for making it a decent place to go!!!

Sorry guys but I'm protective over our scene, I'm not massively regular there but mine and my friends experience has been a positive one. X"

Couldn't agree with you more! I've enjoyed myself there (socially and at play) more than any other clubs I've been to in the UK - and I'm much bigger than a size 12.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Plus sex Luther ain’t young and they let him in "

They’re no height-ist either.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this thread really about Greggs?

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

Doesn't sound like it?"

I shouldn’t have to defend the club to some people that have never been there and are making assumptions on the reason why the OP didn’t get accepted, I have seen folk in their early twenties to people in their sixties there and sizes 8 - 18+ they also run a successful bi night once a month which hardly strikes of elitism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a photo taken leaning on an expensive car (don't get caught by the owner) and pretend it's yours

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"they also run a successful bi night once a month which hardly strikes of elitism.

"
So if you are bi you can't be elite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they also run a successful bi night once a month which hardly strikes of elitism.

So if you are bi you can't be elite?"

I'm the most elite on here! Haha (yup.. bi and proud)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

Doesn't sound like it?

I tried to join for the sole reason of their bi night... I must be a munter because I even got rejected for that event too!

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"they also run a successful bi night once a month which hardly strikes of elitism.

So if you are bi you can't be elite?"

Not at all please don’t twist my words I was trying to explain that they cater for all

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

All clubs have their own rules and regulations we just have to go with it and except their decisions.

There’s plenty of clubs around for everyone all over the country

And they all cater for different likes, wants, desires .............

Look around google etc

I’m sure we’ll all find a club that suits what we individually want

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By *hic EventsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

It’s the clubs provogative to decide who comes in.

I personally have standards for my events and turn people down all the time if they don’t fit my set out criteria!

There are plenty of events for all types of people. BMFC, BBW, Fetish, Bi, Hot, U35’s the list goes on.

Just accept that this is not real life! People can be as picky n choosy as they wish!

Can’t personally comment on your pictures as your profile is hidden.

Have fun where ever you go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the clubs provogative to decide who comes in.

I personally have standards for my events and turn people down all the time if they don’t fit my set out criteria!

There are plenty of events for all types of people. BMFC, BBW, Fetish, Bi, Hot, U35’s the list goes on.

Just accept that this is not real life! People can be as picky n choosy as they wish!

Can’t personally comment on your pictures as your profile is hidden.

Have fun where ever you go! "

Presumably all the people whining about not being able to get into the club would just fuck anyone that asks them.

I'm amazed how 'grown adults' can be so butthurt when someone doesn't want to play with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have I mentioned Greggs yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have I mentioned Greggs yet?"

You got barred from Greggs??!

You ok hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s the clubs provogative to decide who comes in.

I personally have standards for my events and turn people down all the time if they don’t fit my set out criteria!

There are plenty of events for all types of people. BMFC, BBW, Fetish, Bi, Hot, U35’s the list goes on.

Just accept that this is not real life! People can be as picky n choosy as they wish!

Can’t personally comment on your pictures as your profile is hidden.

Have fun where ever you go!

Presumably all the people whining about not being able to get into the club would just fuck anyone that asks them.

I'm amazed how 'grown adults' can be so butthurt when someone doesn't want to play with them

I for one wasn’t whining, I merely stated that I was reluctant to apply as I find the mystery selection process intimidating. And I most certainly don’t fuck anyone that asks.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"It’s the clubs provogative to decide who comes in.

I personally have standards for my events and turn people down all the time if they don’t fit my set out criteria!

There are plenty of events for all types of people. BMFC, BBW, Fetish, Bi, Hot, U35’s the list goes on.

Just accept that this is not real life! People can be as picky n choosy as they wish!

Can’t personally comment on your pictures as your profile is hidden.

Have fun where ever you go!

Presumably all the people whining about not being able to get into the club would just fuck anyone that asks them.

I'm amazed how 'grown adults' can be so butthurt when someone doesn't want to play with them

I for one wasn’t whining, I merely stated that I was reluctant to apply as I find the mystery selection process intimidating. And I most certainly don’t fuck anyone that asks. "

I doubt you would have any issues getting accepted for any club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In summary, it’s a bit like Greggs. Ok, that’s a wrap.

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

"In summary, it’s a bit like Greggs. Ok, that’s a wrap."

Do love a sausage roll !

Has to be HOT though !

mmmmmmm I can see the connection now lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people "

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting. "

If they were turning away a scruffy homeless person would they have to specifically say "you're a scruffy tramp" or would it be better if they said "sorry we're oversubscribed"?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting.

If they were turning away a scruffy homeless person would they have to specifically say "you're a scruffy tramp" or would it be better if they said "sorry we're oversubscribed"? "

but if as it seems no one knows what the criteria actually is..... then its doing no one any favours!

at least with the pretty people parties like kittens you have some idea..... this looks to be all over the shop...

and the haves railing against the have nots does really show the best light.....

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting.

If they were turning away a scruffy homeless person would they have to specifically say "you're a scruffy tramp" or would it be better if they said "sorry we're oversubscribed"?

but if as it seems no one knows what the criteria actually is..... then its doing no one any favours!

at least with the pretty people parties like kittens you have some idea..... this looks to be all over the shop...

and the haves railing against the have nots does really show the best light....."

I cou;dn;t agree more. I am happy to avoid the likes of killing kittens because I know I am not theor target and that's fine. But to apply to join a club and get assessed by a picture alone - I'm not doing that.

If you have a membership criteria, state it. Not because I;m worried I'll get declined, not so that I can try and make sure I match it but because it will help me decide if it's something I might want to go to

Clubs turning people away for being too scruffy or too inebriated is common sense. And it's no way comparable to declining membership based on a single picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting.

If they were turning away a scruffy homeless person would they have to specifically say "you're a scruffy tramp" or would it be better if they said "sorry we're oversubscribed"?

but if as it seems no one knows what the criteria actually is..... then its doing no one any favours!

at least with the pretty people parties like kittens you have some idea..... this looks to be all over the shop...

and the haves railing against the have nots does really show the best light....."

If people even considered their language it might help, the phrase "we have standards" is being bandied around a lot, I understand a club may have membership criteria, same as individuals have preferences, but to call these "standards" implies everything else is therefore sub-standard. Call me pedantic but its stuff like this that feeds the 'elitism' tag. That those that get in are 'the best' and everyone else is below that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they also run a successful bi night once a month which hardly strikes of elitism.

So if you are bi you can't be elite?

Not at all please don’t twist my words I was trying to explain that they cater for all "

No they don't cater to all. If they did, people wouldn't be rejected on a flimsy "oversubscribed" excuse would they.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"If they are that fussy then don't bother! What are they saying? Only thin, good looking, young people allowed? Fuck Them!!

They never say that, LB has a diverse crowd as any other club which it internationally known it doesn’t get that popular by alienating people

which is all well and good and defending the club... but there is one slight problem with what you wrote in that last paragraph

they are alienating people by rejecting them.. and someone is making that call and they are not letting people know!!!!

as i said... all well and good defending, by in this case you have to remember you are a "have".... as in you are allowed to go....

so try seeing it from the point of view of a "have not" and then maybe have a bit of empathy....

just putting that out there.....

defending can look like gloating... and gloating can look like boasting. "

Fair point I’m certainly not gloating and I would protect any of the wonderful clubs I have been lucky enough to attend what I am saying is that I have seen all shapes and sizes in the club.

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