FabSwingers.com forum: Scared to go alone....

By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Towels, lingerie and some kinky stuff, or so I've heard

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Just put you big boy pants on and go! You wont be the only single fella there... you are unlikely to be the only one there for the first time. You will have fun as long as you are polite and friendly and respect others boundarys.

Go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "

OP this is a great club you go in pay your money you will be shown the lockers and asked to stip to your boxers or a towel then staff will show you around I would the suggest going and sitting in the bar area chat to people and see where the night takes you xx

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Does it still have a waiting list for single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe look at when you maybe want to go...make a post on the clubs section asking people who’s going?

You can then try and get friendly with them and so you’ve got someone to chat to when you get there.

I think you’d get a better response than asking someone to join you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat buddy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does it still have a waiting list for single men? "

I'm not sure tbh your best phoning the club xx

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

Townhouse in Birkenhead is a great club to go and you don't have to be a member x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Check with the club when you can go as a single male I believe there's a waiting list.

Take Id and money you can buy non alcoholic drinks there.

Dress wise a towel or pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just going to get this off my substantial chest: there is NOTHING less sexy than a grown man saying 'Can I come with you, I don't want to go alone?' when you advertise a club visit. Man up, do the prep as suggested above and just go. Hanging on a woman's apron (basque) strings just isn't a good look.

Clubs are friendly, the staff are generally helpful and friendly and you will have more joy going on your own and looking confident than sitting awkwardly next to someone you've just met with a total lack of chemistry evident.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"I'm in the same boat buddy!

There you go OP... team up... go together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn’t agree anymore with this comment ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "

A big boi like you scared....never !!!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Townhouse in Birkenhead is a great club to go and you don't have to be a member x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG. Most clubs have a waiting list for males. And then there is no guarantee of entry as the club has to offer a pair balance. And then if you get in you actually have to find a willing couple. Most single guys spend the night wanking. I'd advise to find a like minded partner and join as a couple. "

Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?

All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?

All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Townhouse in Birkenhead is a great club to go and you don't have to be a member x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Thats a little harsh, I didn't get that impression of the OP at all... he was just nervous to go alone. Not all single men are bad, the vast majority are actually really nice and this one just needed a little push in the right direction.

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs

Where in his post did he say he was expecting women to be lined up waiting?

All he said was he was curious as to what went on inside.

Whem I was curious about what went on inside a club the first thing I did was stick my hand down the front of my pants. I found a pair of balls there (and a dick) and so I went to the club by myself.

OP I suggest you do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly. "

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p

I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go alone at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p

I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men. "

Nah if you ask sometimes you get me membership

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p

I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men. "

How did I miss that! Bad sin

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"OP I suggest calling chams to find out about membership then just take the plunge.

I'll be there tomorrow with my husband and hopefully another lady if she's feeling better, and unlike some who go on this thread, we're actually friendly.

Oi you we go and we are friendly.

But you've only just joined in, so doesn't count :p

I posted near the top suggesting the op called chams as last time we went we were told there was a waiting list for single men.

How did I miss that! Bad sin

No worries x

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

I go alone all the time, meet lots of nice people chatting to them x

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

Errrrrrr that was a bit of an hormonal rant

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG.

He asked a perfectly valid question and didn't say anything that you have accused him of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know. It was just a general observation. But the essence of what I said is correct.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"I know. It was just a general observation. But the essence of what I said is correct."

He said he was curious as to what goes on.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I know. It was just a general observation. But the essence of what I said is correct."

It wasn't.....it was aimed at him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't meant to. Im sorry .

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m a single fem and been toclub events on my own... just chat and be friendly xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I wouldn't want to go alone either OP, hopefully you will find someone to go with

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’d volunteer my services .,, but too old and miles away ... very attractive

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

I'd volunteer the op very attractive if he ever wanted to come to townhouse x

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"

Hope it's helped in you quest x

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"

Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"

I'm feeling bad for my grumpy response, but once you go you'll realise there was nothing to be concerned about. View it as a networking opportunity.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

Hope it's helped in you quest x"

Thanks.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

I'm feeling bad for my grumpy response, but once you go you'll realise there was nothing to be concerned about. View it as a networking opportunity."

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us "

Sounds great thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us

Sounds great thanks "

Or if im in there

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

There's a few of us going to swingles at Xtasia on the 16th march, meeting at flirts bar first then walking round together you and anyone else is more than welcome to tag along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went alone for my first club visit and had a great time

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us

Sounds great thanks

Or if im in there"

You'll have to say hello to us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!

Well if we're their when you go you can chat with us

Sounds great thanks

Or if im in there

You'll have to say hello to us too "

Anytime xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "

i’ve an event running next friday mate at xtasia aimed at singles and newbies to clubs, very welcoming and always a great event.

It’s in the forums just have a search for swingles or i can drop you a link it’s in westbrom

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "

I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/events/730478

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone. "

that’s because your a trooper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people go alone

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.

that’s because your a trooper "

Naw, I'm just unlikable!

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.

that’s because your a trooper

Naw, I'm just unlikable!

Yeah I can't stand ya lol x

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Chams is a great club but it does have a waiting list. Just call and ask the club before you turn up.

There is Xtasia in West Bromwich which is more like a night club. Unlike Chams yu stay in your clothes all night.

I have looked at your pics and you should do fine at both.

Just be open and chatty and engage with both people in a couple.

I know loads of single guys who do really well at clubs. All they do it go with no expectations and are happy to engage in conversation with everyone.

My advice would to talk to anyone even single guys. You might not want to play with them but its better to have someone to chat to than sit there like billy no mates.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"Chams is a great club but it does have a waiting list. Just call and ask the club before you turn up.

There is Xtasia in West Bromwich which is more like a night club. Unlike Chams yu stay in your clothes all night."

Not at all you take your clothes off when ever you like

you come dressed smart make an effort ( ladies like that) but if taking your clothes if your thing you are more then welcome to

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

I go alone every week, I do meet friends there later but I always arrive alone.

that’s because your a trooper

Naw, I'm just unlikable!

Yeah I can't stand ya lol x"

Dammit, lost my last friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"

Im heading there tomorrow..ive been around 7 times so far and love it every time .

It has a non licensed bar so you can if you wish bring a small amount of alcoholic drinks and leave behind the bar though personally i dont drink when im there

2nd tip..chat to other blokes like you would anywhere else.

3rd consent in swingers clubs is same as anywher respect and positive permission

Any way if you see me there tomorrow feel free to hello. Oh and you will love chams yes its pricey but its worth it.

Message me if you need to know more.

Tom

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Some people are so harsh!

I've visited clubs on my own so many times. I have even taken single guys to clubs, mostly just so socialise and let the guy get a feel of the place.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm at chams feel free to cum say hi. Pun intended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

Good luck. Some good advice on the thread. Especially from tomharper above- talk to the other blokes.

I would never have gone on my own either. My first trip to a club was with a male friend.

Men often get ignored at clubs, so I don't blame you for being nervous.

Sex isn't guaranteed and always ask before you touch. People are swingers not prostitutes. I'm not trying to infer that you're a bad person, just many people don't know if they've never been that's all- just telling you for info. x

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

Definitely give it a try. I think you will love it. Best thing we did was brave a club now we can't stay away from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat none of my friends know i'm on here if the did they would disown me?

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm at chams feel free to cum say hi. Pun intended

I sure will

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I'm in the same boat none of my friends know i'm on here if the did they would disown me?

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Definitely give it a try. I think you will love it. Best thing we did was brave a club now we can't stay away from them.

Can’t wait

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

Good luck. Some good advice on the thread. Especially from tomharper above- talk to the other blokes.

I would never have gone on my own either. My first trip to a club was with a male friend.

Men often get ignored at clubs, so I don't blame you for being nervous.

Thabks

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'll be there Friday late afternoon until they kick me out.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'll be there Friday late afternoon until they kick me out.

Hooligan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'll be there Friday late afternoon until they kick me out.

Hooligan

Nah she’s furniture

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "
pretend nothing happens in there

, or go (phone them for their rules first)

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By *hropmMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Can you just pay at the door or do you have to become a member

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Can you just pay at the door or do you have to become a member"
some clubs have a vetting process, some dont, some have a waiting list, some dont, some have a single new guy night to see they get on in a club environment, some dont..so, depends which club you are asking about, the determined, phone them up and ask x

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By *hropmMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

"Can you just pay at the door or do you have to become a membersome clubs have a vetting process, some dont, some have a waiting list, some dont, some have a single new guy night to see they get on in a club environment, some dont..so, depends which club you are asking about, the determined, phone them up and ask x"

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol end of the day if you too scard to go to a club on your own perhaps it’s not for you, usually it’s us girls that are a bit nervous not the men "

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?"

You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!

Ok boss

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over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!

Ok boss

"
they give u nice advice go with it

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!

Ok boss

Ah, well trained already!

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

You're a big lad, put your big boy pants on and take the plunge!

Ok boss

Ah, well trained already!"

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?"
well done you xxxx

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?"

Fair play mate .

Same with me suffer from a bit of the anxiety etc it’s just the thought of going alone I guess.. but hey never Gona have any fun if I don’t dive in the deep end

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?well done you xxxx"

Aw thanks!

I felt relaxed when I got in. No problems.

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"Thanks for the replies and messages so far.

Some a bit harsh and others great

Guess I’ll be venturing alone very soon.. sounds fun!"

Ooooooohhhhh Hello

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?

Fair play mate .

Same with me suffer from a bit of the anxiety etc it’s just the thought of going alone I guess.. but hey never Gona have any fun if I don’t dive in the deep end

Fair enough. Everyone's friendly at these places I'm sure.

Give it a go, you'll probably wonder what you were worried about afterwards! If anything just go for the experience like I did and go from there.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

OP Don`t go to Chams on Saturday nights as you won`t get in, member or not! It`s couples and single ladies on Saturday evenings!

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm going tomorrow day time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m still yet to visit a club too.. I am pretty nervous about it though! I was told during one of my very first social meets on fab that my ethnicity would cause me problems in a club

which is kinda disheartening as I’ve had some great meets/interactions with some amazing people! and I’ve heard the clubs can be a good experience..

I think it’d be best to chaperone

still...maybe one day lol

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm going tomorrow day time

I’m at work

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Tomorrow I'm going on my own for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you OP, doing things like this can be hard enough for the first time, but having anxiety makes them feel so much bigger and a bloody massive challenge.

All credit to you for trying, I'm far too scared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not put something in the meets/events

You may find someone to go with.

I remember going to a club on my own.

I went but couldn't bring myself to talk to anyone through being nervous.

Found myself just woundering around then left.

It was a few months after that until I went again.

Felt more confident, glad I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont see where he said anything if the sort. It's this sort of response from couples that put me off going for so long and then when I did there were some couples like this in there. Put me off going again completely.

Best advice I can give is find a lady friend to go with. It'll get round a couple obsticles.. 1) Being seen as a single man with its added entrance cost and all the wrong perceptions and 2) You have someone to chat to when in there and you'll feel more relaxed and the response will be better.

I will go back to town house or Cupids a second time but only with a friend and not as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all good guys hes got me now ...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm going tomorrow day time

I’m at work

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If ladies can pluck up the courage to go along to Clubs on their own surely you should be able to pluck up the courage?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

x were going to xtasia x

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"pants "

Isn’t that what Americans call trousers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" x were going to xtasia x "

Enjoy guys

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By *ily_LondonWoman
over a year ago

North London

"Feel the fear and do it anyway" or what ever the self help book title is - that's what I've trying to do. I've never been to a club before, have wanted to go for a while but so far chickened out. Now I've finally decided to overcome my nervousness and do it - going to Black Boudoir at Le Boudoir tonight.

OP - if I can do it, you can do it too! Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done OP for posting this and persisting in spite of some taunts. It's great to see some ladies giving a guy a helping hand in this area. I think a lot more singles could help each other out in this area.

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By *rryTMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Good luck dude

I plan on going alone soon and it is intimidating, but sure it'll be fine

They seem a nice bunch

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Well this weekend all going well I shall be braving it!

Hope to see some of you there

I'm going tomorrow day time

I’m at work

What time do you finish?

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London & North Wessex Downs

"Yet another post from a guy thinking he can waltz into a club and the women are all lined up waiting for you. WRONG WROMG WRONG.

He asked a perfectly valid question and didn't say anything that you have accused him of"

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Mate I went today alone and I'm not the most outgoing person. Sometimes I get social anxiety problems.. Hell I even got naked today! If I can do it I'm sure you can

. What's the problem for you?well done you xxxx

Aw thanks!

I felt relaxed when I got in. No problems."
excellent, welcome to the 'its not so bad, in fact its kind of great, when you finally do it', club

when i first started i went to a club on my own, before i even knew of here(this site). i had a great time and been doing it, with and without people for a few years now. i still get butterflies especially going somewhere new, but i actually prefer to walk in to the new thing alone, i tend to cope with it better. im not under any pressure then x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

""Feel the fear and do it anyway" or what ever the self help book title is - that's what I've trying to do. I've never been to a club before, have wanted to go for a while but so far chickened out. Now I've finally decided to overcome my nervousness and do it - going to Black Boudoir at Le Boudoir tonight.

OP - if I can do it, you can do it too! Good luck! "
have a wonderful time xxxx

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By *ily_LondonWoman
over a year ago

North London

" when i first started i went to a club on my own, before i even knew of here(this site). i had a great time and been doing it, with and without people for a few years now. i still get butterflies especially going somewhere new, but i actually prefer to walk in to the new thing alone, i tend to cope with it better. im not under any pressure then x"

That's exactly why I've chosen to go on my for the first time - no pressure from anyone to do anything, I can just go with my own flow.

"have a wonderful time xxxx"

Thank you so much - I intend to! xx

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

That's exactly why I've chosen to go on my for the first time - no pressure from anyone to do anything, I can just go with my own flow.

have a wonderful time xxxx

Thank you so much - I intend to! xx"
awesome !!! xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This will probably make no sense what so ever but i went into Chams not too long ago as a single guy. Agreed to meet a couple in there, so i bit the bullet, registered, paid on the door and got in.

I was nervous as fuck, didn't know what to expect but It turned out to be an okay evening.

I didnt play, I didnt meet the couple I was hoping to meet. I didnt really mingle with anyone else either. Couples seemed to click with couples and I felt like the spare prick at the wedding.

Glad I experienced it but wont be in a rush to head back. I guess you need to make it a regular thing to get somewhat more comfortable.

Good luck. Bite the bullet and go for it. Just don't expect, never expect to play

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over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol "

Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes

Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman

What’s with the witch hunts on posts??

Lately.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"This will probably make no sense what so ever but i went into Chams not too long ago as a single guy. Agreed to meet a couple in there, so i bit the bullet, registered, paid on the door and got in.

I was nervous as fuck, didn't know what to expect but It turned out to be an okay evening.

I didnt play, I didnt meet the couple I was hoping to meet. I didnt really mingle with anyone else either. Couples seemed to click with couples and I felt like the spare prick at the wedding.

Glad I experienced it but wont be in a rush to head back. I guess you need to make it a regular thing to get somewhat more comfortable.

Good luck. Bite the bullet and go for it. Just don't expect, never expect to play"
sorry sweet you had this, even more gutted your time was wasted by a couple..if you get known over a couple of visits, it will take off, or try a smaller club where you wont get lost in the masses and yes it does help if you actually just say hi to people..pretend you are at a social, have in your head you are choosing to talk, not that you are being, the wanted/unwanted. single girls have similar issues, probably for different reasons..but i use same strategy. hope you go to a club again soon x

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes

Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman

What’s with the witch hunts on posts??

Lately.

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. Witch hunts are proberly because it always seems to be single guys with ; look at my profile “ wat do you think , I haven’t had a meet and need help as to why , , attention seeking because they haven’t found an easy shag on here within a week of joining , get a grip guys and actually read a couples or woman’s profile before sending a message or a wink , you might not be what they are looking for

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over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

I’m just super curious as to what happens once inside lol

Dragging you no. Attaching a lead an walking you in on all fours yes

Maybe op has done his homework an doesn’t like waiting. So wants to jump to the front of the que with a woman

What’s with the witch hunts on posts??

Lately.

. Witch hunts are proberly because it always seems to be single guys with ; look at my profile “ wat do you think , I haven’t had a meet and need help as to why , , attention seeking because they haven’t found an easy shag on here within a week of joining , get a grip guys and actually read a couples or woman’s profile before sending a message or a wink , you might not be what they are looking for "

He made a forum post. Yes single men send loads of crap messages. So do couples on the hunt for single women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope op managed to get out last night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same about clubs I want to go but won't go on my own

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By *weetyorkieMan
over a year ago

york

Kinky 888 try the hot tub parties in Hull run by ladies

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Another option for people who are nervous about clubs is to go to events where playing isn’t the focus or doesn’t occur.

I’m keen on photography so I went to a Townhouse event specifically for that. It was a good experience and it gave me a chance to be inside a club and get a feel for the place without any nervousness/ pressure.

Sure other places must do events along similar lines.

I’m not talking to the OP specifically, more generally - he’s probably strapped to a bed in Shrewsbury at a post-club orgy right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if there would be a difference in the replies had a woman started this thread.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Where I am in London there are 2 clubs that I can get to with a hour.How ever to go you have to apply for membership and be accepted.I am a member of one of them and I go when I get the chance to I always go on my own.As long as you are polite and respectful there is nonething stopping you from having a good night anything more makes it a even better nite

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Not been yet unfortunately as had work at 5 this morning lol.

Need to have a look what’s on there tonight... need to pull my finger out in all honestly

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Another option for people who are nervous about clubs is to go to events where playing isn’t the focus or doesn’t occur.

Sure other places must do events along similar lines.

I’m not talking to the OP specifically, more generally - he’s probably strapped to a bed in Shrewsbury at a post-club orgy right now

I wish lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kinky 888 try the hot tub parties in Hull run by ladies "

Thanks , I don’t go to things alone though. I did meet two lovely ladies who host in hull before. So will keep this in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not been yet unfortunately as had work at 5 this morning lol.

Need to have a look what’s on there tonight... need to pull my finger out in all honestly

Tonight is couplesonly and single females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

time waster ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ha ha xx

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"time waster ...."

What?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I wonder if there would be a difference in the replies had a woman started this thread.

Usually

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over a year ago

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?"

I offered further up that if you got membership we could arrange to meet there with my husband, so you wouldn't be on your own until you found your feet.

Got to love selective reading.

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYo OP Man
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Right then... as none of my friends know about me being on here ... the chances of me having someone to drag along to a club are very slim.

I hear there is a good one near me in Wolverhampton called chams?

Question is is there anyone who fancies dragging me along there so I don’t have to go alone? Random I know but you never knlw unless you ask

Equal rights and all that

Maybe I put this post up in the hope someone would kid nap me and take me along?

I offered further up that if you got membership we could arrange to meet there with my husband, so you wouldn't be on your own until you found your feet.

Got to love selective reading. "

hardly selective reading.... just mossed it that’s all

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Well done OP for posting this and persisting in spite of some taunts. It's great to see some ladies giving a guy a helping hand in this area. I think a lot more singles could help each other out in this area."

I'm sorry, I wasn't meant to be taunting.

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