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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..but desperately want to!

I just have this fear of standing around on my own looking like an idiot!

But I'd love to experience a club.

Any tips or words of encouragement appreciated!

And any recomendations for clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Be social. Talk to people. After all that’s why people are there. It’s escaping the norm and chances are unless you are A unlucky or B you go again on regular nights you’re likely as not in a similar situation to everyone else there.

I used to be in a couple which was easier. Going as a single was daunting and yes a little awkward. But I found my brave!

Go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice:

- Pick a club which has newbie friendly nights as you are likely to be with other newbies, there will be tours, people attending are likely to be friendly to newbies and make them feel welcome.

- Message the club owners/party night organisers in advance, they will do their best to introduce you to like minded people

- Go to a night with some activities you can join in with, like kareoke, quizzes, social stuff.

- Message people on the thread for an event you are interested in and get chatting to people beforehand.

- Hang around the bar, more chance of starting a conversation that way.

I think your nearest club is Townhouse (which I go to) but there are others in the NorthWest region - each with their own flavour of doing things and a different ambience and crowd.

I go to clubs on my own and have found the above tips helped me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. Be social. Talk to people. After all that’s why people are there. It’s escaping the norm and chances are unless you are A unlucky or B you go again on regular nights you’re likely as not in a similar situation to everyone else there.

I used to be in a couple which was easier. Going as a single was daunting and yes a little awkward. But I found my brave!

Go for it!"

Need to find my brave!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice:

- Pick a club which has newbie friendly nights as you are likely to be with other newbies, there will be tours, people attending are likely to be friendly to newbies and make them feel welcome.

- Message the club owners/party night organisers in advance, they will do their best to introduce you to like minded people

- Go to a night with some activities you can join in with, like kareoke, quizzes, social stuff.

- Message people on the thread for an event you are interested in and get chatting to people beforehand.

- Hang around the bar, more chance of starting a conversation that way.

I think your nearest club is Townhouse (which I go to) but there are others in the NorthWest region - each with their own flavour of doing things and a different ambience and crowd.

I go to clubs on my own and have found the above tips helped me. "

Great tips thanks..yes I'm thinking townhouse too x

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

To be honest, I think single ladies have an easier time visiting a club as a newbie as the other ladies tend to take them under their Wing And look put for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you ever get down to Birmingham then go to chameleons and I and my two bi fems will meet you and show you the ropes.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"..but desperately want to!

I just have this fear of standing around on my own looking like an idiot!

But I'd love to experience a club.

Any tips or words of encouragement appreciated!

And any recomendations for clubs?"

Try AtlantisEVOLUTION in Stoke-on-Trent, any Saturday night is couples & single ladies only which can be easier for newbies. Check out the reviews on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of us Chams people will happily come with us x

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I went to the Townhouse a few weeks ago on my own.

Granted, it was an event for photographers (I’m just an amateur), but it was good fun and the people were very friendly.

They make an effort to be welcoming to new people, showing you round etc. They also answered a few queries in advance.

I’m sure other clubs do the same, but I was impressed.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I have been going to clubs for 13 years and I still get nervous

It’s not like people think or is in Porn (well not at first anyway)

I would say have a read of the club reviews and websites. Also maybe email the clubs. I know a lot have a pressense on fab saying your new.

I would suggest go early as most clubs will give your a tour of the club. Maybe for a first time don’t play just watch.

I hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go on my own all the time. Always felt safer going to a swingers club on my own than a normal one!! Find out in advance who's going through fab and arrange to meet couples there xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Be social. Talk to people. After all that’s why people are there. It’s escaping the norm and chances are unless you are A unlucky or B you go again on regular nights you’re likely as not in a similar situation to everyone else there.

I used to be in a couple which was easier. Going as a single was daunting and yes a little awkward. But I found my brave!

Go for it!"

Ha! Need to "find my brave" too

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"To be honest, I think single ladies have an easier time visiting a club as a newbie as the other ladies tend to take them under their Wing And look put for them. "

I would agree with this, just read the club reviews; there are far more from single women than single guys

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I would say don't go on a newbie night. Others will be new and the staff will be looking after loads of you.

Go early on a normal night . You should be given a tour and chance to ask any questions. I know this happens at Townhouse and Atlantis anyway.

Sit by the bar and chat to and staff and regulars. Sure that someone will happily chat to you. As a single lady you won't be sat on your own for long.

I feel much safer going to Atlantis as a single lady, than I would going into a normal pub .

You just need to be brave to go through the door. After that it's a breeze

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say don't go on a newbie night. Others will be new and the staff will be looking after loads of you.

Go early on a normal night . You should be given a tour and chance to ask any questions. I know this happens at Townhouse and Atlantis anyway."

I tried a non-newbie night, threw myself in on a Saturday night and personally found it harder to socialise and chat because everyone already seemed to know each other. I guess it depends on your confidence levels and how easy you find initiating conversations. The newbies formed a little group (and I've seen this happen at other newbie nights) and they aren't as busy as say a Sat night.

Different perspective on it.

Agree that the only way to be brave is to just go for it. If you don't like it, can always leave like any other club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..but desperately want to!

I just have this fear of standing around on my own looking like an idiot!

But I'd love to experience a club.

Any tips or words of encouragement appreciated!

And any recomendations for clubs?"

From a single ladies point of view hun you can't get any friendlier than Cupids!!! Owners are fantastic friendly and make you feel 100% safe!

Clean..beautiful rooms and fantastic social area! When I first went I got chatting at the bar straight away.. All my nerves disappeared.. I'm happy to meet you there hun for moral support Xxxx butterfly xx

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By *ornymike_2017Man
over a year ago

Tranmere

The hardest step you’ll take is the one over the front door. No one could be as nervous as I was. It was the best decision I’ve made !!! I’ve met some truly wonderful people on the scene in the past year. The townhouse has a newbies and notso’s night every Wednesday. I buddy in there twice a month on a Wednesday and the others are hosted. You’ll be given a full tour of the place and all rules explained, but don’t worry we won’t leave you sat on im your own. We introduce you to other members during the night and there is no pressure to do anything. Many people treat it as a social night out.

Most clubs have loads of experience of first timers. ( we were all one at one point)

I know people who go to other clubs and hear good reports about all clubs in the north west. If you like the kink scene as well check out the munches. Which are like a fet social.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Whatever club you choose I would say go for your first visit with an open mind and no preconceptions. Check the clubs website for any rules and things you may need to know and pop along mentioning you are new when you go in. Staff will look after you in any club but should also make an extra effort if you are new.

I am a Cupids girl and always return back, but there are lots to try out there

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"..but desperately want to!

I just have this fear of standing around on my own looking like an idiot!

But I'd love to experience a club.

Any tips or words of encouragement appreciated!

And any recomendations for clubs?"

If you don't mind the drive, come to Chams, Darlaston on a Friday, there's a few of us single women that go and you're welcome to join us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all so much!

Now I can't decide where to try first

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"..but desperately want to!

I just have this fear of standing around on my own looking like an idiot!

But I'd love to experience a club.

Any tips or words of encouragement appreciated!

And any recomendations for clubs?

From a single ladies point of view hun you can't get any friendlier than Cupids!!! Owners are fantastic friendly and make you feel 100% safe!

Clean..beautiful rooms and fantastic social area! When I first went I got chatting at the bar straight away.. All my nerves disappeared.. I'm happy to meet you there hun for moral support Xxxx butterfly xx "

Thank you..might take you up on this one day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm impressed by all these responses. I'm almost tempted myself but not sure how well 56 yo single guys would get on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 weeks ago I decided I wanted to visit a club by myself and being near I chose the Attic.

I must say it was one of the most nerve wracking experiences I’ve ever had. The biggest challenge was getting through the door but I had a couple of drinks beforehand for courage and held my head high! I might’ve looked confident and outgoing but inside I was a wreck! I headed straight for the lockers and took a deep breath before walking to the bar. I did feel eyes on me and was pretty self conscious but it wasn’t half as bad as I expected. Yes there were groups of people who all knew each other but equally there were singles just wandering about.

All I did was sit by the dance floor with my wine and it wasn’t long before people came to speak to me. And then that was it, the whole night I wasn’t alone once.

I found it really liberating. And I thought, what’s the worst that can happen?!! If it’s awful I’ll just leave! But I think you’ll feel proud you had the courage to do so, you may have a brilliant time like I did

Go for it!

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Cupid's is great I love it there x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"3 weeks ago I decided I wanted to visit a club by myself and being near I chose the Attic.

I must say it was one of the most nerve wracking experiences I’ve ever had. The biggest challenge was getting through the door but I had a couple of drinks beforehand for courage and held my head high! I might’ve looked confident and outgoing but inside I was a wreck! I headed straight for the lockers and took a deep breath before walking to the bar. I did feel eyes on me and was pretty self conscious but it wasn’t half as bad as I expected. Yes there were groups of people who all knew each other but equally there were singles just wandering about.

All I did was sit by the dance floor with my wine and it wasn’t long before people came to speak to me. And then that was it, the whole night I wasn’t alone once.

I found it really liberating. And I thought, what’s the worst that can happen?!! If it’s awful I’ll just leave! But I think you’ll feel proud you had the courage to do so, you may have a brilliant time like I did

Go for it!

"

Fair play to you, and I’m glad to hear your first time in a club went well for you . Proof positive it’s always better to be a single woman in a club, than a single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time I went toTownhouse i must have paced outside it for about 45minutes gathering the courage to go in. I was so paranoid about being the ‘fat loner’ in the corner. I had heard clubs were ‘cliquey’ and didn’t like new people...I literally couldn’t have been more wrong! The hosts (obviously seeing my nerves) were amazing and showed me round and introduced me to people. I found it was just like a regular pub and not the sex crazed orgy I was imagining! Within about 2 minutes I had completely relaxed and ordered a drink. I started making small talk and before I knew it I was having an absolute ball!

Looking back I genuinely don’t know what I was worried about and I CANNOT reccomend townhouse enough to people! Once you are through that door, and as long as you are sociable, you will think you were an idiot and worried over nothing! Xx

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

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By *haun12345Man
over a year ago

Dunstable


"3 weeks ago I decided I wanted to visit a club by myself and being near I chose the Attic.

I must say it was one of the most nerve wracking experiences I’ve ever had. The biggest challenge was getting through the door but I had a couple of drinks beforehand for courage and held my head high! I might’ve looked confident and outgoing but inside I was a wreck! I headed straight for the lockers and took a deep breath before walking to the bar. I did feel eyes on me and was pretty self conscious but it wasn’t half as bad as I expected. Yes there were groups of people who all knew each other but equally there were singles just wandering about.

All I did was sit by the dance floor with my wine and it wasn’t long before people came to speak to me. And then that was it, the whole night I wasn’t alone once.

I found it really liberating. And I thought, what’s the worst that can happen?!! If it’s awful I’ll just leave! But I think you’ll feel proud you had the courage to do so, you may have a brilliant time like I did

Go for it!

"

That sounds like how I would imagine my first time at a club would be like. Except no one would want to speak to me

I've been to 2 fetish events and even though I was to shy to do anything and just sat down with a drink I still felt I had a nice time!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Whatever club you choose I would say go for your first visit with an open mind and no preconceptions. Check the clubs website for any rules and things you may need to know and pop along mentioning you are new when you go in. Staff will look after you in any club but should also make an extra effort if you are new.

I am a Cupids girl and always return back, but there are lots to try out there "

I’d echo this ... we are very lucky in the NW to have such a wide choice & all the clubs have something different to offer, but they will all make sure you are looked after & welcomed!!

M xx

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