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By *abulously curious OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Hey. We are a couple dying to try our first club but im (fem) so nervous about what to wear and how it works. I'd love to have people watch us but at first no touching. Is this okay? I keep putting obstacles in the way xx

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

Wear what you feel comfortable and sexy in !

You make your own rules...........

Clubs are great places to try new experiences

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By *abulously curious OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

But if I over dress am I gonna stick out?? Xx

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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago

North Colchester

I wear whatever I feel most sexy in on the night, then my outfit gets smaller and smaller throughout the night !

I usually take a few changes lol

Doesn’t bother me who is and isn’t dressed up ! Most do well the ladies

I like to feel sexy for ME!

Makes me feel confident even if I’m not

No one really bats an eyelid at what anyone’s wearing tbh in the clubs I’ve been too ............

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By *abulously curious OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Thankyou xx

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Each club will have a dress code on their website. Within that turn up in whatever you like between very casual or day at the races, wear whatever you like through the night and take a thing or two to dress down in later if comfortable/ rules allow.

I've gone in jeans and jumper then changed into a dress upon entry then at 10pm into lingerie. I've also turned up dolled. Some nights I've decided not to dress down.

As for what you want there, just make sure everyone is clear.

Wanting to be watched is fine. If you don't want to have to lay down the rules or are fed up of people approaching you and having to interrupt your play to say no thanks, perhaps try a club with a lockable viewing room.

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so much what you wear but the confidence you have... wear what makes you feel sexy.. sometimes there's a theme but it's not usually compulsory... Maybe go with intension of not playing to give yourself some time to get a feel for the place?

I was a bag of nerves and like a deer caught in headlights the first time we went to a club!! But over time I've realised what a good crowd this is. At the end of the day everyone is there for the same thing... just different variations!! Jump in.. you'll be surprised how much you've built this up in your head ... good luck and happy swinging x

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Hey. We are a couple dying to try our first club but im (fem) so nervous about what to wear and how it works. I'd love to have people watch us but at first no touching. Is this okay? I keep putting obstacles in the way xx"

Dress what you feel comfortable in. Chat to people. We were in club last week and young couple asked could they play next to us with each other, of which we enjoyed. There are many layers to the scene - go, take things at your own pace - Fi xx

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hey. We are a couple dying to try our first club but im (fem) so nervous about what to wear and how it works. I'd love to have people watch us but at first no touching. Is this okay? I keep putting obstacles in the way xx"

I’d echo what is said above regarding what to wear. With regards to being New and nervous and creating obstacles, why not try a newbie night? We host the Newbies & Notsos parties every Wednesday (and one Saturday a month) at Townhouse.

Townhouse love newbies so make sure there are hosts or a club buddy there to give the newbies a tour, run through how the club works, answers any questions and then introduce them to the regulars. We either have a planned social in the lounge or we try and buddy people up to talk. It works really well. Nights like these can really ease the nerves quickly.

If you’re still putting obstacles in your own way, then try one of the social nights so it takes any play pressure off you or worries about what to wear. We have a pub night, the last Tuesday on the month. The club turns into a pub downstairs with a lively fun pub quiz in the lounge. It’s a great way to mingle and talk to other swingers while play isn’t on their mind. Everyone is screaming and shouting and being competitive and silly over the quiz. We have a Fab social night and a karaoke night (which are also both a Play Party)

If you have any questions about the club scene, you’re more than welcome to drop us a message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were also very nervous/apprehensive about visiting a club.We decided to try Infusion while we were in Blackpool.We went on a Sunday afternoon,it was good for us.Fairly quiet but a nice introduction and an eye opener too.We still go on A sunday afternoon when we visit Blackpool....good luck

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By *oolandsexyCouple
over a year ago

kings lynn


"Hey. We are a couple dying to try our first club but im (fem) so nervous about what to wear and how it works. I'd love to have people watch us but at first no touching. Is this okay? I keep putting obstacles in the way xx"

Watching and being watched is a great experience, even now this will be a great part of our night out. Not doing here come to my fav club ....but lol

We frequent the Vanilla Alternative. We like the area that has four play beds, in two sizes. Two allow for two or more couples whilst the other two are more one couple beds to allow what you are after the fun voyeurism and exhibition you are after! So that type of set up is great.

As for others joining in, ALL clubs support the no means no, so just go to the staff if someone doesn’t take no for an answer!

Have fun do only what you want and at your speed !

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

There are several clubs within an hour's travel of Manchester. Most would happily chat to you about what to wear. You will get a tour of the club and chance to ask questions. Check on the website if they have private rooms or rooms where people can see inside, but are locked out.

Swingers in the club I attend are very friendly and respectful. If you get asked to join in , you just say. Sorry it's our first time , so we are just taking things slowly. You can use the " newbie card" for a few visits until you decide if or when you want to take things further.

Top tip. Smile and chat to anyone and everyone. You will have a great evening xx

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By *abulously curious OP   Couple
over a year ago

manchester

A www thank you all for ur lovely advice xx

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Where whatever you feel comfortable in but remember clubs do usually have a dress code (dress down on arrival, dress down in play areas, etc.) but just check their website. Just watching is fine - clubs are zero pressure environments. You'll have a fantastic time when you're there - be sociable talk to people - it's a great night out. We are truly spoilt in the North West with some great clubs.

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