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By *ulu313 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cleveleys

Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could ask for some genuine advice and have a chat about clubs. Iv always wanted to go, I was looking at pictures and I’m a bit scared that I’l be one of of not the only ‘larger girl’ there and feel out of place? What do people wear? And do many girls go on there own?

Any comments are welcome. Thank you for listening xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could ask for some genuine advice and have a chat about clubs. Iv always wanted to go, I was looking at pictures and I’m a bit scared that I’l be one of of not the only ‘larger girl’ there and feel out of place? What do people wear? And do many girls go on there own?

Any comments are welcome. Thank you for listening xx"

I went dressed smart and was polite. Generally people go just for a laugh at 1st. So dont be nervious they are easy going ppl

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

It's always the unknown that's scary.

Clubs are great with people of all shapes and sizes... I'm a size 20 but that makes no difference. Its never been an issue.

In my experience, swingers are the most non judgemental people.

I've attended clubs as a single. You just say hello to people and go from there.

I've always looked at clubs as pubs with a naughty side. Take the plunge.. hopefully you'll love it.

Which club are you looking at? x

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By *randMrsPCouple
over a year ago

Nr Salisbury

What club are you thinking of going to? We went to the Vanilla Alternative for the first time last weekend and were nervous before hand but it was absolutely brilliant. Loved it. Feel free to message us if you have any questions. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go alone as a single fem . Pick your club and event wisely. Maybe try a social night first? Ask the staff to show you round and explain everything.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

Oh and just wear something as sexy as you feel comfortable in. Some clubs are dress down, others you can wear what you like as long as it's smart.

I usually wear a nice dress and heels or dress down to a sexy club dress or chemise/babydoll if it's a dress down club. x

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

Before I met hubby I was on fab as a single lady. It took me about a month to pluck up the courage to try a club for the first time. As a single lady in a club you will be well looked after. When you arrive make sure you tell them you’re on your own and it’s your first time at a club. They will show you around, maybe introduce you to a few regulars and the staff will keep an eye on things to make sure you don’t get any unwanted hassle. On my first visit to a club I met a lovely couple who were regulars. When they discovered I’d used public transport they insisted on driving me home at the end of the evening to make sure I got home safely.

Dress in something that makes you feel good. For ladies, the dress code at all clubs is normally as sexy as you dare. Don’t worry about your body or figure. I’m a larger lady and have found that the only person who has hang ups about my fat is me.

Many people going to clubs for the first time don’t play so please don’t feel that you have to. Often they will socialise, look around and get a feel for the the vibe and learn what the club scene is all about.

It’s perfectly normal to be a bit scared of the unknown but once you go, you’ll wonder what you were scared of.

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By *onny MCMan
over a year ago

Crawley


"Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could ask for some genuine advice and have a chat about clubs. Iv always wanted to go, I was looking at pictures and I’m a bit scared that I’l be one of of not the only ‘larger girl’ there and feel out of place? What do people wear? And do many girls go on there own?

Any comments are welcome. Thank you for listening xx"

Lots of clubs run BBW Nights, you definitely won't be the only larger girl at one of those.

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By *ticky_vikkiWoman
over a year ago

Herts

You have posted pretty much word for word what I’ve been desperate to ask recently!! Loving the advise given, go and enjoy! I know I will be when I go to my first event x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bigger girl and have rarely felt out of place at a club . We now host an event aimed at the more buxom lady and it and other events held at other clubs thrive and are usually busy events.

I actually prefer the clubs I can strip down at as feel more comfy but I can assure you What ever a ladies size... they all feel nervous about that first club visit x

Not sure where you are in the nw but there are a couple of events that the hosts would look after you coming up... at townhouse ( yes okay I host that one with my dashing curve admiring partner in perversion) and their is one soon at cupids. And this weekend there is the big one at chameleons.

Hope you have fun wherever you go x

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON


"Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could ask for some genuine advice and have a chat about clubs. Iv always wanted to go, I was looking at pictures and I’m a bit scared that I’l be one of of not the only ‘larger girl’ there and feel out of place? What do people wear? And do many girls go on there own?

Any comments are welcome. Thank you for listening xx"

I think it depends on the club. Some are better then others in making sure that boundaries are respected.

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By *ancastermanMan
over a year ago

carnforth


"Hi everyone, I was wondering if I could ask for some genuine advice and have a chat about clubs. Iv always wanted to go, I was looking at pictures and I’m a bit scared that I’l be one of of not the only ‘larger girl’ there and feel out of place? What do people wear? And do many girls go on there own?

Any comments are welcome. Thank you for listening xx"

I've seen some lovely larger girls in clubs. If you want a pal, with no expectations, I'd accompany you.

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By *ulu313 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cleveleys

Everyone has given such amazing and supportive advice I can’t thank You all enough I’m going out to spoil myself with sexy lingerie this weekend in preparation to take the plunge and to make sure I feel as FAB as all you lot are. Thanks again!! Hope all is well xxx

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

Be sure to tell the staff it is your first time and you are nervous. You get all shapes and sizes at clubs so don't be anxious about standing out. Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea.)

So buy that sexy lingerie, make the night be all about you and enjoy.

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

I was the same but as soon as I entered the club my anxieties disappeared. It was quiet when I entered which helped but the hosts are amazing. I have been several times, no play yet but have made some lovely friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Infusions is a nice friendly club. Go along, check it out. If you like it stay a while. If you dont then you can easily leave. But speak to mike he will put you at ease. Happy times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be nervous. There are so many different people with various shapes and sizes and everyone is there for the same reason and that's to have fun.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We love Clubs, its a night out with benefits. Love socialising, meeting likeminded people & having fun - awesome xx

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By *oreverHorny69Man
over a year ago

Milnrow

I love Decadence a fantastic club run by fantastic people and lots of lovely sexy people attend also

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)"

No preconceptions there then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a larger lady (size 22) and I had the same worries. Went along to my first swinging noght at Townhouse and was made very welcome. Let the club you decide to go to know you will be coming along and mention it is your first time. I knoe some of them have meets and greets/buddies.

It's worth taking the plunge. If you end up at Townhouse, I would be happy to say hi and chat. I doubt you would be sat alone (unless you wanted to be).

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then "

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be sure to tell the staff it is your first time and you are nervous. You get all shapes and sizes at clubs so don't be anxious about standing out. Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea.)

So buy that sexy lingerie, make the night be all about you and enjoy."

Although you do have to be careful, I have been escorted to clubs by some absolute gentlemen from fabs the key is to make sure your both clear about what you want from the club visit and each other

I never promise anything except good company and laughter anything else is a bonus, I would recommend a social meet first to establish this and make sure your both comfortable in each others company and have lots to chat about

I personally would never goto a club without a wing man or woman to watch each others backs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs. "

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?"

She may have 3000 veris from men she just doesn’t want to show.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?"

Pmsl. I've fucked my fair share of men at clubs. Not that that is any of your business. I chose which veris I show.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?

Pmsl. I've fucked my fair share of men at clubs. Not that that is any of your business. I chose which veris I show. "

No worries, it's just that you come across as quite 'anti-men' in the various threads you've posted to recently

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?

Pmsl. I've fucked my fair share of men at clubs. Not that that is any of your business. I chose which veris I show.

No worries, it's just that you come across as quite 'anti-men' in the various threads you've posted to recently "

No I'm just realistic to what men can be like in clubs. Not all men but certainly some. As I said previously a few years experience of going to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same. I have never been to a club not sure how it all works. Quote keen to go

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?

Pmsl. I've fucked my fair share of men at clubs. Not that that is any of your business. I chose which veris I show.

No worries, it's just that you come across as quite 'anti-men' in the various threads you've posted to recently

No I'm just realistic to what men can be like in clubs. Not all men but certainly some. As I said previously a few years experience of going to clubs. "

I’m still exploring the club scene, have only been to three so far, but am planning my fourth trip this coming Friday, and retain full ownership of my club cherry. Like you though, I am quite picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a 16/18 and I go to abfabs/kestrels I think it’s fantastic never been made to feel uncomfortable there

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I am a larger lady (size 22) and I had the same worries. Went along to my first swinging noght at Townhouse and was made very welcome. Let the club you decide to go to know you will be coming along and mention it is your first time. I knoe some of them have meets and greets/buddies.

It's worth taking the plunge. If you end up at Townhouse, I would be happy to say hi and chat. I doubt you would be sat alone (unless you wanted to be). "

There are quite a few of us that fit the ‘plus size’ label at Townhouse & you’d be more than welcome if you fancied coming along!

If you prefer a night specifically for bigger ladies, I’m going to be re-launching the Townhouse ‘Buxom Babes’ night in March. But you’d be welcome along any night!! xx

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By *inderellaRockerfellazCouple
over a year ago

warrington

Cupids have been running a "curvy" ladies & admirers night regularly & it's one of the best attended & most chilled events. Everyone is welcome of course. Please search "Cupids" and have a look at the guest list. Xx Cupids "where the customer always comes first" !

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" Be very wary about offers from single men wanting to accompany you. You will be seen as a couple by everyone, that will spoil your first time (they maybe a total knob and you are stuck with them for the night), they always have an ulterior motive (cheap night in, think they will get guaranteed sex, using you to get in cheaper, using you as bait - you get the idea)

No preconceptions there then

No built on a few years experience of going to clubs.

You only have veris from women on your profile, is that because of bad experiences with men in these clubs?

Pmsl. I've fucked my fair share of men at clubs. Not that that is any of your business. I chose which veris I show.

No worries, it's just that you come across as quite 'anti-men' in the various threads you've posted to recently

No I'm just realistic to what men can be like in clubs. Not all men but certainly some. As I said previously a few years experience of going to clubs.

I’m still exploring the club scene, have only been to three so far, but am planning my fourth trip this coming Friday, and retain full ownership of my club cherry. Like you though, I am quite picky "

Update; clubs 4, erections 0 lol

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