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d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. | |||
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. "If they dont appeal Dont go | |||
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. "We've been to over 40 clubs in five countries so.... A) More likely is a small ratio of single blokes (most clubs limit the numbers unless it's a greedy girl or gangbang night) who stare across the bar but are scared shitless to even say hello to a couple. However yes they do tend to "fluff" their cocks quite a lot, especially when loitering around the playroom doors. B) We have come across men with a sense of entitlement but very rarely, even in France where they can be a bit more pushy than elsewhere. C) We have every desire to dive into a heap of naked bodies and have wild sex (that is what we go for, among other things) and if David Attenborough wants to watch he would be more than welcome. I think the Mrs would draw the line at him joining in though, a bit old even for us. 
D) While some of the larger clubs are set up like a disco type nightclub the dynamic in most that we have visited is more like a pub, with extras of course
We do all our swinging in clubs or at parties and the safety side is a big consideration. We've also had quite a few club nights that have just turned into a social but the vast majority have turned into a lot of very sexy fun with some that were really WILD!!! | |||
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" On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment? " No, we can't  and it pisses me off too.
I just want to watch and be left be but guys seem unable to respect that. | |||
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"You've just described the crap club's. They're the ones to avoid. But the otherones, the ones we love going to are nothing like that at all." 
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. "You're looking at clubs as one single unit instead of looking at them as individual places, every club is different and tarring every single man with that brush is actually doing most men a disservice. As others have said, really, you're not qualified to make such broad generalisations about places that you've never been to. I'd advise you to try a club before you knock them and make assumptions based on what people say on here. | |||
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. "OP what clubs have you visited to be able to find this opinion as I take this is an opinion based on what you have witnessed rather than what you have assumed ? | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying " You could get a hooker for £30? | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying You could get a hooker for £30? "You beat me to it! 
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying " I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there?" Some just don’t seem to get it, paying money has nothing to do with sex in swinging. If he thinks paying £30 for a hooker is the way to do it, good luck!! | |||
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter.
"i would say a couple things... 1) if they don't appeal to you.... like someone else say "don't go" 2) clubs can and are as good a place socially as they are play wise... and as long as you are aware that you are closing of a potentially avenue to meet people and get to know them at a later stage.... cool, but then you are not in a position to complain at a later stage...... which leads me to...... 3) since you have not been to a club, that is a lot of assumptions you seem to be making..... and if those are the preconceived notions you are taking in with you to any potential visit.... to be brutally frank, you'd probably be part of the issue you are talking about and its wiser you don't go anyway...... we always say whenever you first visit a club, go on with an open mind and no expectations.... you aren't doing this!!! | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there?" yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled " no that is you going in with the expectation of because you have given them money for entrance you are guarenteed some sort of sex... and to be honest, that sort of attitude is better left outside of clubs.... if you want guarenteed sex for money.... find a hooker! | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled no that is you going in with the expectation of because you have given them money for entrance you are guarenteed some sort of sex... and to be honest, that sort of attitude is better left outside of clubs.... if you want guarenteed sex for money.... find a hooker!" A cheap one | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled no that is you going in with the expectation of because you have given them money for entrance you are guarenteed some sort of sex... and to be honest, that sort of attitude is better left outside of clubs.... if you want guarenteed sex for money.... find a hooker! A cheap one "Good sex is priceless! X | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled " I think your right if the attitude is that you are paying money for sex then a club is not for you. Similar to here, if you think paying gold or silver membership entitles you to one free fuck, don't pay for membership. If you want to pay money for sex prostitution is the way to go. | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled I think your right if the attitude is that you are paying money for sex then a club is not for you. Similar to here, if you think paying gold or silver membership entitles you to one free fuck, don't pay for membership. If you want to pay money for sex prostitution is the way to go. " Yep leave the clubs to those who enjoy going! | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled I think your right if the attitude is that you are paying money for sex then a club is not for you. Similar to here, if you think paying gold or silver membership entitles you to one free fuck, don't pay for membership. If you want to pay money for sex prostitution is the way to go. Yep leave the clubs to those who enjoy going! " Can’t add anything to that | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled I think your right if the attitude is that you are paying money for sex then a club is not for you. Similar to here, if you think paying gold or silver membership entitles you to one free fuck, don't pay for membership. If you want to pay money for sex prostitution is the way to go. " I don't pay money for sex n for the gold site support or silver it doesn't say we will provide you a sex it say u can view any one or u can message any one or u can see who viewed in stuff n u are guarantee to do all the things u paid for so the joke is on u | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled I think your right if the attitude is that you are paying money for sex then a club is not for you. Similar to here, if you think paying gold or silver membership entitles you to one free fuck, don't pay for membership. If you want to pay money for sex prostitution is the way to go. I don't pay money for sex n for the gold site support or silver it doesn't say we will provide you a sex it say u can view any one or u can message any one or u can see who viewed in stuff n u are guarantee to do all the things u paid for so the joke is on u " Show me a club that says the entry fee guarantees sex. Oh no you can't! That's because it doesn't! Try doing some proper research about clubs and you will see that each and every swingers club states on its website that paying an entry fee does not guarantee sex! | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I don’t understand this post. Are you saying that if a man goes to a club he should be entitled to have sex there? yes if it is a swinging clube why pay £30 £40 for entry if no guarantee why the fuck would he travel miles for a pint n social when he can get it around the corner what i am saying it's not worth traveling miles n spend ur money for nothing they say we have greedy girls, ocougar,bbw u can name it on their advert n then if you don't play u are being fooled " What? Loads of people go to conventional clubs hoping to pull. If they fail to pull should they ask for their money back? | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying " I’ve just re read this .... is this a joke ? Surely you cannot be serious ?? Of course clubs invite their customers to attend TO MEET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE ( yes I can use Shouty Capital Letters) too !! They are not inviting you to come to their lifestyle / swingers club to use it like a brothel they are inviting you to come and enjoy a good night a be respectful towards their other customers What does being hung have to do with anything ffs
Oh and if you are able to find a hooker for £30 mate I would suggest sticking your cock in a cheese grater might be a safer option
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"Ok as a single guy that goes to club, yes I puff my belly in, fluff my cock and I do like to wank however I do like to talk to others flirt and engage with others What i will say if you make the attempt to talk to others in a club often that will lead to fun "Absolutely right. | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying " You seem to have missed the memo that tells people what swinging clubs are about. There's a huge difference between sex clubs and swingers clubs, you should look it up. Also, you're exactly the kind of man OP was talking about. | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I’ve just re read this .... is this a joke ? Surely you cannot be serious ?? Of course clubs invite their customers to attend TO MEET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE ( yes I can use Shouty Capital Letters) too !! They are not inviting you to come to their lifestyle / swingers club to use it like a brothel they are inviting you to come and enjoy a good night a be respectful towards their other customers What does being hung have to do with anything ffs
Oh and if you are able to find a hooker for £30 mate I would suggest sticking your cock in a cheese grater might be a safer option
Just saying "hahaha no it's not joke u are taking advantage of some desperate people saying we will provide you greedy girls or selfish girl or what ever trying to convince they are guaranteed to play even though they won't it's all bullshit being hung provides u any pussy u want what ever man wish for I don't have to pay a penny for sex or for any | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I’ve just re read this .... is this a joke ? Surely you cannot be serious ?? Of course clubs invite their customers to attend TO MEET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE ( yes I can use Shouty Capital Letters) too !! They are not inviting you to come to their lifestyle / swingers club to use it like a brothel they are inviting you to come and enjoy a good night a be respectful towards their other customers What does being hung have to do with anything ffs
Oh and if you are able to find a hooker for £30 mate I would suggest sticking your cock in a cheese grater might be a safer option
Just saying hahaha no it's not joke u are taking advantage of some desperate people saying we will provide you greedy girls or selfish girl or what ever trying to convince they are guaranteed to play even though they won't it's all bullshit
being hung provides u any pussy u want what ever man wish for
I don't have to pay a penny for sex or for any "You are contradicting yourself, my lovely On the one hand saying that clubs ' provide' greedy girls that wont have sex with you And then saying being hung means you can have " any pussy you want" Please elucidate. Us old bints are easily confused | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying I’ve just re read this .... is this a joke ? Surely you cannot be serious ?? Of course clubs invite their customers to attend TO MEET LIKE MINDED PEOPLE ( yes I can use Shouty Capital Letters) too !! They are not inviting you to come to their lifestyle / swingers club to use it like a brothel they are inviting you to come and enjoy a good night a be respectful towards their other customers What does being hung have to do with anything ffs
Oh and if you are able to find a hooker for £30 mate I would suggest sticking your cock in a cheese grater might be a safer option
Just saying hahaha no it's not joke u are taking advantage of some desperate people saying we will provide you greedy girls or selfish girl or what ever trying to convince they are guaranteed to play even though they won't it's all bullshit
being hung provides u any pussy u want what ever man wish for
I don't have to pay a penny for sex or for any
You are contradicting yourself, my lovely
On the one hand saying that clubs ' provide' greedy girls that wont have sex with you
And then saying being hung means you can have " any pussy you want"
Please elucidate. Us old bints are easily confused"Oh my god this is truly outstanding idiocrocy ! As the lady above points out you are condradicting yourself pmsl The definition of a greedy girl party WHICH I hasten to add I have never organised myself messes exactly as it says - greedy girls !! BUT Believe it or not these ladies taking part still have a choice who they want to Fuck ... that’s right a choice because we aren’t living in the bloody dark ages where they get clubbed over the head and dragged towards the nearest cave Those events which I believe are extremely popular allow girls that like a lot of men and guys that like going to watch and or take part if the girls want them to I don’t know why you are getting your knickers in such a twist because as you say a popular hung man like yourself with all your freebie invites why do you need to worry about going to the club nights
Why don’t yiu save that for the ‘maybe’ less endowed men that have manners and respect us females and the ones we actually like to party with
And for the record cos clearly you haven’t read my profile before ASSUMING , I am not a club owner I am simply a woman that goes to clubs and have fun hosting party nights too
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"Just want to add that there are many Greedy Girls parties that DO NOT provide ladies and that they are simply events that couples and single ladies go for additional male/female attention "Exactly this !
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"Just want to add that there are many Greedy Girls parties that DO NOT provide ladies and that they are simply events that couples and single ladies go for additional male/female attention
Exactly this !
Greedy girls parties are for greedy girls not desperates lol "I always find it rather amusing that there are SO many men, that simply cant get their lickle heads around the fact that women can own their own sexuality. And that we go to the clubs for our own purposes, not to feed insecure men's egos | |||
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"Just want to add that there are many Greedy Girls parties that DO NOT provide ladies and that they are simply events that couples and single ladies go for additional male/female attention
Exactly this !
Greedy girls parties are for greedy girls not desperates lol
I always find it rather amusing that there are SO many men, that simply cant get their lickle heads around the fact that women can own their own sexuality.
And that we go to the clubs for our own purposes, not to feed insecure men's egos"Must deibrcthese very same men insane when these same men get rejected by these ladies for another woman | |||
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"On reading through another thread, a male member was enquiring as to why older guys hate him in clubs - apparently, he'd "had fun" with a "hot ladie" (sic), and older male club goers were nasty to him. Be that as it may, I was prompted to voice a few of my own reasons why (as a single bloke) I find the idea of going to a club totally unappealing: a) A high ratio of testosterone charged men, all desperate for a shag; posturing, preening, puffing their chests out, sucking their bellies in, constantly fluffing their penises whilst leering at and leching after a much lower number of available females. NOT an attractive proposition to me...add alcohol to the mix, and you have a very dangerous cocktail. b) The aforementioned blokes - having forked out a considerable sum of money (in membership and entry fees) having a sense of entitlement to sex. c) I have no wish to be part of what seems to me like a Natural History documentary on the behaviour of rutting stags - all that's missing is a camera crew and the hushed tones of David Attenborough.
d) I guess an important reason why clubs don't appeal to me, is that in my younger days, I never really enjoyed going to regular nightclubs in any case.
On the plus side, I do appreciate that a club is a safe environment for females to have sex in a safe and controlled environment - but if the mood doesn't take them and / or they don't see anyone the fancy, can they actually socialise and possibly even watch the action if they wish, without unwanted attention / harassment?
I've opened this post based purely on my own preconceptions - and with my tongue very firmly in my cheek! I could well be way off the mark, and I stand to be corrected.
So, if this topic has not already been done to death, I'd love to hear other people's views on this matter. "must say ive never been to a club like that | |||
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"I've only ever been to quest. But. I go alone and don't feel pressured at all. The clientele is as mixed and different as walking down a high street. Only once have I been groped without permission but I was on my way out. If I was bothered I could tell the staff but I let it go. The ratio of single men is not so high. It's an awkward environment occasionally. But that goes for anywhere. Not just a swingers club. " More hassle in normal clubs insisting on buying ladies drinks and being pests , swinging clubs a polite no thank you and they move to the next I like that | |||
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"Well everyone, thanks for your input and your comments - all making for a lively debate - which is surely what this forum is about? I think some of you actually get where I'm coming from too; and I'd like to extend my special thanks to Dean and Julie, for stating what is the case in your particular club. I may well give your establishment a visit.
Thanks again everyone. "before you do go... if you do.... may i suggest you leave all those pre conceived notions you have at the door....
because at the moment... if i were a club owner, i don't think the attitude you have at the moment is one that i would want visiting a club... because "looking down on people" doesn't scream "fun person to be around!" | |||
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"Ok as a single guy that goes to club, yes I puff my belly in, fluff my cock and I do like to wank however I do like to talk to others flirt and engage with others What i will say if you make the attempt to talk to others in a club often that will lead to fun "lol.... more tolerant than me mike... I just tell people to: 1) go around, take a big breath in, talk to people and say hello! and quite frankly 2) "don't be an arse!" for some reason.. people forget what a magical word "hello" is!!! best conversation starter ever!!! any yet... people still manage to forget part 1 and be part 2!!! | |||
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"Ok as a single guy that goes to club, yes I puff my belly in, fluff my cock and I do like to wank however I do like to talk to others flirt and engage with others What i will say if you make the attempt to talk to others in a club often that will lead to fun
lol.... more tolerant than me mike...
I just tell people to: 1) go around, take a big breath in, talk to people and say hello! and quite frankly 2) "don't be an arse!"
for some reason.. people forget what a magical word "hello" is!!! best conversation starter ever!!!
any yet... people still manage to forget part 1 and be part 2!!! "I like to say do you cum here often lol | |||
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"he's right he's is not the fisrt person the are loads of men n women who come disappointed some say they been harassed some they being called names like look at that fat pig somesay they paid £30 for entry+more expens n they come up with out playing so they have to wank themselves i could get a hooker for that amount of money n have a peaceful evening at home lots of bad thing about clubs this the way I see it IF U HUNG N CONFIDENT SINGLE GUY WHY BOTHER GO TO CLUBS AT THE END OF THE DAY THEY ARE DOING BUSINESS I GET LOTS OF INVITES EVEN FROM PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T OWN CLUBS WHY THE FUCK DO U INVITE SOMEONE IF U DON'T WANT PLAY WITH HIM THATS annoying You seem to have missed the memo that tells people what swinging clubs are about. There's a huge difference between sex clubs and swingers clubs, you should look it up. Also, you're exactly the kind of man OP was talking about. " Yes, an entitled one to avoid, done yourself no favours with that shouty post I'm sure most ladies would avoid as we don't want to be treated as free prostitutes. | |||
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it "Well said , I’m going to try cougars and cubs at eureka when I’m free to.
Looking forward to trying a club for the first time.
I’ve been given a tip not to expect anything and just enjoy the friendly atmosphere. | |||
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it "The above reminds me of one of our rare nights in a UK club. It wasn't particularly busy but there were a few single guys milling around and a handful of other couples. Most of the guys were just looking at the women and "fluffing" (I like that word ) their cocks, and when we went to have a look around the playrooms it was the usual "conga" behind us.
There were one or two decent looking ones who she would have played with if they had approached her/us properly but none did.
After a while we just stayed at the bar to finish the wine we had taken and then would have been ready to leave.
There was a guy stood next to us and he really wasn't the type of guy she would normally even look at but he said hello and started a conversation.
He was polite, funny a bit (but not too much) flirty and after about 15/20 minutes, much to my surprise, SHE asked him if he would like to go into a playroom.
Unless something else happened after we eventually left (which I doubt because we were almost the last to leave) he was the only single guy who got any action in the club that night.
The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock.
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it
The above reminds me of one of our rare nights in a UK club.
It wasn't particularly busy but there were a few single guys milling around and a handful of other couples.
Most of the guys were just looking at the women and "fluffing" (I like that word ) their cocks, and when we went to have a look around the playrooms it was the usual "conga" behind us.
There were one or two decent looking ones who she would have played with if they had approached her/us properly but none did.
After a while we just stayed at the bar to finish the wine we had taken and then would have been ready to leave.
There was a guy stood next to us and he really wasn't the type of guy she would normally even look at but he said hello and started a conversation.
He was polite, funny a bit (but not too much) flirty and after about 15/20 minutes, much to my surprise, SHE asked him if he would like to go into a playroom.
Unless something else happened after we eventually left (which I doubt because we were almost the last to leave) he was the only single guy who got any action in the club that night.
The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock.
"I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay. | |||
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it
Well said , I’m going to try cougars and cubs at eureka when I’m free to.
Looking forward to trying a club for the first time.
I’ve been given a tip not to expect anything and just enjoy the friendly atmosphere."Well said too that's the attitude, Also it's about looking at what's on the clubs events page,as paticular parties suit different tastes,there is also Cougarsandcubs party at the DV8 club in kent,maybe worth you trying too,they are different hosts/very different clubs | |||
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it
The above reminds me of one of our rare nights in a UK club.
It wasn't particularly busy but there were a few single guys milling around and a handful of other couples.
Most of the guys were just looking at the women and "fluffing" (I like that word ) their cocks, and when we went to have a look around the playrooms it was the usual "conga" behind us.
There were one or two decent looking ones who she would have played with if they had approached her/us properly but none did.
After a while we just stayed at the bar to finish the wine we had taken and then would have been ready to leave.
There was a guy stood next to us and he really wasn't the type of guy she would normally even look at but he said hello and started a conversation.
He was polite, funny a bit (but not too much) flirty and after about 15/20 minutes, much to my surprise, SHE asked him if he would like to go into a playroom.
Unless something else happened after we eventually left (which I doubt because we were almost the last to leave) he was the only single guy who got any action in the club that night.
The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock.
I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay. "Yes sadly some couples who don't want to get involved with single guys can come across as unfriendly. Trying to talk can always be a bit hit and miss but if someone blanks you then just move on. You never know, the next couple you say hello to could be us. | |||
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"I've persuaded a few guys/fems in my time to go to a club for there first time,and alot have really enjoyed themselves whether they played or not Guys hear all sorts of horror stories,it dosent matter whether you are drop dead gorgeous with a huge cock or an average looking man,it's how you come across which makes for a good night Being polite,respectful,able to chat and flirt and most importantly smile Having the right attitude and no expectations Your paying for the club entrance and use of the facilities not the woman,woman have a choice who they play with just like the guys,clubs are where I've met some amazing people in the scene,I will continue to encourage guys to go to clubs Nothing wrong with trying a club to see whether it's really for you is it
The above reminds me of one of our rare nights in a UK club.
It wasn't particularly busy but there were a few single guys milling around and a handful of other couples.
Most of the guys were just looking at the women and "fluffing" (I like that word ) their cocks, and when we went to have a look around the playrooms it was the usual "conga" behind us.
There were one or two decent looking ones who she would have played with if they had approached her/us properly but none did.
After a while we just stayed at the bar to finish the wine we had taken and then would have been ready to leave.
There was a guy stood next to us and he really wasn't the type of guy she would normally even look at but he said hello and started a conversation.
He was polite, funny a bit (but not too much) flirty and after about 15/20 minutes, much to my surprise, SHE asked him if he would like to go into a playroom.
Unless something else happened after we eventually left (which I doubt because we were almost the last to leave) he was the only single guy who got any action in the club that night.
The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock.
I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
Yes sadly some couples who don't want to get involved with single guys can come across as unfriendly.
Trying to talk can always be a bit hit and miss but if someone blanks you then just move on. You never know, the next couple you say hello to could be us. "It's not put me off totally; I have two visits to two other clubs planned within the next couple of months. Got to be honest though; I'm only going because I'll be fairly local to both with my work, and it has to be better than an evening in a hotel bar with colleagues talking shop | |||
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay. "I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
"What was worse was; the single woman had posted up a 'Club meet' earlier in the day, saying she was going there that night, and anyone else to get in touch. So I messaged her, let her know it was my first time in a club, and would be nervous, even included my face pic. I saw she read the message, but didn't reply. Obviously I saw her there on the night, and yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb, but she made no attempt to talk to me, just mixed it with the regulars. Not difficult to understand why I've never been back | |||
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"We love clubs! We love the whole liberated atmosphere We love seeing others fuck and enjoy themselves We love the fact there’s no pressure to swing but if you wanted to there are lots of opportunity’s to do so! Go have a drink relax laugh chill out in pool/hot tub and have fun! If your hell bent on getting a fuck go to whore house it’s gauranteed there!" | |||
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
What was worse was; the single woman had posted up a 'Club meet' earlier in the day, saying she was going there that night, and anyone else to get in touch. So I messaged her, let her know it was my first time in a club, and would be nervous, even included my face pic. I saw she read the message, but didn't reply. Obviously I saw her there on the night, and yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb, but she made no attempt to talk to me, just mixed it with the regulars. Not difficult to understand why I've never been back "Don’t forget some women object to playing with married men. | |||
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
What was worse was; the single woman had posted up a 'Club meet' earlier in the day, saying she was going there that night, and anyone else to get in touch. So I messaged her, let her know it was my first time in a club, and would be nervous, even included my face pic. I saw she read the message, but didn't reply. Obviously I saw her there on the night, and yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb, but she made no attempt to talk to me, just mixed it with the regulars. Not difficult to understand why I've never been back
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
What was worse was; the single woman had posted up a 'Club meet' earlier in the day, saying she was going there that night, and anyone else to get in touch. So I messaged her, let her know it was my first time in a club, and would be nervous, even included my face pic. I saw she read the message, but didn't reply. Obviously I saw her there on the night, and yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb, but she made no attempt to talk to me, just mixed it with the regulars. Not difficult to understand why I've never been back
Don’t forget some women object to playing with married men.
That'll be it "it may be an issue... it may not... but what i will say is this... its takes two.... you say you were waiting on her coming up to you.... so what stopped you going up to her, or talking to other people? you may have been nervous... most people are 1st time they go... lovely phrase.... if you wait some someone else to do something, most times nothing will get done.... i think that is the biggest mistake 1st timers make... i know the temptation is to just sit back and take it all in, but sometimes just going up to people and just saying hello will show others you are open, even if it is just conversation... | |||
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"Even if somebody is going to a club and puts a meet up, for people to get in touch if they are going too, as I often do myself, it doesn't mean that they are there to look after you, even if it is your first time. I will normally try and say hello and be friendly, but I am there for my own purposes whether that be to chat to everybody or meet someone I have arranged. Just because somebody says get in touch does not mean that they are going to spend a long time talking to you. It might mean that they want their friends to get in touch, it might mean they might get a message off somebody who they have had their eye on for a while. Or it could just mean they're happy to say hello to everybody. Unless they are the hosts of the club, (who may give you a tour or introduce you to others), you can't really expect anything at all from them. Also it really could depend on your message to them, some of the messages I get when I tell people to say hello, if they are going on the same night, are quite literally comedy gold." If I remember, my message went along the lines of; "Hi there! I see you put a meet up for 'the club' tonight? I'm going to be there, it's my first time ever in a swing club, so I'll be the nervous 'newbie' at the bar lol. Hope to see you later" I did include my face pic | |||
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" The moral of the story is if you want to increase your chances of some fun in a club your personality is a much better tool than your cock. I've also been on the flip side of a similar evening, where there were five couples, one single female, and just myself and one other guy in. Having people turn their heads as I looked to try and start a conversation wasn't the friendly, outgoing reception I might have expected in a swingers' club on my first visit, and unsurprisingly my urge to leave was greater than my desire to stay.
I've never been to a club that empty,I would have found that uncomfortable if I was that single woman let alone one of the single men,I'm always friendly and chat alot so wouldn't ignore people,so I would have chatted no harm in making a person feel welcome,I make it clear if don't want to play with a guy,just no need to be rude and ignore
What was worse was; the single woman had posted up a 'Club meet' earlier in the day, saying she was going there that night, and anyone else to get in touch. So I messaged her, let her know it was my first time in a club, and would be nervous, even included my face pic. I saw she read the message, but didn't reply. Obviously I saw her there on the night, and yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb, but she made no attempt to talk to me, just mixed it with the regulars. Not difficult to understand why I've never been back
Don’t forget some women object to playing with married men.
That'll be it
it may be an issue... it may not...
but what i will say is this...
its takes two....
you say you were waiting on her coming up to you.... so what stopped you going up to her, or talking to other people?
you may have been nervous... most people are 1st time they go...
lovely phrase.... if you wait some someone else to do something, most times nothing will get done....
i think that is the biggest mistake 1st timers make... i know the temptation is to just sit back and take it all in, but sometimes just going up to people and just saying hello will show others you are open, even if it is just conversation..."I had a great chat with the other single male in there, he could tell I was new, and nervous, and he did a great job of making me feel at ease, general chit-chat, and how to get the best out of being a single guy in a club. I also chatted with a nice, friendly couple at the bar, again in a very social way. Anyone who has actually met me, I hope, will confirm I am pleasant company. All I am saying here is, as a first time in a swing club, it wasn't the pinnacle of outgoing friendliness people lead you to believe | |||
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" I had a great chat with the other single male in there, he could tell I was new, and nervous, and he did a great job of making me feel at ease, general chit-chat, and how to get the best out of being a single guy in a club. I also chatted with a nice, friendly couple at the bar, again in a very social way. Anyone who has actually met me, I hope, will confirm I am pleasant company. All I am saying here is, as a first time in a swing club, it wasn't the pinnacle of outgoing friendliness people lead you to believe "but in both of those situation you said you waited on them to come to you..... what actually stopped you from going round to people..... nothing did! look we were all new once.... but sometimes you have to take a big breath and go out and be forward... all you are saying to people is hello! its not a 1st attempt as some sort of m.o to get into someones thong.... as i said, it takes two..... they could have come up to you, as much as you could have gone up to them.... you didn't.... maybe next time you are in a club you will..... and maybe the true moral or the story is to not make assumptions/presumptions, because you'll never truely know one way or another until you say hello! | |||
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" I had a great chat with the other single male in there, he could tell I was new, and nervous, and he did a great job of making me feel at ease, general chit-chat, and how to get the best out of being a single guy in a club. I also chatted with a nice, friendly couple at the bar, again in a very social way. Anyone who has actually met me, I hope, will confirm I am pleasant company. All I am saying here is, as a first time in a swing club, it wasn't the pinnacle of outgoing friendliness people lead you to believe
but in both of those situation you said you waited on them to come to you.....
what actually stopped you from going round to people..... nothing did!
look we were all new once.... but sometimes you have to take a big breath and go out and be forward...
all you are saying to people is hello! its not a 1st attempt as some sort of m.o to get into someones thong....
as i said, it takes two..... they could have come up to you, as much as you could have gone up to them....
you didn't.... maybe next time you are in a club you will..... and maybe the true moral or the story is to not make assumptions/presumptions, because you'll never truely know one way or another until you say hello!"To be fair mate, I appreciate your advice to ease this walking on eggshells single guys have to perform in clubs, but what you may have missed earlier, when I've discussed this very night in other threads, is when I did have a wander around, and attempted to make eye contact, people just turned their heads to avoid me, making it quite clear my advances weren't welcome. So being respectful, I moved away, trying not to look disappointed, mournful, or too much like a fish out of water, which I very clearly was | |||
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