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By *ilent.Knight OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It varies and depends on how they behave to be honest - you do get a lot of single guys who prowl and don't make an effort to approach and talk to people politely and expect an invite to play - or those that enter the play areas and stand inches from the beds wanking in the hope of being asked to play and those are just creepy to be honest.

If you go along with no expectations and being prepared to make polite conversation and graciously accept a no thanks from others there then you won't go far wrong - treat it like a night at a normal bar, be respectful and Don't get d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience from attendedig swinging clubs over past 10 years is much better than the lone wolf in a bar scenario. Most people who attend clubs enjoy the social aspect so even if couple aren't looking for a single guy will engage in conversation. As long as you go not expecting any play and be polite and friendly you will like it and will find more successful than just being on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less."

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club"

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women."

and a guarantee of action...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women.

and a guarantee of action..."

I wouldn't even mind but you even have to pay to go slimming world and I don't hear people expecting them to give a discount because you had a cheeky penguin on your way in

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

I’ve seen the letchy, rude, wanking zombies that literally think that paying their entry fee entitled them to be as obnoxious as possible then kick off because they don’t get any fun.

I’ve seen the quiet guy who really doesn’t know what to do with himself, sitting in the corner or wandering around cradling a glass of something, afraid to make eye contact in case people think he’s a pest.

And I’ve seen the guy who walks in gets himself a drink and chats to people, is polite, keeps his distance because he isn’t pushy. The conversation flows between him and the people around him, and he will sometimes ask to be invited to play or he is happy to say ‘could I join you’ whenpeople move off to the play areas.

It’s not easy going to clubs sometimes, I go as single lady at times and sometimes I understand how single guys must feel. Its a rewarding and fun but also intimidating.

I hope you have fun enjoying clubs

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Personally, we wouldn't go to a club if there were no single guys. We have tried couples only nights in the past but found them to be lacking something. We have talked to other couples and have found a large percentage think like us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve seen the letchy, rude, wanking zombies that literally think that paying their entry fee entitled them to be as obnoxious as possible then kick off because they don’t get any fun.

I’ve seen the quiet guy who really doesn’t know what to do with himself, sitting in the corner or wandering around cradling a glass of something, afraid to make eye contact in case people think he’s a pest.

And I’ve seen the guy who walks in gets himself a drink and chats to people, is polite, keeps his distance because he isn’t pushy. The conversation flows between him and the people around him, and he will sometimes ask to be invited to play or he is happy to say ‘could I join you’ whenpeople move off to the play areas.

It’s not easy going to clubs sometimes, I go as single lady at times and sometimes I understand how single guys must feel. Its a rewarding and fun but also intimidating.

I hope you have fun enjoying clubs "

I would be the guy cradling the glass lol, I am the quiet one until I'm comfortable then I'm quite laid back and easy to chat to, haven't taken that plunge just yet though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women.

and a guarantee of action..."

I wonder how much action he could buy at a brothel for £30?!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Most are okay and know the rules but on our last club visit as a couple, we had one guy who hung around us and couldn't take the hint.

We moved away from the bar area only to find another one who wanted to give us his life story.

It's flattering at times but then starts to become creepy.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

The club we use only charges single guys £5 more than couples .which is nothing .it cost a lot of money for us husbands in buying our wifes costumes make up .so stop complaining .like others have said it depends on how they behave too .we have had all sorts .guys who walk straight past me and wait till ive gone to bar or toilet before they try to hit on wife.those who walk around like headless chickens.those that come up so close we can feel them breathing on us while they wank.dont get us wrong we are happy for guys to wank if watching as long as they ask first .the single guys that come up chat to both of us are normally the ones who get invites to join in play with us .and quite often invited to play with wife while i watch.guys you should treat clubs as just normal clubs with a little more flesh on show .if you want guaranteed sex go visit a brothel then complain about spending money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women.

and a guarantee of action...

I wonder how much action he could buy at a brothel for £30?! "

Or even just a normal night out ?!

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women."
why though,what do you bring to the table as I'm sure there is an endless supply of blokes where as couples and espeshilly women are the ones that keep the club open by attracting guys.clubs need money to stay open and 30 bucks is a cheap night out anyway it's like the price of 3 or 4 drinks or a trip to the cinema.club thing isint for us but personally if I ran one I would charge 3 times as much and would still get the same amount of guys in.

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

Don't go with the expectation of play! Do go to SOCIALISE if you are a gent fun to be with and not a perve you will be fine.

Best advice stay in the social space and avoid the play areas... soon you will be demolished by the greedy women.

Don't be afraid of the couples be polite let people know you are available.

Don't expect anything on a first visit and post a review of the club with a face pic or something memorable.

Exchange a few polite messages with people you met on the night.

You may then get a present surprise the next time your going

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Always a downer on single guys at clubs

Personally clubs without them are missing out because like myself there are plenty of couples and single ladies that want to meet them

Swinging has changed over the years .. it’s not just about couples wanting the elusive fem there is a BIG single market out there for non complicated meetups in a safe environment

2017 folks it’s the age of Tinder and safe NSA sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Sounds like you want a brothel not a club

Certaintly don't want a brothel,just want to pay the same as couples & women.

and a guarantee of action...

I wonder how much action he could buy at a brothel for £30?!

Or even just a normal night out ?!"

Of course it’s the company that matters, no matter what the price is!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

My advice would be; visit a local swinging club when you're in the area for another reason, like a work seminar or something, don't make a specific trip, as you're more likely to come away disappointed by the experience (too much expectation).

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My experience from attendedig swinging clubs over past 10 years is much better than the lone wolf in a bar scenario. Most people who attend clubs enjoy the social aspect so even if couple aren't looking for a single guy will engage in conversation. As long as you go not expecting any play and be polite and friendly you will like it and will find more successful than just being on here."

Personally I've enjoyed far more success using Fab in the 'normal' way, i.e.; messaging people, chatting, then meeting up. The times I've tried swing clubs all I've succeeded in doing is feeling unwanted, and lacking self-worth. The walking on eggshells you have to do as a single guy in a club is depressing

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less."

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Personally, we wouldn't go to a club if there were no single guys. We have tried couples only nights in the past but found them to be lacking something. We have talked to other couples and have found a large percentage think like us. "

And we think exactly like you. I love the attention of several men at a time and this is only possible if single men attend. As long as guys are well presented, polite and not pushy they are welcome in most clubs.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Personally, we wouldn't go to a club if there were no single guys. We have tried couples only nights in the past but found them to be lacking something. We have talked to other couples and have found a large percentage think like us.

And we think exactly like you. I love the attention of several men at a time and this is only possible if single men attend. As long as guys are well presented, polite and not pushy they are welcome in most clubs."

Sounds to me like a Hot couple like you and the others on here need to check out one of my nights

Shameless plug soz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, we wouldn't go to a club if there were no single guys. We have tried couples only nights in the past but found them to be lacking something. We have talked to other couples and have found a large percentage think like us.

And we think exactly like you. I love the attention of several men at a time and this is only possible if single men attend. As long as guys are well presented, polite and not pushy they are welcome in most clubs."

Most clubs welcome well behaved single men. Some like Abfabs also have one couples only night a week, which seems fair given that some couples like it like that.

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By *exyFusionCouple
over a year ago

Near to you


"Always a downer on single guys at clubs

Personally clubs without them are missing out because like myself there are plenty of couples and single ladies that want to meet them

Swinging has changed over the years .. it’s not just about couples wanting the elusive fem there is a BIG single market out there for non complicated meetups in a safe environment

2017 folks it’s the age of Tinder and safe NSA sex

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always a downer on single guys at clubs

Personally clubs without them are missing out because like myself there are plenty of couples and single ladies that want to meet them

Swinging has changed over the years .. it’s not just about couples wanting the elusive fem there is a BIG single market out there for non complicated meetups in a safe environment

2017 folks it’s the age of Tinder and safe NSA sex

"

Agree

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I dislike going to club nights for couples and fems only

I prefer to go where lots of single guys attend

The ones that are successful at clubs are the ones that socialize,flirt,are respectful and non pushy

As people have already said swinging has evolved,singles weather male or female are welcome on fab and at clubs,to meet other singles

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !! "

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way "

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dislike going to club nights for couples and fems only

I prefer to go where lots of single guys attend

The ones that are successful at clubs are the ones that socialize,flirt,are respectful and non pushy

As people have already said swinging has evolved,singles weather male or female are welcome on fab and at clubs,to meet other singles "

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By *TrainMan
over a year ago

London


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

I’ve been Eureka’s as a single guy

Have to say, I had so much fun and really got involved

You’ll definitely find someone who clicks with you, and when you do ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way "

Or red as a cocknumpty who does not understand clubs

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

"

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point "

I think you are missing the point

EVERYONE is at a swingers club because they are looking to swing of they would be at a vanilla club ... they could be dipping their toes in or could be they are full on swingers

Listen one of the reasons I have spent most of my swinging life at Eureka is that when chancers wanting a gauranteed fuck arrive and say to the reception ‘where are the girls to fuck ?’ I have actually seen the owner tell them to leave because it’s a lifestyle club not a brothel !!

Therefore for a respectable club like Eureka having a green band like that wouldn’t get given out at all

A traffic light system has been used successfully on a Newbie night where Green means looking to play, Amber means not to sure and Red means we will approach if we are comfortable. Newbie nights are different as it is designed specifically for people not sure of the expectations or the reality of what they think they want

No one should expect sex there it’s a privilege not a right !

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point

I think you are missing the point

"

You've got me wrong here, and I appreciate everything you are saying The point I'm trying to make is; single guys tend to be tarred with the same brush, and I've experienced being looked down noses at, seen the mental calculations in their eye, and the subsequent 'write off' as 'just another bloke looking to empty his sac'. Swing clubs can be hard work for single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point "

but who would choose a red band? even the sharks like to try to come across as nice guys initially...especially if the code was widely known...

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point

I think you are missing the point

You've got me wrong here, and I appreciate everything you are saying The point I'm trying to make is; single guys tend to be tarred with the same brush, and I've experienced being looked down noses at, seen the mental calculations in their eye, and the subsequent 'write off' as 'just another bloke looking to empty his sac'. Swing clubs can be hard work for single guys "

Then my friend you are going to the wrong clubs

Back to my point earlier .. if more clubs welcomed men but had better management and real security that are vusable to all concerned (just like vanilla clubs) then these ‘I’ve paid my money I want sex’ types would not want to go and be pests as paying your money and getting thrown out is not a good night out

I have actually had more hassle from guys on a vanilla night than at a swingers club .. a polite ‘no thanks’ and they happily move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Then my friend you are going to the wrong clubs

Back to my point earlier .. if more clubs welcomed men but had better management and real security that are vusable to all concerned (just like vanilla clubs) then these ‘I’ve paid my money I want sex’ types would not want to go and be pests as paying your money and getting thrown out is not a good night out

I have actually had more hassle from guys on a vanilla night than at a swingers club .. a polite ‘no thanks’ and they happily move on

"

I agree with the security point you made, peace of mind would be good if nothing else and if you have security and you don't need it well regardless I don't think anyone would get a notion to conduct themselves poorly if you have pretty capable looking security.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

Depends on your personality, we've met and played with guys we've met who've been great polite etc.

Then we've come across vultures, in all fairness more vultures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met single guys and have met a couple of decent ones in clubs, we avoid the cock zombies like the plaque that I gets them

As for costs if you are close we don't think it's that bad, 30 quid in a tenner max for your drink you get to party until 2am and might get to have some kinky fun, worse case you have chatted to some lovely people, cheap night compared drinking in Leeds or Manchester 8 while 2am and maybe getting beat up by some druffen oaf

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just be yourself, polite and socialize with people, if you don't play at least you've got to know a few people

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Single guys can have the same issue as couples or single females.

If you relax, socialise and act friendly and a bit of mild flirting thrown in, you'll be fine.

You see couples you sit alone and find it difficult to join in, they are only in the same position.

Go and give it a go OP

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

As a couple, the above is good advice. Since we don't have a local club we have to travel, so we don't have a circle of friends to chat with. Someone else opening a conversation can help with that.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point

I think you are missing the point

You've got me wrong here, and I appreciate everything you are saying The point I'm trying to make is; single guys tend to be tarred with the same brush, and I've experienced being looked down noses at, seen the mental calculations in their eye, and the subsequent 'write off' as 'just another bloke looking to empty his sac'. Swing clubs can be hard work for single guys

Then my friend you are going to the wrong clubs

"

I have another club visit planned very soon, different to the previous two I tried, and will let you know how I get on, either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.

Do you think £30 entry is high ? Personally I think that’s very fair considering the overheads of a club and the fact that most let you bring your own drinks !!

When women & couples pay less I think £30 is too high for the reasons I said previously,I think the club in question is trying to keep solo men to a minium & as far as I'm concerned its working.

Eureka charges the same price for single guys and for couples

I would never go to a club expecting to play in fact being a picky fucker I rarely play at all but love be to party and social so really matters not a bit to me

Unfortunately it is the single guys that pay their money and expect sex at swinging clubs that stop clubs welcoming them and stop many couples wanting them there !!

Perhaps then, when single guys sign in and are handed their locker key, they could also be given a wristband to wear inside; red for 'Expects sex', and green for 'No expectations'. That way not every guy is looked down upon in the same way

Babe I can tell you now that if wristbands were handed out and a red one meant ‘expects sex’ just about every fem single or coupled would probably steer clear of you

You may as well have a banner over your head saying ‘desperate to get my cock wet’

Not that appealing

Just because we are swingers we like s guy to put a little effort in rather than just waiting with our legs open funnily enough

......and by avoiding the guys with red bands, the guys with green bands would be treated more favourably, proving my point

I think you are missing the point

You've got me wrong here, and I appreciate everything you are saying The point I'm trying to make is; single guys tend to be tarred with the same brush, and I've experienced being looked down noses at, seen the mental calculations in their eye, and the subsequent 'write off' as 'just another bloke looking to empty his sac'. Swing clubs can be hard work for single guys

Then my friend you are going to the wrong clubs

I have another club visit planned very soon, different to the previous two I tried, and will let you know how I get on, either way "

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By *ilent.Knight OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Just coming back to this ... thx to all who have contributed.

For the record I'm not a wanking vulture ...

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We think it would be boring and clique without single guys being there.

The most important thing is that we are all on the same page

Respectful, safe, clean (dirty) fun

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By *riscolMan
over a year ago

gateshead

I have been reading the posts on this subject and I think you have put it in a nutshell with hour comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember my first club visit, ended up feeling really guilty for turning a lady down.. Just didn't feel it and glad I don't give myself away easily.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

I like polite guys at clubs who take the time to talk to you before grabbing a tit

Unless I'm in the jacuzzi then I dint mind wandering hands lol

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

There are parties where couples and single girls come for single guys you have to look for one of these parties.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We tend to prefer clubs where their is a mix of couples, single guys and single girls - but even then we might not click with people. But only going on a couples night is not our thing, it is much, much harder for 4 people to fancy each other! If a guy has mad an effort to look good, smell good and can smile and chat then he has so much more chance - girls make huge efforts to look good, so why not the guys - & do not get me started on entry prices, do you know the price of Wolford stockings!!

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less."

How much does a regular night club charge for entry and some gave VIP membership?

Yet your still not guaranteed any action.

The only place that guarantees any action is a brothel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for us single guys, breaking the ice is always the hardest part. I've been to clubs where groups of couples are all chatting and it can appear difficult to just walk u and say hello. That said, I've yet to meet anyone who's told me where to go just by trying to having a chat with them.

I do find though that if a club has a sauna / hot tub etc., that it's much easier to start a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I visited townhouse a while back, felt like a pork pie at a Jewish wedding, tried my best to socialise but it was a little cliquey, maybe I went on the wrong night I dunno, but it’s not something I’ll not be trying again anytime soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

singles are welcome to come talk to me at a club anytime x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, we wouldn't go to a club if there were no single guys. We have tried couples only nights in the past but found them to be lacking something. We have talked to other couples and have found a large percentage think like us. "

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?"

any advice....

1) just go and talk to people

2) don't be an arse.....

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I visited townhouse a while back, felt like a pork pie at a Jewish wedding, tried my best to socialise but it was a little cliquey, maybe I went on the wrong night I dunno, but it’s not something I’ll not be trying again anytime soon."

Unless you already have membership there, you won't be able to get in now anyway, as you're over 40

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Folks, what do you think of single guys at clubs ? I'm intrigued to go, but have in my mind a perception id be seen in a similar vein to the lone wolves in normal clubs ! Any advice ?

any advice....

1) just go and talk to people

2) don't be an arse....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I visited townhouse a while back, felt like a pork pie at a Jewish wedding, tried my best to socialise but it was a little cliquey, maybe I went on the wrong night I dunno, but it’s not something I’ll not be trying again anytime soon.

Unless you already have membership there, you won't be able to get in now anyway, as you're over 40 "
They've put an age limit on men now too? Are they trying to go out of business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll give it a try. If all else fails I’ll call it a social experiment to prevent me from realising I’m not the best social person

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I’ll give it a try. If all else fails I’ll call it a social experiment to prevent me from realising I’m not the best social person "

Just go for it; the worst that can happen is that you don't enjoy the experience, but you gain bragging rights down the pub to say 'Yeah, I've been to a swingers club, it wasn't what I expected though'

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I’ll give it a try. If all else fails I’ll call it a social experiment to prevent me from realising I’m not the best social person "

TBH normally an environment like a swingers club with help to improve social skills

As a host I actively encourage people to mingle and always try to introduce people to others especially if they are looking a bit lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less."
cash cows

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"My nearest club charges £30 admission for solo men,which is a lot to pay with no guarantee of getting any action,which would be very fustrating seeing other people playing. Couples & solo women get in for less.cash cows"

At good clubs on mixed nights, they restrict the number of single guys to keep ratios nice. That's good for *everybody* in there.

Clubs like that could let more in, if they just wanted the extra cash.

Also, lots of clubs are over-subscribed with single guys, which would indicate it's pitched about right.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll give it a try. If all else fails I’ll call it a social experiment to prevent me from realising I’m not the best social person

TBH normally an environment like a swingers club with help to improve social skills

As a host I actively encourage people to mingle and always try to introduce people to others especially if they are looking a bit lost

"

Well I’ve put my name down for the event on the 12th at Cupid’s so I’m hoping there’s space and I can socialise and enjoy a few laughs will post the results of my first experience. Hoping I feel relaxed pretty quickly but I’ve heard good things so no time like present.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

For me I struggle at work talking to new people but in swingers clubs I tend to be chatting away

It always takes me a bit of time, so sometimes I come across as shy but I like judge if people would like to play or not

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I’ve seen the letchy, rude, wanking zombies that literally think that paying their entry fee entitled them to be as obnoxious as possible then kick off because they don’t get any fun.

I’ve seen the quiet guy who really doesn’t know what to do with himself, sitting in the corner or wandering around cradling a glass of something, afraid to make eye contact in case people think he’s a pest.

And I’ve seen the guy who walks in gets himself a drink and chats to people, is polite, keeps his distance because he isn’t pushy. The conversation flows between him and the people around him, and he will sometimes ask to be invited to play or he is happy to say ‘could I join you’ whenpeople move off to the play areas.

It’s not easy going to clubs sometimes, I go as single lady at times and sometimes I understand how single guys must feel. Its a rewarding and fun but also intimidating.

I hope you have fun enjoying clubs "

This is a fantastic sum up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im looking for my first big cock anyone3??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll give it a try. If all else fails I’ll call it a social experiment to prevent me from realising I’m not the best social person

TBH normally an environment like a swingers club with help to improve social skills

As a host I actively encourage people to mingle and always try to introduce people to others especially if they are looking a bit lost

"

Wish I lived closer to you..I’d love to try a club but don’t have the guts to go on my own!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad I stumbled into this thread.

Been thinking about the club scene for a while but have been a little too nervous to jump in. I’m bad enough in normal bars/clubs!

Some really good advice in here so thanks all!

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By *aydeesclubCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

We allow single guys into our club, but we do state to them first that they have to be respectful. Not to expect sex. to chat and not follow people around not talking. It seems to work now for us we dont get any of the zombies that wank etc.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

Just don't be an idiot , enjoy, socialise, smile be yourself.Dont get hammered either.Most genuine, polite guys have a great night and a play too.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Excellent advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough of them as far as we're concerned.

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By *ilkes74Man
over a year ago

Reading

Have no expectation of fun, and if it happens you go home with a smile on your face.

If it doesn't then at least you will have made a few friends and that network will increase your likelihood next time.

Unless you acted like a knob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the above posts have given the same message.. socialise...!

For us, the only people that we’ve played with at a club, couples or singles, have been the people that we’ve felt an affinity towards, people that we’ve chatted to and had a laugh with.

It doesn’t take too long or too much effort to strike up a conversation, you have at least one similar interest to start with after all, you’re both at a swingers club..!

Different nights cater for different tastes and that’s ideal as were all different.

What is offputting though is when the room you’ve chosen to play in, with your new friend/friends, fills up with the type of guys that never make an effort, yet think their proximity and masturbation are irresistible and will gain them an invite to join in..

It does taint the experience slightly, especially when the uninvited touching happens.

So, be normal, engage people, just like in real life....

Mr..

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