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"Definitely welcome I wouldn't go to a club that doesn't have them" Neither would I | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs "from my experience the male halves are worse than singles | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs from my experience the male halves are worse than singles"Agree | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs from my experience the male halves are worse than singles
Agree"they think they can get away with as they are a couple lol | |||
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"Considering my experiences of being a single guy in a swing club, I'm surprised at the amount of positive responses posted in here "Maybe you go to the wrong club then | |||
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"Considering my experiences of being a single guy in a swing club, I'm surprised at the amount of positive responses posted in here
Maybe you go to the wrong club then "I tried 2 lol  | |||
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"Not all clubs allow single men but in the ones that do polite, respectful, sociable single men are always welcome. If you want to go to a club OP do your research beforehand and be one of the good guys, don't be one of the wanking zombies "exactly this, having said that even the wanking zombies are respectful | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? " Not many unfortunately. I have never understood why single women are allowed to go on Saturdays and not single men. Why would I want to go on a night that's full of couples? | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome." From my experience, if you have a positive, good natured attitude and are polite and respectful, you will feel welcomed. I attended once on a friday, the other on a saturday. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome." Indeed there is. One club I go to allows single men every Saturday but only some of them are particularly welcome from my point of view. Many of them don't talk to people and just walk around, cock in hand, hoping someone will jump on it. The good guys spend time chatting to other club visitors and are generally sociable - these are the ones I would say are welcomed. | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? Not many unfortunately. I have never understood why single women are allowed to go on Saturdays and not single men. Why would I want to go on a night that's full of couples? "That's one of the reasons I have spent the last few years at Eureka because of allowing single guys I have said on the forums before that clubs are missing a trick here ... the antiquated view that swinging is all about bringing another fem in the mix has passed and swinging now is a lot of singles looking for uncomplicated fun ... obv as well as couples looking for the extra male  | |||
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"Very welcome at Swinger clubs. Fab..not so much. " Ouch!!! | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome." And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this." Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay "I can understand that. I've actually gone and spoken to men who are sitting on their own, especially if it's obviously their first time at the club. I've always found the smoking area at Kestrels to be a good place to chat to people. People just seem to be friendly there | |||
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"I think in the midlands only the attic allows us men on a Saturday - hence where you can guess where I may be off to tomorrow night!" New paradise and club 29 both allow single men on Saturday nights. I might be off to the attic tomorrow night too | |||
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"I think in the midlands only the attic allows us men on a Saturday - hence where you can guess where I may be off to tomorrow night! New paradise and club 29 both allow single men on Saturday nights. I might be off to the attic tomorrow night too "Seems like you northerners get all the fun lol | |||
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"I think in the midlands only the attic allows us men on a Saturday - hence where you can guess where I may be off to tomorrow night! New paradise and club 29 both allow single men on Saturday nights. I might be off to the attic tomorrow night too "I hadn't tried those other 2 I'll have to expand my horizons! Saying that I might see you at the attic tomorrow
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay "Awww that's mean  come down south and I'm sure you'll be welcomed with open arms x | |||
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"I think in the midlands only the attic allows us men on a Saturday - hence where you can guess where I may be off to tomorrow night! New paradise and club 29 both allow single men on Saturday nights. I might be off to the attic tomorrow night too
Seems like you northerners get all the fun lol "Clubs here in the east midlands have tried nights just for couples and single ladies but they just weren't popular. I guess most of us around here actually like the single men | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? " I think Hellfire does almost every night | |||
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"I think in the midlands only the attic allows us men on a Saturday - hence where you can guess where I may be off to tomorrow night! New paradise and club 29 both allow single men on Saturday nights. I might be off to the attic tomorrow night too
Seems like you northerners get all the fun lol
Clubs here in the east midlands have tried nights just for couples and single ladies but they just weren't popular. I guess most of us around here actually like the single men "Secrets in totnes don't allow single guys, only women and couples so I have no interest in going there . | |||
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"I've always been welcomed at whatever club I go to you just need to be respectful of the rules and not go there thinking it's a guarantee that you'll play. " Unfortunately there are the odd few that feel entitled because they have paid to get in | |||
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"We like single men. In fact we prefer them. However, we find the majority of men at clubs are not for us. In our experience they can be divided up as follows 70% don't talk to anyone but make a bee line for any woman playing publicly. Most will just hover rather than lunge, but Katie finds that off putting. 20% will chat but we don't find them attractive 10% will chat and we are attracted to them. We will usually take those guys to a private room. " I like the honesty in this reply. As a single guy I guess its a little demoralising to read but have to accept there's an element of truth to it. Reality is if your a single guy with a pre- conception that attending a swing is going to a sex guarantee ,will 9/10 be disappointed. However if attending to socialise and flirt and more importantly have fun any thing else is just a bonus. | |||
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"Quest Leeds welcomes single men on Saturday nights the 2nd and 4th Saturdays of the month and also the 5th if there is one. Sally" Yep, I'm staying in Leeds tomorrow, but was gutted to discover it's the 3rd Saturday of the month, so no-go for single guys | |||
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"I've always been welcomed at whatever club I go to you just need to be respectful of the rules and not go there thinking it's a guarantee that you'll play. " Both clubs I visited, I went with an open mind and no expectations. I didn't wander around like a 'wank zombie', and I made reasonable attempts at friendly conversation. Lack-lustre and anti-climax would best describe my club experiences so far. I am planning a visit to another soon though, so not put off entirely | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Awww that's mean come down south and I'm sure you'll be welcomed with open arms x "Thank you, I may just do that | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Awww that's mean come down south and I'm sure you'll be welcomed with open arms x
Thank you, I may just do that "I've only just realised I've been reading your profile name completely wrong  | |||
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"I've always been welcomed at whatever club I go to you just need to be respectful of the rules and not go there thinking it's a guarantee that you'll play. Both clubs I visited, I went with an open mind and no expectations. I didn't wander around like a 'wank zombie', and I made reasonable attempts at friendly conversation. Lack-lustre and anti-climax would best describe my club experiences so far. I am planning a visit to another soon though, so not put off entirely "I would say - that whilst you can be lucky and play with a person on a first time to a club, often people like to get to know you. For example a couple may have seen you first night and may want to approach you a second night | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Awww that's mean come down south and I'm sure you'll be welcomed with open arms x
Thank you, I may just do that
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"I've always been welcomed at whatever club I go to you just need to be respectful of the rules and not go there thinking it's a guarantee that you'll play. Both clubs I visited, I went with an open mind and no expectations. I didn't wander around like a 'wank zombie', and I made reasonable attempts at friendly conversation. Lack-lustre and anti-climax would best describe my club experiences so far. I am planning a visit to another soon though, so not put off entirely
I would say - that whilst you can be lucky and play with a person on a first time to a club, often people like to get to know you. For example a couple may have seen you first night and may want to approach you a second night
"A fair point, but it's easy to see how a nervous newbie on his own, feeling like a fish out of water, could mistake this for a lack of interest | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Awww that's mean come down south and I'm sure you'll be welcomed with open arms x
Thank you, I may just do that
I've only just realised I've been reading your profile name completely wrong
......which begs the question; how were you reading it? "I wasn't reading it as do I luv fun but as doil uvfun. Yes, I know I'm an idiot | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay "Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun. If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored."Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away. | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? " The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away."Exactly what happened to me mate. There's just too much walking on eggshells for blokes in clubs, always damned if you do, damned if you don't. Not the welcoming atmosphere you're led to believe | |||
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"If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored. Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away." You're approaching the wrong people then. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away."You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time."You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them."It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach. Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested."I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable."Well I know that I've been sat at a bar at a club and had no interest, but if blaming others helps you feel better about your lack of success then knock yourself out. | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable.
Well I know that I've been sat at a bar at a club and had no interest, but if blaming others helps you feel better about your lack of success then knock yourself out."He wasn't actually blaming others, but speaking about his experiences, which echo mine. Anyone who has met me will confirm that I am a friendly, outgoing, chatty person, but I do need an 'opener' | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable.
Well I know that I've been sat at a bar at a club and had no interest, but if blaming others helps you feel better about your lack of success then knock yourself out.
He wasn't actually blaming others, but speaking about his experiences, which echo mine. Anyone who has met me will confirm that I am a friendly, outgoing, chatty person, but I do need an 'opener' "Hush, our betters have pronounced upon the matter. Our job now is to bow, tug our forelocks and mumble our appreciation for their wisdom. Heavens forfend that they consider we might have a point. | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. " Amours does let single guys in on a sat - it's my main club | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable."Have you ever been to Kestrels on a hot Sunday? The place is full of single women | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable.
Have you ever been to Kestrels on a hot Sunday? The place is full of single women "I have, and it wasn't. | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. Amours does let single guys in on a sat - it's my main club "I went when I hosted there ... think another visit due | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored.
Approaching people doesn't work either, in my experience. At best, they pretend not to notice you. At worst, the look you over and sneer before walking away.
You seem to have a very negative attitude. If that's how you come across in clubs, then you won't have an enjoyable time.
You're confusing cause and effect. The negative attitude is a result of bad experiences at clubs, not the cause of them.
It still affects your success rate. You go to a club with the mind-set that no-one will be interested, then you'll give off an aura and people will avoid. You go with the mind-set that you're going to have a good time whatever, even if you don't get a shag, and you'll shine as someone others want to approach.
Trust me, I've been in both mind-sets. Don't assume that just because I have boobs men are interested.
I hate to burst your bubble, but having boobs does actually mean your presence is wanted. Women, especially single women, are scarce enough to be welcome simply for being women. Men, especially single men, are so common as to be interchangeable and disposable.
Have you ever been to Kestrels on a hot Sunday? The place is full of single women
I have, and it wasn't."Well I have too, loads of times and it was. Maybe you were down in the dungeon area hoping for some action whilst the ladies were sunbathing or cooling off in the pool. | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics "There's only one conversation topic and that's about Norwich City FC | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? Jaydees (in limited numbers)" Love Jaydee's ... will be there very soon x | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics
There's only one conversation topic and that's about Norwich City FC "I will remember that if I see you at a club again | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics "If you sit in a corner, you're antisocial. If you try to talk to people, you're pushy. If you try to make eye contact, you're creepy. If you're a single man, and not one of the chosen few, you're wrong whatever you do. | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs from my experience the male halves are worse than singles"id say the female halves. Been groped or had a woman help herself to me or Mr way more times by the female half of couples. Op most clubs welcome them | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics
If you sit in a corner, you're antisocial. If you try to talk to people, you're pushy. If you try to make eye contact, you're creepy. If you're a single man, and not one of the chosen few, you're wrong whatever you do."Well you must have done something right to receive verifications from people at abfabs/kestrels. When I go to Chams I speak to near enough all the single men, I have hardly any interest in any of them but the majority know that and we're there for the social side as well as the possible added bonus. Chams is probably the most social club that I've been to, as it has various points where you can talk to people. I have stated on numerous threads, in the past, that I think places lack social areas, not everyone smokes and not everyone wants to be shouting above music and these seem to be where people recommend to socialise. I rarely stop and talk to people at the bar as I hate being in the way, so I go to the bar for what I need then leave. So for me to have a conversation there is highly unlikely. | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs from my experience the male halves are worse than singles id say the female halves. Been groped or had a woman help herself to me or Mr way more times by the female half of couples.
Op most clubs welcome them "I agree with you on that ... Mr inked constantly touched / felt up like the women think they have the right ! | |||
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"Yes, definitely. I'd rather ban couples than single men from clubs from my experience the male halves are worse than singles id say the female halves. Been groped or had a woman help herself to me or Mr way more times by the female half of couples.
Op most clubs welcome them "All I've had are women claiming they will turn me bi yeah ok | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics
If you sit in a corner, you're antisocial. If you try to talk to people, you're pushy. If you try to make eye contact, you're creepy. If you're a single man, and not one of the chosen few, you're wrong whatever you do.
Well you must have done something right to receive verifications from people at abfabs/kestrels.
When I go to Chams I speak to near enough all the single men, I have hardly any interest in any of them but the majority know that and we're there for the social side as well as the possible added bonus. Chams is probably the most social club that I've been to, as it has various points where you can talk to people. I have stated on numerous threads, in the past, that I think places lack social areas, not everyone smokes and not everyone wants to be shouting above music and these seem to be where people recommend to socialise.
I rarely stop and talk to people at the bar as I hate being in the way, so I go to the bar for what I need then leave. So for me to have a conversation there is highly unlikely. "4 verifications in 4 years and a couple of dozen visits, none in the last year. Yeah, I'm going brilliantly... I agree about the social areas, or lack of. One of the otherwise best clubs I've seen, Xtasia, is ruined (at least for me) because the only social areas are the smoking area (inevitably stinks and quite chilly at times) and the bar, which is a nightclub dance area and deafeningly loud. | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. " Quest Leeds welcomes single guys on Saturday evenings on the 2nd and 4th Saturday of the month and the 5th if there is one. Sally | |||
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"Definitely welcome I wouldn't go to a club that doesn't have them Neither would I " Me too | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. Quest Leeds welcomes single guys on Saturday evenings on the 2nd and 4th Saturday of the month and the 5th if there is one. Sally" And I was gutted to learn this, as I am staying over in Leeds tonight | |||
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"I know clubs allow single guys on a Friday but what clubs do on a Saturday ? The only ones I know of are Cupids, Attic and I think maybe Amour allow guys in on a Saturday. Chams allow them in the day up until 7pm. Quest Leeds welcomes single guys on Saturday evenings on the 2nd and 4th Saturday of the month and the 5th if there is one. Sally And I was gutted to learn this, as I am staying over in Leeds tonight "but at a GUESS you will need to purchase a membership at the clubs so take a (wod of doe)and ID just incase you may even have to make a phonecall first to be on the list .. | |||
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"We wouldn't go if there was no single guys, it's probably why we used to like the g-spot club so much years ago as most of the time back then it was mostly guys (it's closed now)"Liberty elite Do a sheerbliss event which is greedy girls | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics "If you are going to clubs and not getting anywhere, I highly reccomend watching a guy who is and trying to take things from their behaviour for next time. I do not consider myself attractive in any way shape or form, but do quite well at clubs as I am friendly and genuine. I can attest (as ive met him a few times) that Mike is for me what an archetypal single male should be. Beyond initial attraction single men should be at clubs with two aims when they do get the oppertunity for sex. 1. Make sure the other person they are with has a good time and 2. Make sure they have a good time. In that order, remember people talk . | |||
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"There's a difference between being allowed in and being welcome. And your attitude will have a massive bearing on this. Try sitting at the bar by yourself, looking for opportunities to strike up conversation, but when you catch someone's eye they avert their gaze. After an hour or so it gets boring, and the urge to leave becomes stronger than the desire to stay
Until I realised that no-one was going to approach me at a club I spent an awful lot of time sitting alone at the bar. After I had my epiphany, evenings at clubs got a lot more fun.
If all you do is sit at the bar, you're going to be bored."Wise words! We much prefer clubs with a mix of couples and singles. We try to mingle and chat to people, sometimes guys forget to talk to both of us, sometimes they expect to have to ask M's permission, tsk, it is me they need to ask - i'm noone's property! | |||
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"Stemers in Torquay u should try it x" been there several times, great laid back place! | |||
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"This is the down point in my opinion to Secrets as its all couples "that's why I have no interest in going there as it seems unfair to single guys  | |||
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"Welcome or not in swingers club's???" Always welcome at Eureka, except for the Couples and Swingle Ladies nights. | |||
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"We let single guys in on a Saturday night at Jaydees near St Neots."Your club is on our to do list | |||
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"Which is the best club for single guys out of Le chambra, The Attic, Quest and the one in Birmingham in general and for single guys. Would anyone like to show me around one ?" Only been to the attic, not sure what birminghams one you're on about, but the attic varies like every club I've been to. The attic will probably be the cheapest, heard good things about quest, heard mixed about la chambre.... Have a look at the websites, club reviews. | |||
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"We let single guys in on a Saturday night at Jaydees near St Neots."We enjoyed ourselves with plentiful single guys at JayDees a few weeks ago. Great club. | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics
If you are going to clubs and not getting anywhere, I highly reccomend watching a guy who is and trying to take things from their behaviour for next time. I do not consider myself attractive in any way shape or form, but do quite well at clubs as I am friendly and genuine. I can attest (as ive met him a few times) that Mike is for me what an archetypal single male should be. Beyond initial attraction single men should be at clubs with two aims when they do get the oppertunity for sex. 1. Make sure the other person they are with has a good time and 2. Make sure they have a good time. In that order, remember people talk."This for sure people talk! Women or couples will often ask other how was so and so!!!! Sometimes especially if your meet hasn’t gone to plan for example hardon not happening or play not been enjoyable then you may find that you get mentioned especially if you have got angry or upset I have played with people when mr floopy has visted and I have been honest and said it’s just not working | |||
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"I have learnt that over the years if you sit quietly in a corner women and couples won't say hello If you get up and talk to people then people see that your assertive personality wise, which is often linked to assertiveness sexually Don't get me wrong I have turned up at clubs before with a face like a slapped arse and had no fun I have hardly spoke to anyone and had a boring time I find a smily confident face, dressed smart and be open with your body really helps. Also be willing to have different conversation topics
If you are going to clubs and not getting anywhere, I highly reccomend watching a guy who is and trying to take things from their behaviour for next time. I do not consider myself attractive in any way shape or form, but do quite well at clubs as I am friendly and genuine. I can attest (as ive met him a few times) that Mike is for me what an archetypal single male should be. Beyond initial attraction single men should be at clubs with two aims when they do get the oppertunity for sex. 1. Make sure the other person they are with has a good time and 2. Make sure they have a good time. In that order, remember people talk.
This for sure people talk!
Women or couples will often ask other how was so and so!!!!
Sometimes especially if your meet hasn’t gone to plan for example hardon not happening or play not been enjoyable then you may find that you get mentioned especially if you have got angry or upset
I have played with people when mr floopy has visted and I have been honest and said it’s just not working "haha realy ....((??chuckles | |||
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