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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys,

We need your help!

After being on here for a few weeks now, we've finally made the decision that our first experience is going to be visiting a club.

We want to know which club (in your personal opinion) would be the best one to visit for a couple of first timers looking to be eased into the whole experience gently.

It will most likely be a Saturday night as they are the easiest for us find some free time, and all being well it'll be sometime in September.

We're looking for somewhere that has friendly staff and kind regulars who will make us feel comfortable.

We'd also prefer to find a club that has people of a similar age to us. We don't mind being around older or younger people as well, but we'd feel more comfortable if there are at least some people around our ages (20s and 30s).

Not only will this be our first ever experience of a swinging club, but it'll also be our first exposure to the lifestyle itself. For that reason, a relaxed setting where there is no pressure is paramount. We may or may not want to participate on our first visit, we don't know how it will all go down until the time comes. So having somewhere that will be welcoming and understanding is very important to us.

We've narrowed down a short list of clubs we think we'd like to visit, but we're still open to suggestions too.

The shortlist (so far)

Infusions - Blackpool

Cupids - Manchester

The No3 Club - Chorley

Townhouse - Liverpool

Decadance - Rochdale

We've read mostly positive reviews about all the above, so we're looking for your insights as to what separates them. Which is your preference and why?

We'd be interested in visiting them all at some point, so we're not necessarily looking for your personal favourite as it would be nice to work through them all. We're just looking for the one that would be the most welcoming for first timers, whilst meeting the points we mentioned above.

Thanks

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you considered Quest in Leeds?

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you considered Quest in Leeds?

Sally"

No we hadn't. It's a little further than we planned to travel for our first time, but we'll certainly have a look at it. It's only a little further than some that we had considered so if we like the look of it there's no reason we couldn't give it a whirl.

Have you visited any of the ones we listed? If so, how does it compare to them?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

From your list I have been to Townhouse and Cupids. Both really great clubs. However I think Quest is better for a first visit as it is all on one level so easy to find your way around and very clean and modern. Cupids is dress down on arrival which might be a bit challenging for a first visit. Quest has single sex changing rooms which Cupids and Townhouse don't. Whichever club you choose I hope you have a great night.

Sally

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spoilt for choices

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Hey,

Ive attended the clubs mentioned so far on this thread. I could tell you as a customer, the pros and cons I've found with each. Instead, I'm just going to invite you to Townhouse. I'm the host of the Newbies & Notsos parties at Townhouse which are a Wednesday or every third Saturday of the month.

Upon arrival, we give you an in depth tour of the club and explain the etiquette and how our club works. This also gives you a chance to ask us any questions. We have no filters and nothing embarrasses us and you can ask us absolutely anything about the swinging scene!

We then either have an organised social with all the newbies in the lounge and bring the regulars in to meet them, or introduce small groups to each other. Whichever suits the dynamic of that particular night.

Our regulars are very used to be introduced to newbies and will happily chat, answer questions and also some volunteer to be 'club buddies' and wear a lanyard so people can identify them if they need someone to buddy up with rather than standing alone. We hate people standing alone at Townhouse!

You'd be welcome at any event though, you're not limited to a newbie night just because you're new. Many of our events are focused on the social side of swinging with attract a lot of first timers.

Townhouse isn't an immediate dress down club. You can stay fully dressed all evening on our ground floor. It has a 'wine bar' kind of vibe downstairs (although we have more gins than wines so maybe a 'gin bar') and some people come to just socialise. After 1030pm if you go into the playrooms, then you are asked to dress down. There is never any pressure to play and we have private rooms with locks if you want privacy.

On a Saturday, we have a limit of how many men are allowed into the club. We cap it at 8 single males who are established members of our club. So our Saturdays are brilliant for couples that enjoy the company of other couples and single ladies and are not overwhelmed by a club full of single guys. Wednesday we don't cap males but they have to either be a member, or be booked on our new single guy membership induction.

Agewise. We get a really good mix of ages, especially on Wednesdays & Saturdays. I'm sure other clubs say the same but we had a recent under 39s party that was full to the rafters of gorgeous sexy folk in their 20s & 30s and most of them attend other party nights.

There is tonnes of info on our website with photos of Townhouse too. If you have any question, then you are welcome to drop us a message.

With there being so many clubs in the northwest to choose from, I'm sure you'll find one suited to yourselves.

Sorry for the big long post but we are rather passionate about newcomers to the club hence running dedicated nights for them.

J&L x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From your list I have been to Townhouse and Cupids. Both really great clubs. However I think Quest is better for a first visit as it is all on one level so easy to find your way around and very clean and modern. Cupids is dress down on arrival which might be a bit challenging for a first visit. Quest has single sex changing rooms which Cupids and Townhouse don't. Whichever club you choose I hope you have a great night.

Sally"

Thanks again for your reply.

Think Cupid's may be a bit much for our first time if it is dress down on arrival. There do seem to be a lot of people on here that think it's a great place though, so we'll just have to save that for another night when we are a little more experienced.

We'll have to have a proper look at quest, it sounds like it could be a good fit.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey,

Ive attended the clubs mentioned so far on this thread. I could tell you as a customer, the pros and cons I've found with each. Instead, I'm just going to invite you to Townhouse. I'm the host of the Newbies & Notsos parties at Townhouse which are a Wednesday or every third Saturday of the month.

Upon arrival, we give you an in depth tour of the club and explain the etiquette and how our club works. This also gives you a chance to ask us any questions. We have no filters and nothing embarrasses us and you can ask us absolutely anything about the swinging scene!

We then either have an organised social with all the newbies in the lounge and bring the regulars in to meet them, or introduce small groups to each other. Whichever suits the dynamic of that particular night.

Our regulars are very used to be introduced to newbies and will happily chat, answer questions and also some volunteer to be 'club buddies' and wear a lanyard so people can identify them if they need someone to buddy up with rather than standing alone. We hate people standing alone at Townhouse!

You'd be welcome at any event though, you're not limited to a newbie night just because you're new. Many of our events are focused on the social side of swinging with attract a lot of first timers.

Townhouse isn't an immediate dress down club. You can stay fully dressed all evening on our ground floor. It has a 'wine bar' kind of vibe downstairs (although we have more gins than wines so maybe a 'gin bar') and some people come to just socialise. After 1030pm if you go into the playrooms, then you are asked to dress down. There is never any pressure to play and we have private rooms with locks if you want privacy.

On a Saturday, we have a limit of how many men are allowed into the club. We cap it at 8 single males who are established members of our club. So our Saturdays are brilliant for couples that enjoy the company of other couples and single ladies and are not overwhelmed by a club full of single guys. Wednesday we don't cap males but they have to either be a member, or be booked on our new single guy membership induction.

Agewise. We get a really good mix of ages, especially on Wednesdays & Saturdays. I'm sure other clubs say the same but we had a recent under 39s party that was full to the rafters of gorgeous sexy folk in their 20s & 30s and most of them attend other party nights.

There is tonnes of info on our website with photos of Townhouse too. If you have any question, then you are welcome to drop us a message.

With there being so many clubs in the northwest to choose from, I'm sure you'll find one suited to yourselves.

Sorry for the big long post but we are rather passionate about newcomers to the club hence running dedicated nights for them.

J&L x"

Thanks for such an in depth reply. Really covered everything we'd need to know, and then some more. It's exactly the type of reply that we was hoping for.

Now if the rest of the club's could pop in and leave a reply like that we'd be sorted, and probably applied for choice.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

On your list we've only been to Cupids. But we travel there from Sheffield, which tells its own story.

We like it and it would be a good place for a first visit.

Have fun wherever you go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your list I've been to Townhouse and No.3, and i'm not affiliated with either. I'd definitely recommend Townhouse, not that No.3 is bad in any way, but based on what you've said, Townhouse ticks more boxes. Everyone's so friendly, I often go on my own, in the knowledge I'll be completely safe and there's always people to chat to. I was actually going to recommend Jester & Lilac's nights but they beat me to it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been to Townhouse, Cupids and Infusions out of the ones mentioned. I would probably recommend them in that order too. Our first club was Partners in Bury - really good club too.

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By *rMrsNawtyCouple
over a year ago

north west

We've only ever been to townhouse as yet and we've never looked back. It's a brilliant club and all the staff and regulars are very approachable and are willing to help you with anything you need. We drive nearly 2 hours to get there and it's worth every mile. We've met some amazing friends and go every opportunity we get. If you choose townhouse you won't regret it . Xx

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By *iercedCplCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"Hey,

Ive attended the clubs mentioned so far on this thread. I could tell you as a customer, the pros and cons I've found with each. Instead, I'm just going to invite you to Townhouse. I'm the host of the Newbies & Notsos parties at Townhouse which are a Wednesday or every third Saturday of the month.

Upon arrival, we give you an in depth tour of the club and explain the etiquette and how our club works. This also gives you a chance to ask us any questions. We have no filters and nothing embarrasses us and you can ask us absolutely anything about the swinging scene!

We then either have an organised social with all the newbies in the lounge and bring the regulars in to meet them, or introduce small groups to each other. Whichever suits the dynamic of that particular night.

Our regulars are very used to be introduced to newbies and will happily chat, answer questions and also some volunteer to be 'club buddies' and wear a lanyard so people can identify them if they need someone to buddy up with rather than standing alone. We hate people standing alone at Townhouse!

You'd be welcome at any event though, you're not limited to a newbie night just because you're new. Many of our events are focused on the social side of swinging with attract a lot of first timers.

Townhouse isn't an immediate dress down club. You can stay fully dressed all evening on our ground floor. It has a 'wine bar' kind of vibe downstairs (although we have more gins than wines so maybe a 'gin bar') and some people come to just socialise. After 1030pm if you go into the playrooms, then you are asked to dress down. There is never any pressure to play and we have private rooms with locks if you want privacy.

On a Saturday, we have a limit of how many men are allowed into the club. We cap it at 8 single males who are established members of our club. So our Saturdays are brilliant for couples that enjoy the company of other couples and single ladies and are not overwhelmed by a club full of single guys. Wednesday we don't cap males but they have to either be a member, or be booked on our new single guy membership induction.

Agewise. We get a really good mix of ages, especially on Wednesdays & Saturdays. I'm sure other clubs say the same but we had a recent under 39s party that was full to the rafters of gorgeous sexy folk in their 20s & 30s and most of them attend other party nights.

There is tonnes of info on our website with photos of Townhouse too. If you have any question, then you are welcome to drop us a message.

With there being so many clubs in the northwest to choose from, I'm sure you'll find one suited to yourselves.

Sorry for the big long post but we are rather passionate about newcomers to the club hence running dedicated nights for them.

J&L x"

Damn we're a week late, we have a night off this coming weekend.

J&A x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow... There's a lot of love for townhouse here.

We've by no means made our mind up yet, but going by the replies so far we've certainly got one place that sounds like a good fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No 3club for us personally ,our first ever visit to a club the host and hostess Glen n Mary such a lovely northern couple,so welcoming,had our first swinging experience there too we're visiting again on the 2nd of September,,

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By *igboobies42Woman
over a year ago

Essex

I am going to cupids in a few weeks time. It will be my first time at a club and I am going on my own. Asked a similar question in the forums and cupids seemed a popular choice. Hope your visit goes well. I'm excited about mine already x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No 3club for us personally ,our first ever visit to a club the host and hostess Glen n Mary such a lovely northern couple,so welcoming,had our first swinging experience there too we're visiting again on the 2nd of September,,"

Thanks for the reply. We've heard some very nice things about this club so we will certainly be looking to visit at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am going to cupids in a few weeks time. It will be my first time at a club and I am going on my own. Asked a similar question in the forums and cupids seemed a popular choice. Hope your visit goes well. I'm excited about mine already x x "

Thanks for the reply.

Please let us know how it goes when you do finally visit. We'd love to hear how it goes.

Cupid's does seem to have a very loyal and vocal following. We're probably gonna wait until we have a little more experience before visiting though, it might be a bit overwhelming for our first experience. It's definitely on our agenda though, and we'll hopefully get round to it sooner rather than later.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

From your shortlist, I have been to 3 and out of the three I would recommend cupids. The staff were very welcoming, as were those visiting. It was a very relaxed atmosphere and had various socialising areas.

The only other club I have been to where I felt welcome instantly was Chams, their staff are fabulous and so are the regulars. I believe clubs need socialising areas around the club, to give you chance to walk around and stop and talk and Chams and Cupids are the better clubs for this (from those I have been to).

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By *oldilocksanddaddybearCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Agree with every word, townhouse is a great club very relaxed and friendly, we would definitely recommend for a first club experience (or a 100th

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No 3club for us personally ,our first ever visit to a club the host and hostess Glen n Mary such a lovely northern couple,so welcoming,had our first swinging experience there too we're visiting again on the 2nd of September,,"
no3 is the centre of the motorway network always good for the Northwest cud stop of for a bit of dogging on the way home for additional fun always welcome..mmmm if the club was quiet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have been to most of the clubs you mention in your opening post. We were very nervous on our first ever visit to a swingers club 3 years ago as hubby and I were at the very start of our exploration of the idea of swinging. We phoned Cupids and explained we were inexperienced, they answered all our questions. We visited the next week and they put us at our ease totally. We didn't play on our first visit, we chatted and watched and just got familiar with the feelings generated between the two of us in the surroundings of a swingers club with all the possibilities that suggested to us. We were extremely horny that night when we got home and were buzzing with the thrill of it! Being a dress down club actually made it easier when we took the plunge on the 2nd visit and began to play!

In brief -

Cupids is our 1st choice - always clean and welcoming, well-run club, etiquette is explained and people are respectful, variety of private and open play areas, sexy decor, very nice jacuzzi and viewing areas. They serve you your own alcohol.

Decadance - immaculate play rooms, small sauna, beautiful bar/dance floor area, small club, very friendly, small but adequate sauna - have only been early evening and went with pre-arranged meet in mind so not sure what their party nights are like but have heard good things. The ground floor is like a classy wine bar, people can keep their clothes on whilst on the ground floor where they have a fully stocked bar.

Infusions - loved the swimming pool and lounge area at the side - the jacuzzi is next to the pool so that is a good place to relax and soak in the atmosphere, variety of playrooms but some need refurbishing as they seem a bit worn.

Townhouse - loved the decor in the rooms, well positioned mirrors and the best swing we have ever used, excellent good bondage/bdsm equipment. Tiny sauna, lovely jacuzzi.

Quest (not on your list but is our 2nd fav club) - fantastic dungeon, cinema room and the best sauna of all the clubs we have been to.

Wherever you go - enjoy

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By *inderellaRockerfellazCouple
over a year ago

warrington


"Hi guys,

We need your help!

After being on here for a few weeks now, we've finally made the decision that our first experience is going to be visiting a club.

We want to know which club (in your personal opinion) would be the best one to visit for a couple of first timers looking to be eased into the whole experience gently.

It will most likely be a Saturday night as they are the easiest for us find some free time, and all being well it'll be sometime in September.

We're looking for somewhere that has friendly staff and kind regulars who will make us feel comfortable.

We'd also prefer to find a club that has people of a similar age to us. We don't mind being around older or younger people as well, but we'd feel more comfortable if there are at least some people around our ages (20s and 30s).

Not only will this be our first ever experience of a swinging club, but it'll also be our first exposure to the lifestyle itself. For that reason, a relaxed setting where there is no pressure is paramount. We may or may not want to participate on our first visit, we don't know how it will all go down until the time comes. So having somewhere that will be welcoming and understanding is very important to us.

We've narrowed down a short list of clubs we think we'd like to visit, but we're still open to suggestions too.

The shortlist (so far)

Infusions - Blackpool

Cupids - Manchester

The No3 Club - Chorley

Townhouse - Liverpool

Decadance - Rochdale

We've read mostly positive reviews about all the above, so we're looking for your insights as to what separates them. Which is your preference and why?

We'd be interested in visiting them all at some point, so we're not necessarily looking for your personal favourite as it would be nice to work through them all. We're just looking for the one that would be the most welcoming for first timers, whilst meeting the points we mentioned above.

Thanks"

Cupids look forward to welcoming you in the future once you have found your feet. Have a great time wherever you decide to go for your first experience of clubbing. Cupids "where the customer comes first" !

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