FabSwingers.com forum: Single girls going to clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello there

After lots of failed attempts with a FB, I'm just reaching out to see what it's like as a single going to a club alone?

I've always wanted to go, socially initially so I can get over the initial wibblies, but I've heard bad things about the men who just grope!

I'd either cry or use my left hook

Anyone have any suggestions for clubs near me? I'm Northants way

Thank you kindly (wish I had a blow kisses emoji)

Pixie X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla Alternative might be a good place to start, they strictly limit the number if single men they admit on a night. Also, most clubs have at least one night per week where they don't let single men in at all.

If you do have trouble with anyone touching you without permission , let the staff know. A reputable club will want to clamp down on that kind of behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks sweet!

I know a few people that go to the VA but I wouldn't want to hold them back from playing as I think I'd just like to go and look around & be sociable the first time.

Can you do that in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Vanilla Alternative might be a good place to start, they strictly limit the number if single men they admit on a night. Also, most clubs have at least one night per week where they don't let single men in at all.

If you do have trouble with anyone touching you without permission , let the staff know. A reputable club will want to clamp down on that kind of behaviour. "

Staying by the bar areas until you feel comfortable to explore is a good shout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks sweet!

I know a few people that go to the VA but I wouldn't want to hold them back from playing as I think I'd just like to go and look around & be sociable the first time.

Can you do that in clubs? "

Absolutely, there's no obligation to do anything you don't want to.

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By *anillaguyMan
over a year ago

Kingston

If you have a look on the forums for the club you are thinking of attending you should see posts by other ladies that go there. Maybe make contact with some and possibly arrange to attend with them and also they should be able to give you the best information.

With regards unwanted attention and not playing and just watching, please remember that you only do what you are comfortable with and guys can just be told that you are not interested. If it persists then just alert staff and action should be taken.

I have attended a few clubs with female friends and the negative experiences have been few and far between.

Best of luck with your new ventures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you do have trouble with anyone touching you without permission , let the staff know. A reputable club will want to clamp down on that kind of behaviour.

Staying by the bar areas until you feel comfortable to explore is a good shout. "

I agree with the above comments and VA is a lovely club and staff and guests are very welcoming - hope you manage to try it out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be fine, 99% of people are very respectful. There's a lot of CCTV, security on the door and (in some cases) photo ID / membership.

VA was the least impressive of the 4 clubs we've been to. Xtasia or the Attic shouldn't be more than about 90 minutes from you, both are a lot better in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would happily escort you to a club of your choice. Please feel free to get intouch

David x

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By *lusiveUnicornWoman
over a year ago

Essex/London

I'm a single female who attends clubs and parties alone. I've always felt safe and found that the owners are incredibly accommodating of us single lasses. Always welcomed and always looked after.

Bite the bullet and do it.

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By *tevedanMan
over a year ago

London

I think you'll find plenty of single guys will chat to you! I'd be happy to take to you to Le Boudoir on a no strings basis if you feel nervous....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started going about 4-5 weeks ago, glad I plucked up the courage, as everyone was very friendly and understanding and made more of an effort.

I go there twice a month now and am making a lot of fab friends.

I go to xtasia in West Brom the midlands.

Always tend to have a few vodkas pre club for Dutch courage.

Please feel free to contact me if you ever fancy going with me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be innundated by offers from single me to accompsny you OP. Be very very cautious. They will have their own agenda and it wont necessarily be to have your best interests at heart. Best to bite the bullet and go it alone, dont feel pressured, tell the staff its your first club visit and if you dont like it then you can always leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will be innundated by offers from single me to accompsny you OP. Be very very cautious. They will have their own agenda and it wont necessarily be to have your best interests at heart. Best to bite the bullet and go it alone, dont feel pressured, tell the staff its your first club visit and if you dont like it then you can always leave. "

Oh don't worry I'm not naive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies!

I'll take my time & look through local clubs to see what nights they do!

Can't knock it til you try it eh

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By *lusiveUnicornWoman
over a year ago

Essex/London

Not knocking anybody's choices or preferences, but I prefer not to drink and remain as sober as a judge. Have my A-game about me and be fully aware of what is going down around me - both for my own security and also to successfully find wonderful opportunities

I've never had any more of a problem than I would in a normal night club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not knocking anybody's choices or preferences, but I prefer not to drink and remain as sober as a judge. Have my A-game about me and be fully aware of what is going down around me - both for my own security and also to successfully find wonderful opportunities

I've never had any more of a problem than I would in a normal night club."

No I certainly wouldn't drink!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had numerous PM's from guys offering to take me haha

All declined for now

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By *anillaguyMan
over a year ago

Kingston

Sadly, only to be expected on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had numerous PM's from guys offering to take me haha

All declined for now "

The majority don't have the bollocks to go alone lol.

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By *ightDiversionMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I agree with all the comments above.

Last time I visited Chams I happened to bump into a single lady being shown around. We chatted and it was the first time she had been to a club or ventured into any type of swinging adventure. She made it quite clear that she was intending on just getting a feel for the place as a social experience. We chatted at the bar for a while and wandered about so she could get the lie of the land as it were. Being a Thursday it was nice and quiet. Eventually we hit the Jacuzzi and it appeared that the experience was making her hornier than expected - hands wandered etc. Anyway we bumped into 2 other couples, one lady of which had also never ventured into the club scene or any form of dalliances (a platonic friend had accompanied her) and the other couple were newbies to chams (but had been to mother clubs). Suffice to say by the end of the evening we were indulging in a 6 some and as far as I could tell all had a fab time.

So in answer to the question can you go alone - looks like hell yes!! ( and chams of a Thursday seems popular) - Although you intend to just watch don't be surprised if you get carried away by the evening ! Just remember just say No if your not happy....

Have fun !!

Alan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fully recommend S Private Club in Slough. It's a very welcoming and friendly club with spa and play facilities. It has a wide range of ages and because it's modern, clean and friendly with the best hosts in the country called Annie and Sam. See Club reviews in the South East section and give Annie a call if you still have any questions. Go and enjoy.

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