FabSwingers.com forum: Lone ladies and clubs.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies. How did you build up the confidence to start visiting clubs? Did you/ do you go alone? How did you make the jump to go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. How did you build up the confidence to start visiting clubs? Did you/ do you go alone? How did you make the jump to go?"

I arrange to meet someone there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went with a friend the first time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a party alone, I recommend finding a wing woman or arranging to meet someone there!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh i have a potential wing woman actually. That really didnt cross my mushed mind :/

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went to a party alone, I recommend finding a wing woman or arranging to meet someone there! "

Was it not ok alone? X

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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not sure what they call them but i went on a 'themed' night, where someone arranges a specific night at a club. it was BMFC and the lady running it took her time to message me and reassure me i'd be safe.

the guys were great on that night and i never felt pressured, pestered or anything negatove. glad she took some time out as it encouraged me to go.

some do socials as well. i feel more open to going to socials.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"not sure what they call them but i went on a 'themed' night, where someone arranges a specific night at a club. it was BMFC and the lady running it took her time to message me and reassure me i'd be safe.

the guys were great on that night and i never felt pressured, pestered or anything negatove. glad she took some time out as it encouraged me to go.

some do socials as well. i feel more open to going to socials."

Oh that sounds good. Im not sure. I have a female friend who would probably come but im not sure if our friendship is at that level.

When people say they arrange a meet was it with someone new or someone you had met socially first? I get nervy enough before meets I dont think i could manage that too

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i would on a social on my own no problem.

if i was going with the hope for sex then i'd meet someone i'd already met and i'd only meet someone new if i was confident the guy would not pressure me for sex, which most guys automatically presume they will get sex on a first meet at a club so i don't meet them.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

First time I went to a club was with a female friend, and it was at the club that the name fab swingers was mentioned.

Times after I went alone or with friends or a guy I had met.

Was very nervous, but had no need to have been as everybody was so welcoming an friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I waited until my sex drive demanded i do SOMETHING and then let it lead a little!

I've found it more fulfilling to chat to a couple of people that are also intending to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just contact the club in advance and ask them to show me around when I get there. People always talk to you. Swingers are friendly folk as a rule xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to a daytime event. It was quieter and eased me in gently. I'd rather go it alone to be honest. I am my own boss then. If I'm not feeling it I leave, without the guilt of ruining someone else's play time. Take a deep breath and go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies. How did you build up the confidence to start visiting clubs? Did you/ do you go alone? How did you make the jump to go?"

I just decided to go then went ... once your in your made to feel really welcome, everybody has a common interest so when u think about it it's even less random that just turning up at a pub or club alone ... I like going out and holidaying alone tho so maybe that made it easier for me ... I say just go for it girl ... u only live once xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past i went to clubs on my own. I enjoyed it and felt safe. Guys were respectful and fun. I felt confident to cope with guys who were a pain but also knew staff were around anyway.

Im not especially sociable so was happy with my own company although i enjoyed going with friends and my (now) hubby too.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I primarily go alone but over time you meet people then after a while you're among friends. I occasionally go with a friend and I like both. If you're going alone tell the club as you go in and ask them to maybe introduce you to a couple of people if you're nervous. They'll know the right people usually

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