FabSwingers.com forum: Going to a club for the first time...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello all...

Just wanted some advice, opinions please...

I'm thinking of going to a club next month, never been to one before so naturally nervous and unsure of what to expect...

Don't know whether to go to a local one (but unsure if that's wise as it's in the town I work in) or to try further afield??

I had planned to go alone or do you think it's better to go with a male friend?

Ooh one last thing... What do I wear???

Thanks xx

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I've only been to one so not really the best person to advise,I was pretty chicken so didn't go by myself. I actually saw someone else there I knew unexpectedly as well so that was a nice surprise,played with both. Just wore a dress,suppose it depends on what their dress code is where your going.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We have been to lots of clubs and they are all really good with newbies, especially single ladies.

You will get a tour and the staff will be there for you.

Have a look at the club section and see where you like the look of. To be honest I wouldn't worry about one close to home. Friends of ours live 10 mins from their regular club and have never seen anyone they know outside the scene.

What you wear will depend on the club.

Go for it, you'll have fun.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been a couple of times but each time I've arranged meets there. Once with a lady and once with a couple, I'm off to quest tonight to meet the same lady. I wore what she told me to! But I usually just wear a dress and strip down to underwear to play or in the bar later.

Tonight I'm going to the club in just hold ups, knickers, corset and heels. Just covered by a knee length coat. I'll be posting a picture before I go out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your replies, really appreciate the advice x

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

We go to a number of clubs... given your location, would it be Angels you are thinking of by any chance?

Each club is different and has a different vibe. And often different dress code etc. Some are 'wet' clubs and you basically wear a towel, some you dress up. Depends on what you are after.

As for local or remote... remember that anyone else there is for the same reason you are. And so if you bump into someone you know... well they might be just as shocked to see you and you them!

-Matt

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I have been going to clubs alone for years now. I always contact the club before to say I was going and to look out for me. I always ask the rules etc and for someone to show me round too.

I always wear a dress and heels. Nice undies underneath. I have condoms and lube with me too.

I would often put it on my status that I was going to the club with the name and people would often see it on my status (local updates) and I would get messages before to day hi.

Mostly I would use the club as support by the way of a phone chat before xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We go to a number of clubs... given your location, would it be Angels you are thinking of by any chance?

Each club is different and has a different vibe. And often different dress code etc. Some are 'wet' clubs and you basically wear a towel, some you dress up. Depends on what you are after.

As for local or remote... remember that anyone else there is for the same reason you are. And so if you bump into someone you know... well they might be just as shocked to see you and you them!

-Matt"

Hi Matt,

Yes it would be Angels...

Thanks for the message, much appreciated x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have been going to clubs alone for years now. I always contact the club before to say I was going and to look out for me. I always ask the rules etc and for someone to show me round too.

I always wear a dress and heels. Nice undies underneath. I have condoms and lube with me too.

I would often put it on my status that I was going to the club with the name and people would often see it on my status (local updates) and I would get messages before to day hi.

Mostly I would use the club as support by the way of a phone chat before xxx"

Thank you Fruit, I'll contact the club x

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

"We go to a number of clubs... given your location, would it be Angels you are thinking of by any chance?

Each club is different and has a different vibe. And often different dress code etc. Some are 'wet' clubs and you basically wear a towel, some you dress up. Depends on what you are after.

As for local or remote... remember that anyone else there is for the same reason you are. And so if you bump into someone you know... well they might be just as shocked to see you and you them!

-Matt

Hi Matt,

Yes it would be Angels...

Thanks for the message, much appreciated x"

It is a great club. Very friendly place and nice layout. Quite a wide age range attending. There is a pub-style bar there you can perch at if you want. Dress-code wise I'd say smart evening wear was what I see most women wearing there. Or maybe a bit more risqué than that.

Don't be intimidated when you arrive. It is on a business park and looks pretty non-descript from the outside. But much nicer once in. Go through the door and up the metal staircase and follow the signs along the corridor. As you go through the door into the club, there is a reception desk right there and someone will take your details and arrange someone to give you a tour.

The only slight criticism of the place (not been in a while so may have changed) is that they don't seem to enforce any dress code on the single guys and sometimes there were guys there that looked like they'd just walked in in whatever was left in their laundry basket. But plenty of well dressed guys there too.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We go to a number of clubs... given your location, would it be Angels you are thinking of by any chance?

Each club is different and has a different vibe. And often different dress code etc. Some are 'wet' clubs and you basically wear a towel, some you dress up. Depends on what you are after.

As for local or remote... remember that anyone else there is for the same reason you are. And so if you bump into someone you know... well they might be just as shocked to see you and you them!

-Matt

Hi Matt,

Yes it would be Angels...

Thanks for the message, much appreciated x

-Matt"

Thank you once again!

I'm giggling at the image of a receptionist... Can imagine " Barbara " sat on main reception as I sign in and get a visitors badge...

And lol at " whatever was left in their laundry basket "

I'd like to think a guy made an effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi weapons I am in the same boat as you, and thinking of trying the club scene out myself, I would love to experience the club life myself but I am

Too chicken shit to take my first step and feel like I will be shunted out because obviously I am a single male however would love to hear how you get on and my advice if any would be yourself

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By *oi_LucyCouple
over a year ago

Barbados

Bear in mind, as I said, each club is different and it is perfectly expected that you might love one club and hate another. For whatever reason. And that one club you might hate another person loves. So what I will say is if you do go somewhere and don't like it, don't be put off and do try somewhere else. And vice versa, if you like one club, be aware not all clubs will be the same.

I'm heading to Steamer Quay to tonight and expect it will be a very different feel to Angels or Dec's. Also clubs can vary hugely on the night depending on who's there. It is the people that make the club. Or sometimes it can be something totally unknown. We have had nights in which for some reason even our fav club is just not feeling right for us that night. Normally down to us just not feeling right that day, maybe due to some other unrelated thing in life.

So go along. Have fun. Don't have any expectations of playing and have a good night. Then ignore anything happens it is a bonus

Oh as well, the other thing to remember is that sometimes timing can just play a factor. Maybe we were speaking to someone about playing. Thiught all was going great. Then can't find then later to play with as they happen to be playing with someone else. Or that by the time we do want to play, it is 3am and we are knackered. Don't take it personally. Don't think 'they promised us a play and now they are shagging someone else!'. Chill out have fun. Maybe next time you will play.

-Matt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again for all the advice.

I'm planning to just go for a "social" and if anything else happens then it was clearly meant to be!

I like the idea of trying various clubs, just to get a feel for them.... As yes not all are the same. But if I start local and go from there.

I'll let you know how it goes

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Matt's advice is excellent. Also you are wise to go assuming a social to start with. We did this when we started and sometimes still do. Get in touch with the club before you go and tell them you are new. They will show you around and introduce you to people if you want. You have to remember that talking to people does not mean sex is a given, some think this way, but most people are more chilled.

Also remember that 'No' is an important word and you can use it anytime, just like you do outside of clubs. Clubs are very safe, you can dress as sexily as you want and just chill and be with like minded people. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely better to go with a male friend!

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By *iltsrookiesCouple
over a year ago

SN15

We're going to Angels tonight for the first time, am feeling a little nervous as it's very local for us too!!

I'll let you know how it goes...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're going to Angels tonight for the first time, am feeling a little nervous as it's very local for us too!!

I'll let you know how it goes...

Oh please do x

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely better to go with a male friend!"

I'm thinking that way too... Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Matt's advice is excellent. Also you are wise to go assuming a social to start with. We did this when we started and sometimes still do. Get in touch with the club before you go and tell them you are new. They will show you around and introduce you to people if you want. You have to remember that talking to people does not mean sex is a given, some think this way, but most people are more chilled.

He's been great hasn't he!!

Thank you equally for your advice and reassurance X

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