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"I have been in the daytime as a single male and I am bisexual with a preference for women. I don't really expect any women to be there but can imagine that if there was one (i.e. you) you would be followed around. Perhaps they were just a bit too aggressive. I usually satisfy myself watching the porn but also love being approached and sucked and wanked off by other guys, and vice versa. A female presence is always welcome! Please don't be put off and try again.!" I completely understand that as a female I would be in the minority and would have received quite a lot of attention (I usually like that!) but it was too much and intimidating! I've since read reviews where women have been touched even when they have explicitly stated that they didn't want to be, so this doesn't sound like a one off! I appreciate that not everyone who goes there would be the same but we'll stick to clubs and private meets from now. | |||
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"I just thought I'd write a review about my experience this week at the cinema. Yes we read reviews and were expecting something seedy....but isn't that the whole point of going haha!!!! My male partner and I just decided to visit on Tuesday during the day so maybe not the best time. We're both reasonably experienced swingers and used to public sex, however the atmosphere there was the most threatening I've ever known. I've never felt unsafe when I've met other swingers but this place was the exception to the rule. I was the only woman there so expected some attention but the instant I walked in the door a huge guy walked up behind me, very close, never said a word and proceeded to follow us everywhere we went. After looking around we decided to go into the coffee lounge, as I turned back to face the door we'd come in by, our way was blocked by every man in the place all looking like hungry jackles. I'm very confident in my partner and knew he could handle himself and the situation but I honestly felt violated without ever being touched. I asked to leave the room and we quickly walked to a tiny grubby private room and locked the door. We made the most of a bad situation, well we had been winding each other up all morning hehe, and had fun on our own, even though we still weren't left alone as someone banged on the door asking if some of them could watch us......NO!!!! I wanted to write this in the hope that some of the guys who go there read it and learn to hold back a bit. If you had you would have been treated to a live show and maybe been invited to join in, so really you were your own worst enemies. I also wanted to warn newbies because as a first experience of public sex this would be the worst possible place to go and turn you off of the idea of swinging for good, which in the most part is incredibly respectful and a hell of a lot of fun "Not saying you're wrong or right.... but considering you felt violated, you found a grubby private room with a locked door to make the best of it? With feelings so strong and such a level of intimidation I'd have imagined you would have left? | |||
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"Did you report this to the club?" No we didn't, but to be honest we just couldn't wait to get out of there without being seen haha!!! Equally it just felt as if I didn't have anything to complain about since no one actually touched me. I just wanted to warn other women so they didn't have to feel the same way. | |||
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"I just thought I'd write a review about my experience this week at the cinema. Yes we read reviews and were expecting something seedy....but isn't that the whole point of going haha!!!! My male partner and I just decided to visit on Tuesday during the day so maybe not the best time. We're both reasonably experienced swingers and used to public sex, however the atmosphere there was the most threatening I've ever known. I've never felt unsafe when I've met other swingers but this place was the exception to the rule. I was the only woman there so expected some attention but the instant I walked in the door a huge guy walked up behind me, very close, never said a word and proceeded to follow us everywhere we went. After looking around we decided to go into the coffee lounge, as I turned back to face the door we'd come in by, our way was blocked by every man in the place all looking like hungry jackles. I'm very confident in my partner and knew he could handle himself and the situation but I honestly felt violated without ever being touched. I asked to leave the room and we quickly walked to a tiny grubby private room and locked the door. We made the most of a bad situation, well we had been winding each other up all morning hehe, and had fun on our own, even though we still weren't left alone as someone banged on the door asking if some of them could watch us......NO!!!! I wanted to write this in the hope that some of the guys who go there read it and learn to hold back a bit. If you had you would have been treated to a live show and maybe been invited to join in, so really you were your own worst enemies. I also wanted to warn newbies because as a first experience of public sex this would be the worst possible place to go and turn you off of the idea of swinging for good, which in the most part is incredibly respectful and a hell of a lot of fun
Not saying you're wrong or right.... but considering you felt violated, you found a grubby private room with a locked door to make the best of it?
With feelings so strong and such a level of intimidation I'd have imagined you would have left? "I'm sorry that you feel that my response wasn't appropriate but how do you know what you'd do in the same situation????? I've read many reviews where women have felt and done exactly the same as me under the same situation in the same place. I was very safe with my partner and I'm lucky that I can say that. Once in the room we were fine so no need to rush out without enjoying ourselves. I also believe that I am the master of my own body and mind so can do whatever the hell I want with it and at whatever time!!!! I also have the right to feel uncomfortable in a situation reguardless of whether I choose to have sex or not before or after that!!!!! | |||
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"I just thought I'd write a review about my experience this week at the cinema. Yes we read reviews and were expecting something seedy....but isn't that the whole point of going haha!!!! My male partner and I just decided to visit on Tuesday during the day so maybe not the best time. We're both reasonably experienced swingers and used to public sex, however the atmosphere there was the most threatening I've ever known. I've never felt unsafe when I've met other swingers but this place was the exception to the rule. I was the only woman there so expected some attention but the instant I walked in the door a huge guy walked up behind me, very close, never said a word and proceeded to follow us everywhere we went. After looking around we decided to go into the coffee lounge, as I turned back to face the door we'd come in by, our way was blocked by every man in the place all looking like hungry jackles. I'm very confident in my partner and knew he could handle himself and the situation but I honestly felt violated without ever being touched. I asked to leave the room and we quickly walked to a tiny grubby private room and locked the door. We made the most of a bad situation, well we had been winding each other up all morning hehe, and had fun on our own, even though we still weren't left alone as someone banged on the door asking if some of them could watch us......NO!!!! I wanted to write this in the hope that some of the guys who go there read it and learn to hold back a bit. If you had you would have been treated to a live show and maybe been invited to join in, so really you were your own worst enemies. I also wanted to warn newbies because as a first experience of public sex this would be the worst possible place to go and turn you off of the idea of swinging for good, which in the most part is incredibly respectful and a hell of a lot of fun
Not saying you're wrong or right.... but considering you felt violated, you found a grubby private room with a locked door to make the best of it?
With feelings so strong and such a level of intimidation I'd have imagined you would have left?
I'm sorry that you feel that my response wasn't appropriate but how do you know what you'd do in the same situation????? I've read many reviews where women have felt and done exactly the same as me under the same situation in the same place.
I was very safe with my partner and I'm lucky that I can say that. Once in the room we were fine so no need to rush out without enjoying ourselves. I also believe that I am the master of my own body and mind so can do whatever the hell I want with it and at whatever time!!!! I also have the right to feel uncomfortable in a situation reguardless of whether I choose to have sex or not before or after that!!!!!
"I have to agree with the chap who commented about your post. You mention: The most threatening atmosphere you've ever known. You felt unsafe and violated. Couldn't wait to leave. Want to warn others about the place. I understand that but struggle to rationalise if the entry fee was worth the risk you clearly felt you took in locking yourselves in a grubby room to have sex after being surrounded by all the hungry Jackals in the cinema earlier. Yes you can do whatever you want with your own body. When that puts you, your partner or the Jackals at risk of harm then probably not the smartest move to stay. Completely agree that followers spoil things for everyone. You didn't feel safe enough to put on a show and have people join in. Their loss. Door banging happens in clubs, parties and anywhere people feel the louder / harder I bang the better chance I have to fuck the bird inside because I've paid my entry fee... Personally your comments would have more weight if you'd left rather than stayed. No entry fee is ever worth the risk of being hurt or worse. If the reviews about a place are mixed and there are extreme negative comments then I just wouldn't visit. Never been to this venue and sincerely doubt I will. If you are a newbie the read club reviews and choose well. | |||
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"Perhaps by reading this story and fact the place is not listed on club reviews page here,so others can read what peoples real visits were like,it will allow people to make informed choices of where to go,or where to avoid,as in this case." Thank you Samantha for understanding the reason why I chose to write this review  . Nice to see that someone has some sense xx | |||
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"Wow surprised at the comments from people slating my opinion! It is my opinion, I'm not saying that it's everyone's but i am allowed to give it. So what if I fucked in a totally safe room, with a person I felt safe with surrounded by the towels etc we had brought with us to make us feel more comfortable. Who do you think you are to make personal judgements about my life choices????? I can only assume that those of you making the nasty comments are the ones most likely to be annoying in a club and to feel that if you've 'paid an entry fee' you have the right to 'fuck the bird' inside disgusts me to my very core. I'm definitely not new to the scene and know the etiquette, as have all of the other people I've ever met. It's always been a pleasant experience before and quite obviously I've been lucky to go to the classier places where doors have not been hammered on and asking permission to join has been done politely and respectfully!!!! The reviews I read about how the other women have felt uncomfortable were not until after we went (as I stated) so I went with the information I had to hand at the time. Which is why I wrote this review so that my opinion could inform others of my experience and nothing else. They can then add them to the other reviews they have read and make a more rounded and informed choice!!!! Seriously get a grip of yourselves.....because with those attitudes no one else will haha "Confused as to who has made "nasty comments". Myself and the poster who made similar comments both seem to have identified a mismatch. we both offered a balanced view of your review quite politely just questioning it. Similarly to you offering your view of someone's business and someone's livelihood I offered my view on your post but in a far more reasoned manner. Maybe you are quite sensitive in that you believed our comments were "slating" or "nasty" (though I see none of that) and, when in the cinema, you overreacted too (I can't judge your reactions but, in my opinion, your 'slating nasty comment' rant seems a mismatch to the nature of our comments). Possibly in future you should review places you intend to visit more, I haven't been to the cinema though every review I have seen makes clear that it's not the classiest place on earth... other reviews mention 'seedy' and the like... which you possibly missed! I know nothing of the other poster but your assumptions regarding myself are unfounded and bear no relevance to my comments!, I have no need to "get a grip" nor did I display any particular "attitude". | |||
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"I just thought I'd write a review about my experience this week at the cinema. Yes we read reviews and were expecting something seedy....but isn't that the whole point of going haha!!!! My male partner and I just decided to visit on Tuesday during the day so maybe not the best time. We're both reasonably experienced swingers and used to public sex, however the atmosphere there was the most threatening I've ever known. I've never felt unsafe when I've met other swingers but this place was the exception to the rule. I was the only woman there so expected some attention but the instant I walked in the door a huge guy walked up behind me, very close, never said a word and proceeded to follow us everywhere we went. After looking around we decided to go into the coffee lounge, as I turned back to face the door we'd come in by, our way was blocked by every man in the place all looking like hungry jackles. I'm very confident in my partner and knew he could handle himself and the situation but I honestly felt violated without ever being touched. I asked to leave the room and we quickly walked to a tiny grubby private room and locked the door. We made the most of a bad situation, well we had been winding each other up all morning hehe, and had fun on our own, even though we still weren't left alone as someone banged on the door asking if some of them could watch us......NO!!!! I wanted to write this in the hope that some of the guys who go there read it and learn to hold back a bit. If you had you would have been treated to a live show and maybe been invited to join in, so really you were your own worst enemies. I also wanted to warn newbies because as a first experience of public sex this would be the worst possible place to go and turn you off of the idea of swinging for good, which in the most part is incredibly respectful and a hell of a lot of fun
Not saying you're wrong or right.... but considering you felt violated, you found a grubby private room with a locked door to make the best of it?
With feelings so strong and such a level of intimidation I'd have imagined you would have left?
I'm sorry that you feel that my response wasn't appropriate but how do you know what you'd do in the same situation????? I've read many reviews where women have felt and done exactly the same as me under the same situation in the same place.
I was very safe with my partner and I'm lucky that I can say that. Once in the room we were fine so no need to rush out without enjoying ourselves. I also believe that I am the master of my own body and mind so can do whatever the hell I want with it and at whatever time!!!! I also have the right to feel uncomfortable in a situation reguardless of whether I choose to have sex or not before or after that!!!!!
I have to agree with the chap who commented about your post. You mention:
The most threatening atmosphere you've ever known. You felt unsafe and violated. Couldn't wait to leave. Want to warn others about the place.
I understand that but struggle to rationalise if the entry fee was worth the risk you clearly felt you took in locking yourselves in a grubby room to have sex after being surrounded by all the hungry Jackals in the cinema earlier.
Yes you can do whatever you want with your own body. When that puts you, your partner or the Jackals at risk of harm then probably not the smartest move to stay.
Completely agree that followers spoil things for everyone. You didn't feel safe enough to put on a show and have people join in. Their loss.
Door banging happens in clubs, parties and anywhere people feel the louder / harder I bang the better chance I have to fuck the bird inside because I've paid my entry fee...
Personally your comments would have more weight if you'd left rather than stayed.
No entry fee is ever worth the risk of being hurt or worse. If the reviews about a place are mixed and there are extreme negative comments then I just wouldn't visit.
Never been to this venue and sincerely doubt I will. If you are a newbie the read club reviews and choose well.
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"Wow surprised at the comments from people slating my opinion! It is my opinion, I'm not saying that it's everyone's but i am allowed to give it. So what if I fucked in a totally safe room, with a person I felt safe with surrounded by the towels etc we had brought with us to make us feel more comfortable. Who do you think you are to make personal judgements about my life choices????? I can only assume that those of you making the nasty comments are the ones most likely to be annoying in a club and to feel that if you've 'paid an entry fee' you have the right to 'fuck the bird' inside disgusts me to my very core. I'm definitely not new to the scene and know the etiquette, as have all of the other people I've ever met. It's always been a pleasant experience before and quite obviously I've been lucky to go to the classier places where doors have not been hammered on and asking permission to join has been done politely and respectfully!!!! The reviews I read about how the other women have felt uncomfortable were not until after we went (as I stated) so I went with the information I had to hand at the time. Which is why I wrote this review so that my opinion could inform others of my experience and nothing else. They can then add them to the other reviews they have read and make a more rounded and informed choice!!!! Seriously get a grip of yourselves.....because with those attitudes no one else will haha
Confused as to who has made "nasty comments". Myself and the poster who made similar comments both seem to have identified a mismatch. we both offered a balanced view of your review quite politely just questioning it. Similarly to you offering your view of someone's business and someone's livelihood I offered my view on your post but in a far more reasoned manner. Maybe you are quite sensitive in that you believed our comments were "slating" or "nasty" (though I see none of that) and, when in the cinema, you overreacted too (I can't judge your reactions but, in my opinion, your 'slating nasty comment' rant seems a mismatch to the nature of our comments).
Possibly in future you should review places you intend to visit more, I haven't been to the cinema though every review I have seen makes clear that it's not the classiest place on earth... other reviews mention 'seedy' and the like... which you possibly missed!
I know nothing of the other poster but your assumptions regarding myself are unfounded and bear no relevance to my comments!, I have no need to "get a grip" nor did I display any particular "attitude". "Quite agree. Her choice to go. Her choice to feel violated etc and then still have sex with her partner with a marauding gang of males outside ready to... if it was that bad, leave. Staying for sex after that experience because you paid the entry fee is desperate stuff. No one goes to a venue for an experience like this. Must get myself a medal for being called out for having a balanced opinion on a disturbing matter. OP you carry on having your fun anyway you like. To answer your question, yes, like you I can have and post an opinion. Best let sleeping dogs lie... | |||
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"I can see why people would question whether or not the OP was as freaked out by the situation as they claim to be, given that they stuck around to use the private playroom, but then I've heard plenty of couples say similar things, ie the pushy guys made us uncomfortable so we ended up locking ourselves away for some fun together, so it's understandable. " Whether understandable, whether libido driven by fear, etc., it's definitely questionable which is what happened it was questioned. To head your thread with Warning, makes it pretty bold in the listings and it will attract attention and possibly questions. I didn't see the extreme reason for an extreme posting. The OP then chose two overreact, in my opinion, to my post and the other guys saying 'nasty', 'slating', 'get a grip'. Which further led me to conclude that the post was at odds with itself and an overreaction. | |||
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"I can see why people would question whether or not the OP was as freaked out by the situation as they claim to be, given that they stuck around to use the private playroom, but then I've heard plenty of couples say similar things, ie the pushy guys made us uncomfortable so we ended up locking ourselves away for some fun together, so it's understandable. Whether understandable, whether libido driven by fear, etc., it's definitely questionable which is what happened it was questioned. To head your thread with Warning, makes it pretty bold in the listings and it will attract attention and possibly questions. I didn't see the extreme reason for an extreme posting. The OP then chose two overreact, in my opinion, to my post and the other guys saying 'nasty', 'slating', 'get a grip'. Which further led me to conclude that the post was at odds with itself and an overreaction." True, they did throw some totally unnecessary accusations and assumptions around. | |||
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"I can see why people would question whether or not the OP was as freaked out by the situation as they claim to be, given that they stuck around to use the private playroom, but then I've heard plenty of couples say similar things, ie the pushy guys made us uncomfortable so we ended up locking ourselves away for some fun together, so it's understandable. Whether understandable, whether libido driven by fear, etc., it's definitely questionable which is what happened it was questioned. To head your thread with Warning, makes it pretty bold in the listings and it will attract attention and possibly questions. I didn't see the extreme reason for an extreme posting. The OP then chose two overreact, in my opinion, to my post and the other guys saying 'nasty', 'slating', 'get a grip'. Which further led me to conclude that the post was at odds with itself and an overreaction. True, they did throw some totally unnecessary accusations and assumptions around. "  | |||
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