FabSwingers.com forum: Club Talk

By *awksBoy OP Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I'm going to a club for the first time in a few weeks. I'm very nervous as I am sure you can understand.

I kinda know pretty much what to expect in most respects - that is, I very much doubt I will get to play but may be allowed to observe the fun if any goes on - but what I'm not sure of is....what is the general topic of conversation.

Is it just a general discussion about all things, life in general, politics, holidays etc or is it primarily something a bit more flirtatious and that gets sexier towards the end of the evening?

I suspect I may get some 'smart' answers but I just don't want to turn up and get it wrong.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

I'm going to a club for the first time in a few weeks. I'm very nervous as I am sure you can understand.

Is it just a general discussion about all things, life in general, politics, holidays etc or is it primarily something a bit more flirtatious and that gets sexier towards the end of the evening?

I suspect I may get some 'smart' answers but I just don't want to turn up and get it wrong.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated."
I will just go over to a couple and ask 'Do you mind if I sit here' if they say yes just walk away. If they say no sit down introduce yourself I don't go into my life story or pry into others i just talk about the club etc. What other clubs they have been, talk about fab maybe ask what they are into. Generally with couples let them invite you to play but with single females you need to be more direct.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

Don't sit in a corner on your own. Unlikely anyone will approach you

Stand near the bar but don't get d*unk (very hard i know )

Smoking area is very good for chatting and making conversation.

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By *awksBoy OP Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Thanks - your replies are appreciated. I won't be getting d*unk as it's an non-alcoholic venue, I don't really drink and if I did I'd fall asleep and miss everything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best way to approach it is to think of it as a social meeting with the possibility of sex as a bonus. Accept that you probably won't get laid and think of yourself as being there to make friends. That should take the pressure off you and it will also, paradoxically, increase your chances of getting laid, because women are generally more attracted to men who are friendly rather than just looking to shag them. The difference between women in a swingers club and women in any old bar is that they are specifically there to have sex, so if you put yourself across as a friendly man you shorten the odds enormously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the best way to approach it is to think of it as a social meeting with the possibility of sex as a bonus. Accept that you probably won't get laid and think of yourself as being there to make friends. That should take the pressure off you and it will also, paradoxically, increase your chances of getting laid, because women are generally more attracted to men who are friendly rather than just looking to shag them. The difference between women in a swingers club and women in any old bar is that they are specifically there to have sex, so if you put yourself across as a friendly man you shorten the odds enormously."
See I just assume all the women want to have sex with me and it's whether I let them

No but seriously all it takes sometimes is a few seconds of courage and can lead to something great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't sit in a corner on your own. Unlikely anyone will approach you

Stand near the bar but don't get d*unk (very hard i know )

Smoking area is very good for chatting and making conversation.

This is very good advice, also bare in mind there will probably be a lot of other new people there too not just you. Treat it like a normal night out, be polite and sociable and you will soon lose any nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to follow the Sandhurst mess conversation rules and not discuss :

1. work

2. Religion

3. politics

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