FabSwingers.com forum: D*unkenness at clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does this hash anyone else off? Get tipsy by all means, but full on 'Belvoir Street, Leicester mode' is totally poor conduct if you ask me.

Rant over lol

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I haven't heard of that phrase before, but one of the main reasons we don't go to clubs is the behaviour of d*unk women in couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got way too d*unk at our first swingers club just 2 weeks ago.. not asshole d*unk just I'll d*unk. Nervous drinking but a mistake we won't make next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha I was referring to Saturday night out in town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We got way too d*unk at our first swingers club just 2 weeks ago.. not asshole d*unk just I'll d*unk. Nervous drinking but a mistake we won't make next time"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only witnessed it once and it put us off going to that particular club again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it a right of passage to get wasted and go clubbing as mush as our older selves look down on it now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Came across this last month at a club

Guys throwing up over some ladies boobs

A party of guys on stag do

Got thrown out but they didn't leave quietly!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have been known to over do the booze at a club and it didn't enhance my experience. I can only say that, as a poster above said, it was nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I;ve been d*unk at socials at clubs but that;s different as not looking to play (other than with people I already know) but other than that even in the days I drank a lot I never really saw swing clubs as the place to get hammered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With regard to consent I dont think its a good idea for anyone to be too d*unk in a club, male or female.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think that any good club keeps and eye on the people so they don't get too d*unk, and are prepared to intervene so they don't get anymore d*unk if they have had too much.....

for me it comes down to something very simple...

d*unk aint sexy!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

d*unk people get on my tits anywhere they are and i tend to avoid them at all costs anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think Xmas is particularly bad for it, all the seasonal alcoholics

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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago

Here, There & Everywhere

As a party organiser who takes the safety of our guests very seriously, guests reaction to me asking them to slow down on their alcohol intake, always amazes me

Guests that have had 'one too many' cause so many issues

Not only do they run the risk of causing upset or annoyance to other guests, but they are potentially putting themselves at risk

Ladies who are d*unk are not in a position to give consent to sex and with this in mind it means that staff/security spend more time watching out for their welfare (and that of our male guests too to prevent any allegations of sexual assault/rape)

Lets not forget the additional issue of mood swings that often goes hand in hand with too much alcohol

I am never scared of having a courageous conversation with any guest if their behaviour is in breech of our rules but when alcohol is the issue it often results in me being called a party pooper

However my main concern is guests safety and if that means me challenging behaviour/refusing to serve alcohol then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We visited our first club a while ago, and my wife had a bottle of wine first to calm her nerves. We ended up having a domestic, which wasn't ideal. Next time we go we'll stick to soft drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think that any good club keeps and eye on the people so they don't get too d*unk, and are prepared to intervene so they don't get anymore d*unk if they have had too much.....

for me it comes down to something very simple...

d*unk aint sexy!!!"

It really isn't sexy, and if you're d*unk you won't remember the fun either!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've seen some very d*unk people at a club. As previous posters have said, d*unk is definitely not sexy. I never drink at a club, usually because i'm driving, buy even if i wasn't i would only have one or two. I don't need alcohol to enjoy myself.

If you're that nervous you need plenty of Dutch courage then maybe you should make your first club visit a "non play" one like i did. Go for a look around and to get the feel of the club and to socialise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers all, good to know it's not just me being a moaning old git like Victor Meldrew. Maybe the couple involved will read this & feel silly for ruining my favourite riding crop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers all, good to know it's not just me being a moaning old git like Victor Meldrew. Maybe the couple involved will read this & feel silly for ruining my favourite riding crop

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Does this hash anyone else off? Get tipsy by all means, but full on 'Belvoir Street, Leicester mode' is totally poor conduct if you ask me.

Rant over lol

I sometimes like d*unken sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do get quiye tipsy at the club I visit regularly but as I predominantly go for the social side and don't and sit in the same location week in week out don't think it's a problem I have seen loud and aggreeds I've d*unks at clubs though but they are soon ejected by staff

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I sometimes like d*unken sex! "

I agree, but I'm sure you'd agree that a club with a stranger is not the circumstance...

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By *adysilkCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"With regard to consent I dont think its a good idea for anyone to be too d*unk in a club, male or female.

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agree it spoils the fun

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

There's a fine line for girls between Dutch courage, and sleepy, which is why I stay sober to always look after her x

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The only d*unks I've seen at clubs have been women. Different clubs.

Two were non consensual groping some poor guy and one was berating her other half for spoiling her fun. Then tried to get me to agree with her. Yuck.

Never seen a drink male, maybe they're too worried about poor performance to risk it lol

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

I sometimes like d*unken sex!

I agree, but I'm sure you'd agree that a club with a stranger is not the circumstance..."

I don't go to clubs

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It's mainly pissed women I have seen some men get pissed up

Sometimes the couple does get aggressive with bar staff when they say no more drinks - for me I keep away from really pissed people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does this hash anyone else off? Get tipsy by all means, but full on 'Belvoir Street, Leicester mode' is totally poor conduct if you ask me.

Rant over lol

Also illegal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer going to clubs in the day cus then there is rarely any people d*unk there. Hate it in the evening at chams when people often seem to be d*unk and are so loud and spoil it ! Never seen anyone d*unk at city celts though although we have never been there after 9pm yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does this hash anyone else off? Get tipsy by all means, but full on 'Belvoir Street, Leicester mode' is totally poor conduct if you ask me.

Rant over lol

Also illegal"

It's not illegal to get d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though "

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I was guilty of it Friday. Dnt do it very often but didn't embarrass myself. However did lose my shoes. Have no idea were they are. Enjoy them whoever took them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we chose not to play with people who seem to have d*unk too much, we don't see much d*unken behaviour in the clubs we go to anyway thank goodness, m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we chose not to play with people who seem to have d*unk too much, we don't see much d*unken behaviour in the clubs we go to anyway thank goodness, m x"

I dnt often play. Its more social for me. Normally have my fun with an FB in afternoon. Dnt drink with him as think its disrespectful when meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good news, I have managed to source an exact replica of my ruined crop, but in blue

which is in-fitting with my profile

She's also managed to sort a few other things for me which I hope to be breaking in at Libs on the 30th

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think that any good club keeps and eye on the people so they don't get too d*unk, and are prepared to intervene so they don't get anymore d*unk if they have had too much.....

for me it comes down to something very simple...

d*unk aint sexy!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need to drink heavily to swing then you're not cut out for swinging as far as I'm concerned. I always find it odd how many people cant seem to have an experience without it also involving , , ecstasy and all manner of other drugs.

And I am by no means an anti-drugs type (I think they should all be legalized TBH) but I really do wonder about the people who claim that they're all about the lifestyle and yet cant partake in it without liquor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to drink heavily to swing then you're not cut out for swinging as far as I'm concerned. I always find it odd how many people cant seem to have an experience without it also involving , , ecstasy and all manner of other drugs.

I can assure you if I was meeting you my head would be perfectly clear and not a drop of alcohol would pass my lips

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

You'd be suprised at how many of these people have been victims of sexual assault or rape and really want to be able to do it without dutch courage but can't. I've spoken to at least 5 people in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had an awful experience of this earlier in the year.

We put up a post that we were attending get a club and this couple got in touch. They were really nice and when we arrived and saw them at the club they both looked great and we got on really well with them. That was until they, over the course of a two hour period, managed to consume a litre bottle of vodka, each!!

We have never seen anything like it, and have never seen anyone turn so ugly so quick!!

The woman turned into the biggest tart we'do ever seen, and not in a good way either, and as for the guy.... Mr Tickle springs to mind!!

We spent the next two hours desperately trying to avoid them and eventually left early.

The next morning we were informed they had been thrown out of the club after assaulting another guest and some members of staff.

The moral here is, d*unk and swinging is not good and needless to say we never play with anyone who has consumed too much alcohol.

Oh, and to top it off, they left a shitty review of the club then left fab!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had an awful experience of this earlier in the year.

We have never seen anything like it, and have never seen anyone turn so ugly so quick!!

The woman turned into the biggest tart we'do ever seen, and not in a good way either, and as for the guy.... Mr Tickle springs to mind!!

We spent the next two hours desperately trying to avoid them and eventually left early.

The next morning we were informed they had been thrown out of the club after assaulting another guest and some members of staff.

The moral here is, d*unk and swinging is not good and needless to say we never play with anyone who has consumed too much alcohol.

Oh, and to top it off, they left a shitty review of the club then left fab!!! "

This sounds very familiar and may be same couple that we saw on a party night at a club. Horrible couple but started really nice. Am sure its not a coincidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk"

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk" "

Yeah you can't tell at all when he's d*unk there's no change in him don't know why he bothers.

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham

Drinking is fine at clubs, and don't have a problem with a few drinks to help relax someone a little, but I do find it annoying when d*unkenness becomes loud and obnoxious behaviour, rudeness or pushiness.

Sadly, we do see these things quite a lot but thankfully only from a very small percentage of couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk"

Yeah you can't tell at all when he's d*unk there's no change in him don't know why he bothers.

Its my rocket fuel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk"

Yeah you can't tell at all when he's d*unk there's no change in him don't know why he bothers.

Its my rocket fuel

I'd hate to see you on Red Bull all evening then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think that any good club keeps and eye on the people so they don't get too d*unk, and are prepared to intervene so they don't get anymore d*unk if they have had too much.....

for me it comes down to something very simple...

d*unk aint sexy!!!"

Agreed, nothing worse than someone legless at a club or party, spoil it for anyone having to look after them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk"

Yeah you can't tell at all when he's d*unk there's no change in him don't know why he bothers.

Its my rocket fuel

I'd hate to see you on Red Bull all evening then

Couldnt pay me to drink that stuff lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it a right of passage to get wasted and go clubbing as mush as our older selves look down on it now lol"

Yea totally get you, weve both been too d*unk to get dirty lol, for us you get to that point where a few drinks and you turn into porn stars ha, a few too many and you just chat crap and want to go home

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get steaming d*unk but I am a nice d*unk so people don't even notice

some people should stick to pop from what I've seen though

Isn't that what everyone thinks when they're d*unk?

Probably but people always tell me they "didnt think i was d*unk"

Yeah you can't tell at all when he's d*unk there's no change in him don't know why he bothers.

Its my rocket fuel

I'd hate to see you on Red Bull all evening then

Couldnt pay me to drink that stuff lol "

How dare you lol It's a vital part of my anatomy xD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drive if I go to a club so soft drinks for me. And even if I didn't I'd still keep a clear head and do without. Nowt worse then a pissed up person stinking of booze all over the shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever we've visited clubs I've been the driver so never an issue. Drink and sex is a dangerous cocktail. Far better to go to clubs midweek when they are less rammed with revellers who have basically got snorted.

I do remember back in our early days of swinging most clubs we're not licensed to sell alcohol so you could only consume what you brought. I was driving anyway so never a real problem for us.

Has that changed now with most clubs now having a license ? Can imagine now that if a lot of these clubs now have licenses to sell alcohol that their problems with d*unk people in sexual situations has risen.

Drink, Alcohol, sex, jealousy. Not a good recipe.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

Good job you didn't see us last night Mr Grey. You'd be very upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink, Alcohol, sex, jealousy. Not a good recipe."

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

its not just d*unks ...its the drugs /pot smokers who stink...but clubs let them get away with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good job you didn't see us last night Mr Grey. You'd be very upset

You always upset me. What did you call me that time? 'Dickhead' I seem to recall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well damn thats an interesting point

but after such an experience...is swinging the wisest decision???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not wise at all. explains all the fucked in the head swingers tho

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We've seen it, very rarely though. It's not a good thing at all, but not a huge widespread problem in our experience.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

yeah its crap, we now curtail our playing after a certain time,in a certain club, otherwise we have found, because im in sub mode, d*unk people think im sub to the world, don't ask to touch, interrupt and are generally out of order..especially women i have to say.

its not attractive and it ruins our fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not just d*unks ...its the drugs /pot smokers who stink...but clubs let them get away with it"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not just d*unks ...its the drugs /pot smokers who stink...but clubs let them get away with it

Totally agree "

I've known people being asked to leave clubs because they're d*unk. However, I've complained in the past about someone being completely out of their face on drugs and was told because they hadn't seen the person do it there was nothing they could do. Even though they were pacing up and down the club, chewing their fingers etc. It was highly unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not just d*unks ...its the drugs /pot smokers who stink...but clubs let them get away with it

Totally agree

I told you i was just nervous

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"not wise at all. explains all the fucked in the head swingers tho "

Seems abit harsh to say they are fucked in the head just because they were unfortunate enough to fall victim to a rapist/abuser.

well damn thats an interesting point

but after such an experience...is swinging the wisest decision???"

Possibly not but people deal with things in different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons we are loath to attend a club on NYE this year is the carnage we've seen at clubs caused by revellers especially on NYE! We wish people who want to celebrate seeing in the new year by getting d*unk and partying too hard would just not go to swinger clubs on the night and just go to the pub etc instead, those of us who want to see the new year in with naughty friends being naughty they would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of the reasons we are loath to attend a club on NYE this year is the carnage we've seen at clubs caused by revellers especially on NYE! We wish people who want to celebrate seeing in the new year by getting d*unk and partying too hard would just not go to swinger clubs on the night and just go to the pub etc instead, those of us who want to see the new year in with naughty friends being naughty they would be great

And there was me looking forward to nye

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love a drink, are regular drinkers, dont end up in a mess or create situations and would no longer visit a club if alcohol was banned there.

But then again, we dont always go to clubs for aex, sometimes, its just to socialise over a drink with some friendly faces ..

Perhaps the way you view the club experience makes a difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just at clubs that i avoid d*unk people.

I avoid them everywhere.

I do drink but never get d*unk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not just d*unks ...its the drugs /pot smokers who stink...but clubs let them get away with it"

Our last vist to one of our localish clubs put us off ever going there again, firstly a d*unk woman in a dark room having a threesome, it wasn't immediately clear she was d*unk, one of the males we presumed was her partner told the other male to "put it up her arse" no lube nothing and caused her a huge amount of pain, when she got up she could barely stand through drink. Saw her about 30 minutes later drinking at the bar, talking to the bar staff and getting touched up by another 2 men.

Following later there was a strong aroma of , which we were told was the owner smoking in the kitchen area. Yet the review section sings it's praises

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Well I was guilty of it Friday. Dnt do it very often but didn't embarrass myself. However did lose my shoes. Have no idea were they are. Enjoy them whoever took them. "

I'll bring them back to you

Wrong size

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

Get steaming regular but conduct is always sensible

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