FabSwingers.com forum: Mobile phones in clubs

By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Visited a well known club last night and was shocked to see so many people, who I'm sure were regulars, on their phones in the bar and them taking them up to the playrooms. Staff were obviously aware so I didn't see the need to mention it but it really left me uncomfortable. Is it so hard to put it in your locker and leave it there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Visited a well known club last night and was shocked to see so many people, who I'm sure were regulars, on their phones in the bar and them taking them up to the playrooms. Staff were obviously aware so I didn't see the need to mention it but it really left me uncomfortable. Is it so hard to put it in your locker and leave it there?"

All the clubs we've ever been to strictly enforce this...we wouldn't visit any club that didn't and I'm sure most people would be the same

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

I have seen photograps on profiles here which were clearly taken in clubs, som of whic I visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive seen photos being taken and often with permission from both staff and those in the room.

Although sure plenty take photos in private rooms too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

using a phone to take a photo with full consent of the club owner and the people in the photo is fine by us.....using a phone to share a number is fine too....but walking around with phones out is not cool at all, I would complain to the club staff and expect them to tackle the issue directly there and then, m x

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Phones are very easy to hide down your boxers or in clutch bags Most clubs explain the rules of no phones in clubs but any rule can only be inforced by club members reporting such incidents as its hard to be everywhere all the time in a large club. At amours staff use phones at the bar to update statues and reply to emails and social media. All non private areas are covered by CCTV and this is checked all the time. As a members club it's important that all members also inforce the rules ......if members point out any rule breaking then it adds to the night. Though it does help when the facts as actually correct and not made up

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Made up?

I'm not quite sure what you're insinuating here but we did report it and the other issues we had there last night while we were there. I know what I saw, and I saw a lot of people with their phones on them

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By *hirazxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I attended this club on the said night and I didn't see anyone with their phones upstairs in public areas.

What you are doing here is very similar to being an internet troll.

What ever happened to having fun in a club and reporting any unwanted incidents straight away. Once you have left the club without saying anything to staff, you may as well be consenting to the behaviour yourself.

Lesson is if your not happy with someone's behaviour report it for the safety of all the service users safety.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Okay so along with the shitty inboxes I've had to answer I'll say this again, we reported what went on with the single guys to the blonde woman who was on the bar all nighthe, we didnt leave and say nothing, we reported it!!! Also love, that's great for you but we saw atleast 4 people ( not staff ) with their phones out

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

This is where the facts are fake. The blonde lady who you complained too all night only came to the club at 11.30 luckily the CCTV says that you spoke to her once when you left . The only inboxes were asking who you reported the incident to as the CCTV and staff say a completely different story. I'm sorry that you feel you had a rubbish night but will defend the facts if they are incorrect.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

We arrived there at around 11 and she was already there. We reported what had gone on as we were leaving because we weren't going to stay as it had ruined the night for us. We spoke to her atleast 3 times at the bar before we even went upstairs so your cctv you claim to have is wrong pal. Arranging meets or not, it's not on for phones to be out and being used in a club area where people are dressed down ect

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"This is where the facts are fake. The blonde lady who you complained too all night only came to the club at 11.30 luckily the CCTV says that you spoke to her once when you left . "

Think you misunderstood what the OP wrote.

She didn't say she complained all night to the lady at the bar but she complained to the woman that was at the bar all night.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I'm actually shocked at the attitude of staff at Amour, we had a bad incident with some single guys which we reported to the bar staff and the guy who says he is security. We felt Ill at ease by the mobiles we saw floating round the club and left you an honest review and we're called liars, I'm having shitty inboxes from your staff and regulars and your story changes. In an inbox the bar staff claims we never spoke to her and now apparently we did before we left, which is it? Because I can tell you for a fact, after our night was ruined we got changed, reported what had happened and went home. So much for customer service

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

You said u spoke to her three times. Now your saying you spoke to her when you left ? ..... Reviews have to be based on fact. We except all reviews that are constructive and use them to improve the club but take exception when the facts arnt correct

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I did speak to her 3 times, I'm also saying I only spoke to her regarding what went on before we left because it had happened within 10 minutes of us getting ready to leave. If shes saying we didn't report what happened then that's a lie

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

And I was saying it's you who have changed your story. It's you who said in an inbox the she claimed we didn't speak to her then you claim on here we only did once before we left. I said we did atleast 3 times the latter reporting what had happened before we left because it had happened about 10 minutes before.

It seems to me either she's lying to cover her arse for not doing her job properly or you're just not acknowledging it. Like I said we got there well before 11:30 and she was already at the bar. The way you've handled a customer complaint with bullying tactics and lies is disgusting

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

She wasn't there at 11.30

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very poor customer service. Club has been noted, not identified by OP! Shall avoid like the plague.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"She wasn't there at 11.30 "

She was because she served us our drinks and we arrived long before 11:30 pal

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By *aysmitMan
over a year ago

walsall

If you report am issue you would expect some positive feedback I mustvsay I agree with the OP

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I would like to add I have spoken to another member of staff and she was fab about the whole thing, not unlike this bullying peice of work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no issue with phones were all adults and people should be respectful in clubs I have children and I need to check in reg with sitters and I may need to be contacted and obviously my sitters knows nothing if what I'm up too!!!

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By *lub Rouge ManchesterCouple
over a year ago

manchester

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

We've spoken to both Joanne the blonde tattoo demon who messaged you plus black demon the security guy that night None of them were spoken to by the Op about any incident We were that concerned by what was claimed we re ran the CCTV and saw nothing We double checked with 7/8 well respected swingers that were there that night and they said they saw nothing and would have as it wasn't a very busy night for a Friday due to the. Boxing at the arena We have agree that the door (that does have a one way security buzzer )does get left open or not closed on purpose by smokers who use the smoking garden Other than ban smoking it's hard to make sure members close the door as the sign clearly says However the area is covered by 2 seperate cctv cameras for security ( not that in 3 years we have had to use it ) We understand your review is your personal opinion and we have always taken constructive comments to make the club better I only messaged to say when investigated what you had said it was not what staff members had reported. Not every night is great. Even I have nights where no one wants to play with me .... Thankfully it's not often. I hope you come back on a busy night. We pride ourselves on a busy vibrant night club type swingers environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've spoken to both Joanne the blonde tattoo demon who messaged you plus black demon the security guy that night None of them were spoken to by the Op about any incident We were that concerned by what was claimed we re ran the CCTV and saw nothing We double checked with 7/8 well respected swingers that were there that night and they said they saw nothing and would have as it wasn't a very busy night for a Friday due to the. Boxing at the arena We have agree that the door (that does have a one way security buzzer )does get left open or not closed on purpose by smokers who use the smoking garden Other than ban smoking it's hard to make sure members close the door as the sign clearly says However the area is covered by 2 seperate cctv cameras for security ( not that in 3 years we have had to use it ) We understand your review is your personal opinion and we have always taken constructive comments to make the club better I only messaged to say when investigated what you had said it was not what staff members had reported. Not every night is great. Even I have nights where no one wants to play with me .... Thankfully it's not often. I hope you come back on a busy night. We pride ourselves on a busy vibrant night club type swingers environment "

Great response... throw in free entry for her and her partner or free drinks on their next visit and you might have a customer for life.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

I can't beleive both are claiming we didn't report what happened. The incident happened and within 10 minutes we got changed to leave and went to the bar to have a word about it then we went home, she seemed confused and was asking why we didn't report it when it happened and my husband told her it had not long gone on. You need a better look at your staff because they obviously arnt doing their job properly and what's worrying was what if something serious had have happened, would she still be claiming I hadn't reported it then? I'm not really bothered what your regulars say they did or didn't see, both me and my husband know what happened,and we known what we saw. The phones are an annoying issue because arranging meets or not they shouldn't be out in a dress down area, but to have single guys banging on a window with a log of force and howling was at the time a bit scary for me, and it's saddening to know your so called security and bar staff deny this being reported. Your customer service both here at the club and in inboxes are seriously lacking and you should probably go do some training on people skills

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Also werther anyone wanted to play with us or not is irrelevant so I'm not sure why you decided to throw that one in

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By *hirazxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

This has all become a bit silly. The single guys were not violent towards you. They were behind the window. I to was behind the window watching and you both was nice to watch therefore you succeeded in getting the guys excited.

I think this argument has gone on far to long. Call it a day and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the clubs we've ever been to strictly enforce this...we wouldn't visit any club that didn't and I'm sure most people would be the same"

i agree

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

We wernt bothered about being watched, what we were bothered about was the banging on the window and howling, it was rather rude and forceful and we have the right, being watched or not, to be ableft to play without that kind of behavior. It bothered us enough to make a complaint and we were happy to leave it there. What was silly was that we were accused of being liars and not even reporting it to staff when we did. The attitude surrounding it was absolutely disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wernt bothered about being watched, what we were bothered about was the banging on the window and howling, it was rather rude and forceful and we have the right, being watched or not, to be ableft to play without that kind of behavior. It bothered us enough to make a complaint and we were happy to leave it there. What was silly was that we were accused of being liars and not even reporting it to staff when we did. The attitude surrounding it was absolutely disgusting"

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I just want to add to this.....

I have pics taken very obviously in a well known club. This is not because they allow cams in - its because I work there behind the bar and they are taken when the club is not open.

I would never want anyone to think this could be a problem at Cupids

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By *parkle7Woman
over a year ago

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I too have never seen cameras in clubs.....and I am a regular in both Cupids n amours

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

The responses here from the club are shocking . Deal with the issues rather than start a war with an upset couple ! And from the sound of it they had all right to be upset ! Crikey if that's your response on here how on earth do you ensure people's safety !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"We have no issue with phones were all adults and people should be respectful in clubs I have children and I need to check in reg with sitters and I may need to be contacted and obviously my sitters knows nothing if what I'm up too!!! "

We also have kids and we check our phone, but there is a time and a place. Generally I'll go to the toilet or leave it in my locker and just do a quick screen check.

Taking it out in a public area would cause concern for us. If people want to play privately and take photos of each other then if they all concent that is a different matter.

Clubs can't police what goes on in private.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"The responses here from the club are shocking . Deal with the issues rather than start a war with an upset couple ! And from the sound of it they had all right to be upset ! Crikey if that's your response on here how on earth do you ensure people's safety !"

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

We ensure peoples safety by have vigilant staff. A no phone policy. Up to date cctv and great members that also monitor the rules ( it's a members club ) luckily our reviews that are genuine back it up. And that's why amour is one of the busiest vibrant clubs in the north west

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

"How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv "

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

If I complain to tescos via Twitter, i'd expect them to say sorry for your experience contact us via email or on the phone or in person and we will investigate the issue. Not have Sam on the till tweet back that I am wrong or Joe in the queue say they saw nothing.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO. "

This

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

Unfortunately, it's the sign of the times with the modern technology and things going viral, can disrupt people's lives. Case in point: 3 of my colleagues who work for a well known retailer, were subjected to a malicious complaint to the company via Facebook by a member of the public, which were all lies and went viral. My colleagues were subjected to an investigation and suffered a lot of stress from it: fear of losing their jobs and the treatment they received from other members of staff. The investigation was eventually dropped, but my colleagues never received any support from the company nor an apology.

If a member of the public has a complaint against any company, it should be handled in private, not in a public sphere where innocent people can get hurt.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO. "

this.

All that should have been said was sorry your night was spoiled we will look into it and take any action that is appropriate and hope you will give us another visit in the future, instead of publically calling the couple liars.

This bickering hasn't shown the club and their customer service in a good light.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

My whole point. No just leaving one review. But leaving 2 from different accounts. Then starting a post after we had privately messaged them as we were concerned by the aiergstions. The club investigated and found nothing to back up what was claimed. Unless all the staff Door man and CCTV were wrong .... Then when we said we had investigated and could find no evidence we were blocked. As a club we defend our corner and our members If we're wrong we put outer hands up. As we have done before. Pity this site won't allow to post pictures within the forum

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By *nicorn hunterCouple
over a year ago

beccles

"using a phone to take a photo with full consent of the club owner and the people in the photo is fine by us.....using a phone to share a number is fine too....but walking around with phones out is not cool at all, I would complain to the club staff and expect them to tackle the issue directly there and then, m x"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

this.....

it does seem like there is some serious wagon circling going on... and one or two people in this thread are not helping the reputation of the club by answering in the manner they are...

sometimes they think they are defending and helping.... they are not and it looks like bullying.....

so is it a place i would be more or less likely to visit now after seeing this thread..... the answer is not more!

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

We didn't lie, we were upset by the behaviour of some single men and reported it, we were shocked by the use of mobile phones in dress down areas and voiced our opinion. Like I said I'm not bothered what your regulars say they did or didn't see, we know what happened and who we spoke to. Your staff are liars and you yourself are argumentative and bullying. You can keep saying your cctv caught nothing, because ofcoarse instead of just apologising for what went on you don't want your club to be seen in a bad light so are calling us liars. That's no skin off my nose, we just won't be revisiting. We've been on the club scene for years and have never ever had to leave a bad review for a club before. It could just have been taken as constructive criticism but instead you've shown yourselves up and acted like playground bullies. I applaud you on that one, well done

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

this.....

it does seem like there is some serious wagon circling going on... and one or two people in this thread are not helping the reputation of the club by answering in the manner they are...

sometimes they think they are defending and helping.... they are not and it looks like bullying.....

so is it a place i would be more or less likely to visit now after seeing this thread..... the answer is not more!

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Also we blocked you because you were just as bullying and awful to deal with in messages as you have been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on loads of venues in the UK (not the one in thread)

Is it even possible or realistic to ask clubs have:

Door staff with airport style hand held scanners.

Small lockers with keys.

A sign saying all phones left at owners risk.

Zero tolerance on mobile phones, mobile phone equals no entry.

We seem to remember xstasia being really hot on this at one phukt event, we were asked if we had a phone and told if we do put it in the huge wardrobes/cloakroom that were never left unattended. Our bags were searched. We weren't given a choice, and it was made clear no entry with a phone. Which we totally agree with and shows a properly run club.

We don't know if people realise this, it is possible to breath if you don't have your mobile phone with you.

As for needing to call childminders etc, go to the locker check your phone, put it back. If your need to have your phone on you outweighs being in a club, then don't enter the club.

Every club we have been to we ask either for a locker or the club to look after our phones. They always say yes. We do this to stop them being stolen when clothing is left on the floor !!!!!

Given the recent major intrusions on privacy at major events, we would have thought lessons had been learned.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"My whole point. No just leaving one review. But leaving 2 from different accounts. Then starting a post after we had privately messaged them as we were concerned by the aiergstions. The club investigated and found nothing to back up what was claimed. Unless all the staff Door man and CCTV were wrong .... Then when we said we had investigated and could find no evidence we were blocked. As a club we defend our corner and our members If we're wrong we put outer hands up. As we have done before. Pity this site won't allow to post pictures within the forum "

and again..... responses like this are not helping!!!!!

you can continue the fight in public, or you could have resloved it privately!!!

the tescos analogy someone used earlier was absolutely perfect.....

belitting your customers doesn't tend to go down with people looking for a new place to go, because in the back of their mind a little piece if them will be thinking "if they do this to them want will they do to me if i don't have a good time!"

the only thing you have to gain by winning an arguement is losing a customer.....

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

and again..... responses like this are not helping!!!!!

you can continue the fight in public, or you could have resloved it privately!!!

the tescos analogy someone used earlier was absolutely perfect.....

the only thing you have to gain by winning an arguement is losing a customer....."

Thankyou, we have tried to sort it in private and the attitude was the same. This thread wasn't even meant to 'out them' or anything I was simply curious as to how common mobile phone use is in clubs as we'd never come across it before and beleive, arranging meets or not, it should be done in the locker rooms or toilets, not a dress down area. They jumped on the thread with their bullying tactics and outed themselves. We left an honest review as we do with every club we visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no hiding these days...... maybe ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so happy my local club doesn't handle customer complaints like this

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

and again..... responses like this are not helping!!!!!

you can continue the fight in public, or you could have resloved it privately!!!

the tescos analogy someone used earlier was absolutely perfect.....

the only thing you have to gain by winning an arguement is losing a customer....."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is where the facts are fake. The blonde lady who you complained too all night only came to the club at 11.30 luckily the CCTV says that you spoke to her once when you left . The only inboxes were asking who you reported the incident to as the CCTV and staff say a completely different story. I'm sorry that you feel you had a rubbish night but will defend the facts if they are incorrect. "
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"How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv "

Make your mind up?

One post you say the CCTV shows OP talking to staff once, then you claim it shows nothing.

Terrible customer service.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

clearly a club to avoid!!! shocking

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Well that's Amour scratched off our list of clubs we will visit in the future

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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By *appyswingingMan
over a year ago

Altrincham

I was in last week and saw things that would make me think twice about going again. Men dressed upstairs. When I say dressed, shorts, tshirt, baseball hat. Looks dressed to me. I also had men twice opening the couples room door wanting to come in. They all know the rules. I suppose you could say I should have gone and said something to management. But why should I? It's not up to me to police the club. If the general vibe is that it's ok to come in an do that then me reporting it is not going to make any difference.

It used to be good in there.

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By *ature-maleMan
over a year ago

wirral

dont normal comment in forums.

but here you say she didn't arrive until 11.30, yet in another reply you say she wasn't there at 11.30.

make you mind up

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"I was in last week and saw things that would make me think twice about going again. Men dressed upstairs. When I say dressed, shorts, tshirt, baseball hat. Looks dressed to me. I also had men twice opening the couples room door wanting to come in. They all know the rules. I suppose you could say I should have gone and said something to management. But why should I? It's not up to me to police the club. If the general vibe is that it's ok to come in an do that then me reporting it is not going to make any difference.

It used to be good in there. "

Brave man.

I'm sure the club will be along soon to call you a liar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want to add to this.....

I have pics taken very obviously in a well known club. This is not because they allow cams in - its because I work there behind the bar and they are taken when the club is not open.

I would never want anyone to think this could be a problem at Cupids

Been a few times and never seen a phone except in changing room.

Cannot believe the row this has turned into. Terrible for management/ staff to argue with a customer in public like this. Not taking sides, wasn't there and not likely to be in the future!!!

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over a year ago

"How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always carry mine were ever I am not for any other reason than if kids need to get hold of us but always on silent in pocket never in hand unless I go outside to answer it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe one club asks people to hand their phones over before entry.

I have at clubs and parties seen people wandering around with phones and I have had a couple of arguments about it. The usual reply being what is your problem.

My immediate concern is the proliferation of smart watches at clubs that have video capability.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr SnT had his shoes stolen at amours whilst we were getting dressed in the changing room!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always carry mine were ever I am not for any other reason than if kids need to get hold of us but always on silent in pocket never in hand unless I go outside to answer it "

Assuming they are old enough to be left on their own, you don't need your phone in your pocket in the club. If they are with a baby sitter then equally you don't need your phone in your pocket.

If your need is so profound you need to be constantly available, then don't go into an place where you should not have a phone.

There can be no grey areas when it comes to phones in clubs. Just like dog owners, every single one will tell you their dog doesn't shit on the pavement, yet somehow there is shit on the pavement.

How does your conversation go ?

"Hi mom, Jonny's the saucepan stuck on his head again"

"OK sweet heart, just as soon as I've finished the gang bang I'll be home with a packet of lard"

When we ran our own night, we heard every excuse could think of, and then some. Our reply was simple, you choose your phone or coming in. As far as we know, no one died.

Never had a problem with phones though at the event.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

I have no problem with people having a phone on their person once they're not pulling it out in the club.

To give you a scenario: Couple leaves their kid with a sitter, goes to the club, leaves phone at reception and decides to check it every hour.

Kid gets ill and vomits. Sitter calls the mum. No answer. Calls the dad, again no answer. Kid vomits again, sitter is getting worried. Calls the mum and dad, no answer. Kid is bawling and vomiting like something from the exorcist, sitter is having a panic attack. Can't get in contact with the parents, doesn't know whether to ring the hospital etc.

Parent comes back after an hour to check their phone. 20 missed calls, 30 texts, kid in hospital and they need a new babysitter.

All of that could have been avoided by a discreet buzzing in the pocket of one of parents who could then nip outside and take the call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one needs a phone when they go to a swinging club. Respect the rules or don't go. I hate the arrogance of people who assume that the rules don't apply to them

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"No one needs a phone when they go to a swinging club. Respect the rules or don't go. I hate the arrogance of people who assume that the rules don't apply to them"

What would your solution be then for couples with young kids?

For what it's worth we don't have young kids but can imagine it's a nightmare for those that do.

I really don't see a problem if someone has a phone in their pocket but doesn't use it in the club. I wouldn't even know it's there.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"I believe one club asks people to hand their phones over before entry.

I have at clubs and parties seen people wandering around with phones and I have had a couple of arguments about it. The usual reply being what is your problem.

My immediate concern is the proliferation of smart watches at clubs that have video capability."

I do wear a smart watch sometimes, but I purposely bought the galaxy wear S that doesn't havnt a camera on it because let's face it, who needs a camera on their wrist? But yeah I understand the concern there

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

It used to be good in there. "

Careful, they'll be telling you soon they've checked cctv and there's nothing on there and the regulars said they didn't even see anything. They may even resort to saying you didn't arrive when you know you did and the staff you spoke to weren't there that night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one needs a phone when they go to a swinging club. Respect the rules or don't go. I hate the arrogance of people who assume that the rules don't apply to them

What would your solution be then for couples with young kids?

For what it's worth we don't have young kids but can imagine it's a nightmare for those that do.

I really don't see a problem if someone has a phone in their pocket but doesn't use it in the club. I wouldn't even know it's there. "

There is no "solution" you either abide by the rules or you don't go clubbing. It's up to people to decide which of those options they choose.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Makes you wonder how people survived 20 odd years ago before the mobile phone

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By *inglesCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

We allow members to have their phones on them, or in lockers whilst in the club BUT they must be switched off at all times!

They may go outside or in the toilets to call or check texts and then turn the phone off again (not on silent, actually switched off) for those that have young children with babysitters or the odd time a relative is seriously ill and have to be contactable whilst in the club, they can leave their phone with me in reception and we check them every 20-30 minutes, the member tells me which names they need to know called and this is written on a piece of paper wrapped around the phone. If the phone goes off then I go and find them, they can then come into reception to check to see if it's actually an emergency.

This works well for us as we aren't a big club and the most phones we have had left with us is about 3 in any one night so no problem doing a quick check every half hour.

Allowing members to have phones on them and switched on would potentially be a problem as it's too easy to get your phone out and check it without realising that you are in a club and others may think you are taking pictures/video. Safer to have them off in our opinion x x

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"No one needs a phone when they go to a swinging club. Respect the rules or don't go. I hate the arrogance of people who assume that the rules don't apply to them

What would your solution be then for couples with young kids?

For what it's worth we don't have young kids but can imagine it's a nightmare for those that do.

I really don't see a problem if someone has a phone in their pocket but doesn't use it in the club. I wouldn't even know it's there. "

It is still possible, difficult but possible, to buy cheap phones that don't have a camera. I have one, it was about £7. So if I absolutely needed to have a phone on me I could use that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO. "

We go to a lot of clubs, and this isn't the type of attitude we'd ever want to see from staff, ever. Regardless of who is right.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"No one needs a phone when they go to a swinging club. Respect the rules or don't go. I hate the arrogance of people who assume that the rules don't apply to them

What would your solution be then for couples with young kids?

For what it's worth we don't have young kids but can imagine it's a nightmare for those that do.

I really don't see a problem if someone has a phone in their pocket but doesn't use it in the club. I wouldn't even know it's there. "

The same as parents did for years before mobile phones came along??

You leave them in the care of a capable adult who is able to deal with any issues that can arise with kids, like them being ill

If you can't be away from your phone for an hour, you shouldn't be in a club

If the sitter you have for kids, can't cope with something while you're not there, maybe you need to find another sitter?

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

Our first ever club visit ended with 30 plus missed calls and a child getting rushed to hospital with breathing issues.

Not a nice experience to end the night on.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"Our first ever club visit ended with 30 plus missed calls and a child getting rushed to hospital with breathing issues.

Not a nice experience to end the night on. "

And as horrible as that was, it happens.

And could have been the same if you were out for a meal in an area where there wasn't a good signal.

Or at the cinema with your phone switched on silent in your bag

Having young kids means if you are leaving them with a sitter, then you are leaving them in charge, in your absence

If you're really concerned about leaving them without contact for a couple of hours, get a better sitter or wait until they are older

Mobile phones shouldn't be used in certain circumstances

Inside clubs being one of them.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

"Our first ever club visit ended with 30 plus missed calls and a child getting rushed to hospital with breathing issues.

Not a nice experience to end the night on.

And as horrible as that was, it happens.

And could have been the same if you were out for a meal in an area where there wasn't a good signal.

Or at the cinema with your phone switched on silent in your bag

Having young kids means if you are leaving them with a sitter, then you are leaving them in charge, in your absence

If you're really concerned about leaving them without contact for a couple of hours, get a better sitter or wait until they are older

Mobile phones shouldn't be used in certain circumstances

Inside clubs being one of them.

Totally agree. It was a freak one off. We checked the phone 5 minutes before we missed the first call. It happens. Rules are rules and we still stick to them now.

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By *iRey OP Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

"Our first ever club visit ended with 30 plus missed calls and a child getting rushed to hospital with breathing issues.

Not a nice experience to end the night on.

And as horrible as that was, it happens.

And could have been the same if you were out for a meal in an area where there wasn't a good signal.

Or at the cinema with your phone switched on silent in your bag

Having young kids means if you are leaving them with a sitter, then you are leaving them in charge, in your absence

If you're really concerned about leaving them without contact for a couple of hours, get a better sitter or wait until they are older

Mobile phones shouldn't be used in certain circumstances

Inside clubs being one of them.

Totally agree. It was a freak one off. We checked the phone 5 minutes before we missed the first call. It happens. Rules are rules and we still stick to them now. "

I will go to and from the locker every hour or so and check my phone, only once when my daughter was recovering from an illness did I wear a smart watch but it doesn't have a camera on it so no way to record or take photos, but in general that stays at home and I leave my phone in my bag with the rest of my stuff

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By *appyswingingMan
over a year ago

Altrincham

I didn't post because I was asking to be proved right and my every word verified. I said posted because that's what happened. I don't care wether they ask regulars or strangers or look at cctv or not. I am not bothered.

It's not my problem but it will put others off for the same reason it puts me off and that eventually should help them feel there is something that needs addressing. Or maybe it doesn't. I am not bothered.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I just want to add to this.....

I have pics taken very obviously in a well known club. This is not because they allow cams in - its because I work there behind the bar and they are taken when the club is not open.

I would never want anyone to think this could be a problem at Cupids

Been a few times and never seen a phone except in changing room.

Cannot believe the row this has turned into. Terrible for management/ staff to argue with a customer in public like this. Not taking sides, wasn't there and not likely to be in the future!!!"

In truth you shouldn't ever see anyone in Cupids with a phone in their hand (unless they are in the changing room). If you do then report it to staff and the person will be dealt with appropriately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You guys should really have some compassion for people and their cell phone addictions. Some people don't know they have it and can't live without checking facebook every 5 minutes.

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I just want to add to this.....

I have pics taken very obviously in a well known club. This is not because they allow cams in - its because I work there behind the bar and they are taken when the club is not open.

I would never want anyone to think this could be a problem at Cupids

Been a few times and never seen a phone except in changing room.

Cannot believe the row this has turned into. Terrible for management/ staff to argue with a customer in public like this. Not taking sides, wasn't there and not likely to be in the future!!!

In truth you shouldn't ever see anyone in Cupids with a phone in their hand (unless they are in the changing room). If you do then report it to staff and the person will be dealt with appropriately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hope you phone users use condoms for safe texting...

Bareback Texting in clubs is just wreckless....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem with people having a phone on their person once they're not pulling it out in the club.

To give you a scenario: Couple leaves their kid with a sitter, goes to the club, leaves phone at reception and decides to check it every hour.

Parent comes back after an hour to check their phone. 20 missed calls, 30 texts, kid in hospital and they need a new babysitter.

All of that could have been avoided by a discreet buzzing in the pocket of one of parents who could then nip outside and take the call."

Many, many (actually not that many) years ago there was a time before mobile phones...there must've been a lot of kids admitted to hospital when parents went out, either that or life went on as normal without them

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By *LLY69Man
over a year ago

Gorey

"How can a club deal with an issue of a made up event ? Other club visitors on the same night have left the ususl great reviews and have said they saw nothing

Facts are. CCTV shows nothing. 3 bar staff saw nothing. 1 door staff saw nothing and 7 customers who have commented on here or on reviewes from the sane night saw nothing

The op is welcome to revisit the club and watch the cctv

I've no idea who is right or wrong. But generally if a complaint is made I'd asking staff and customers not to respond individually.

Having a public battle just does not look right.

Even ignoring a complaint looks better than a public battle.

Like I say the couple could be making it up, but its the wider impression that is harmful rather than one bad review.

IMHO. "

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

"I have no problem with people having a phone on their person once they're not pulling it out in the club.

To give you a scenario: Couple leaves their kid with a sitter, goes to the club, leaves phone at reception and decides to check it every hour.

Parent comes back after an hour to check their phone. 20 missed calls, 30 texts, kid in hospital and they need a new babysitter.

All of that could have been avoided by a discreet buzzing in the pocket of one of parents who could then nip outside and take the call.

Not that many years ago we didn't wear seat belts in cars. Just because we didn't use them in the past dosnt mean we shouldn't benefit from them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no problem with people having a phone on their person once they're not pulling it out in the club.

To give you a scenario: Couple leaves their kid with a sitter, goes to the club, leaves phone at reception and decides to check it every hour.

Parent comes back after an hour to check their phone. 20 missed calls, 30 texts, kid in hospital and they need a new babysitter.

All of that could have been avoided by a discreet buzzing in the pocket of one of parents who could then nip outside and take the call.

Not that many years ago we didn't wear seat belts in cars. Just because we didn't use them in the past dosnt mean we shouldn't benefit from them now. "

Agreed, but not every outing ends in disaster and it didn't then either

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

There has to be one rule for everyone

Otherwise every w*nk*r, when challenged in a club, will plead, "but what about the children; someone think of the children"; pathetic

Those who have children who they are so concerned about can open a 'mommy & daddy' club where people walk around with phones. I certainly don't want to be in a club where some tosser is waliking around wth one

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

A popular Scottish club room my phone and put it in a baggy in the cloak room with my identification on it. I really liked this system.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"There has to be one rule for everyone

Otherwise every w*nk*r, when challenged in a club, will plead, "but what about the children; someone think of the children"; pathetic

I haven't seen one person suggest that people could use phones inside a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We allow members to have their phones on them, or in lockers whilst in the club BUT they must be switched off at all times!

This works well for us as we aren't a big club and the most phones we have had left with us is about 3 in any one night so no problem doing a quick check every half hour.

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By *eyKMan
over a year ago

North

Won't be going to this club. Dreadful customer service, which looks to have backfired.

I'm a professional and I'm yet to visit a club for that reason. I feel very uneasy enjoying myself in public if there a camera phones around. All it takes is a leaked photo with my face in and that my career over. Why can't people go back and forth to the changing rooms to check their phones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new to clubs. Went to cupids last week and can't wait for next week. It was a great experience. We intend to try many clubs now. If we saw phones Willy nilly we would report it and it would put us off. Unfortunately some1 in every situation will try to take the piss. Club, Xmas play, plane ect. It will happen. You can't expect an establishment to see everything so it's down to normal decent people to help out. However the responses to the allegations, true or false are bang out of order and not how to conduct business. They have shot themselves in the foot I'm afraid and made themselves look silly and bullying. It's now put us off that club. We have complaints in our business, some false but we try to follow protocol not have a public argument especially when the Op didn't name the club originally. As far as phones are concerned you don't need them with you there are alternatives. They r a fiddle toy to some people and they simply can't operate without them in their hand. We are not embarrassed by being swingers we actually think we have found what we've been looking for, for years and intend to enjoy it to its fullest. However we can't afford to be outed because of our business. It may be embarrassing with family and friends but not the end of the world. We also have 3 kids so understand that position. However if there's a suspicion a child isn't well then don't go out or for peace of mind keep checking it in your locker or behind the bar or even simpler buy a smart watch or fitness watch. Most don't have cameras but link to your phone n notifies you of calls and texts. You can buy them for as little as £60. It is very very illegal now to publish pics without permission so I think every club should have numerous notices pointing this out. Any1 who uses a camera of any kind in such an environment without permission should be banned for life. It should be zero policy. Every1 should respect anothers right to privacy and anonymity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh, clearly dealing with a customer complaint with professionalism and courtesy.

Looks like my future visit is cancelled

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

My future visit is cancelled too. And I hadn't even planned to go there. I don't even know where they are. I hope I don't ever end up there by accident

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

in my local club, mobiles are only allowed in one specific entrance area so that people can take calls if they need to....

oh, and the "what happens if they need to call" emergency...

well our our local they can if they need to leave there mobile phone will the staff in reception.... and if they then get a call the staff will come round and find them....

simples.......

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham

At clubs like Chams it's a bit easier, as the phone goes in the locker, and we just check periodically to make sure there are no 'emergency' messages.

At a more 'dress to impress' type club (like most, seemingly) then I guess a no phone policy is harder to enforce

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we was at a club last friday and one single man was walking around with a camera watch he was holding is towel across the front of is abbs with is watch facing forward.

you may think he was just watching.

but i have sold and installed CCTV for many years and this man was recording.

we left the club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using phones in clubs and playrooms must be absolutely banned. One don't want to be on face book jacking or ding dong lol.

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By *obin_and_marionMan
over a year ago

Beaconsfield

"This thread must have people rushing to head to Amours and not because of the allegations but because of the responses

+1 +1

Has really got us wanting to visit... not

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

We have a strict no mobile phone policy and there are signs everywhere as well as everyone being told. Occasionally, someone will approach us and ask if they can take a pic in a private area with just them present and as long as we know about it and it's private, we are ok with it as it's in a controlled environment. Plus, many people have contacted us about seeing photos on profiles that have been taken in the club but many of these have been taken on our photography events, which are not swinging events but actual photoshoots where members can come and get pics taken.

Phones out in public areas during an event is a MASSIVE no no and if we catch anyone, they get my wrath! Nobody wants to be a swinging facebook celeb!

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