FabSwingers.com forum: Male to take/escort me to a club ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm looking to visit a club in the Glasgow or Edinburgh areas soonish but I'm not sure where yet or what's out there these days but my husband is not interested in joining me should I go solo or is it best to go with a male to escort me ?. I'd feel better in company as I've not been in ages. I visited violate and CJs with him years ago which was fun but I'm reluctant to go solo. Any advice and recommendations ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just grab the bull by the horn and go for it !! As a single male it's always daunting going to a club solo.so understand where your coming from. The worst part is walking through the door. I popped my club cherry at the attic in derby in the middle of the year. Went on a Friday night and had such a good night chatting and meeting new people (even though there was no play involved) I went back on the Saturday night too. And now going to give cjs a try tonight. And I'd imagine with your stunning looks you won't go short of admirers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally up to you. I wouldn't as I'm fiercely independent and don't like to rely on strangers for lifts. I don't like the idea of being stuck with a stranger all night, who will be expecting sex no mater what they say.

If you do go do your research well. Only pick someone experienced with clubs who has good veris that he behaves appropriately (everyone will assume you are a couple. If he's a prick then he's your prick) and make sure you have control of the locker key (a friend was left stranded in a club with no way to get home and no clothes when she turned a fella down)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice is this - go by yourself and tell the club staff that this is your first time attending on your own - I am quite shy but when I go to clubs by myself I have found the staff to be very helpful and I have lots of fun. m x

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

I can appreciate and understand your dilemma.

As much as you will be perfectly fine going in on your own.

That first time revisit can be a little daunting, so having that 'security blanket' of having someone with you gives you extra confidence when in the club.

There are most probably loads of men who would be happy to take you to the club (just in general and also looking at your profile and stunning collection of gorgeous photos).

Just make sure you have in your head beforehand what you have as expectations for the person.

Is it someone who you will consider playing with?

Will you want to go and play solo when in.

Will you want to play as a 'couple' with others.

Or are you just for the first time treating it almost as a social and finding your feet again with him as company only.

If the latter.. then will they have expectations to go and play solo otherwise.

I would personally say.

Finding the right person might be harder than going on your own.

But if it's someone you trust and they are happy to go along fully with your expectations for the night?

Then take them along.

Just make sure it is not someone who is going to use you to gain cheap entry and expect something out of it.

Or someone who will bugger off and leave you once in.

The other alternatives are.

Go to a social event the club is running.

Gets you back in the club to experience it on your own in a slightly different environment.

So you can go back again properly to enjoy yourself.

Or consider looking for a female club buddy or two?

I am sure there must be other single ladies who are in a similar position, who you can go along with as a group.

Without the attachment of whoever you took along.

Giving you more freedom and options.

Either way..

I am sure you will have a great time.

Clubs (as you remember) are so much fun.

From a social and fun point of view.

So get yourself back along and enjoy yourself.

xxx

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Totally up to you. I wouldn't as I'm fiercely independent and don't like to rely on strangers for lifts. I don't like the idea of being stuck with a stranger all night, who will be expecting sex no mater what they say.

Other alternative is to find the club you want to attend, check the reviews and find another single lady who's regular and ask if she'll take you under her wing. I've done this a couple of times for ladies and I'm sure you'll find someone will by to help you. Have fun

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Has your inbox melted yet OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single male her would love to escort ladys to clubs

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

"I'm looking to visit a club in the Glasgow or Edinburgh areas soonish but I'm not sure where yet or what's out there these days but my husband is not interested in joining me should I go solo or is it best to go with a male to escort me ?. I'd feel better in company as I've not been in ages. I visited violate and CJs with him years ago which was fun but I'm reluctant to go solo. Any advice and recommendations ?

I see on your profile that you travel around the UK a lot OP. If you fancy visiting a club in the West Midlands area next time you are down here I'd be more than happy to accompany you to one. I live local to xtasia in West Bromwich and chameleons in Darlaston, near Walsall.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If you do feel that a companion is the best solution, my advice is don't let it be the first time you meet them. You don't want to add more reasons for nerves.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd definitely recommend CJ's over After8 if you plan to go solo. CJ's restrict the numbers of single males, After8 don't and that can sometimes put people off.

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