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"Had the opportunity to visit a swing club for the first time recently, only to realise that it was very close to where I live, so I bottled it... Was that a wise move?? " What is it about the proximity that concerns you? Are you worried you'll meet someone you know in real life? | |||
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"Everyone is there for the same reason, so what's there to worry about." You say that, but we were at a club Saturday and I thought for a moment that I saw our next door neighbour (we were 40 miles from home!). It wasn't but we both agreed that if it had been them we would of crept out without being noticed! | |||
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"Everyone is there for the same reason, so what's there to worry about." Some people only go there for the articles. | |||
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"Everyone is there for the same reason, so what's there to worry about. Some people only go there for the articles. " Arf  | |||
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Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x"Exactly this xxx | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x"Love this xx | |||
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"I was sat in a pub once with my vanilla :-! At the time and some one shouted hey Tarzan.... ......awkward"That made me smile
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"Don't worry about it. Like it's been said we are all there for similar things so even if you do bump into your neighbor then so what. When we first went local we realised most were from afar. When we went to Chams 35 miles away we met loads from our neighbourhood. The further you go, the more you'll know ?? You'll love it. " Good point about more likely to be further away...Lol Libertys was next on my agenda! | |||
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"You are 46 and can't accommodate. You are looking for "discrete NSA fun". Is the reason you are scared of being recognised because you are married? Sally" Some people are so cynical, lol. | |||
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"You are 46 and can't accommodate. You are looking for "discrete NSA fun". Is the reason you are scared of being recognised because you are married? Sally Some people are so cynical, lol." embrace the lifestyle....wgaf..so what we are shaggers | |||
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"Next door neighbour is on here. You don't have to go to a club!" I hope they don't mind you telling everybody?  | |||
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"Next door neighbour is on here. You don't have to go to a club! I hope they don't mind you telling everybody? "thats handy | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x". Wonderful words and i would imagine generally true, but there is always an exception to the rule, we have recently found this out so whilst we ourselves would be discreet with an attitude of we are all here for the same reason and what's seen in a club stays in club, this is not always the case of how others would be, and some people really don't care that they have to out themselves to out you  believe me, we know this to be true, and it can change lives, we absoloutely wish that the world was more accepting, but it's not, and on the flip side it's actually more exciting having a secret  but yeah be careful, although we believe it doesn't matter where you go, the chance is always there to be taken, and don't always trust in others, they can be someone you never thought they were  Mrs blue eyes | |||
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"You are 46 and can't accommodate. You are looking for "discrete NSA fun". Is the reason you are scared of being recognised because you are married? Sally" He might be a carer for his elderly mother. He might have shared accommodation, or he might be married. Surely that's his business and his reasons for wanting discretion are his alone to be concerned with? | |||
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"You are 46 and can't accommodate. You are looking for "discrete NSA fun". Is the reason you are scared of being recognised because you are married? Sally He might be a carer for his elderly mother. He might have shared accommodation, or he might be married. Surely that's his business and his reasons for wanting discretion are his alone to be concerned with?" That would be true if he was a woman. As a single male profile, he's presumed to be a cheating bastard until he provides documentary evidence proving otherwise, in triplicate. | |||
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"Probably the safest place to go! Your neighbours will think the same as you and travel miles to another club!" | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x. Wonderful words and i would imagine generally true, but there is always an exception to the rule, we have recently found this out so whilst we ourselves would be discreet with an attitude of we are all here for the same reason and what's seen in a club stays in club, this is not always the case of how others would be, and some people really don't care that they have to out themselves to out you believe me, we know this to be true, and it can change lives, we absoloutely wish that the world was more accepting, but it's not, and on the flip side it's actually more exciting having a secret but yeah be careful, although we believe it doesn't matter where you go, the chance is always there to be taken, and don't always trust in others, they can be someone you never thought they were Mrs blue eyes " | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x"Agree to an extent but people have different privacy requirements. For example, take a young, single bloke (not picking on single guys here) who may be open with his mates about his sexual exploits and swinging being a good way of being active seeing his older, married with young kids, boss in a club. It could make great tearoom gossip for one of the parties whilst causing a lot of embarrassment, explanation to employers, family and friends for others. I still think the chances are slim but I don't think the possibility should be dismissed out of hand. | |||
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"Everyone is there for the same reason, so what's there to worry about. Some people only go there for the articles. " Very LOL, this will now be our default opening line should we be spotted. At the moment we couldn't bear the thought of meeting someone we know at one of our local clubs. Our logic is that if we make the effort to travel we're less likely to bump into someone we'd rather not. However if we did then it's obvious they've also made and effort to avoid the same situation and probably value their privacy as highly as we do. This obviously isn't bullet proof, time in the military and working with people from all over the country since does poke holes in this theory, but it's a percentage thing and we're trying to play the numbers. | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x
Agree to an extent but people have different privacy requirements. For example, take a young, single bloke (not picking on single guys here) who may be open with his mates about his sexual exploits and swinging being a good way of being active seeing his older, married with young kids, boss in a club. It could make great tearoom gossip for one of the parties whilst causing a lot of embarrassment, explanation to employers, family and friends for others.
I still think the chances are slim but I don't think the possibility should be dismissed out of hand." | |||
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"Everyone is there for the same reason, so what's there to worry about. Some people only go there for the articles. " Now that's funny. | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x
Agree to an extent but people have different privacy requirements. For example, take a young, single bloke (not picking on single guys here) who may be open with his mates about his sexual exploits and swinging being a good way of being active seeing his older, married with young kids, boss in a club. It could make great tearoom gossip for one of the parties whilst causing a lot of embarrassment, explanation to employers, family and friends for others.
I still think the chances are slim but I don't think the possibility should be dismissed out of hand. "Hmmmm, quite a good argument put forward there. Guess though vast as our community is there is always that scope of risk for being outed in the wrong way. x | |||
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"This is the bit about it that I (We) don't get. The swinging community is, by definition. Vast, very huge indeed and the chances of you bumping into a friend, neighbour,work colleague, God forbid a family member (it COULD happen)
Are at best slim....BUT there is that small chance.
Now......Do you make like a frightened rabbit and run away for fear of being noticed, OR....do you socialise and have a common ground to build on that your all/both comfortable with.
What's the options... They relax, have a few drinks and chat with you or they race home to tell neighbours, friends, work colleagues, family that they saw you in a swingers club....just to reiterate "They SAW you in a swingers club" are they REALLY going to expose their personal life that they want to keep secret just to expose yours.
Cos the only way THEY could have seen YOU is if they had been there themselves.
Quite simply.... Don't worry and if your recognised don't be embarrassed. Be proud of our community, we are unique in the fact we are open minded in what we do. x
Agree to an extent but people have different privacy requirements. For example, take a young, single bloke (not picking on single guys here) who may be open with his mates about his sexual exploits and swinging being a good way of being active seeing his older, married with young kids, boss in a club. It could make great tearoom gossip for one of the parties whilst causing a lot of embarrassment, explanation to employers, family and friends for others.
I still think the chances are slim but I don't think the possibility should be dismissed out of hand." | |||
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