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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was in a club and in toilet cubicle having a wee when lo and behold a 10inch mirror was slid underneath the door

When I ran outside it turned out to have been slid under by a transvestite who got onto the women's loos. When I confronted the person he laughed and apologised saying he thought i was his partne and he thought it would be a turn on! I went to complain to owner but the transvestite had vanished and the owner said he would "look into it but remember this is a swingers club after all my love".

Anyone else had a similar experience in a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. I wouldn't go back if that's how the staff react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which club OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was in a club and in toilet cubicle having a wee when lo and behold a 10inch mirror was slid underneath the door

When I ran outside it turned out to have been slid under by a transvestite who got onto the women's loos. When I confronted the person he laughed and apologised saying he thought i was his partne and he thought it would be a turn on! I went to complain to owner but the transvestite had vanished and the owner said he would "look into it but remember this is a swingers club after all my love".

Anyone else had a similar experience in a club? "

wtf is wrong with some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was in a club and in toilet cubicle having a wee when lo and behold a 10inch mirror was slid underneath the door

When I ran outside it turned out to have been slid under by a transvestite who got onto the women's loos. When I confronted the person he laughed and apologised saying he thought i was his partne and he thought it would be a turn on! I went to complain to owner but the transvestite had vanished and the owner said he would "look into it but remember this is a swingers club after all my love".

Anyone else had a similar experience in a club? "

The staff attitude is shit, it may be a swinging club but everyone has the right to privacy and respect and having a mirror slid under a cubicle toilet door is bang out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats an awful thing to do. Privacy is important. I wouldnt return to that club and i would leave a review saying why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rafrely ever go to clubs.

But I went with a couple I used to meet a lot (well his wife).

We went to a room, the room happened to have a small'ish window on it.

There must have been about 20 blokes stood huddled over the window a few of them were wanking.

That was pretty odd.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Should have pood on the mirror and let the creep retrieve that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why was he allowed in the ladies anyway?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was in Midlands but I was with a guy from the area. Not a club I would go to again however after that

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid


"Should have pood on the mirror and let the creep retrieve that "

Yeah but the mirror owner may have enjoyed that...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I was in a room with a fire exit the guy was lying on the bed and i was giving him a blowjob looked up and there was a guy stood watching he had sneaked up the fire escape

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I saw a couple making out in the pool at kestrels last week and a guy was stood on the side of the pool right above them wanking. I shouted across to them to warn of a possible impeding incoming. Very fucking creepy

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By *atinknickersWoman
over a year ago

bkackpool

Seriously anyone believe a bloke walks round with a huge mirror handy ???'

Really ???????

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden


"I saw a couple making out in the pool at kestrels last week and a guy was stood on the side of the pool right above them wanking. I shouted across to them to warn of a possible impeding incoming. Very fucking creepy "

This made me laugh, as whilest kissing a guy at kestrels, well more (middle of pool) this guy was constantly watching us an was so strange, an when I was swimming, he watching even more, but apparently an quote they can watch u do anything in a public place at a club!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"I saw a couple making out in the pool at kestrels last week and a guy was stood on the side of the pool right above them wanking. I shouted across to them to warn of a possible impeding incoming. Very fucking creepy

This made me laugh, as whilest kissing a guy at kestrels, well more (middle of pool) this guy was constantly watching us an was so strange, an when I was swimming, he watching even more, but apparently an quote they can watch u do anything in a public place at a club!"

I was once floating on the noodles in the middle of the pool alone (before they brought jay new rule in). A bloke walked in sat on the bench where towels go and started wanking watching me. I was floating around the pool ffs!!! Too many wankers too little time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were in a club one time ages ago and I made the mistake of leaving my wife alone in the sauna whilst I went to the loo.

In the few minutes I was gone this smelly fat d*unk old bloke cornered her and was most definitely not taking no for an answer.

He only backed off only when I returned. Thankfully it had not gotten to far out of control.

When I reported the incident to the club owners at the bar they burst out laughing saying he did it all the time but claimed he was harmless.

Amazingly his wife was also at the bar and she also found it hilarious.

We never returned and the club is now out if business. Thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to Kestrels once in the Summer, I layed on a sun lounger and this guy came and sat on the bed right next to me wanking and just staring at me! I tried putting a magazine over certain areas but he continued until I got up and he then followed me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rafrely ever go to clubs.

But I went with a couple I used to meet a lot (well his wife).

We went to a room, the room happened to have a small'ish window on it.

There must have been about 20 blokes stood huddled over the window a few of them were wanking.

That was pretty odd."

I think if there's a window in a room in a club you can expect it to be looked through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to Kestrels once in the Summer, I layed on a sun lounger and this guy came and sat on the bed right next to me wanking and just staring at me! I tried putting a magazine over certain areas but he continued until I got up and he then followed me "

I would have got up and gestured that he err? took a hike'.. well p off actually..

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden


"We went to Kestrels once in the Summer, I layed on a sun lounger and this guy came and sat on the bed right next to me wanking and just staring at me! I tried putting a magazine over certain areas but he continued until I got up and he then followed me

I would have got up and gestured that he err? took a hike'.. well p off actually..He is an quote again there aloud to stare, but don't think staff know if it's wanking aloud whilest that stare weather from a distance or not, only I was told several times this an my man I was with at the time got told it as well... u can stare, so be told lol an get over it he he last bit ment to be joke ,

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden


"I rafrely ever go to clubs.

But I went with a couple I used to meet a lot (well his wife).

We went to a room, the room happened to have a small'ish window on it.

There must have been about 20 blokes stood huddled over the window a few of them were wanking.

That was pretty odd.

I think if there's a window in a room in a club you can expect it to be looked through

Yes if there is a window/pep hole u can look an do wot ever lol, the only place men can actually touch u without premition is the dark room! An only found that out this year!

"

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

A couple interrupted us while we were playing and asked if I wanted to join them, not Mr, just me .... errrm no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging clubs attract nutters" shocker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seriously anyone believe a bloke walks round with a huge mirror handy ???'

Really ???????"

It was a small cheap wall mirror on the premises! Not his own!

I presume he went into the ladies toilet unchallenged but I didn't stay to find out! My instinct was to leave as fast as possible. I love kink and am open

Minded but was uneasy about this. However it may have been the case that he thought I was a ladyfriend. I have no idea

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Should have pood on the mirror and let the creep retrieve that

Yeah but the mirror owner may have enjoyed that... "

Quite possibly

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Thursday, in a bit of bi MMMMF, some random guy crawls underneath and tries to get to my lady parts. I told him to get to fuck immediately. He tried to rationalise it after too

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

That's disgusting would not go back to that club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area


"I was in a room with a fire exit the guy was lying on the bed and i was giving him a blowjob looked up and there was a guy stood watching he had sneaked up the fire escape"

Have you not considered that it may have been a member of the local Fire and Rescue service doing the annual premises fire safety inspection??

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

we actually were working in a club cpl of years ago i was on the door downstairs . we were planning a bit party for the night after the mrs was shifting some stock from bar area to some spare lockers , her hands were full carrying a slab of bottled water she was struggling to open the locker door, this man opened door for her as she was putting the bottles into locker he started to caress her thighs up her dress she warned him off ,again he started to touch her titts she then pushed him away , anyway she told me i went to warn the man ,thought he actually got the message,anyways he tryed agin at the bar , the owner ejected him and told him he was banned , anyway weeks later this fella had been parking outside watching cpls females going into the club , anyway midweek greedy grls night was on my mate went to ansa door he barges past runs up the stairs str8 to a cpl where lass was white man was asian tryed to grope her got the fuck off so he started the rasism bit , he again was asked to leave got that bad he had to be man handled out of the club .

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By *winny445Man
over a year ago

battersea


"we actually were working in a club cpl of years ago i was on the door downstairs . we were planning a bit party for the night after the mrs was shifting some stock from bar area to some spare lockers , her hands were full carrying a slab of bottled water she was struggling to open the locker door, this man opened door for her as she was putting the bottles into locker he started to caress her thighs up her dress she warned him off ,again he started to touch her titts she then pushed him away , anyway she told me i went to warn the man ,thought he actually got the message,anyways he tryed agin at the bar , the owner ejected him and told him he was banned , anyway weeks later this fella had been parking outside watching cpls females going into the club , anyway midweek greedy grls night was on my mate went to ansa door he barges past runs up the stairs str8 to a cpl where lass was white man was asian tryed to grope her got the fuck off so he started the rasism bit , he again was asked to leave got that bad he had to be man handled out of the club ."

wow sounds a bit unhinged.

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By *winny445Man
over a year ago

battersea

i remeber going to silverleigh one time there was builders out the front on the drive(doing something on the roof).

most ignored me one clearly had wide eyes,

now about half hour later i was talking to a lady in the pool and we were innocently playing. ive felt eyes on me turned round and its old wide eyeson the roof staring in grinning.

a few people complained

when i was leaving he whistled and gave me i presume a thumbs up lol i imagine he went in a few days later.

2nd i went to another place nearby, ive only been once, a guy who was so skinny he looked like he was dying has came over as i was playing with a couple and sat down. long story short, he knew he hadn't seen me before and offered to show me the woods. i politely refused, he remarked on the guy in the couples equipment and then says yours is bigger tho(lie).

i move away then he maybe getting impatient tells me im known as the best c--- sucker round here.

i saw him many times that day he seemed to have a specific part of the woods.

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By *andy andy69Man
over a year ago

worksop ish

suppose mine was with a gf and we went to a club in sheffield ... my gf bj technique was commented upon as being not right .... lol

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

One time we had a single guy follow us around and when S was alone tried to pretend he knew her from elsewhere and were old friends, must have listened in on a few conversations to pick things up... Funny thing is she uses a nickname in clubs she doesn't use with family and friends so if he did he'd know her by her full name.

And there was another guy who was politely told he wasn't her type and then proceeded to try and stroke her shoulder and whispered "don't be shallow". If i ever want to wind her up I just copy that and she flips out

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By *winny445Man
over a year ago

battersea


".

And there was another guy who was politely told he wasn't her type and then proceeded to try and stroke her shoulder and whispered "don't be shallow". If i ever want to wind her up I just copy that and she flips out "

lmao

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


"we actually were working in a club cpl of years ago i was on the door downstairs . we were planning a bit party for the night after the mrs was shifting some stock from bar area to some spare lockers , her hands were full carrying a slab of bottled water she was struggling to open the locker door, this man opened door for her as she was putting the bottles into locker he started to caress her thighs up her dress she warned him off ,again he started to touch her titts she then pushed him away , anyway she told me i went to warn the man ,thought he actually got the message,anyways he tryed agin at the bar , the owner ejected him and told him he was banned , anyway weeks later this fella had been parking outside watching cpls females going into the club , anyway midweek greedy grls night was on my mate went to ansa door he barges past runs up the stairs str8 to a cpl where lass was white man was asian tryed to grope her got the fuck off so he started the rasism bit , he again was asked to leave got that bad he had to be man handled out of the club .

wow sounds a bit unhinged.

"
he was he actaully stalked the club for months the police coudnt move him along either

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

A guy tried to sneakily insert his foot into my vagina in the hot tub. Funnily enough I noticed so he was unsucessful

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By *hruster1969Man
over a year ago

Manchester

We are trying to pluck up courage to take the plunge but after reading this thread it has put us off a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it put you off - there are weird stories about everything in life

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

not the mirror .or the uninvited groping touching .but if you shocked by single guys looking through view windows .or watching live action in open part of club and wanking .you should use a private room .

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I would love to visit a club, but I am bit scared as a lone female. Do men loose all rational thought when their cock gets hard jesus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest a single female is safer in a swingers club than any other environment.bad behaviour from anyone is a huge no no in any club's we have been to.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty"

They shouldn't - go on the night that is right for you and to the right club. There's always a chance someone can behave like an idiot, but if the club doesn't deal with it effectively and quickly then your not at a good venue. At most of the decent venues, you will not have these kinds of issues - Try VA, Atlantis, Xtasia or Ourplace4fun to name but a few and you're unlikely to go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy tried to sneakily insert his foot into my vagina in the hot tub. Funnily enough I noticed so he was unsucessful"

Omg at which point did he think that was a successful move!!!

Nothing like a good footing though ??

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"A guy tried to sneakily insert his foot into my vagina in the hot tub. Funnily enough I noticed so he was unsucessful"

I've had someone try to do this to me too!

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty"

Don't be put off clubs. Just choose your club wisely. I've been to some clubs countless times and never had a single incident. And if something happens that you're not comfortable with, alert staff and they should deal with it.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

In the jacuzzi at a club, got chatting to a couple. Agreed to find a room, and while we were taking turns to shower, some fella started chatting to the lady while fondling her (exposed) boobs.

Once we'd made our way elsewhere, she said how weird the guy had been. Turned out she didn't know him from Adam God knows how her husband hadn't intervened.

Maybe not as creepy as some of the above, more shocking at the baseline level of "inappropriate" that some have to/choose to put up with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We went to a club about a year ago and we were first in, followed by a single guy...my partner went to the toilets and immediately the guy got up and came over to where I was sat touched my boobs and asked what size they were. He got a telling off and my other half came back and was friendly with him without knowing what had just happened - the bloke just sat there not saying a word. Then all night every time I turned around he was sat there...staring. Creepy. Every time you looked away he got closer

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I promise club virgins that they're generally great places, and that this thread is not at all representative....

...this one time, at a club, was sitting quietly with my companion, when a man sat opposite and engaged in conversation. Non-creepy conversation too! However, he chose to sit with one knee up on the seat, opening his towel and exposing his genitals. This seemed unnecessary to me, and I suggested he might put it away until it was needed. He apologised, adjusted his towel accordingly, and we resumed conversation.....for about 30 seconds until he did it again.

We didn't stop to check if this was usually a winning strategy for him

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

You shouldn't let these stories put you off, do a bit of research and go on the most suitable night for your purposes.

We also remember something pretty creepy which isn't purely single male focused. There was this couple with a very attractive female and a guy who was very meh but was loaded and would make sure you knew this. Their tactic was she would approach the couple, offer mff but while in the room he and friends would all slip in at some point. To the clubs credit a bouncer heard the objections and was quick to intervene however we did see them try it a few times.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Slip in"....to the room?

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


""Slip in"....to the room? "

Admittedly a poor choice of words. Indeed the room. We were warned of their methods by another couple too.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I saw a couple making out in the pool at kestrels last week and a guy was stood on the side of the pool right above them wanking. I shouted across to them to warn of a possible impeding incoming. Very fucking creepy

This made me laugh, as whilest kissing a guy at kestrels, well more (middle of pool) this guy was constantly watching us an was so strange, an when I was swimming, he watching even more, but apparently an quote they can watch u do anything in a public place at a club!"
of course thats why they have lockable rooms and public spaces..

geez what do you go to clubs for if you dont like being on show?...go private if you dont like being watched or do as i do and w3ear a blindfold..people have to look somewhere...aqnd some like being watched,, its the touching without asking i have issues with..i can always take myself of to a private room if i dont want an audience

and the TV did apologise and have an explanation..makes it quirky, rather than alright though ..he shouldnt be doing that in the loos but it did make me smile..

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By *ermandrMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was alone in a large jacuzzi at a club when the woman next to me suddenly grabbed my cock. I hadn't spoken to her or even made eye contact. She started wanking me and I asked her to stop. Without looking at me, she turned to her partner next to her and said, "he wants me to stop." Looking straight ahead, he said "what's his problem?" I got out of the jacuzzi. Neither of them had even looked at me. That was definitely weird. To all the people reading this who are put off by the 'funny' stories on this thread - don't be. 99.9% of people at clubs are genuine, honest and a great deal of fun. Honest!

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By *urreymojoCouple
over a year ago

Ascot


"We went to Kestrels once in the Summer, I layed on a sun lounger and this guy came and sat on the bed right next to me wanking and just staring at me! I tried putting a magazine over certain areas but he continued until I got up and he then followed me "

We enjoy kestrels on a hot day but the same happened to Mrs Mojo during the summer as well..the guy camped out at the end of her feet continually wanking. When I called him out he moved only to return 30 minutes later.Mrs Mo wasn't phased by it as she accepted that it's going to happen in that environment and even felt sorry for him wtf!..followed us to the pool, rooms in fact everywhere. He didn't break any rules except just be a nuisance

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By *urreymojoCouple
over a year ago

Ascot


"We went to Kestrels once in the Summer, I layed on a sun lounger and this guy came and sat on the bed right next to me wanking and just staring at me! I tried putting a magazine over certain areas but he continued until I got up and he then followed me "

We enjoy kestrels on a hot day but the same happened to Mrs Mojo during the summer as well..the guy camped out at the end of her feet continually wanking. When I called him out he moved only to return 30 minutes later.Mrs Mo wasn't phased by it as she accepted that it's going to happen in that environment and even felt sorry for him wtf!..followed us to the pool, rooms in fact everywhere. He didn't break any rules except just be a nuisance

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"A guy tried to sneakily insert his foot into my vagina in the hot tub. Funnily enough I noticed so he was unsucessful"

This has happened to me a few times, I dunno why they think we won't notice. To be fair, I think it's quite funny, they try so hard sometimes and they actually think that they will get somewhere.

Nothing like a toe foraging in your lady garden

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Quite surprised some of the male partners didn't tell these guys to pick a window because they are leaving!!

I know when I have gone to clubs with a male friend of mine, if any guys tried any tricks like that, they would have a bad night!!!

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Quite surprised some of the male partners didn't tell these guys to pick a window because they are leaving!!

I know when I have gone to clubs with a male friend of mine, if any guys tried any tricks like that, they would have a bad night!!! "

Why wait for the man to protect you? Why not handle it yourself .... there's not always going to be a man around ....

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Quite surprised some of the male partners didn't tell these guys to pick a window because they are leaving!!

I know when I have gone to clubs with a male friend of mine, if any guys tried any tricks like that, they would have a bad night!!!

Why wait for the man to protect you? Why not handle it yourself .... there's not always going to be a man around .... "

Oh trust me! I do! But if I have a man with me then I prefer he handles it because once I am pissed off, my sex drive plummets and the night is over! I like to feel relaxed and situations like that make me tense and uncomfortably as I am constantly watching out for a stray hand etc... puts me on edge.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Quite surprised some of the male partners didn't tell these guys to pick a window because they are leaving!!

I know when I have gone to clubs with a male friend of mine, if any guys tried any tricks like that, they would have a bad night!!!

Why wait for the man to protect you? Why not handle it yourself .... there's not always going to be a man around ....

Oh trust me! I do! But if I have a man with me then I prefer he handles it because once I am pissed off, my sex drive plummets and the night is over! I like to feel relaxed and situations like that make me tense and uncomfortably as I am constantly watching out for a stray hand etc... puts me on edge. "

But generally I prefer going with a trusted male friend for the reasons cited in this thread. It isn't easy being a single woman on your own if a random bloke is very persistent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy tried to sneakily insert his foot into my vagina in the hot tub. Funnily enough I noticed so he was unsucessful

I've had someone try to do this to me too!"

He must have got off on the wrong foot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty

They shouldn't - go on the night that is right for you and to the right club. There's always a chance someone can behave like an idiot, but if the club doesn't deal with it effectively and quickly then your not at a good venue. At most of the decent venues, you will not have these kinds of issues - Try VA, Atlantis, Xtasia or Ourplace4fun to name but a few and you're unlikely to go wrong."

We are heading to one of those clubs soon - I'm really glad you can say they are decent! Some of the thread had Dom needing anger management in case it happened to us!!

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty"

Yeah, kinda wishing I hadn't come across this thread..

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty

Yeah, kinda wishing I hadn't come across this thread.."

For every bad experience we can think of dozens of good ones too, don't let this thread put you off as it's not representative of the whole experience.

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By *aznpaulCouple
over a year ago

yiewsley

We were having a bit of a free for all on a bed at a club once when some middle aged indian fella who was hamfistedly trying to please my wife with his lack of skills had the audacity to tell another fella (who had leant in to have a play) that it was "NOT OK" for him to join in.... the cheek of it.. she is my wife of 25 yrs so only 2 people had any say who got to play and who didnt .... he was very lucky i have been working on my people skills since attending clubs because getting told to fuck off and dont dare come anywhere near us again.. would have been a blessing to him to what the alternative might have been ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rafrely ever go to clubs.

But I went with a couple I used to meet a lot (well his wife).

We went to a room, the room happened to have a small'ish window on it.

There must have been about 20 blokes stood huddled over the window a few of them were wanking.

That was pretty odd.

I think if there's a window in a room in a club you can expect it to be looked through "

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

Totally inappropriate behaviour, everyone should be treated with respect. We might be swingers but we all have the right to choose who we swing with.

It doesn't help the majority of lovely tvs who are responsible and wish to change in the female changing rooms either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy once asked if I was playing I politely said not with single guys. But he started following us everywhere.. went to the loo he was waiting outside, went into a viewing room he was stood behind us, went in couples changing rooms he poked his head round, went out for a smoke he was stood staring though upstairs window, after 2 hours I was feeling rather nervous of even going to loo without my partner waiting outside for me.

The last straw was when he started to touch my bum at that point I nicely said.... "what don't you fucking understand about we are not playing with single guys. Now fuck of and stop following me"

Shortly after he vanished and we didn't see him again until we went to the car to go home and he was stood next to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horrible rude gang of people in a couples room. Constantly banging on about how filthy they were. They pinched my towel and soaked it with their smelly wee and cum. Haven't been back since as it really put us off. Yuck. disgusting behaviour.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Our last club visit, it was getting towards the end of the night, we were in the smoking area.

Neil leaves to get a drink, and as he goes through the doorway I see a guy there, who just stands in the doorway, stroking his cock through his towel, watching me have a fag and trying my best to ignore him.

He's there until Neil returns, then when Neil is back, he leaves. Hadn't said a word to me all night, I'm not sure if he thought this was foreplay?

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Another time, a guy was following me. Not stalking, but just boring.

"Do you dance?"

"No, never, ever."

"I bet you can pole dance blah blah"

Asking "can I come with you to the smoking area?" (Sure, whatever) is not the same as asking to join in. He starts trying to join in when I'm already occupied - he is unnvited, and doesn't ask, just seems to hope I won't notice or mind. Have to ask him more than once to stop touching me - I have to pause playtime to make it clear to him and others his advances are unwelcome. Twat.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ok this thread has made me cringe,laugh,blush and snigger and omg all at the same time

The last time I went to abfabs I played with 3 couples with not one who I had spoken to before, one invited me, 2 I asked could i watch closely and we ended up playing

Where as abfabs, there are couples I have wanted to play with flirted but it just didn't happen either I didn't get round to asking or either party didn't realise

Sometimes that is the club scene - in terms of wanking whilst looking through a window. - was watching a friend fuck on Saturday and watched and bloody enjoyed it. I sometimes will watch especially if it is someone I know or would like to play with

In terms of getting close and wanking this for me is a issue that some of

My female friends actively encourage whist others don't like - I think it depends on person.

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By *aznpaulCouple
over a year ago

yiewsley

The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Quite surprised some of the male partners didn't tell these guys to pick a window because they are leaving!!

I know when I have gone to clubs with a male friend of mine, if any guys tried any tricks like that, they would have a bad night!!!

Why wait for the man to protect you? Why not handle it yourself .... there's not always going to be a man around ....

Oh trust me! I do! But if I have a man with me then I prefer he handles it because once I am pissed off, my sex drive plummets and the night is over! I like to feel relaxed and situations like that make me tense and uncomfortably as I am constantly watching out for a stray hand etc... puts me on edge.

But generally I prefer going with a trusted male friend for the reasons cited in this thread. It isn't easy being a single woman on your own if a random bloke is very persistent! "

It's fine if you choose the right club. Firstly, the hassle is minimal or none existent and secondly, staff are usually straight onto dealing with a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave "

Haha,brilliant,what a couple of pricks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty

Yeah, kinda wishing I hadn't come across this thread..

For every bad experience we can think of dozens of good ones too, don't let this thread put you off as it's not representative of the whole experience. "

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

To anyone who was wary of clubs before and are now terrified: Relax, these kind of things are few and far between (unless you are very, very unlucky).

We've been going to clubs ~10 years, had 100s of nights out and I'm struggling to come up with a horror story. The worst are a few uninvited gropes on the ass (both of us ) that were quickly sorted out with a polite "fuck off".

Anecdotal evidence but these uninvited gropes all happened on nights when single guys were allowed, never had anything happen on a "couples only" night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave "

They complained.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

we were once at a club in blackpool the mrs was on the fucking machine after a bit she had a few lads and cpls watching her getting hammered there was a cpl of lads started touching that wernt to bad but this 1 lad who could tell was bit pissed started telling me not to let her keep on the machine as he was gona fuck her i said no thanks ,anyway later on i saw this cpl and another siingle lad was fucking her the same lad forced himself between then 1 spoilt the play anyway her hubby big bouncer picked him up and ejected him the owners were over the moon

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I arrived at a spa and a guy started talking to me immediately. Friendly not pushy so ok but as I started to undress he carried on talking to me which I thought was a bit weird. He didn't stop and when I had my pants half way down taking them off he says can I introduce myself and sticks him hand out! I finished taking them off and stood there stark bollock naked with my knickers in my hand and he's still stood there with his hand outstretched to shake mine

Then two other guys did the old pincer movement in the pool later until I felt trapped in a corner. I just bolted.

Then in the hot tub I was laid back with my eyes closed chilling out when I felt a hand run up my leg. Needless to say the guy was a little shocked by my response. I didn't mince my words.

All these 3 things together on one afternoon close me down and retreat from chatting to those I don't know, let alone think about playing. Seriously guys give women space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regarding the comments it's all been single guys we go to nights with single guys as that's who we play with and never had a problem ( just so people thinking of trying don't panic )

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I've had a couple of creepy incidents. I was in the Harem room getting down and dirty with my play pal, another couple doing the same on the other side of the room. I felt a hand tweaking my nipple, thought it was my play pal but it wasn't. It was a young Asian guy who wouldn't remove his hand when play pal tried to push it away. Eventually he withdrew after forced to, he then rolled over and did the same to the other woman and got the same treatment. Went off in a huff Turned out he pestered several others that night. He thought if he offered to get you a cup of water it was a green light to touch.

Then last week had a guy who was told no several times but just didn't get the hint. Male friends had words with him as well. He was so presumptuous he followed us into the locker room, whilst I was putting my toy bag away I saw him getting condoms out of his locker . He followed us, we ignored him. He eventually sat across the lounge area just watching me. Really creepy. Happy to say he's now been banned from the club.

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By *aznpaulCouple
over a year ago

yiewsley


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

They complained. suprisingly yeah ... they thought because we were in an anything goes area we should have allowed any behavior no matter how bad ... i dont care if it was a legal requirement .. if neither of us are happy then we are going to do or say something about it ... like it or lump it lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club in Scotland, some randoms offering us a class a drug. I was shocked to learn this was happening infront of most people in the smoking area. Owners weren't bothered.

Won't be back in a hurry.

Eager to try the club scene down South

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Our, well Frisky's worst moment was with a single female...

Somebody decided it was a good idea to take an alcoholic woman, straight out of an abusive relationship to a swingers club...

The woman asks Frisky if she will help her find her friends.

It starts off OK, walking arm in arm round the club, the woman telling random people that Frisky is nice looking after her. Eventually they bump in to one of our friends who starts talking to Frisky. Suddenly the woman becomes aggressive and starts shouting that Frisky is her friend and to leave them alone.

Finally she says she will get a knife and stab anyone that try's to take Frisky from her...

Luckily the woman's friends hear the shouting and drag her off to their car...

One came over and apologised before taking her home...

To be honest we have had worse experiences in pubs and shopping centres...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

They complained. suprisingly yeah ... they thought because we were in an anything goes area we should have allowed any behavior no matter how bad ... i dont care if it was a legal requirement .. if neither of us are happy then we are going to do or say something about it ... like it or lump it lol "

clubs have "anything goes" areas? I still think I'm massively naive where this hobby is concerned...

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke

Greedy girls at Atlantis creepy very old men who think it's a free for all I've been greedy girls in other clubs and fingers them fun and respectful this club yuk queue up for one women who is a regular it's like a production line in there

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

The wife and I have been going to parties and clubs for over 13 years with no really bad experiences.

What you do find, however, is that a small minority of single guys don't understand consent. They mistakenly think that because a lady is at a swingers club, they don't have to ask for any consent. This leads to the unwanted thigh touching, boob/bum fobndling...and to guys who see a nice scene and assume they can join in.

Every club and party I've been to has reasonable rules but people just don't read them.

That said, 99% of people at clubs are great and most of the 1% will back off if you say "no".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the fact that we haven't had any weird experiences mean that we could well have been other people's weird experiences?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guy's can be a pain sometimes so we tend to go to couples only nights

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

They complained. suprisingly yeah ... they thought because we were in an anything goes area we should have allowed any behavior no matter how bad ... i dont care if it was a legal requirement .. if neither of us are happy then we are going to do or say something about it ... like it or lump it lol

clubs have "anything goes" areas? I still think I'm massively naive where this hobby is concerned..."

Surely in every part of every club you need to ask before you touch?

I find it hard to believe that there are women that have no standards at all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

They complained. suprisingly yeah ... they thought because we were in an anything goes area we should have allowed any behavior no matter how bad ... i dont care if it was a legal requirement .. if neither of us are happy then we are going to do or say something about it ... like it or lump it lol

clubs have "anything goes" areas? I still think I'm massively naive where this hobby is concerned...

Surely in every part of every club you need to ask before you touch?

I find it hard to believe that there are women that have no standards at all... "

that would be my expectation...

but I'd say that there are people whose standards are different to mine...

I'd very much like to know where club with the anything goes room is...sounds like my worst nightmare...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I find it hard to believe that there are women that have no standards at all... "

... and yet, Eva married ME!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to club with wife who went to toilet that was down maze of corridors it had no lock on it so she had to hold door closed as she heard people outside the room. When she finished she opened door to leave only to find two guys wanking furiously in her way who had been listening to her pee. They didn't stop and she had to push past them forcefully whilst they laughed we left soon after a group of single foreign men cornered another hostess in hot tub and had her in tears I was sat in front of them when manager told them best if you go upstairs now there's shagging going on up there now

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"The other night caz was bent over a counter being taken from behind in a darker area of a club surrounded by guys and girls when we became aware of 2 guys "arguing" about who was next in "the queue"?? Caz being a biker chick is more than capable of being vocal pointed out to them that she was not a queue and that she would chose who and when she fucks and that neither of them were going to be fucking her .. as we were in an area where you didnt need to ask permission to touch or play both felt put out and went to the clubs owner to complain .. the clubs owner very good personal friends of ours laughed then askex them to leave

They complained. suprisingly yeah ... they thought because we were in an anything goes area we should have allowed any behavior no matter how bad ... i dont care if it was a legal requirement .. if neither of us are happy then we are going to do or say something about it ... like it or lump it lol

clubs have "anything goes" areas? I still think I'm massively naive where this hobby is concerned...

Surely in every part of every club you need to ask before you touch?

I find it hard to believe that there are women that have no standards at all...

that would be my expectation...

but I'd say that there are people whose standards are different to mine...

I'd very much like to know where club with the anything goes room is...sounds like my worst nightmare..."

I suppose a true dark room, is enter at your own risk...but that's the only time I can think of that you consent just by entering...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can gather reading this thread, clubs sound like seedy shit holes full or creepy weirdos.

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By *anillaguyMan
over a year ago

Kingston

Not the one I go to

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow


" I'd very much like to know where club with the anything goes room is...sounds like my worst nightmare..."

Kestrels have a dark room where anything goes. You don't need to ask permission to touch. Obviously you don't go in there if you don't want that

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hence we don't go to clubs.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"From what I can gather reading this thread, clubs sound like seedy shit holes full or creepy weirdos. "

Frisky says, from a female perspective, overall she gets treated better at a swingers club than she use to on a night out clubbing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what I can gather reading this thread, clubs sound like seedy shit holes full or creepy weirdos.

Frisky says, from a female perspective, overall she gets treated better at a swingers club than she use to on a night out clubbing..."

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One really annoying experience was in a private room at a well know Manchester club, mmf and we were enjoying ourselves when the f said she would rather have a cushion over the peep hole areas...

We obliged , but the guys in the other side pushed it away ...I had a stern word but they carried on..

At one point I had my foot against a cushion whilst they were literally trying to move it it, like baying dogs..

Even in clubs no..means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally we find clubs safer than going out on the pull in the vanilla world, but it does happen where men (and some women) presume that they can do what they want. To be fair, we are generally quite greedy at clubs, some might slutty (which we take as a compliment!).

But no means no, and we play with people we're attracted to, no exceptions.

Back on topic, we had a play recently in the couples room at Chams where the guy couldn't wait to fuck Rach, which is fine as Tim started to play with his missus. However, despite both of us using all available talents on her, she laid there like a stunned gazelle. Literally no reaction,and once he'd cum, they upped and left. Both looked bloody miserable. Very odd.

Needless to say, something like that makes you doubt your abilities, but a swift and hard session immediately afterwards restored confidence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only creepy experience we have ever had in a club is the phantom wankers, they just appear out of nowhere right next to your face wanking. Aside from that, reading these stories we have been lucky

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

At a well known club in Manchester last night, was in the couples room with my hubby, single guys outside literally howling like wolves and banging really hard on the viewing window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only creepy experience we have ever had in a club is the phantom wankers, they just appear out of nowhere right next to your face wanking. Aside from that, reading these stories we have been lucky"

Otherwise known as the Zombie Wanking Zone or The Wanking Dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baffles me as to how people can go around touching without permission and even begin to think its acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had only good experiences and last night tried the glory holes for the first time. Only a bit of feeling and firking and we could tell who the other couple were as we'd seen them downstairs earlier. Nothing forceful or extreme.

MrsJ has had more gropes from a night out in town than visits to clubs. No one has ever touched without asking. We have never touched without asking either.

Hope this thread doesn't put anyone off doing a club visit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of negative experiences being shared here - well the title of the thread invites that - but anyone thinking of going to a club please bear in mind -

most people who attend clubs are respectful and are genuine swingers so go along and make your own mind up - don't just take the negatives from here....we have been swinging for over 2 years and the creepy experiences have been very very few and always easily dealt with by saying a firm no -the pleasures have outweighed the negatives a thousand to one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what I can gather reading this thread, clubs sound like seedy shit holes full or creepy weirdos. "

It's why I hate threads like this as they always give a very unrepresentative impression of most people's experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Atrending clubs both as a single guy and as part of a couple can say we've had a few singles follow us wanking and trying to sit near us. Never had anyone try to touch the Mrs when we've been in club's without first chatting and being invited. Had single females and females from couples come and sit chatting to me when single guys wouldn't stop following them..last one was a couple of weeks ago in a club and the guy kept insisting on telling everyone he was a fungi. And trying to get close to them even sitting so close he had whole body contact and still in siting he was a fun guy...sort of got the message when I told him fungi is always kept in the dark and fed on shit...suppose it helps that many at the club I attend know I'm there probably more for the social side than trying to play with any and every women.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'd very much like to know where club with the anything goes room is...sounds like my worst nightmare...

Kestrels have a dark room where anything goes. You don't need to ask permission to touch. Obviously you don't go in there if you don't want that "

Who said you don't need to ask permission to touch in the dark room?

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

Swingers club or no swingers club

A criminal offence has been committed

The owner will have a different view should you decide to make an official complaint to the police

How recent was this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard about darkrooms if your str8 not for me having another man feel you up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swingers club or no swingers club

A criminal offence has been committed

The owner will have a different view should you decide to make an official complaint to the police

How recent was this ?"

good point made here - in fact the best run swingers club i have been to tells newbies that t is essential not to overstep the mark and that touching without consent is a criminal offence - this is explained in a matter of fact manner, this makes it very clear to newcomers that the swinging environment thrives best alongside good manners and respectful attitudes x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Single guy's can be a pain sometimes so we tend to go to couples only nights "

and conversley i would say that most of the major incidences i have ever seen in clubs have been couples where the man and woman haven't been on the "same page" so to speak....

being that he went "rouge" or she went "rouge"... or he "enjoyed it too much" or she "enjoyed it too much".... or something happened that wasn't suppose to..... or one or both of then has waaaaaaaay too much alcohol beforehand......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just cant see anyone taking a case to court on criminal charges relating to an incident at a swingers club,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no maybe not - but once the facts are pointed out to them most people realise that if they want to be welcomed into the swingers club environment and be invited to play then they must abide by the rules of the community they wish to belong to, m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to visit a club, but I am bit scared as a lone female. Do men loose all rational thought when their cock gets hard jesus"

Go when it's ladies and couples night only then but still be prepared to say no, no means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are wanting to visit a club but these stories put us off

Betty"

Just remember NO means NO and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single guy's can be a pain sometimes so we tend to go to couples only nights

and conversley i would say that most of the major incidences i have ever seen in clubs have been couples where the man and woman haven't been on the "same page" so to speak....

being that he went "rouge" or she went "rouge"... or he "enjoyed it too much" or she "enjoyed it too much".... or something happened that wasn't suppose to..... or one or both of then has waaaaaaaay too much alcohol beforehand......

"

Rouge? Do you mean rogue?

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"I just cant see anyone taking a case to court on criminal charges relating to an incident at a swingers club,,,"

There has been a case, widely reported on here a year or two ago, about a rape in a swingers club.

If I remember correctly the guy was found guilty...

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"There are lots of negative experiences being shared here - well the title of the thread invites that - but anyone thinking of going to a club please bear in mind -

most people who attend clubs are respectful and are genuine swingers so go along and make your own mind up - don't just take the negatives from here....we have been swinging for over 2 years and the creepy experiences have been very very few and always easily dealt with by saying a firm no -the pleasures have outweighed the negatives a thousand to one! "

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Had an old guy or two follow me around. Always where respectful though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was in a club and in toilet cubicle having a wee when lo and behold a 10inch mirror was slid underneath the door

When I ran outside it turned out to have been slid under by a transvestite who got onto the women's loos. When I confronted the person he laughed and apologised saying he thought i was his partne and he thought it would be a turn on! I went to complain to owner but the transvestite had vanished and the owner said he would "look into it but remember this is a swingers club after all my love".

Anyone else had a similar experience in a club? "
We was in a club in a private room just the two of us doing our thing and no lock on the door...so we used the doorstop which was no good so we stuffed it right under and used a bin too! Haha! Anyway the door comes open we're on the bed/play area and in walks a female clearly steaming d*unk (on a couples sat night at chams) couldn't speak a word and just about stand up and sat on the edge of the bed muttering! me and mrs looked at each other so what do we do now haha! Okay thanks doors there hope your okay but was scary how someone gets like that and Alone too and we don't mind being watched but that's a bit freaky *MR X

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I was at an HDZ night .... I had a pretty sexy latex collar on with s D ring .... now I wear them because I think they look hot, I am nobody's sub.... some guy (all stringy 5'8" of him) walked over to me and clipped his lead on my collar!

He removed it soon after.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We was playing in the dark room at our local club when I became aware of the room being illuminated. I was at it doggie style at the time and turned around to see not 1 but 3 T girls videoing us on their phones. The owner very very quickly evicted them and apologised to us. Been back many times since and not had any more bad experiences .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are trying to pluck up courage to take the plunge but after reading this thread it has put us off a bit"

me too.

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"We are trying to pluck up courage to take the plunge but after reading this thread it has put us off a bit

me too."
we are regular chamers .and its about picking the time and the days .eg.if you go to chams on a friday night you are going to get followed by conga style single men .[most respectful] but it states it is a singles night.if you go monday its bi day and you my be chatted to by both sexs.but dont be put off from having a look .chams is a none pressure club and if you sit by bar till you get a bit of confidence .the staff will look after you [they are fantastic ]have fun.

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over a year ago

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"We are trying to pluck up courage to take the plunge but after reading this thread it has put us off a bit

me too.we are regular chamers .and its about picking the time and the days .eg.if you go to chams on a friday night you are going to get followed by conga style single men .[most respectful] but it states it is a singles night.if you go monday its bi day and you my be chatted to by both sexs.but dont be put off from having a look .chams is a none pressure club and if you sit by bar till you get a bit of confidence .the staff will look after you [they are fantastic ]have fun."

A valid point and it's one that I often say if couples don't want single guy go on a different night (I assume it's mainly couples that have this complaint).

Most of the regular club guys are polite and friendly and you do get to know the decent ones.

Would I follow a couple a round no...though sometimes you might fancy a wander round the club and the couple is looking at same time

I often say to the couple after you no you go first if trying to pass each other. This shows that you have a little bit of politeness

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By *ichaelxx11Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *ootleCouple
over a year ago

Romford, Essex

We were happily playing in an open room at kestrels, when this guy said you've got the most gorgeous pussy, at that point my hubby said, I know mate, get your head out of the fucking way so I can see it too ! Creep lol

Another guy in the jacuzzi (same club) commented on my boobs and asked if he could touch them, I said no, then hubby and me went to the pool, this guy followed and just stood in front of me wanking furiously - I just glared at him pointed at his Dick and said 'seriously, with that' he shrivelled and ran lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were happily playing in an open room at kestrels, when this guy said you've got the most gorgeous pussy, at that point my hubby said, I know mate, get your head out of the fucking way so I can see it too ! Creep lol

Another guy in the jacuzzi (same club) commented on my boobs and asked if he could touch them, I said no, then hubby and me went to the pool, this guy followed and just stood in front of me wanking furiously - I just glared at him pointed at his Dick and said 'seriously, with that' he shrivelled and ran lol"

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"We were happily playing in an open room at kestrels, when this guy said you've got the most gorgeous pussy, at that point my hubby said, I know mate, get your head out of the fucking way so I can see it too ! Creep lol

Another guy in the jacuzzi (same club) commented on my boobs and asked if he could touch them, I said no, then hubby and me went to the pool, this guy followed and just stood in front of me wanking furiously - I just glared at him pointed at his Dick and said 'seriously, with that' he shrivelled and ran lol"

We call them the jangelers. The always have their locker key on their wanking wrists. But funny. They ALWAYS have very small penises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a guy push me into a toilet cubicle, and lock the door, where he proceeded to try and kiss and grope me. I managed to unlatch the door and get out.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"Had a guy push me into a toilet cubicle, and lock the door, where he proceeded to try and kiss and grope me. I managed to unlatch the door and get out. "

I hope you had him kicked out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a guy push me into a toilet cubicle, and lock the door, where he proceeded to try and kiss and grope me. I managed to unlatch the door and get out. "

Thats a bit serious that is, im shocked

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

In the pool at partners talking to another couple about the very large soldo they plan to play with shortly two women enter pool younger one comes over turns and shouts " mum come and look at this " to the other the room just fell silent you could of heard a pun drop for about five seconds surreal

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