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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems just lately a lot of discord about people going to club's and not playing... how ever I always say to people that havent been that club's are a very social place and that its fine to go and just chat and watch..

I have been on my own and gone with zero intention of playing but to catch up with friends... ( especially my friends that live miles away ) and i enjoy talking to new people and even on several occasions introducing newbies to people i know then sitting back and enjoying the fun they have.

My point being i do not see club's as just somewhere to have sex and wouldnt see it as a ruined night if it didnt happen.. although as i go as a couple 99% of the time..yes i would normally have sex with my partner even if we didnt play with others.

Now i do like to play... can be a bit greedy at times but... my love of clubs comes from the lack of pressure to do anything more than relax and chat..

Yes i agree just lately to much chit-chat in play areas but a few threads lately i fear would put off newbies.

I personally think clubs are social places with the chance of naughties..unless you have gone to a sex club rather than a swingers club

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

Fully agree , I often (mrs) go to clubs without mr just for a social night out

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Many treat Clubs as a place to meet and socialise, then meet for play at home or hotel.

Of course, many do play at clubs as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to clubs and don't always play, to us we love the social side of swinging and being able to relax in the hot tub etc naked as much as the sexual side of swinging.

I (fem) have been to clubs on my own when Mr has been away purely to see friends and will not play on those nights, everyone has always respected that and I have never encountered any issues doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't been yet but wouldn't want to go if we were expected to play whilst there. We like the idea that it's a social setting with the option of watching, playing ( either with each other or others) if you so wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love going to clubs, but have no expectation of play. If it happens then it's a lovely bonus, if not it's great to just chat and have a laugh with other like minded couples .

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

We love the social aspect of both clubs and parties, play is not the be all and end all for us. Heck we even went to swing fest for the whole weekend and didn't play at all, not even with each other!

We've both been to numerous clubs, as singles and together, not one of them has socialising been frowned upon

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "

I'm sure the management of your local wetherspoons would love a group of people holding sometimes graphic conversations about sex and swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many treat Clubs as a place to meet and socialise, then meet for play at home or hotel.

Of course, many do play at clubs as well "

From our experience it seems to be the couples who socialise more and guy's expect action.

Probably due to entry fee.

We never go expecting play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

I'm sure the management of your local wetherspoons would love a group of people holding sometimes graphic conversations about sex and swinging"
this is what i think... and how many pubs can you sit naked in a hottub... watch porn and live action fun...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "

Why should they though? There's no rule that states you have to play but there are rules that state you can't get naked in a normal pub.

I think people need to mind their own business and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing. I thought swinging was about fun but there's some proper grumpy trouts around these days.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "

but its the one place where you can just truely let your hair down....

playing or not playing has never been the determining factor in whether i have had a good night.... but i have seen for a lot of single guys it does, and i have seen then wander round in a huff........

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "
my thoughts exactualy

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

I'm sure the management of your local wetherspoons would love a group of people holding sometimes graphic conversations about sex and swinging this is what i think... and how many pubs can you sit naked in a hottub... watch porn and live action fun...

"
I don't agree going a pub completely different thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "

In responce to this remark i would like to say that i enjoy going to clubs for the social side as much as for the fun and filth. When i first went to a club, i was told 'do as much or as little as you want, theres no pressure to do anything' i like this view as im not pressured into anything. Swinging has its own community and its nice to catch up and have go banter with old friends and make new ones. I have built up a great group of friends, and i go to clubs to be with them, have a great time, with the added filthy benefits! Im afraid that going down the vanilla pub aint gona cut it with me anymore. If i go to a pub, im deemed a social outcast and i cant be my vibrant bouncy self. I go to clubs to feel accepted in the diverse community, and also to get fucked by lots of lovely people

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

In responce to this remark i would like to say that i enjoy going to clubs for the social side as much as for the fun and filth. When i first went to a club, i was told 'do as much or as little as you want, theres no pressure to do anything' i like this view as im not pressured into anything. Swinging has its own community and its nice to catch up and have go banter with old friends and make new ones. I have built up a great group of friends, and i go to clubs to be with them, have a great time, with the added filthy benefits! Im afraid that going down the vanilla pub aint gona cut it with me anymore. If i go to a pub, im deemed a social outcast and i cant be my vibrant bouncy self. I go to clubs to feel accepted in the diverse community, and also to get fucked by lots of lovely people

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why can't you be yourself ??? I go the pub as my life do'sent revolve around swinging my friends go the pub swinging is meeting like minded people for fun I don't class then as gd friends

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke

And with that last quote I'll leave it there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

I'm sure the management of your local wetherspoons would love a group of people holding sometimes graphic conversations about sex and swinging"
....and people never talk sex or act flirty at pubs do they

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

I'm sure the management of your local wetherspoons would love a group of people holding sometimes graphic conversations about sex and swinging this is what i think... and how many pubs can you sit naked in a hottub... watch porn and live action fun...

I don't agree going a pub completely different thing "
why... you go to a club to chill with friends... and that's what i do at a club... i dont drink... and i like to chill at clubs...

Clubs are not all about play... but they are versatile enough to suit all tastes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

In responce to this remark i would like to say that i enjoy going to clubs for the social side as much as for the fun and filth. When i first went to a club, i was told 'do as much or as little as you want, theres no pressure to do anything' i like this view as im not pressured into anything. Swinging has its own community and its nice to catch up and have go banter with old friends and make new ones. I have built up a great group of friends, and i go to clubs to be with them, have a great time, with the added filthy benefits! Im afraid that going down the vanilla pub aint gona cut it with me anymore. If i go to a pub, im deemed a social outcast and i cant be my vibrant bouncy self. I go to clubs to feel accepted in the diverse community, and also to get fucked by lots of lovely people

why can't you be yourself ??? I go the pub as my life do'sent revolve around swinging my friends go the pub swinging is meeting like minded people for fun I don't class then as gd friends"

Like i have said already, i have close friends in swinging, and vanilla folk aint as accepting of me. If i go to a pub, i cant have as much fun and be allowed to do the activities i like doin in the swingers clubs. I dont think pub folk would be interested or amused by some of the shit us lot get up 2. Maybe you are one of the group of people we call a 'serious swinger' where u go to a club for serious straight laced sex and its not a place for fun and games lol

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

In responce to this remark i would like to say that i enjoy going to clubs for the social side as much as for the fun and filth. When i first went to a club, i was told 'do as much or as little as you want, theres no pressure to do anything' i like this view as im not pressured into anything. Swinging has its own community and its nice to catch up and have go banter with old friends and make new ones. I have built up a great group of friends, and i go to clubs to be with them, have a great time, with the added filthy benefits! Im afraid that going down the vanilla pub aint gona cut it with me anymore. If i go to a pub, im deemed a social outcast and i cant be my vibrant bouncy self. I go to clubs to feel accepted in the diverse community, and also to get fucked by lots of lovely people

why can't you be yourself ??? I go the pub as my life do'sent revolve around swinging my friends go the pub swinging is meeting like minded people for fun I don't class then as gd friends

Like i have said already, i have close friends in swinging, and vanilla folk aint as accepting of me. If i go to a pub, i cant have as much fun and be allowed to do the activities i like doin in the swingers clubs. I dont think pub folk would be interested or amused by some of the shit us lot get up 2. Maybe you are one of the group of people we call a 'serious swinger' where u go to a club for serious straight laced sex and its not a place for fun and games lol"
yep that's pretty much me

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

In responce to this remark i would like to say that i enjoy going to clubs for the social side as much as for the fun and filth. When i first went to a club, i was told 'do as much or as little as you want, theres no pressure to do anything' i like this view as im not pressured into anything. Swinging has its own community and its nice to catch up and have go banter with old friends and make new ones. I have built up a great group of friends, and i go to clubs to be with them, have a great time, with the added filthy benefits! Im afraid that going down the vanilla pub aint gona cut it with me anymore. If i go to a pub, im deemed a social outcast and i cant be my vibrant bouncy self. I go to clubs to feel accepted in the diverse community, and also to get fucked by lots of lovely people

why can't you be yourself ??? I go the pub as my life do'sent revolve around swinging my friends go the pub swinging is meeting like minded people for fun I don't class then as gd friends

Like i have said already, i have close friends in swinging, and vanilla folk aint as accepting of me. If i go to a pub, i cant have as much fun and be allowed to do the activities i like doin in the swingers clubs. I dont think pub folk would be interested or amused by some of the shit us lot get up 2. Maybe you are one of the group of people we call a 'serious swinger' where u go to a club for serious straight laced sex and its not a place for fun and games lol"
we go the pub for vanilla time and have as much fun as a club we separate the 2 as I won't make our life just about swinging and that's not a pop at you we are both 2 different swingers which is fine we just have different ideas x

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By *pices69Couple
over a year ago

Gravesend

If it became the rule that one had to play to attend a club, we wouldnt go.

We go, with an open mind and the hope we get to play with a group, a couple, a unicorn, and then all over again. But whomever attends, attends, and we like to be fun and friendly, the rest, is optional.

If its must have sex, goto a sex club. Swinging has choice inbuilt into it.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I love going to clubs to socialise as well as play. I love the fact I can just wear my underwear, sit naked in a jacuzzi, watch others have sex and catch up with friends and make new ones. I prefer to play if I have made the effort to get ready and go there (and admit to being disappointed if I don't) but I really don't understand why some people complain about what others do while they are there. Maybe like me they go with the intention of playing but just haven't seen anyone they fancy? It happens. Should they be forced to play with just anyone who asks?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love going to clubs to socialise as well as play. I love the fact I can just wear my underwear, sit naked in a jacuzzi, watch others have sex and catch up with friends and make new ones. I prefer to play if I have made the effort to get ready and go there (and admit to being disappointed if I don't) but I really don't understand why some people complain about what others do while they are there. Maybe like me they go with the intention of playing but just haven't seen anyone they fancy? It happens. Should they be forced to play with just anyone who asks? "
to be honest if we dont play its normally because no one has taken our fancy x

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead "

A pub environment is very different to a club one, I honestly can't understand folks that say this

In a pub environment as a woman, the feeling of a meat market is always prevalent, with often an undertone of having to be careful who you flirt with or look at

Never experienced that in a club. The opposite, the whole nature of swinging clubs means people can relax and have fun, even if that doesn't include sex

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By *ackwithabang2000Couple
over a year ago

Stoke


"I can understand the social aspect, but I have attended some clubs when almost everyone is just socializing and not playing...I just think go to a pub instead

A pub environment is very different to a club one, I honestly can't understand folks that say this

In a pub environment as a woman, the feeling of a meat market is always prevalent, with often an undertone of having to be careful who you flirt with or look at

Never experienced that in a club. The opposite, the whole nature of swinging clubs means people can relax and have fun, even if that doesn't include sex

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you also get that I'm a club haven't you seen everyone moaning about single guys i dont knoww what pubs you go in but I've never felt like that in a pub the whole subject has been transferred to pubs now nothing to do with original question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems that most feel that club's are as much avout the social side as the play...

I do think that chatting in play areas shouldn't be put up with but clubs need to stay the places you can do as little or as much as you want.

Be it playing from start to finish.. or chilling and watching the world go by x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love going to clubs to socialise as well as play. I love the fact I can just wear my underwear, sit naked in a jacuzzi, watch others have sex and catch up with friends and make new ones. I prefer to play if I have made the effort to get ready and go there (and admit to being disappointed if I don't) but I really don't understand why some people complain about what others do while they are there. Maybe like me they go with the intention of playing but just haven't seen anyone they fancy? It happens. Should they be forced to play with just anyone who asks? to be honest if we dont play its normally because no one has taken our fancy x"

That's me. I know many people at clubs so tend to do a lot of socialising, with old and New people. If I go, it's normally with the hope someone takes my fancy, but only occasionally this happens. But I'm not going to get up and go because of that, I will sit/stand around chatting with others who are likeminded

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