FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok directed at couples .

We want to visit a club ,never been to one nervous apprehensive.

What are they like do ,don't.

Do you have to play on a visit? We would only be uninterested in cple evenings , what about pushy people or are they the home of very confident hardened swingers and novices should say clear .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time we went to a club we didn't even leave the bar area never mind play! We just chatted to other couples in the bar. We go to clubs regularly now quest or La Chambre.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

You don't have to play. People go to clubs for all reasons, some to play with others, some to watch, others to be watched, you even get those who just need a place to have sex with each other without having to be careful that the kids can hear.

Been going to clubs for 6 years, never had a pushy person yet, but a smile and a no thanks normally works, if not report the person to staff. A club can do without getting a bad rep for bad behaviour.

Everyone was new to clubs once, some clubs have nights for the novice. Read reviews, but take them with a pinch of salt, I have been to many dead nights and read a review the next day stating how great it was, the place was heaving

Talk to people who go to the club you are interested in.

Have fun

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

all clubs are slightly different, their facilities and the events / themes they put on..so you dont judge one club next to another or, even the same club, on a different night.

i haven't been to a club yet where the staff aren't welcoming and friendly and someone is willing to show you round or introduce you to a few friendly regulars.

treat it as a night out, choose the place where you like the sound of the facilities..if you like hot tubs for example or if you are nervous, choose somewhere with lockable private rooms so at least you can have some fun together on your first visit.

all the clubs have websites and galleries and as i don't know your preferences i wont presume to point you to the most suitable..

just remember its only 30 seconds of the unknown then you are through the door into a very fun and sociable (in the main) world. i'm sure you will be absolutely fine, treat it like an adventure .

i know i'm posting from my single profile, but i do go to clubs with my partners, as a couple too xx i hope you have a lot of fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we went to our first club we decided not to play. That all went out the window soon after we arrivied we ended up playing with a woman and then we went off to private room just the two of us. The atmosphere got the better of us. We also met some really lovely people and just chatted to them.

You dont have to play at all, if anyone is rude tell them to leave you alone, if they dont then find a member of staff and let them know. Nobody should touch with out asking either. If you let the clun know your new then they show you around. You wont be the only new people there. Just relax and enjoy. There is no pressure to do anything.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We play almost exclusively in clubs - it's a friendly, open and unpressured environment where you can do as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Clubs also remove the embarrassment of arranging a meet only to find you don't fancy the person you have arranged to see. You have the opportunity of seeing and talking to potential playmates before committing to play.

You can also progress at your own pace. We started by watching and playing together, moved on to soft swaps, then to full swapping, before we realised that we enjoy moresomes. We now only go to clubs on the evenings when single guys are allowed entry. I have really enjoyed many MMFs, MMMFs, MMMMFs and more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It appears from the comments we may be over thinking what the negatives of Clubs are

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"It appears from the comments we may be over thinking what the negatives of Clubs are "

Hi op,

I was really nervous on my forat club visit.we went to lc on couples night and it was so relaxed and friendly.You dont have to undress,people sit in the bar area untill midnight and then are free to move to pool or play rooms.

Only do what you are comfortable with and have a great time.

Miss x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

*First even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many others have said already, clubs are a great way to meet people and there is no pressure to play. People are lovely, it's a good social night and there's the option to play in a safe environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are new to the scene and have been twice to a club,the first time nearly put us off for good too many single guys following us around, they were all polite but the whole atmosphere could not have been less erotic!! We didn't play, chatted to few people but left pretty much as soon as we could.

A few weeks later we went back and it could not have been more different!! We were very nervous and even on the drive there I didn't really believe we would go in however after 5 minutes we were at ease sitting there starkers along with many other couple/singles. We briefly played with a lovely couple and my only regret was being too nervous to fully enjoy it but it was our first time so only natural I assume. The atmosphere was great, everyone was so polite and friendly. Since that day we have been counting down the days until we go back.

My advice would be to do your research, check what days/clubs are suited to what you are looking for and don't give up if that first time isn't what you expected...have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would also add that in our limited experience we prefer to meet people at clubs, whilst fabs is great and I am sure we will meet many people through the site the numerous emails and making arrangements to meet almost takes a bit of the thrill away...at a club you can get down and dirty with others within minutes....hot!!!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We only play at the club and love the atmosphere and facilities. Your choice whether you just turn up and go with the flow or arrange to meet people but I'm sure you will enjoy it either way. Just do your research on the type of club that feel comfortable with and check out the days for differents events/admittance policies etc.....have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every club I've been to has felt completely safe, and while I wouldn't necessarily say comfortable since it's very cliquey for a newbie, definitely not in the least bit intimidating.

And the concern is very common. Every girl I've taken to clubs has expressed the same thing. Massive anxiety before followed by "Well that was completely unfounded" after

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

I think all the positives re club visits has already been said, we have had no negative experiences but were very nervous on our first vist but it was nothing like I had imagined. Everybody really respectful and friendly

I'm sure you will be fine OP

Enjoy xx

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By *ll the gear.....Couple
over a year ago

Town north of Notts

We didn't play at all even with each other on first visit but did in a private room on 2nd and even visited the hot tub area. We r going for the 3rd time on Saturday so who knows what will happen

We go to Liberty Elite on a Saturday which is only couples anyway.

Just enjoy the socialising and do as much or little as you choose, no one will expect anything more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not mandatory to have sex at a club and as for pushy..rude people..just deal with them as you would in every day life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to clubs and if nobody there takes our fancy we will just sit in the bar and chat to whoever, never really come across pushy people really luckily,

They are mainly just full of normal people who like sex, not full of harden swingers waiting to drag you in to a room first chance they get, most we have been to has been full of decent normal folk

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By *VK_RugbyCouple
over a year ago

Rugby

Have a good dig about on the Swingers Clubs Discussion thread you might find some good advice, some clubs have newbie nights it might be worth trying one of those first.

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