FabSwingers.com forum: Newbie in the clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not new to swinging but new to to the club scene and unsure of what to expect.

Looking at trying a club at the weekend, la chambre, but sooo nervous at what to expect lol.

Guys and girls some questions for you,

What to wear?

Are bags allowed inside...what if want to freshen up post sex?

Can you take sex toys inside?

When is the best night for good looking single guys pmsl

Without hurting someones feelings how do you let them know that you don't want sex with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not new to swinging but new to to the club scene and unsure of what to expect.

Looking at trying a club at the weekend, la chambre, but sooo nervous at what to expect lol.

Guys and girls some questions for you,

What to wear?

Are bags allowed inside...what if want to freshen up post sex?

Can you take sex toys inside?

When is the best night for good looking single guys pmsl

Without hurting someones feelings how do you let them know that you don't want sex with them?

Hello.. firstly remember everyone there was new at a club at some point.. So no need to feel nervous...

All clubs are different but for most you can take a small bag around with you.. And all of them you can take a bag to put in a locker so you can change.. freshen up etc.

I always take a big bag of ouchie things and toys with me.. and wipes and condoms for the previously mentioned toys..

As for not offending people I find a thanks but no.. Or if already playing a shake of the head tends to work... And no feelings are offended.. Of course you must not pull a yuck face while doing so as some may take offence to that..

Mostly have fun.. Your lucky to live in an area that you have loads of clubs within an hour or so of you... and the world is your oyster so to speak.

Enjoy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in exactly the same boat, desperate to expirience a club to nervous to actually go, the vert thought turns me on and frightens me in equal measure! Dont want to go exclusivley for the sex just as much the social. To get to know and network with likeminded people and pick they brains regarding the scene!

Right now i feel like a man on the outside trying to look in through the blacked out window.

Im afrsid ill be so nervous and tense in there my dick will just shrink and i stand out like a shrivelled prune!

Help, guidance and probably some counselling required!?!?!

One day...........

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The problem with me is that I am so bloody fussy lol..

If you go in the playroom is it a free for all, i.e. mass orgy?? Sorry, I know its a swingers club but Im not out to get fucked by everyone and anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, you going into a playroom does not mean you are allowed to be touched by anybody whatsoever. You being in the club does not entitle anybody to any part of you

so if you want to go watch someone play as long as you have their permission then you will be fine, they will not expect you to participate in anything and neither should the other observers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first few times I went to a club I had no sex at all despite going with someone I trusted, we all need time to settle in lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The problem with me is that I am so bloody fussy lol..

If you go in the playroom is it a free for all, i.e. mass orgy?? Sorry, I know its a swingers club but Im not out to get fucked by everyone and anyone

Then you dont.. Its NEVER A FREE FOR ALL!!!

Or not if you have a voice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well that's reassuring to know

The watching bit I find very horny...Im sure after a few glasses of wine I will lighten up lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's reassuring to know

The watching bit I find very horny...Im sure after a few glasses of wine I will lighten up lol.

Its great to watch.. although I rarely watch.. But.. The joy for me of clubs over any other type of meet is that you can do as much ... or as little as you want..

Many a time I have been just socially or if with my Partner we have only enjoyed each other while watching others..

Of course the flip side is sometimes we have been a right pair of Dirty bastards... but well.. as I say.. the joys of clubs.. I may tire of them one day... but not this week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha...Oh I can be dirty...its whether I will regret it the next day and whether I'll still be married!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ha ha...Oh I can be dirty...its whether I will regret it the next day and whether I'll still be married!!

I am sure you would be fine... I am always sober when I play at clubs.. So never regret.. Or if on odd occasion I have had a drink.. I know my Partner wouldnt let me do anything I would regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a regular on the club scene and always try to make newbies welcome - we was all there at one stage. I can highly recommend cougarsandcubs (Radletts) for people who are nervous. All the Cougars are friendly and we get lots of hot cubs. Karen the host is amazing and makes sure every one is at ease. Lots of games to break the ice and a huge pool for skinny dipping. I will be going this Friday if anyone wants to come and say hello......or more

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