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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

My wife has just had a sexual awakening thanks to a family friend and enjoyed it very much . Our friend more experienced in the scene than us and while my wife wants to keep expanding her sexual boundary's is somewhat shy . A club has been discussed buy hervfreibd and she seems keen I just have a few questions . Should I let just her and our friend go on their own first , as a girls night out , so she can relax more ? How are newbies treated ? She is worried what to wear and what the etiquette is ? All advice great fully reviewed as this is a door I don't want closing again ??

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

The clubs website will have information on its dress code and the etiquette that is expected of its members

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

I understand the sites will have the nuts and bolts of what goes on but I was hoping to hear about more personal expierences . Also wondering if first time at a club might be better her going with just her friend and not me for a " girls night out " as her friend is more experienced and would lead her in gently and she may be inhibited with me bring there .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have another chat with your friend hun n if your happy for her to go on a girlies night first i would deffo have a good chat about what your both comfortable with her exploring and set the bounderies your happy with this would also be the case if you were to accompany her as it can advert those OMG awkward moments if you have your dos n donts list but dont be surprised you may find your happy to expand them a little on the night just remember to communicate at all times

Dont be too nervous either clubs are as much about the social side as they are about the sex go with just expectations of a fun evening in like minded company and if you do play its an added bonus dont put pressure on yourselves its not a race just relax n soak it all in have a good look round chat to peeps and see where it takes you

Being newbies is always nerve wracking but clubs love newbies and will offer you a tour introduce you to regulars n be happy to help settle you in tbh most are like nice lounge bars that just happen to have facilities and rooms for play.

Dress code for ladies is mostly the same unless its a fet night or theme party night so what makes your wife feel her most comfortable yet sexy i find a nice bra set , baby doll or basque n stockings with sexy heels never go far wrong

hope this helps n happy swinging

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Thanks for your feedback , much appreciated . Yea I just think glory night out being led by her friend would be more relaxed for her .

Clothing wise she wants to be sexy , loves holdups ect but was worried about seeming too sexy/slutty dressed for her first time ( slutty not being used in a bad way lol I kinda like slutty ?? But didn't want to seem too keen )

Was also worried about saying no .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this all has to be by total mutual agreement hun hense boundary setting and communication

well in my view as a lady who loves ladies there is no such thing as too slutty i see adventurous confident i love my body n think wowzer

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Oh it's full agreemnt believe me ! Has been ever since I first saw her and her friend together , boundarys would be go, have fun , do what feels good ( as long as I hear all about it later )

I'd be fine with " slutty " lol but think she wants a fine line fur her first time as she isn't sure how far she will go but won't wanna give off the wrong vibes ( as if there is such a thing lol )

Sill question , plenty of condoms/lube ect are all on site ?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

The answer is whatever feels right to you both and whatever makes you both feel comfortable.

When we swing we always swing together but it isn't like that for everyone. If you are happy to play separate then cool.

Will she feel she can do what takes her fancy without you there? Will she worry that it may give you justification to do what you want without her that will make her uncomfortable?

It is much more nerve wracking playing as a single than a couple.

You have to talk it through and both be completely honest, good and bad.

You don't say what club she is thinking about going to but there is a big difference between clubs and types of clubs, so look at that carefully.

Condoms, lube, wipes. We always take our own and then you know you have them and where they came from...

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Same for how she dresses, some dress more conservative and some don't dress at all lol.

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Don't dress at all lol she dies wanna sex it up but is just a little wary .

I think first time she might be happier without me there and looking over her shoulder ( for me lol ) she and her mate have played without me , I find it a turn on knowing she is turned on and having fun , she may be slow to start but once she gets going , BOOM !

It's definitely not a bargaining

It's definatly not a bargening chip for me and she knows it , it's just a turn on having a hotwife .

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

As for clubs , friend has been to Abfabs and loves it or maybe Eureka's as closer . But fera of being recognised also a ( slight ) worry .

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"As for clubs , friend has been to Abfabs and loves it or maybe Eureka's as closer . But fera of being recognised also a ( slight ) worry ."

Don't worry about being recognised. It's rare to be honest a if it does you're all there for the same thing.

As for going, I'd personally say go with her. Support each other. You seem pretty open so play it by ear. If her and her friend want to find somewhere alone then that's up to you all.

Most clubs are friendly respectful places. I'd have no problem letting Kate go on her own.

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By *ent73 OP   Man
over a year ago

kent

Thanks for your help and advice , much appreciated .

Well the I found the sight of her and her woman friend extremely horny and if the mood takes her and wants another man I hope I find that the same .

On that note , how did you guys feel seeing your wife/other half get taken by another man ?

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