FabSwingers.com forum: whats it like going to a club?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have been on this site for a while now and never once been to a swingers club . why you may be thinking?

well i prefer one to ones no matter how confident i may be with one to ones i am very shy when it comes to groups meets and if its all people what are from here it would make me more shy, it sucks i dont want to be this way i want to enjoy life. The other problem is i believe there isn't many near my location.

i was wondering if anyone has advice for first time going, plus their experience

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

we have been too lots off clubs and realy enjoy them if you treat it like a normal night club you wont go wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grantham, you looking at Livery Elite at Lutterworth, VA in Bedford , Jaydees at ST Neots or travelling up to Birmingham to Chams or Xtasia.

Clubs are very sociable, even for single guys, you can go just for social and to meet people. If you do go never go with the outset you will play as you may well be left disappointed.

Be polite friendly, don't sit in a corner hiding away, i think chatting is great as it helps everyone relax and get a chance to know about each other.

Check out all the club websites for their different admission policies as some require membership and only let men in on certain nights etc.

Good luck

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow

"Grantham, you looking at Livery Elite at Lutterworth, VA in Bedford , Jaydees at ST Neots or travelling up to Birmingham to Chams or Xtasia.

Clubs are very sociable, even for single guys, you can go just for social and to meet people. If you do go never go with the outset you will play as you may well be left disappointed.

Be polite friendly, don't sit in a corner hiding away, i think chatting is great as it helps everyone relax and get a chance to know about each other.

Check out all the club websites for their different admission policies as some require membership and only let men in on certain nights etc.

Good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only just recently got back into the club stuff, its really a great night and has always ended up with lots of fun going on. As has been said, treat it like a fun night out and whatever happens happens. Things can be a bit slow at the start of the night, people a bit more cagey and low key, but as the night goes on, people tend to loosen up a bit(drink helps) and things start happening, usually by the end of the night theres a lot going on.

Its tough as a single guy though, you can feel a bit out of place and the odd person out early on, but come any playing it can be a different matter. Have had some fantastic club nights (jaydees,chunkymuffins) lately and look forward to many more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Grantham, you looking at Livery Elite at Lutterworth, VA in Bedford , Jaydees at ST Neots or travelling up to Birmingham to Chams or Xtasia.

Clubs are very sociable, even for single guys, you can go just for social and to meet people. If you do go never go with the outset you will play as you may well be left disappointed.

Be polite friendly, don't sit in a corner hiding away, i think chatting is great as it helps everyone relax and get a chance to know about each other.

Check out all the club websites for their different admission policies as some require membership and only let men in on certain nights etc.

Good luck"

thank you although if i did go i think i would want someone to go with lol

i will go one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say for a first time try The Attic in Derby, very relaxed no pressure environment. Smart but casual dress code. No membership required but there is an entrance fee on the night.

Big club and lots to do and see, it was my first club and I have watched it expand and I love it!

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

If you choose your club carefully then you will find that they will be more than aware of your nerves and reservations, because they are attentive to the needs of newbies; some clubs even hold newbie nights or socials.

I think even the most confident and outgoing single male will be nervous at first, but this isn't a bad thing and will add to your experience...ever heard of nervous anticipation?! lol

So read the reviews of clubs in your area and surrounding areas, see what nights they offer and if newbies are welcome on all nights.

Treat any club visit like a regular night out and soon you will find that your shyness disappears. If you put pressure on yourself, you will make things worse for yourself.

Don't ever go to a club with expectations as you are setting yourself up to fail. Go with the intention of a few drinks, a natter and friendship buildling and if you get a play it's a bonus. That way, you will never be disappointed.

Many guys on here find it hard to progress on the scene by arranging meets online, so a club visit is your next step; once you get known, you may be invited to private parties too which can be a lot of fun.

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you choose your club carefully then you will find that they will be more than aware of your nerves and reservations, because they are attentive to the needs of newbies; some clubs even hold newbie nights or socials.

I think even the most confident and outgoing single male will be nervous at first, but this isn't a bad thing and will add to your experience...ever heard of nervous anticipation?! lol

So read the reviews of clubs in your area and surrounding areas, see what nights they offer and if newbies are welcome on all nights.

Treat any club visit like a regular night out and soon you will find that your shyness disappears. If you put pressure on yourself, you will make things worse for yourself.

Good luck xxx "

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I think even the most confident and outgoing single male will be nervous at first, but this isn't a bad thing and will add to your experience...ever heard of nervous anticipation?! lol

So read the reviews of clubs in your area and surrounding areas, see what nights they offer and if newbies are welcome on all nights.

Treat any club visit like a regular night out and soon you will find that your shyness disappears. If you put pressure on yourself, you will make things worse for yourself.

Good luck xxx "

Good post.

The club scene is by far our favourite part of the lifestyle but we never go to a club with the sole intention of playing, well apart from when in Cap d'Agde

A good night out, chat to old friends, meet new ones, and if we get laid (which we usually do) it's a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Terrible you will never come out alive...

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Terrible you will never come out alive...

Doll x"

lol that kinky is it (:

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