FabSwingers.com forum: Club Decorum

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last night I found a few guys were getting a bit too up close and personal without my consent or come on. One I literally was walking past and he made a lunge to squeeze my boobs. Another went at me for a cuddle to get his hands on me then went to also squeeze my boob.

Yes it's a club and yes we're swingers but this isn't acceptable is it?? It made me feel uncomfortable as I am actually

quite new and shy to all this.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No it isn't acceptable, nobody should touch you in a sexual way without your permission...ever. Even if other people find something acceptable if you don't then it isn't.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

No it isn't acceptable, but you will find those chancers who try their luck, normally in clubs which don't limit the number of single guys they allow in on that night.

You have to be comfortable with telling them to keep their paws to themselves or others will see you "allowed" it and may do the same. Don't be afraid to speak up for yourself, it is very liberating you know

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

If you find you are being touched without consent you must speak up, don't just let them do it!

Your body, your choice. Some guys will try their luck simply because they think they can, or because no one has ever told them no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One was with his wife too!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Are you going to speak out from now on op?

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Just because we like to swing and go to these places to have fun does not mean we are easy,free or cheap! our wishes must be respected at all times otherwise people will stop going

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By *eanandJulieCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

No it is not ok , did you report it to the club staff ????, a lot of people don't cos they can handle this themselves and don't want to cause a problem, but if these guys did this to you, they will do it to others, and they may kick off big style. The club needs to be aware so they can monitor the guy, and have a word with him. After all , we are all there for a great night out xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you going to speak out from now on op?

After he put his arms around me and stepped back he put his hand out and asked if he could have a feel. I moved away and said no you can't but in a

jokey way. But yes from now on I'll be more firm. x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Are you going to speak out from now on op?

After he put his arms around me and stepped back he put his hand out and asked if he could have a feel. I moved away and said no you can't but in a

jokey way. But yes from now on I'll be more firm. x"

Good

. Mind you at least he asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because we like to swing and go to these places to have fun does not mean we are easy,free or cheap! our wishes must be respected at all times otherwise people will stop going

Couldn't agree more, I've had some dodgy experiences and I regret not speaking up

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Just because we like to swing and go to these places to have fun does not mean we are easy,free or cheap! our wishes must be respected at all times otherwise people will stop going

Couldn't agree more, I've had some dodgy experiences and I regret not speaking up"

It's not just you women that have issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report them to the club!

Once of the reasons I no longer go to be honest as men and some women think it's a free for all to be grabbed xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a fairly regular club goer I find that the majority of single guys show respect. It's pretty simple; don't touch without being asked to, don't be pushy and crowd ladies or couples and be friendly, chatty and generally "normal" and everyone will be happy!

It's the mindless clowns that feel like they have a sense of entitlement or that "they've paid their entrance fee so everyone is fair game" that cause problems.

Don't want to be "holier than thou" on this but it's what causes single guys to be labelled negatively as a group when, as with single ladies and couples, the reality is you get all sorts!

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By *he No3 ClubCouple
over a year ago

Chorley, Lancashire

Sorry to hear this happened last night but know us at the club. And you've been before previous times in the past and you know we don't tolerate behaviour like this. The staff did check on you numerous times to see if you were ok as single lady in the club.you could have informed us then. If you would like to inform us by PM to who it was we will deal with this in house

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry to hear this happened last night but know us at the club. And you've been before previous times in the past and you know we don't tolerate behaviour like this. The staff did check on you numerous times to see if you were ok as single lady in the club.you could have informed us then. If you would like to inform us by PM to who it was we will deal with this in house

Oh no it's okay. I didn't mention the club as I didn't want it to be made an issue. Just wanted to check if this is what happens that's all. I'm fine

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By *ilthyjackcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

I had a bloke try it on in the jacuzzi at Chams on Friday night, and I just froze

Thankfully there was a couple in tgere that saw my discomfort and came to my rescue, but I now regret not speaking up.

It's funny but in my normal life if anyone had tried it I would have had no problems handling myself but there I just froze

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