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By *aredench OP   Man
over a year ago

leeds

I know I just need to go and experience it but just a quick question about clubs.. What's the general protocol for single guys? Do you just walk up to a couple and ask to join or what? Do you make eyes from across the room? I just can't imagine how it all works x

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By *aked_ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

nearby

In the bar just chat to people as you would normally! Just introduce yourself and chat. In the play rooms you can either do what most single men do and stand there hoping to get involved or take a step closer and even ask politely if you can join in or what we found to be most effective is to touch a non intimate area like an arm on the couple at play and asking to join in. If it's a no say a polite thankyou and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the bar just chat to people as you would normally! Just introduce yourself and chat. In the play rooms you can either do what most single men do and stand there hoping to get involved or take a step closer and even ask politely if you can join in or what we found to be most effective is to touch a non intimate area like an arm on the couple at play and asking to join in. If it's a no say a polite thankyou and move on "

Seriously you are recommending he touches uninvited?! Touch someone like me in a play environment uninvited and your first visit will be a very short one.

DO NOT TOUCH UNINVITED ANYWHERE! Talk to people in the social area and always ask before you touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the bar just chat to people as you would normally! Just introduce yourself and chat. In the play rooms you can either do what most single men do and stand there hoping to get involved or take a step closer and even ask politely if you can join in or what we found to be most effective is to touch a non intimate area like an arm on the couple at play and asking to join in. If it's a no say a polite thankyou and move on

Seriously you are recommending he touches uninvited?! Touch someone like me in a play environment uninvited and your first visit will be a very short one.

DO NOT TOUCH UNINVITED ANYWHERE! Talk to people in the social area and always ask before you touch. "

Exactly what she said but to second it any guy that touched my wife during play uninvited even if it wasn't intimate would find them self an a jolly boys outing to the A & E

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"In the bar just chat to people as you would normally! Just introduce yourself and chat. In the play rooms you can either do what most single men do and stand there hoping to get involved or take a step closer and even ask politely if you can join in or what we found to be most effective is to touch a non intimate area like an arm on the couple at play and asking to join in. If it's a no say a polite thankyou and move on

Seriously you are recommending he touches uninvited?! Touch someone like me in a play environment uninvited and your first visit will be a very short one.

DO NOT TOUCH UNINVITED ANYWHERE! Talk to people in the social area and always ask before you touch.

Exactly what she said but to second it any guy that touched my wife during play uninvited even if it wasn't intimate would find them self an a jolly boys outing to the A & E"

Whilst I understand where your coming from, sometimes disturbing the play to ask is disturbing. Maybe watch in an area that is not intrusive l, maybe catch the couples eyes smile and then wait to be invited

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By *stwo80Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Its easy , speak to people in the bar lounge area and just socialise , dont expect anything from anyone and you will be surprised what fun you can have but never ever touch anyone without being invited first .

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"In the bar just chat to people as you would normally! Just introduce yourself and chat. In the play rooms you can either do what most single men do and stand there hoping to get involved or take a step closer and even ask politely if you can join in or what we found to be most effective is to touch a non intimate area like an arm on the couple at play and asking to join in. If it's a no say a polite thankyou and move on

Seriously you are recommending he touches uninvited?! Touch someone like me in a play environment uninvited and your first visit will be a very short one.

DO NOT TOUCH UNINVITED ANYWHERE! Talk to people in the social area and always ask before you touch.

Exactly what she said but to second it any guy that touched my wife during play uninvited even if it wasn't intimate would find them self an a jolly boys outing to the A & E"

I second that one. I have had many a guy touch a non intimate area during play with my partner and they get a blasting, not from him, from me. I take massive exception to anyone apart from him touching me when not invited, even a stroke or a tap .... and, more to the point, anyone who asks him for permission to play with me is also given short shrift. That is not our dynamic. Asking me for permission to play with him is, on the other hand, what is expected ...

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Jacuzzis are good places to chat to people too, seems easy to get a conversation going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind people touching a non intimate part. Then asking to join in. Obviously in a club..if in group situation most guys hang round..waiting to play. If I/we didn't want to play with a guy. We would just politely. Say no thanks...just basic common sense.

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

Surely common sense should prevail, if we're in the bar/social area we would be looking around for people who catch our interest, we wouldn't object to someone approaching us in fact we're expecting it.

Pay her a compliment as an opener and introduce yourself/start a conversation, anything is better than just creepily following people around (which a lot do). If there's chemistry just ask if they would be open to you joining them, we're in a swingers club surely anyone offended by this is in the wrong place.

If we play in an open area we are more likely to invite someone having already spoken to them, rather than the creepy guy who just appears from nowhere.

But as said before touching anywhere uninvited is a no no unless it's accidental, had my knee stroked accidentally many a time in the hot tub (at least I like to think it's accidentally-him)

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By *illyFischerMan
over a year ago

sale

the best advice would be to do nothing - or plan to do nothing - the first three times. You come across much more relaxed, won't be disappointed if it doesn't and will be pleasantly surprised if it does!

All this worrying about brushing past someone or touching them - anyone with common sense and manners won't get into trouble - all these people making threats ....how many times have you had to follow it up ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the best advice would be to do nothing - or plan to do nothing - the first three times. You come across much more relaxed, won't be disappointed if it doesn't and will be pleasantly surprised if it does!

All this worrying about brushing past someone or touching them - anyone with common sense and manners won't get into trouble - all these people making threats ....how many times have you had to follow it up ? "

A few times actually. How dare someone interrupt my play by touching me uninvited! Play gets stopped as i dont want anyone i am not attracted to touching me. This is basic etiquette people and I make it very clear that I won't tolerate unwanted touching!!

I don't mind people watching but no touching or running commentary. Because of this I no longer play in open areas but enjoy invite only areas.

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By *illyFischerMan
over a year ago

sale

Fair enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys have to work hard in clubs unfortunately.... There is always lots of competition

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By *aked_ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

nearby

Guess it's just us that doesn't mind a polite request during play then. Personally we don't mind. It takes seconds to say no thankyou. I wouldn't loose my rag with someone unless they didn't take no for an answer. All part of playing in open areas. If we wanted to play privately we would play at home.

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By *adysilkCouple
over a year ago

birmingham


"Guess it's just us that doesn't mind a polite request during play then. Personally we don't mind. It takes seconds to say no thankyou. I wouldn't loose my rag with someone unless they didn't take no for an answer. All part of playing in open areas. If we wanted to play privately we would play at home."
we agree with you

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Guess it's just us that doesn't mind a polite request during play then. Personally we don't mind. It takes seconds to say no thankyou. I wouldn't loose my rag with someone unless they didn't take no for an answer. All part of playing in open areas. If we wanted to play privately we would play at home. we agree with you "

Well if I bump in to you both I would ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much as most others have said. It will be nearly impossible to tell if the couple / people you are interested in would appreciate a touch or prefer you to ask so, common sense says take the safest, most non intrusive approach and ask. If you are not sure about asking then just watch. If anyone is getting intimate in a public area it is safe to assume that they don't mind being watched. Give them some space ie don't stand right next to them with you erect penis mm away from them as for some that's probably even worse than a discrete touch in a non intimate area. The other commonly appreciated advice is if you are watching and having a pleasurable little wank at the same time do put your locker key on a non moving part of your body!

And enjoy. They are great places and as long as you are respectful and open you will get along just fine.

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By *xxxMan
over a year ago

Bedford & Chester

Try to think of it as a social club rather than as a sex club and you'll probably have a better idea. Most clubs are different in style and layout but all will have a social area around a bar or seated area. Remember everyone there had am interest in sexy but not is not necessarily invested in having sex with you, nothing personally you will feel the same about others there.

As already advised talk to people being respectful to both people in a couple and you'll be welcomed. Act as if your goods gift and, whoever you are, it won't be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't touch uninvited - but do request politely if play is already underway.

We would *always* expect men to play with my male partner first.

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