FabSwingers.com forum: Wrist bands for clubs?

By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

Anybody think it's would be good if u worn wristbands on club nights?

with colours to show a basic of what your into.

Red = just watchers

Orange = soft swap

Green = full swap.

Mainly for couples and single females swingers nights.

Thinking least new couples mite feel a bit more at easy in a group situation if you havnt had a conversation with others in the room as you be able to just watch without being questioned

Plus it would be a conversion start as people would see your wristbands and that a starting point to start a conversation if your feeling shy.

What's yours guys thoughts?!.

Xxx

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

There are many old forum posts on this subject. If you just type in wrist bands into the search box, they will pop up. Many clubs already have an option in wristband system (some very complicated!) and they get mixed reviews xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't fit into your categories OP so what would we wear?

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Or you could talk to people ?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Or you could talk to people ?"

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

For us it depends on the night and how we feel and who is there and, like the others said, on the vibe and talking .... we don't like things to be that cut and dry ... plus you left out the straight, bi wristband combination .... plus those who only play with one race or another. I am not sure there are enough wristband colours. I think the wristband indicted you will play with anyone else who is in your chosen category, but I dont think people do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could talk to people ?

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

But why waste time talking to someone in a club that doesn't want to fuck you

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Imagine the confusion if someone turned up wearing some loom bands !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting as a couple our preferences were very fluid. And while in broad terms our preference was couples with a bisexual lady we experienced many different dynamics. Wristbands would certainly have meant some of those wouldn't have happened

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

I have always thought it was worth trying this.

Him

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

"Or you could talk to people ?

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

But why waste time talking to someone in a club that doesn't want to fuck you

This the such a good point. We talk to most people at a club and then find out there not into the same thing as us cut out the time wasting .

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

This would probably work best in club with single males as you could wear a band showing you not into single males.

As most of them seem to think everybody wants them and it a free for all.

But if we honest we avoid clubs with single males due to past issues which ruin your night.

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

"We don't fit into your categories OP so what would we wear? "

Hahaha dont know it was just an example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would probably work best in club with single males as you could wear a band showing you not into single males.

As most of them seem to think everybody wants them and it a free for all.

But if we honest we avoid clubs with single males due to past issues which ruin your night.

Xx"

Wow. That's a gross generalisation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't fit into your categories OP so what would we wear?

Hahaha dont know it was just an example.

xx"

In all seriousness I see the problem you're trying to solve, I'm just not sure there are enough categories for those attending to keep it simple and more than that I think it would limit the numbers we would chat to. What we like above all else in the clubs is the socialising. We always play together. Anything more with others is something we are open to on most visits but don't actively seek.

I guess we are all looking for different things and if you're looking to find the ones that are same as you and go off and play, then it would work. If you're looking to just go out and have a good fun night and there's a chance that if you meet someone similar you can play, perhaps it is less effective as it put more focus on the play and less on that social.

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

"This would probably work best in club with single males as you could wear a band showing you not into single males.

As most of them seem to think everybody wants them and it a free for all.

But if we honest we avoid clubs with single males due to past issues which ruin your night.

Wow. That's a gross generalisation!

We seem to find this in clubs we have been to in the past if we are honest maybe we have come across the wrong single males.

We have come across the odd respectable polite one.

But had a far few that follow us around clubs even when you have said no.

So we had to keep say no to and go away.

We are sure there are some good ones out there but we have yet to meet them so we find it easier to avoid nights with single males these days.

But I guess if you had a wristband on that indicted you wasnt intrested in single males then they mite avoid you.

This is just our view.

xxx

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

"We don't fit into your categories OP so what would we wear?

Hahaha dont know it was just an example.

It was mainly a thought for the newbies that go to a club for the first time.

We was chatting to a couple which came to a club we was at they was so nervous of what was going to happen and they just wanted to watch and play with own partner but was worried if in a room with a group of people and every started to play, they would feel uncomfortable.

So was thinking if they had a band on show they was watching on they mite feel more confident in a club maybe.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would probably work best in club with single males as you could wear a band showing you not into single males.

As most of them seem to think everybody wants them and it a free for all.

But if we honest we avoid clubs with single males due to past issues which ruin your night.

Wow. That's a gross generalisation!

We seem to find this in clubs we have been to in the past if we are honest maybe we have come across the wrong single males.

We have come across the odd respectable polite one.

But had a far few that follow us around clubs even when you have said no.

So we had to keep say no to and go away.

We are sure there are some good ones out there but we have yet to meet them so we find it easier to avoid nights with single males these days.

But I guess if you had a wristband on that indicted you wasnt intrested in single males then they mite avoid you.

This is just our view.

xxx"

But don't you think the ones that are like that would just ignore them anyway? Like the couples that message asking for bi play even though a profile says you're straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody think it's would be good if u worn wristbands on club nights?

with colours to show a basic of what your into.

Red = just watchers

Orange = soft swap

Green = full swap.

Mainly for couples and single females swingers nights.

Thinking least new couples mite feel a bit more at easy in a group situation if you havnt had a conversation with others in the room as you be able to just watch without being questioned

Plus it would be a conversion start as people would see your wristbands and that a starting point to start a conversation if your feeling shy.

What's yours guys thoughts?!.

Xxx"

Perhaps another colour for..."piss off we don't do single guys"....you could just hold it up...then they could have something else to ignore?

I just think there are easy ways already to make your preferences known?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Or you could talk to people ?

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

But why waste time talking to someone in a club that doesn't want to fuck you

This the such a good point. We talk to most people at a club and then find out there not into the same thing as us cut out the time wasting .

if you go with the impression that any time not talking to people you may play with is wasted conversation, then i think that says as much as anything,

i like talking to people for the sake of talking to people, it shows how friendly people are.... if i was to just say hello to be greeted by someone just waving a ribbon at me... i think that would be as unfriendly an act as i would have seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could talk to people ?

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

But why waste time talking to someone in a club that doesn't want to fuck you

This the such a good point. We talk to most people at a club and then find out there not into the same thing as us cut out the time wasting .

I'll be honest, my post may have lacked soncerity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anybody think it's would be good if u worn wristbands on club nights?

with colours to show a basic of what your into.

Red = just watchers

Orange = soft swap

Green = full swap.

Mainly for couples and single females swingers nights.

Thinking least new couples mite feel a bit more at easy in a group situation if you havnt had a conversation with others in the room as you be able to just watch without being questioned

Plus it would be a conversion start as people would see your wristbands and that a starting point to start a conversation if your feeling shy.

What's yours guys thoughts?!.

Xxx"
seriously.. a brilliant idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems a pretty crap idea to me...on our first visit to a club we had no idea what category we'd fall into so what would you suggest for that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its a good idea and i dont think it would work as you would need so many different colours to cover everyone and then no one would remember what colour stood for what.

Plus i feel it works better to simply talk to people.

We wouldnt wear them anyway as it would depend on the other people there as to whether or not we wanted to play or simply chill out and if they were enforced then we would stop going to clubs which is a shame

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

It wasn't a good idea last week or the week before.

Still don't think it is.

While in a club we can change our mind what we're looking for every Five minutes.

Plus 100 other reasons for "no".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't a good idea last week or the week before.

Still don't think it is.

While in a club we can change our mind what we're looking for every Five minutes.

Plus 100 other reasons for "no"."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems a pretty crap idea to me...on our first visit to a club we had no idea what category we'd fall into so what would you suggest for that situation? "

There could be a band for newbies. Maybe to be safe one colour for nervous newbies and a different color for confident newbies. Then maybe different bands for occasional clubbers and regular clubbers ro differentiate you from them.

Factor in the different bands for sexuality, for preferences and for who you do and don't want to approach you and hopefully you have log arms and a good memory!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or we could sack the whole band idea and rely on good old communication between grown ups

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

If we are honest we probably wouldn't wear a wristband other then to show we not interested in single males.

But wear a wristband I guess you can change you mind if you was soft swap to full swap in the moments of play. etc.

We chat to most people in a club and if your not our cup of tea we keep the chat brief so people don't get the wrong idea as it always a little awkward to say no thanks and a few time people get funny about it like why wots wrong with us...

Mr isn't bother in say no but i feel a little uncomfortable.

Like we say was just an idea for newbies to wear so maybe they mite feel a little less nervous when entering a club. Xxx

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

The only wristbands we'd find useful would be on a bi night for single guys who are straight and don't want to be approached by other men (yes - you do get straight men on a bi night).

It wouldn't have to be compulsory but would save any embarrassment when, in a group sex situation, you don't want to have to say to each and every guy present 'are you bi?' which would spoil the atmosphere somewhat. It'd be good to know who might be interested in some male bi action and who definitely wouldn't.

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

It would be more of who mite be interested and who mite not be intrested.

Like we say us season swingers arnt that bothered in saying what we are into and what we are not.

But we been to club when newbies have been very nervous not know what to expect from a club think everybody going to just on you like it's a meat market.lol.

We even spoke to some couple that park up outside and just drive off without going into the club throw nerves.

We was just try to think of ways to help newbies and nerves.

Any other ideas?!??

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best idea is to talk to people.

I am a very shy and nervous person in vanilla life but nowadays in a club i have no problem in saying "no thanks" to someone. The problems are generally if they ignore what i have said and/or carry on touching regardless but i doubt a wrist band would solve that problem lol

When i first went Chams as a couple and as a single i would have felt intimidated if i had had to choose my preferences when i got there as i really didnt know how the visit will turn out and what i would be looking for.

I can see why people keep starting these threads with wrist band sugestions but i cant see how it would work in the end and we wouldnt wear one.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Rubbish idea unless they`re "glow-in-the-dark"! Nuff said?

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By *icknsuck2 OP Couple
over a year ago

St Ives bay area

"Rubbish idea unless they`re "glow-in-the-dark"! Nuff said?

Think glow in the dark wristbands is more naff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hellfire club already do this

http://www.theold-hellfireclub.co.uk/Glow%20Sticks.html

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way is still to talk to people.

I might be wearing a 'full swap' wristband, but decide that with *that* person I don't want to full swap. Or I only want to watch someone else.

Wristbands, to me, create an obligation to always play to that level - otherwise what's the point of wearing them?

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We have been to a couple of events where wrist bands have been used. The main problem is that you need so many colours to try and cover everyone. we did go to a party where bi people were welcome as well as straight and the bi people wore a different colour to straight but it all gets quite confusing! certainly better to talk to people.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

It would not always be possible to say what you were going to do when you entered the club. I might just want to chat, but then meet a really hot guy ano decide to play. Surely people can change their mind depending on who they meet and how they feel. I personally don't see wrist bands working.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"We don't fit into your categories OP so what would we wear? "

Duffle coat with bright blue wellies xxx

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"The best way is still to talk to people.

I might be wearing a 'full swap' wristband, but decide that with *that* person I don't want to full swap. Or I only want to watch someone else.

Wristbands, to me, create an obligation to always play to that level - otherwise what's the point of wearing them?"

Not only that but green could make single men think no is not an option

What is wrong with talking is everyone so tight for time they cannot spare a minute to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At one club, a couple wearing red wristbands meant the couple did not want single guys. That helped me to know not to waste my time or theirs. Swingfields included colours for gay and bi preference. Saying hello and ascertaining who is with who and what they are interested in has always worked. It'll be either, yes, maybe later or no thank you. And that works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club we attend hold a glow band night. You wear on the wrist and choose as many colours that fit your mood/orientation. It's clear who wants what and is great fun

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Great idea. Black bands for black guys. .... how about different badges for dif religions. ...... been done to death this and it's never worked. Can't see any guys wearing a bi band

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

No I think it's an awful idea. Hubby and I have only been to a club once but wristbands would have definitely put us off.

Firstly we didn't really know what we were open to or not, just that we were easy going and would see what (if anything) would happen whilst we were there. So wristbands would have put us into a pigeonholed category that we really didn't want to be in.

Secondly we're quite fluid. On fab our age preference is up to 48 but we ended up chatting to a couple that was 46 and 53, and although nothing happened sexually with them we would have been open to it as we found them friendly and approachable and we were having fun chatting to them.

Plus I'm technically straight but I ended up with a bit of boob play with another woman who asked if she could do that with me.

The situation is fluid!

Also I'd find it really quite stand-offish to have someone wave a wristband at me if all I wanted to do was talk to them. Don't people just socialise any more for the sake of socialising? Sure we all like sex but surely being friendly isn't a crime?

Also in a dark room how are you supposed to see peoples wristband colours?

I could keep going on, but no. Just no. I wouldn't go to a club that does wristbands to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could talk to people ?

i know.... its such a radical suggestion.....

But why waste time talking to someone in a club that doesn't want to fuck you

This the such a good point. We talk to most people at a club and then find out there not into the same thing as us cut out the time wasting .

if you go with the impression that any time not talking to people you may play with is wasted conversation, then i think that says as much as anything,

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

We went to a club this weekend and had lovely conversations with several couples all of whom we did not play with.

If we had wrist bands on probably a few of those conversations would not have occurred. I think the wrist bands would more than likely be a solution that would prevent mingling. Which may make clubs seem very sterile.

Also we sometimes like to watch, sometimes soft play, rarely full swap. We like bi ladies but have also played it straight. We like 1 on 1, but also group fun. We generally are not interested in single guys but have played with them.

That is a hell of a colourful wrist band we would need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a great idea x

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