FabSwingers.com forum: Club Preference Bands

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, not sure is this has been discussed before but I know that some clubs provide coloured bands to help others identify your preferences to ease the meeting process.

Would it be a good idea for everyone on this site who visits a club to wear bands to let others see their preferences and make it easier to approach them.

All that would need to happen is agreement by the admin on colours mean what. They do not have to be massive bands more like small friend bracelets.

I.E.

No Single Males Please - Red

Interested in Single Men - Yellow

Interested in Couples - Blue

I am Bi / Bi-Curious - Green

Into S&M - Purple

Please Leave Us Alone - Orange

Bring it on - White

Etc. etc.

So for as a couple one of us would wear Red, Blue and Green

Guess Glow in the dark would be an option too

I know that colour blindness may be an issue here - but it is a start

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By *stwo80Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Or you could just try speaking to people !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could just try speaking to people !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or you could just try speaking to people !!

Completely agree - but for the newbies like us it is a bit daunting sometimes and small indicators would help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a dreadful idea, as i have said on other threads suggesting this.

It seemed that most people didnt like it.

We wouldnt wear them and if the club we go to enforces it then we would simply stop going.

Far better to chat to people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry - did not know it had been discussed before - it was just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you could just try speaking to people !!

Completely agree - but for the newbies like us it is a bit daunting sometimes and small indicators would help."

We were all newbies once and getting to know what people are looking for is a skillset you develop.

Questions which you never dreamed of asking become the norm and you do get creative in how to gently turn people down or sometimes you need to be blunt.

You'll be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We were all newbies once and getting to know what people are looking for is a skillset you develop."

Guess being married for 18 years has kept us out of the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were all newbies once and getting to know what people are looking for is a skillset you develop.

Guess being married for 18 years has kept us out of the game

But also puts you in a good place to get into the game!

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By *heBakeOLiteGirlWoman
over a year ago

62 West Wallaby Street (not real address)

Not sure I would want to wear a band in a club. People would have to remember what they meant for starters and all clubs would probably need to keep the same colours for the different meanings or it could get confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it has been discussed before, as with everything lots for and against.

Me, there is no way I would ever wear a band showing any preferences, I don't go to clubs with any mindset as to the sex or type of person I want to play with, I prefer to see who is there and chat to people and see whether we match up personally rather than a forced conversation based upon a coloured band.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

We give black people black bands and White prople white bands. Stops any confusion

Jesus.

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By *angbang junkieCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

We certainly wouldn't wear them either. Makes things horribly segregated and clunky.

We both have a gob, and the ability to speak through it. We wouldn't go to a club that enforced them either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We give black people black bands and White prople white bands. Stops any confusion

Jesus. "

Not sure this comment was necessary, nothing to do with what we were suggesting PLUS it was only an open suggestion / discussion

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

The bands would have to be "glow-in-the-dark" ones as most clubs are too dark to see the colours otherwise!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We have wondered about this in the past, but it would just get too complicated remembering them & what combinations mean. We have found it is easier just talking to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, not sure is this has been discussed before but I know that some clubs provide coloured bands to help others identify your preferences to ease the meeting process.

Would it be a good idea for everyone on this site who visits a club to wear bands to let others see their preferences and make it easier to approach them.

All that would need to happen is agreement by the admin on colours mean what. They do not have to be massive bands more like small friend bracelets.

I.E.

No Single Males Please - Red

Interested in Single Men - Yellow

Interested in Couples - Blue

I am Bi / Bi-Curious - Green

Into S&M - Purple

Please Leave Us Alone - Orange

Bring it on - White

Etc. etc.

So for as a couple one of us would wear Red, Blue and Green

Guess Glow in the dark would be an option too

I know that colour blindness may be an issue here - but it is a start"

What if:

We were interested in men, and couples then she's Bi and we like a bit of spanking.

We'd have: yellow, blue, green and purple.

But then later in the night we don't want any more single men, we'd have to swap bands.

Think we'll stick with chatting to people

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

"We have wondered about this in the past, but it would just get too complicated remembering them & what combinations mean. We have found it is easier just talking to people.

I think it's a good idea in some clubs where it's more like a vanilla club (people not knowing who to talk to or just dancing away) as you might not know who to talk to. It's a known fact that not everyone has retentive memories so there'll be stickers at strategic points saying what each colour means. Some will agree some won't, but I don't mind either way.

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

You know those profiles you come across which have a profile pic but no details, no interests listed, but in the text it says "Just ask!" and you wish they'd just listed what they're after so you can figure out whether to send a nice message.

Clubs can be a bit like that for us.

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

We've issued (optional) coloured play bands for preferences at Swingfields before and they've been popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The club we go to has black light in play areas so the colours wouldn't show up...just to add that into the mix...

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

If you've got as far as the play areas, you're definitely beyond needing help from the bands

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