FabSwingers.com forum: Watching & being watched

By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

So had my first club experience as a couple and loved it. We ended up in the viewing room at Chams. My partner seemed to notice people where I could only focus on him as I was finding it all very surreal. Lovely and fun but surreal.

So I am now left wondering? Is this the way others feel,does that change? Do others feel a bit self conscious at first? Was I missing out by not paying attention? Was I being rude not acknowledging when or if someone was watching us?

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Glad you had a great time. We still find it a bit surreal and we've been a few times now! It is part of the fun really. Sometimes one of us is more aware of people, sometimes the other, sometimes we just get lost in what we are doing, or who we are doing it with

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We've experienced this a handful of times now and it does get less surreal. We find that we're able to take in more of our surroundings as we play and watch others at the same time.

We don't feel like we're putting on a show so much but we are conscious that we're being watched so want to look good

Working in some flattering angles and positions can help with the self consciousness, we find. Makes it exciting too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time we were watched we both enjoyed it but it felt like we were putting on a show and we lost the intimacy.

Since then we have had a better balance of being intimate and caught up with each other and still wanting to look good and half aware others are there.

I've found at times I prefer not to know if we are being watched so don't look towards that direction, usually when I'm getting the attention. Other times I've loved knowing it, and played up to it, usually when I've been 'looking after' him so I'm both making sure he has fun and it hopefully is a good angle for those looking on.

But when we are really into it together we are both quite oblivious to comings and goings.

Forgot what the question was now

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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

We were just so caught up in each other. I really didn't give anyone a second thought.. now I'm worried about angles !! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So had my first club experience as a couple and loved it. We ended up in the viewing room at Chams. My partner seemed to notice people where I could only focus on him as I was finding it all very surreal. Lovely and fun but surreal.

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I try not to think about who's watching and concentrate on the lady ,I was at abfabs couples night in dungeon ,swing and public rooms with one way mirror I love it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were just so caught up in each other. I really didn't give anyone a second thought.. now I'm worried about angles !! Lol

Xx "

Haha. You're being judged for your angles lol!!!

What I meant was, if I'm on my knees and he's stood up, we will generally turn so we are position so the window can see what we are up to. Nothing more than that.

Only played once in a big open room when the club was quiet. Still people around and then we weren't doing that as others could move around us. That was a great night mmmm.

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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"We were just so caught up in each other. I really didn't give anyone a second thought.. now I'm worried about angles !! Lol

Haha. You're being judged for your angles lol!!!

What I meant was, if I'm on my knees and he's stood up, we will generally turn so we are position so the window can see what we are up to. Nothing more than that.

Only played once in a big open room when the club was quiet. Still people around and then we weren't doing that as others could move around us. That was a great night mmmm."

It's certainly interesting. I think I like the idea of putting on a bit of a show sometime. Must pack dressing up box next time

It's definitely left me curious as to what people may have been thinking as they watched us. However I also kinda like the anonymity of it too. X

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I was highly conciouse of my first time playing in a club, the people just pouring in from all angles was a bit offputting. but I should imagine you get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We were just so caught up in each other. I really didn't give anyone a second thought.. now I'm worried about angles !! Lol

Haha. You're being judged for your angles lol!!!

What I meant was, if I'm on my knees and he's stood up, we will generally turn so we are position so the window can see what we are up to. Nothing more than that.

Only played once in a big open room when the club was quiet. Still people around and then we weren't doing that as others could move around us. That was a great night mmmm.

It's certainly interesting. I think I like the idea of putting on a bit of a show sometime. Must pack dressing up box next time

It's definitely left me curious as to what people may have been thinking as they watched us. However I also kinda like the anonymity of it too. X"

Can't help you with what they are thinking. I'm too shy to watch. I know how ridiculous that sounds.

I'm always a little shy returning to the bar afterwards but it doesn't last long.

Did you enjoy Chams? We are going to try it out early June we think, passing by so seems like a good idea

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