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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do the single guys on Fab think to going to clubs alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this, you normally have to fork out for it, or find yourself a partner.

I really enjoyed my experience and looking forward to the next one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs alone all the time. As long as you're friendly and make an effort to chat to people you can have a great time. Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though.

You can do it at a fairly reasonable cost as well if you bother to look round for events etc where you don't have to pay for membership or go to clubs that don't charge membership.

I'd recommend it as long as you do your homework on the club and have the right attitude when you gte to the club as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond"

Sometimes a night out can cost us £300 with entrance fee, hotel travel and meals etc but there is no guarantee of play the entrance fee to a club is just that an entrance fee what happens inside is between consenting adults

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond"

With that sort of attitude to attending clubs we'd give you a very wide berth if we saw you there!

My husband and I met as singles on here and often go to clubs just to socialise and meet up with friends. Heck, there have even been times when we haven't even played with each other at clubs, let alone with others!

Clubs are about so much more than sex. Meeting with like minded people, chatting, using the facilities such as jacuzzi, maybe even watching others. If you're expecting to pay an entrance fee and be guaranteed to get a shag then you'll be deeply disappointed, maybe try a brothel instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is abit to much to pay for the atmosphere lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond"

Once again, who says you have to fork out £50 you can get in lots of clubs on lots of nights much cheaper than that,

If you want a guaranteed shag then hire an escort. If you want a great social atmosphere with lots of like minded people with the chance of playing if you actually present yourself right, then go to a club but do your homework first.

I go to clubs first and foremost for the social side of things. The fact that I do get to play quite often because of that is a bonus.

If you want to go there with the attitude of I've paid to get in so I'm entitled to a shag then watch your money get wasted.

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond"

Even though yesterday you claimed ALL women and couples on this site were on commission, surprised you want to go to a club if you think that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

Even though yesterday you claimed ALL women and couples on this site were on commission, surprised you want to go to a club if you think that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

Sometimes a night out can cost us £300 with entrance fee, hotel travel and meals etc but there is no guarantee of play the entrance fee to a club is just that an entrance fee what happens inside is between consenting adults "

£300 for a shag, no ty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is abit to much to pay for the atmosphere lol."

and a shag which isn't guaranteed

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I really enjoy having single guys around in a club, and several have really enjoyed having me! Generally the more you expect or demand the less you get so be friendly, cool and polite!

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

Remember that meeting people at clubs isn't just about what happens AT the club. By meeting people you're widening your circle of friends in the scene. Weeks later, you might see a status/meet request from someone you met, they now already know you're a real person, you show up to clubs, they know exactly what you look like, not just pics, you might have even been "their cup of tea" and it can lead to more.

By visiting clubs, we've met so many great people, and gone on to meet them outside of the club environment, and also been invited to more select parties. (and that's often after not playing at all on the first occasion)

It's not all about getting in and getting a shag.

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By *ovetolaugh699Man
over a year ago

southend

Never paid anywhere close to £50 for a club.

Best bet is to socialise and go with the flow. If anything happens then its a bonus.

Personally both times I have been to one I have not been disappointed. However is can be very daunting for your first time on your own.

I think I would have a heart attack if I go to one again. Lol

Just go with an open mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is abit to much to pay for the atmosphere lol.

and a shag which isn't guaranteed "
That is right as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember that meeting people at clubs isn't just about what happens AT the club. By meeting people you're widening your circle of friends in the scene. Weeks later, you might see a status/meet request from someone you met, they now already know you're a real person, you show up to clubs, they know exactly what you look like, not just pics, you might have even been "their cup of tea" and it can lead to more.

By visiting clubs, we've met so many great people, and gone on to meet them outside of the club environment, and also been invited to more select parties. (and that's often after not playing at all on the first occasion)

It's not all about getting in and getting a shag. "

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

With that sort of attitude to attending clubs we'd give you a very wide berth if we saw you there!

My husband and I met as singles on here and often go to clubs just to socialise and meet up with friends. Heck, there have even been times when we haven't even played with each other at clubs, let alone with others!

Clubs are about so much more than sex. Meeting with like minded people, chatting, using the facilities such as jacuzzi, maybe even watching others. If you're expecting to pay an entrance fee and be guaranteed to get a shag then you'll be deeply disappointed, maybe try a brothel instead. "

That's what do, don't get me wrong I am quite luck and normally get to play but on the times I haven't I have chatted, flirted, danced, play pool got to know couples females and played at a later date

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire


"Remember that meeting people at clubs isn't just about what happens AT the club. By meeting people you're widening your circle of friends in the scene. Weeks later, you might see a status/meet request from someone you met, they now already know you're a real person, you show up to clubs, they know exactly what you look like, not just pics, you might have even been "their cup of tea" and it can lead to more.

By visiting clubs, we've met so many great people, and gone on to meet them outside of the club environment, and also been invited to more select parties. (and that's often after not playing at all on the first occasion)

It's not all about getting in and getting a shag. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond"

The simple answer is... if you think that spending out £50 for entry into a club is a guaranteed shag, then your best off visiting a prostitute.

Club's are SOCIAL with a hint of play, that is if you go in with the right frame of mind.

It's not shagathon.com !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

The simple answer is... if you think that spending out £50 for entry into a club is a guaranteed shag, then your best off visiting a prostitute.

Club's are SOCIAL with a hint of play, that is if you go in with the right frame of mind.

It's not shagathon.com !

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Can you tell me precisely at which point I said anything about a guaranteed shag? Hey I love to watch as much as play

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By *luejohnMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I'm new to the swinging scene and have been to the same club twice. The first time I got 'lucky' but not the second time but on both occasions had a really nice time chatting and having fun with likeminded people. It's keen to try other places as wel now.

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By *luejohnMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Damn predictive text!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"What do the single guys on Fab think to going to clubs alone?"

I don't go!

I feel that it's a bit demeaning to know that I'd be a lower class citizen, although the highest paying!

Also, I could chat and meet up with a lady on here for free. Or even meet up with a lady who I already know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do the single guys on Fab think to going to clubs alone?

I don't go!

I feel that it's a bit demeaning to know that I'd be a lower class citizen, although the highest paying!

Also, I could chat and meet up with a lady on here for free. Or even meet up with a lady who I already know."

Yes the meets and plays I have had so far have not been in clubs. So saved a sackful of money. And it was probably more relaxed than how I imagine a club, but thats just me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Remember that meeting people at clubs isn't just about what happens AT the club. By meeting people you're widening your circle of friends in the scene. Weeks later, you might see a status/meet request from someone you met, they now already know you're a real person, you show up to clubs, they know exactly what you look like, not just pics, you might have even been "their cup of tea" and it can lead to more.

By visiting clubs, we've met so many great people, and gone on to meet them outside of the club environment, and also been invited to more select parties. (and that's often after not playing at all on the first occasion)

It's not all about getting in and getting a shag. "

Yes very valid point, could make a number of friends all in one evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you honesty want to know what a club ia like, then do what the rest of us single males have done. ... RESPECT others is the first thing you MUST learn.

2nd... be POLITE!

3rd... check the club's reviews and pick one that best suits you.

We have all done the legwork for you, it's all up to you now where you decide to go.

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By *R and BlondieCouple
over a year ago

Bebington, wirral

I really don't get the problem with singles guys and clubs. Our local club charges max £30 entrance but often does cheaper nights. If you like a drink take your own booze,despite the fact the bar is cheap so just pay for soft drinks. They are close to public transport. So how does it be that more expensive than a normal Saturday night out in town where you'd not get many rounds in for £30 quid. And At our swinger club you get to have soak in jacuzzi, or chill in the sauna and meet like minded individuals, surely that alone makes it cost effective. Bonus, if you hit it off with someone there is somewhere upstairs to take them and get more intimate

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By *ustyBBW42Couple
over a year ago

bromsgrove

We love single guys at the club had fun with a few now at xtasia x x x

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By *kindofmagicXXXMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Thinking of dipping my toes in again sometime. Just to socialise anyway and the intrigue. Maybe watch and go with the flow. Went once ages ago and socialised then. Not sure about going alone though.

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By * TRUE GENTMan
over a year ago

west bromwich

Well have no problem been in any club as long as it as good food and a nice jacuzzi and where I can get bubbles in my back and chat to nice people then I am a happy bunny .if a lady or couple wish to have an intimate moment ,then would have to drag me into a room you may say why go to such clubs ,well you meet open minded people that you can have banter with just a nice social night out is all I ever wish to have

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well have no problem been in any club as long as it as good food and a nice jacuzzi and where I can get bubbles in my back and chat to nice people then I am a happy bunny .if a lady or couple wish to have an intimate moment ,then would have to drag me into a room you may say why go to such clubs ,well you meet open minded people that you can have banter with just a nice social night out is all I ever wish to have "

Yes that sounds lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular visitor, talk to people and make friends.....

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By *r_G_SPMan
over a year ago

Nice shoes

I go to several clubs often. I love the atmosphere, the people and the excitement of doing things that would be taboo in the real world.

If you are polite, funny, dress good and smell good you will always have a great time. Where better to meet and get to know people in a safe and friendly environment.

Sometimes you do get the odd evening ruined by ignorant arsholes that think they can stand in a corner not speak then as soon as they see fun they think they can touch without asking! Apart from that I love clubs

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one."

exactly how I see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it"

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club "

Im sure they aren't scary. Why though do you think a few guys on here have the same opinion as me, and hesitate the first time, find it a daunting prospect.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club "

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Im sure they aren't scary. Why though do you think a few guys on here have the same opinion as me, and hesitate the first time, find it a daunting prospect. "

I don't really know to be honest, i feel that if there's something you want to try... Just go and do it! I got bored of being let down by guys that were going to go with me so I thought sod it, and went alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with."

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??"

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal."

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal.

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you "

Thing is personally I think I'd love clubs. It is totally my thing. From what I've read and heard it feels like they would be perfect for me. It's just the idea of going alone as a single guy holds no fun for me. I imagine there's a lot of average Joe's like myself who feel the same. They just want to get their foot in the door but are finding it all a bit awkward finding their way into the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you even get to play as well which is a bonus. The social side of things is the main thing for me though....

I find this line quite interesting, so fork out £50 to sit around and chat for the night. I have mates I can do that with LOL.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

With that sort of attitude to attending clubs we'd give you a very wide berth if we saw you there!

My husband and I met as singles on here and often go to clubs just to socialise and meet up with friends. Heck, there have even been times when we haven't even played with each other at clubs, let alone with others!

Clubs are about so much more than sex. Meeting with like minded people, chatting, using the facilities such as jacuzzi, maybe even watching others. If you're expecting to pay an entrance fee and be guaranteed to get a shag then you'll be deeply disappointed, maybe try a brothel instead. "

Im with you here...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal.

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you

Thing is personally I think I'd love clubs. It is totally my thing. From what I've read and heard it feels like they would be perfect for me. It's just the idea of going alone as a single guy holds no fun for me. I imagine there's a lot of average Joe's like myself who feel the same. They just want to get their foot in the door but are finding it all a bit awkward finding their way into the scene."

Well your in a bit of a chicken and egg scenario the best way to meet people is to go to clubs, but you aren't going to meet this people unless you go to clubs

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal.

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you

Thing is personally I think I'd love clubs. It is totally my thing. From what I've read and heard it feels like they would be perfect for me. It's just the idea of going alone as a single guy holds no fun for me. I imagine there's a lot of average Joe's like myself who feel the same. They just want to get their foot in the door but are finding it all a bit awkward finding their way into the scene."

I totally get where you are coming from. I think some people expect guys to be all brave and confident in a club and I find that actually in a lot of cases, the opposite is actually the case!

For this reason we do an intro evening for new guys on a Weds night before the club opens and guys get shown around (no more than 5 or 6 guys), they can ask any questions and it's all very relaxed and informative. It is free, you get a drink on the house ad if you think after the hour intro, it's not for you, then you walk away, no questions asked. If you like what you see and you want to be considered for a free membership, then you may stay for the rest of the evening and enjoy the facilities, even if you just want to have a drink at the bar and enjoy the hot tub.

We find that nervous guys soon settle in and because we have taken the time to chat to them properly, there is no 'misinterpretation' of the rules! lol

It takes some time and effort on our part, but it works for the guys and also for the couples/ladies who know that the guys have had a proper induction

Vicky x

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal.

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you

Thing is personally I think I'd love clubs. It is totally my thing. From what I've read and heard it feels like they would be perfect for me. It's just the idea of going alone as a single guy holds no fun for me. I imagine there's a lot of average Joe's like myself who feel the same. They just want to get their foot in the door but are finding it all a bit awkward finding their way into the scene.

Well your in a bit of a chicken and egg scenario the best way to meet people is to go to clubs, but you aren't going to meet this people unless you go to clubs "

I think the best thing for me is to wait until I've got someone to go with. It's going to be the only way with me. I have no desire going alone.

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By *r_G_SPMan
over a year ago

Nice shoes


"I'd love to visit a club one day but I'd just feel too awkward going on my own. Going with someone else or knowing I'd be meeting someone I knew in there would be fine but just going on my own puts me off.

Plus I don't really know how things work at a club. Sadly I'd just feel too daunted by it all. A shame because I would really love to visit one.

exactly how I see it

Clubs arent for everyone, but I always think it's good to try, seeing as you want to!!they arent scary places, just like a sexy bar/club

Personally I wouldn't particularly enjoy it just walking in there not knowing anyone. That would go for any pub or club. That's just not me. I'd really need to know I was going to meet someone I knew there. Ideally I could do with finding a lady friend to go along with.

Really?? You wouldn't go into a regular pub by yourself and just have a drink and or chat to the locals??

I've never been that kind of guy. Never been in that situation if I'm honest. Not my thing at all. I'm sure if it was, then going to a club on my own wouldn't be that big deal."

Clubs aren't for everyone and this goes for couples and singles. Some people are better in more intimate surroundings rather than large social gatherings you should do what suits you

Thing is personally I think I'd love clubs. It is totally my thing. From what I've read and heard it feels like they would be perfect for me. It's just the idea of going alone as a single guy holds no fun for me. I imagine there's a lot of average Joe's like myself who feel the same. They just want to get their foot in the door but are finding it all a bit awkward finding their way into the scene.

I totally get where you are coming from. I think some people expect guys to be all brave and confident in a club and I find that actually in a lot of cases, the opposite is actually the case!

For this reason we do an intro evening for new guys on a Weds night before the club opens and guys get shown around (no more than 5 or 6 guys), they can ask any questions and it's all very relaxed and informative. It is free, you get a drink on the house ad if you think after the hour intro, it's not for you, then you walk away, no questions asked. If you like what you see and you want to be considered for a free membership, then you may stay for the rest of the evening and enjoy the facilities, even if you just want to have a drink at the bar and enjoy the hot tub.

We find that nervous guys soon settle in and because we have taken the time to chat to them properly, there is no 'misinterpretation' of the rules! lol

It takes some time and effort on our part, but it works for the guys and also for the couples/ladies who know that the guys have had a proper induction

Vicky x

This is such a good idea. Pity more clubs don't follow suit then maybe more guys would learn club etiquette. Perhaps then you wouldn't get so many that stand around mute expecting fun to come to them. Those pests ruin everyone's fun.

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