FabSwingers.com forum: Men in clubs ... Question

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well I wouldn't go to a club unless single men where going to be there

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

Funny but true

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We like to see & meet single guys in clubs. Part of the fun is finding a cute guy to play with. The challenge is getting one of them to say hello - a simple hi is worth a million zombie wanks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

reason why I find it a pathetic venture, part three.

Embarrassing!

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By *eekayCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

Quality.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

One of the reasons we go to clubs is the availablity of single men.

Plus the availability of single women and couples.

We have never had a situation when singles have been obtrusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

Quality.

......Quality dogging?

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

We don't go to clubs on singles nights. For us, swinging is about playing with other couples.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

I always think they look like a flock of starlings lol - but where would we be without the sexy, intelligent ones? Xx

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Never had a problem with single guys at clubs on any night I've attended, always been polite and chatty and accepting when I've said not interested, I wouldn't go if there were no single guys there.

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

Is that not a good look then?

This is my only reason for attending

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would we know how you arrived?.....unless....

"MY NAME IS RON BURGUNDY, AND I ARRIVED AT THIS CLUB ALONE!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My penis smells of rich mahogany and I have many leather bound......kidnap victims!"

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"How would we know how you arrived?.....unless....

"MY NAME IS RON BURGUNDY, AND I ARRIVED AT THIS CLUB ALONE!""

I tend to go with "Hi, I'm Ed Winchester"

Wows 'em everytime

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

That's better than standing in the door way, arms flung wide like Alan Partridge.. "Ah Haah! "

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I'm not sure whether the question is simply about single men in clubs, or whether they should be turning up alone or in groups (or with their mum?

). I'll answer (a)...

We have only been to the Attic, where we have found

Most single men are polite

Most are respectful

Most are welcoming

Most are 'normal'.

A few may try to push their luck, but have always responded well when spoken to.

Overall they are no different to me, or couples, or single women, or any other group really.

When we first considered a club, we only wanted to go on a night with no single men, as we were really apprehensive, but the Attic don't have couple-only nights. As it turned out our worries were mostly in our minds, and we needn't have worried.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the term "Flock of Seagulls"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have only been to va and the single men have only ever been polite and never felt like they were wanking zombies. Had fun with a couple of them too. We like finding a nice young man to join us (and couples too!)

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never been to a club but I suspect id be walking about being a voyuer with a big grin on my face on my first visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

Sometimes single women are idiots, sometimes couples are entitled morons, sometimes single guys are idiots. I'm not defending anyone's behaviour but only the single guys are vilified for other peoples behaviour constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

Turning up by themselves? Who else do you expect a single guy to turn up with? His mum n dad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

Turning up by themselves? Who else do you expect a single guy to turn up with? His mum n dad?"

Or his nan & grandad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are only interested in single guys in a club so we only go when single guys are allowed in and although some do behave badly, most are fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again. "

its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer single men to go as single men, rather than latch on to a woman for the sake of it. Been to clubs many times where a man has tagged along with a woman who he barely knows. Surprisingly, it seems to be the woman that kicks off if the man wishes to play with someone else, as she wants him to give her all the attention. While I know it can be expensive for a man to go, I won't go near a man who has just joined up with a woman for the night as it's been seen to cause far too much drama.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again.

its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

What a nice sexy ass moron lol.... xxxxx

I'm still going strong lol xxxxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

Only those called Gordon

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "

No point in me visiting any club unless single men are welcome on that evening too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "

So are you saying you don't want single men at clubs?? Just asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

I can definatly say I am not a member of this squad lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again.

its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

What a nice sexy ass moron lol.... xxxxx

I'm still going strong lol xxxxx"

good morning suzi how are you?

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

As a single guy I love attending clubs, meeting new people, chatting to those I already know and generally having fun. I've no desire to follow women or couples around all night nor do I wish to join the Wanking Dead.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

When you say single guys ....... By themselves fine but we were in a club and about 6 guys trundled in and were a complete pain in the arse thought it was pussy on tap ! Soon got fucked off though !

So single guys yes very respectful on mass not a chance

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again.

its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

What a nice sexy ass moron lol.... xxxxx

I'm still going strong lol xxxxx

good morning suzi how are you?

Very tired actually, been a busy night....gonna be zzzzing it soon ...xxxxxx

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I find them a mixed bunch, the same as anyone else.

I do wish they'd not wait till no one could see them, before they ask if I want some fun with them, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again. "

Looking forward to the days that actually happens to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go to a club unless single men were there.

I'll make a point of chatting to any that are obviously visiting for the first time.

Most are shy and nervous and seem to appreciate someone coming and saying hi to them.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

What about the d*unk cackling women.

Or the entitled men in couples that think being in a couple puts them in a higher social scale. Same for the women in couples.

The sweet polite single men that look out for the single woman that chats to them and (possibly) makes them feel human again. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often find that single guys just walk fast around the club, never speaking to anyone. Some often have their hand on their cock too.

It's a shame they don't chat to people even just a simple "hello" can start a conversation.

Last time we went we got talking to one guy in particular, chatting about football cus we are avid fans. Other guys joined in too and it made a pleasant social time

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"I wouldn't go to a club unless single men were there.

I'll make a point of chatting to any that are obviously visiting for the first time.

Most are shy and nervous and seem to appreciate someone coming and saying hi to them."

As a TV I've always been accepted and involved at clubs. But then being dressed in sexy underwear seems to help

But I'd never go as a single bloke. Ok there are some - good looking ones or regulars - who do alright but most are standing round like zombies....but they are not zombies they are just hoping but very much out of their comfort zone. they are there for a thrill but are feeling timid. They are there for easy sex but nothing is easy.

I think you should make them feel at home and at ease...it must be sooo difficult.

Sometimes I see myself as doing a social service....sort of pro bonk.

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By *S RachaelTV/TS
over a year ago

Lowestoft

Fucking phone...not 'pro bonk' 'pro bono'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "

Clubs are something i'd like to try but i think i'd feel a bit like a spare part!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We often find that single guys just walk fast around the club, never speaking to anyone. Some often have their hand on their cock too.

It's a shame they don't chat to people even just a simple "hello" can start a conversation.

Last time we went we got talking to one guy in particular, chatting about football cus we are avid fans. Other guys joined in too and it made a pleasant social time

You ask why single men don't chat to people - I'd ask why so many couples I've met at my usual club (AbFabs) won't even reply to a 'Hello'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

That is funny. "The Wanking Dead" Poor things, they just need some female attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

Hahaha so funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't go to couples nights and prefer the nights with single men. Me i wouldn't go if there was no single men in a club find it boring without them!

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fantastic response .....

I didn't state my opinion as I didn't want to bias the question. im kool with single makes in clubs xxx

My opinion - Rough Results:

Reputational - negative "flock of starlings" type thing especially if arrive in a group

Actual generalised - need and wanted to be in clubs for enjoyment of all

Issue - communication - initial contact for both parties / nerves / wants / not knowing etc.....

THANK YOU SO MUCH xxxx

Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We often find that single guys just walk fast around the club, never speaking to anyone. Some often have their hand on their cock too.

It's a shame they don't chat to people even just a simple "hello" can start a conversation.

Last time we went we got talking to one guy in particular, chatting about football cus we are avid fans. Other guys joined in too and it made a pleasant social time

You ask why single men don't chat to people - I'd ask why so many couples I've met at my usual club (AbFabs) won't even reply to a 'Hello'."

It works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We often find that single guys just walk fast around the club, never speaking to anyone. Some often have their hand on their cock too.

It's a shame they don't chat to people even just a simple "hello" can start a conversation.

Last time we went we got talking to one guy in particular, chatting about football cus we are avid fans. Other guys joined in too and it made a pleasant social time

You ask why single men don't chat to people - I'd ask why so many couples I've met at my usual club (AbFabs) won't even reply to a 'Hello'.

It works both ways.

AGREED

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Fantastic response .....

I didn't state my opinion as I didn't want to bias the question. im kool with single makes in clubs xxx

My opinion - Rough Results:

Reputational - negative "flock of starlings" type thing especially if arrive in a group

Actual generalised - need and wanted to be in clubs for enjoyment of all

Issue - communication - initial contact for both parties / nerves / wants / not knowing etc.....

THANK YOU SO MUCH xxxx

Mwah xx

OMG

Do you work for Sydney University?

Gissa plane ticket so we can get a pic of Mrs ddc on Sydney Harbour Bridge, I promise we'll do all your future studies too

Mr ddc

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I like them if they're nice, respectful and chatty. Just like anyone really

Unfortunately some turn into the Zombie Wanking Squad once they get through the door

i've seen the same amount of couples just go... sit in a corner and not say boo to a goose..... so men aren't the only culprits!!!!!

anyway.... its just a door.... if you are adult enough to be on a site like this and look for partners to play with, then surely you are adult enough to walking thru a door all by yourself......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fantastic response .....

I didn't state my opinion as I didn't want to bias the question. im kool with single makes in clubs xxx

My opinion - Rough Results:

Reputational - negative "flock of starlings" type thing especially if arrive in a group

Actual generalised - need and wanted to be in clubs for enjoyment of all

Issue - communication - initial contact for both parties / nerves / wants / not knowing etc.....

THANK YOU SO MUCH xxxx

Mwah xx

OMG

Do you work for Sydney University?

Gissa plane ticket so we can get a pic of Mrs ddc on Sydney Harbour Bridge, I promise we'll do all your future studies too

Mr ddc"

Us too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like to see & meet single guys in clubs. Part of the fun is finding a cute guy to play with. The challenge is getting one of them to say hello - a simple hi is worth a million zombie wanks....

As a single guy, I'm there alone, feeling very much on the periphery of an alien environment - dying to participate in a sociable chat (nevermind the vanishingly small odds of being invited to play). The main challenge for me, is finding a valid conversation opener. Having said that, someone pointed out that 'Hello' sometimes works! (Will try that, next time and see what happens)

At my last club visit, I got lost and arrived late. There was a great crowd but everyone was already engaged in loud conversation. Not always easy (or polite) to butt in, willy nilly.

I can't speak for other single guys but this one very much appreciates it, when someone says hi. It can turn an otherwise lonely evening, into a fun event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind them

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"We like to see & meet single guys in clubs. Part of the fun is finding a cute guy to play with. The challenge is getting one of them to say hello - a simple hi is worth a million zombie wanks....

At my last club visit, I got lost and arrived late. There was a great crowd but everyone was already engaged in loud conversation. Not always easy (or polite) to butt in, willy nilly.

I can't speak for other single guys but this one very much appreciates it, when someone says hi. It can turn an otherwise lonely evening, into a fun event."

Don't know how it works for couples but this is how it works with me:

You: "Hi, I saw you as you as you arrived and I just had to say that you look very nice in that dress/outfit"

Me: "Oh, thank you"

"Are you here with your husband?"

"No I came here on my own"

"So did I; do you mind if we chat for a little while?"

"Not at all"

You get the picture. Keep the conversation away from sex or swinging or swing clubs for the next 5 to 10 minutes but don't start asking personal questions like where I live etc, unless you first volunteer this information about yourself. Even then, be careful when asking for such details. Keep your questions open and non-threatening. Don't ask, "have you had 'fun' yet?"

But for heavens sake, don't write all of this on the back of your and read from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know how it works for couples but this is how it works with me:

You: "Hi, I saw you as you as you arrived and I just had to say that you look very nice in that dress/outfit"

Me: "Oh, thank you"

"Are you here with your husband?"

"No I came here on my own"

"So did I; do you mind if we chat for a little while?"

"Not at all"

But for heavens sake, don't write all of this on the back of your and read from there

Thanks for the tips! - I'd forgotten about compliments.

(Recently single, after 24 years of wife doing all the talking - haha).

Tbh, I usually feel that people are thinking 'a fugly like him, doesn't belong here', so I'm unlikely to steer conversation away from harmless small-talk. But even that is better than awkward silence.

I'll take your advice onboard and try it, at the next event

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single bloke going into a club... my first visit I waa extremely nervous, but put at ease by the lovely owners, I don't follow anyone around... I prefer to stay at the bar area and have a drink, chat with a few people, and generally treat it like a social club

Now I go regular to a club, I am getting known by people and getting more sociable with them all, that's what it's all about in my view, not a shagfest just because I have paid my entrance fee's.

Happy to just go and be myself, something that the owners of the club have helped me to do over the last 6 months.... I feel normal again!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Don't know how it works for couples but this is how it works with me:

You: "Hi, I saw you as you as you arrived and I just had to say that you look very nice in that dress/outfit"

Me: "Oh, thank you"

"Are you here with your husband?"

"No I came here on my own"

"So did I; do you mind if we chat for a little while?"

"Not at all"

But for heavens sake, don't write all of this on the back of your and read from there

Thanks for the tips! - I'd forgotten about compliments.

(Recently single, after 24 years of wife doing all the talking - haha).

I'll take your advice onboard and try it, at the next event

Oh and, once I start talking you wouldn't need to worry too much about what you might have to say next; I only pause for short, life-sustaining gulps of oxygen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we go to a club then we only go for the single men so no single men then no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhhh Josie you bloody tease!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We often find that single guys just walk fast around the club, never speaking to anyone. Some often have their hand on their cock too.

It's a shame they don't chat to people even just a simple "hello" can start a conversation.

Last time we went we got talking to one guy in particular, chatting about football cus we are avid fans. Other guys joined in too and it made a pleasant social time

You ask why single men don't chat to people - I'd ask why so many couples I've met at my usual club (AbFabs) won't even reply to a 'Hello'.

It works both ways.

It does indeed however many guys don't respond to my "hello" other than following us around and wanking then touching when in the jacuzzi lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fantastic response .....

I didn't state my opinion as I didn't want to bias the question. im kool with single makes in clubs xxx

My opinion - Rough Results:

Reputational - negative "flock of starlings" type thing especially if arrive in a group

Actual generalised - need and wanted to be in clubs for enjoyment of all

Issue - communication - initial contact for both parties / nerves / wants / not knowing etc.....

THANK YOU SO MUCH xxxx

Mwah xx

OMG

Do you work for Sydney University?

Gissa plane ticket so we can get a pic of Mrs ddc on Sydney Harbour Bridge, I promise we'll do all your future studies too

Mr ddc"

I don't - just a discussion with a fellow FABBIte and we disagreed - so this was to show results ....I think single males in clubs are dine and behave accordingly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to see more single guys at clubs, im single, so thats what i look for, as do many of my single female friends.

Poor singles get a bad name, yes, some wank....some dont.

Id like to see more singles nights in clubs and not do much bad mouthing of them.

All have needs afterall.

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By *reasyontheeyesMan
over a year ago

out in the sticks

I went to a couples only club with an ex...there were more guys hanging around there watching and wanking then I've ever seen at a club that allows singles in and monitors them.

The male halves seem to be prowling for someone to play with!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"We like to see & meet single guys in clubs. Part of the fun is finding a cute guy to play with. The challenge is getting one of them to say hello - a simple hi is worth a million zombie wanks....

Perfect. Our thoughts exactly.

Single guys please take note.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "
if single guys didn't turn up on their own it would be odd x

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Don't know how it works for couples but this is how it works with me:

You: "Hi, I saw you as you as you arrived and I just had to say that you look very nice in that dress/outfit"

Me: "Oh, thank you"

"Are you here with your husband?"

"No I came here on my own"

"So did I; do you mind if we chat for a little while?"

"Not at all"

But for heavens sake, don't write all of this on the back of your and read from there

Thanks for the tips! - I'd forgotten about compliments.

(Recently single, after 24 years of wife doing all the talking - haha).

I'll take your advice onboard and try it, at the next event

Oh and, once I start talking you wouldn't need to worry too much about what you might have to say next; I only pause for short, life-sustaining gulps of oxygen

LOL. Must be a German thing. My Mrs could talk a glass eye to sleep.

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over a year ago

Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I always works for me

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we go to clubs to meet single guys, most of them are brill, polite kind respectful and a hell of a lot of fun

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I am not fun - I am a boring git pmsl

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over a year ago

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?"

Yes I would, and I have done before.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I am not fun - I am a boring git pmsl "
the exception that proves our rule perhaps...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

ha ha ha yep

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Ok I never wank when in a club!

But I am a lot quieter than I am in a pub for instance.

That goes for regular clubs too, I think it's the music and I have a low, quiet voice, so end up shouting and losing it by morning!

Fuck that just sounded old!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

Only those called Gordon

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anyone under the age of 40 will struggle with that lol

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

Only those called Gordon

anyone under the age of 40 will struggle with that lol"

Lost on me

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over a year ago

"its nice to see some people sticking up for us single men, we aren't all morons

Only those called Gordon

anyone under the age of 40 will struggle with that lol

Lost on me

I rest my case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it."

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

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over a year ago

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

You've taken one person's point of view as the reason you won't go to clubs?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

I do go to clubs and totally get what your both saying but that's the reason why decent respectful singles should go. The tossers spoil enough for us and I for 1 won't go down with out a fight. Least not unless the lady asks nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

You've taken one person's point of view as the reason you won't go to clubs?"

Yeap, that and travelling time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "

the same way i feel about single women who turn up alone at clubs

why wouldn't they?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

We need more decent respectful men there though. You not going does bugger all to change the status quo.

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over a year ago

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

We need more decent respectful men there though. You not going does bugger all to change the status quo."

I've been asked a lot about joining couples at a club, maybe this year I'll go and see what I've been missing.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

We need more decent respectful men there though. You not going does bugger all to change the status quo.

I've been asked a lot about joining couples at a club, maybe this year I'll go and see what I've been missing."

You have a very good club in Birkenhead which has an excellent 'single guys' policy. try it and enjoy

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

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over a year ago

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

We need more decent respectful men there though. You not going does bugger all to change the status quo."

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over a year ago

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?"

Yup we have often spoken to new people regardless of sex or If we would play with them

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

That's the thing last night there was a cpl of vile men that really put the couples off which does spoil it for the genuine guys

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

That's the thing last night there was a cpl of vile men that really put the couples off which does spoil it for the genuine guys "

And hopefully the club fucked em off pretty damn sharp. It really passes me off getting tard with the same brush. I understand why it happens but I won't even send a 1st mail on here now because I no what she's going to think

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well now I tend to meet people in a club first then take it from there

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

We need more decent respectful men there though. You not going does bugger all to change the status quo."

I am not interested in changing the status quo;

It was only "one of" the reasons I won't go to a club.

Quite apart from the vile behaviour, I just find clubs don't interest me;

I have been , I have played with single women and couples; but it just didn't really "do it" for me: just not my thing, I didn't find it sensual, or sexy, or exciting at all. Others clearly revel in it. Each to his/her own.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Have to say on rare occasions I've seen guys behaving badly (pushy - not taking no for an answer) the staff at clubs have acted rapidly to remove these people. If you want to go, go, and behave on your terms, don't worry about anyone else

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?"

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes"

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!"

Nothing wrong with heading to the bar

But then standing there with feigned amazement as if have 'accidentally' have walked into that club and giving off macho vibes might get you somewhere with other. Me; I would spend my time looking for someone nice

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it.

I've never been to a club and this is the reason why, they give us decent respectful single guys a bad name

no.... you are using it as an excuse to justify what you believe to be the case when it is something you have nvere experienced...

its an easy kop out........ sorry it is...

an arse is an arse, whether that arse by a single man, or part of a couple (which i have seen) or a single fem (which i have also seen)

so if a lot of the guys are arses you have the perfect platform to show you are different!!!!! they can see straight away between an "oooh he is nice and i'd play with him" and "he is an arse!!!!"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?"

treat it like you would in a pub.... speak to people at the bar......speak to people in the smoking area (notice that people will just chat to anyone!)

just because you are in a place that deals with sex, the convo doesn't have to be about sex 25/8...... in fact all good convo's and a fair few shitty ones start with the same word...

hello.....

an hello isn't some sort of opening gambit... its just a hello! take it for what it is!

p.s if is he standing there like a lost part... i would give him exactly the same advice i would to a new couple in the same situation.... it takes two, so get out there and mingle!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A smile and a few "hellos" go a long long way.....

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

No problem at all with single guys in a club, you don't have to play with them.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!

Nothing wrong with heading to the bar

To be fair, I don't feel I have anything to prove, so never play the silverback....

Like any other establishment or event, I just try to enjoy the atmosphere, I have always thought women have a idea of what they want, so I never try to influence the process...

The chips will fall where they may!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!

Nothing wrong with heading to the bar

To be fair, I don't feel I have anything to prove, so never play the silverback....

Like any other establishment or event, I just try to enjoy the atmosphere, I have always thought women have a idea of what they want, so I never try to influence the process...

The chips will fall where they may!"

Whatever works for you. I was merely answering the question from my perspective

So, yes, even if I did not fancy the guy and had absolutely no intention of playing with him, I would still start with a "hello" if he smiled at me and made eye contact and was standing next to me or near me

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!

Nothing wrong with heading to the bar

To be fair, I don't feel I have anything to prove, so never play the silverback....

Like any other establishment or event, I just try to enjoy the atmosphere, I have always thought women have a idea of what they want, so I never try to influence the process...

The chips will fall where they may!

Whatever works for you. I was merely answering the question from my perspective

Yeah I totally get that, I wasn't arguing (well maybe a little provocative).

I feel the same way, courtesy costs nothing...

And you may make a friend.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Thinking aloud, we have several times played with guys who've booking into clubs at the same time we arrive,a bit of friendly chat to start the visit is nice, good icebreaker

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Question / Scenario :

A single guy shows up and doesn't head straight for the play rooms but stands like a lost part at the bar.

He doesn't immediately join in

You don't fancy the guy or wouldn't want to play with him.

Are there any ladies or couples who would engage him / invite him over to chat ?

Not if he stands over there like some sourpuss peacock. But if he smiles and makes eye contact, then, yes

I always head to the bar,

Never immediately join in,

Take ages to engage and

Am somewhat of a peacock!!

Oooooooppppsss!!

Nothing wrong with heading to the bar

To be fair, I don't feel I have anything to prove, so never play the silverback....

Like any other establishment or event, I just try to enjoy the atmosphere, I have always thought women have a idea of what they want, so I never try to influence the process...

The chips will fall where they may!

Whatever works for you. I was merely answering the question from my perspective

Yeah I totally get that, I wasn't arguing (well maybe a little provocative).

I feel the same way, courtesy costs nothing...

And you may make a friend."

Exactly; socialising and making new friends is part and parcel of the 'club experience'

I talk to lots of people; male, female, TV/TS, couples. I don't fancy all of them but then again, I don't fancy all people at work either but I still go out and socialise with them

Infact, I would go as far as saying that I generally, only go to clubs to socialise; and if something more happens, then great. If not, I've still had a good Saturday (or Friday) night out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's exactly what clubs are about, being sociable!

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Speaking as a man, it's one of the reasons I will never set foot in a club again;

On the few occasions I have been, I found the behaviour of the single men to be utterly vile, and do not wish to be part of it."

A very honest quote Rene we have never been to a swingers club before because of what you have experienced we do prefer the single guy though but would expect good manners and a non pushy attitude before we would select him for fun

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "

Answers on a postcard to the research department at Sydney University.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been to a club as a single man (only made 3 club visits total and all as part of a couple).

Honestly, the thought terrifies me and excites me in equal measure. I do think I would enjoy it, if I can just get past the opening 'hi'. It can be quite intimidating to turn up (even as a nervous couple) and see everyone in conversation at the bar (or wherever) and wonder how to make yourself part of it without feeling like you're intruding and feeling like they're looking at you as the precursor to the zombie wanking club...

I'm going to give it a go in the next month or so, and I'm going to make myself say hi to everyone I can, because I am actually quite a friendly, sociable and polite person, but that just because I'm 6'5" doesn't mean I'm über confident! If you do see me and I say hi, please say hi back! I won't expect you to fuck me I promise, I will be happy with a smile and a chat, but I'll be over the moon if people fancy playing with me later!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Survey......How do you feel about single guys turning up by themselves at clubs ?

I want to know the couples & singles view.

Thank you in advance for your opinions.

X mwah "
how do you feel ,I think threads should always be started with the OPs opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We like to see & meet single guys in clubs. Part of the fun is finding a cute guy to play with. The challenge is getting one of them to say hello - a simple hi is worth a million zombie wanks....

At my last club visit, I got lost and arrived late. There was a great crowd but everyone was already engaged in loud conversation. Not always easy (or polite) to butt in, willy nilly.

I can't speak for other single guys but this one very much appreciates it, when someone says hi. It can turn an otherwise lonely evening, into a fun event.

Don't know how it works for couples but this is how it works with me:

You: "Hi, I saw you as you as you arrived and I just had to say that you look very nice in that dress/outfit"

Me: "Oh, thank you"

"Are you here with your husband?"

"No I came here on my own"

"So did I; do you mind if we chat for a little while?"

"Not at all"

But for heavens sake, don't write all of this on the back of your and read from there

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By *laveslutMan
over a year ago

HULL

I seen this question so many times and it annoyed me to no end single guys turning up to the club's doesn't mean they are after a free bang now here is a question what happenes if your partner wife dies God forbid dose that now exclude you from these said clubs and put you on the road to exile sexually I hope it never happens to you because some people lack compassion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I don't go to a club, it is just to expensive lol.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"That's why I don't go to a club, it is just to expensive lol."

Erm, Shag, not every thread is about how expensive clubs are for single men

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

Every now & again, it's actually rather fun to face the Wanking Squad!

Janet xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no issue with single guys in clubs but how some of them behave is a bit off

We were in a room with another couple recently and the door,which didn't have a lock,was opened up by two grown men and despite the fact everyone in the room stopped what they were doing to tell them to close the door they both stood their giggling like a pair of teenagers getting an eyeful for a good while before closing the bloody door, crap like that gives single men a bad reputation which for most is undeserved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why I don't go to a club, it is just to expensive lol.

Erm, Shag, not every thread is about how expensive clubs are for single men

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lol and that is right as well

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

We often take a single guy with us...

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By *reddieTeresaCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

When clubs offer both couples only nights and nights when single guys can attend, then I think its fair to assume that the majority of couples have some interest in single guys on those nights.

Thats not to say every couple want to play with every single guy. We used to only go on couples nights but now will only go on nights when single guys are allowed in-whilst we may go with the intention of hopefully finding a nice couple to play with, we like to keep our options open. The best advice I can offer single guys, is smile, make small talk and you will soon find out if there is any interest. Do not just sit down next to couples and say nothing or start following them to Jacuzzis/toilets/playrooms etc!! Oh and as we are going to Libertys on the 22nd Jan, please feel free to say hi if you see us there guys

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By *lk-n-Sensual1Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

You are right. It's when WO joins MAN that it's complete to be called WOMAN. Men should be waiting for the women to come otherwise the women we just be WO. Then the party won't be complete. And on the business side for club owners. More money are been made when it's a mixed party. Also may lighten up the party....Not many single men though

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By *ip and MeganCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We’ve been to clubs a few times as a couple and I (Pip), have also been as a single (with Megan’s consent and approval). She was away on a girl’s weekend and I was at a loose end. I’d enjoyed the vibe and sexiness of a club when we’d been together and the fact that she was intrigued and excited to hear how I got on by myself gave me the impetus to go.

It’s undoubtedly more nerve-wracking going on your own as when you are in a couple, you’re always going to have someone to talk to and you can wander around and just watch/play together without wondering how you are going to initiate anything – whether that be playing or just chatting.

When I went on my own, I did try to chat and say hello to some couples but I didn’t always get a welcoming response. However, some did appreciate it and I was invited to play towards the end of the night by one couple I had chatted to earlier.

The ‘zombie wankers’ do exist – we’ve occasionally experienced that as a couple – but when I went on my own, I also saw a couple of women holding court and loudly rating out of ten, the bodies of any guy who passed by, which is hardly conducive to encouraging guys to open up (especially as one poor sod was given a 2!).

Like all things in the world of swinging, it’s what you make of it. Go with an open mind and no expectations and it can be fab.

PS – there’s another girl’s weekend in two week’s time and so it looks like my second visit as a single is on the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah the good old single men are the pariahs of swinging culture thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go for mainly couples, but that said if one guys takes her fancy then I'm happy if she's happy.

Last time we went to a mixed night she did have her eye on one fella but he was in a big group of single fellas who had all obviously come together we didn't approach them, mainly because we didn't want to get into a conversation with the others.

Our advice to single fellas is be just that, don't go in groups or split up approach people and be nice and others with be polite back either with a nice decline or your in, If he was on his own we would of made the effort.

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