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Chames...erhm, what's the format?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been to a couple of clubs, but it's been pretty clear beforehand the format....i.e. a dance floor, bit of a party vibe going on, with rooms to go to (open & private). Therefore, the evening goes something like ... enter the club, get a drink, scope the place, have a boogie, speak to others....& if things click.....wehay.

Chams has possibly the most obtuse website I've seen...a couple of photos & that's it. So if there's little in the way of dancefloor, are folk attending, going straight to the play areas, jacuzzi & getting jiggy straight off the bat?

Or is it a bit more social than that...much of a bar area? etc

please enlighten, because it seems to be one of the most well attended, but we want to be sure the format works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can speak for anybody else bit when I go I usually start off at the bar, see who's about, have a chat, nose round the rooms, have a perv, socialise a bit more and see if I click with anybody, if I do I play if not I don't

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Can speak for anybody else bit when I go I usually start off at the bar, see who's about, have a chat, nose round the rooms, have a perv, socialise a bit more and see if I click with anybody, if I do I play if not I don't "

Same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to head straight for the jucuzzi and May chat a little in the bar area first but if we are looking for play won't spend ages socialising x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a bar and social areas down stairs which most start off in and will too and fro thru out the night ,it's a great relaxed club ,the best actually you will have a great time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of socialising goes on around the bar and in the nooks and crankies just off the bar area ...they have a very small dance area with a pole but never much dancing going on. ..people tend to chat in the jacuzzi and tv rooms and another good place to socialise is the outdoor smoking area and sun terrace. ..it's like a maze of stairs and rooms on 3 levels with well thought out seating on each level where people stop and chill and chat x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks (& apologies to all for the poor spelling in the title!)...we are very new to this & frankly the fem of this couple would be quite anxious if it's 'full on' ....i.e. enter the club, kit off & 'get down on it' (this is why we like clubs with dance floors)...but since it seems to be one of the most favourably reviewed & well attended clubs on here, we're curious.

is the bar area & non play area large & does it have a buzz?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oops sorry, lots of replies came in as I type my second post!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm perhaps it's not for us then.... we aren't really ones for Jacuzis, so if that's where al the socializing takes place it's probably not going to work.

We need a bit of loosening up, bar, boogie....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a busy club.. So not all will go to the jucuzzi.

Its relaxed and friendly... Although it is a club that you get into underwear or a towel straight away but as everyone else is it never feels awkward...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all the socialising goes on in the jacuzzi ..it's just another place. ..where ever you go in chams there's no pressure to "get down to it " and plenty of opportunities to just chill and chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its a busy club.. So not all will go to the jucuzzi.

Its relaxed and friendly... Although it is a club that you get into underwear or a towel straight away but as everyone else is it never feels awkward... "

it's a dress down club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So how does a 'dress down' club work on a themed night (for example they have a St Trinians night this coming Saturday?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will dress up in sexy fun outfits the rest will have lingerie /towels /undies or go naked. ..you just don't see people wearing normal clothes(day clothes)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So the bar area will have naked people in it too? (that not kept just the play areas). Don't get me wrong, we're not shocked by naked people, but when I'm having a beer, I don't want some bloke's pecker rubbing against my thigh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly people will be in towels or underwear but yes its dress down in the whole club.

Personally we prefer it like that and have felt odd in the clubs where you stay dressed. It's a case of what works for you .. Chams is worth trying at least once

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

The men wear towels and the women lingerie, corsets etc. I never go in the jacuzzi but it's a very friendly place, uou can hang out at the bar, go into the cinema, there's a couples room and a dungeon as well as lots of play rooms. Just go, have a drink, get the layout of the place ( it's a bit of a warren ), chat to people and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aah...naked people in towels! What a relief Thanks

Are the themed nights well attended (& approximately what percentage of the attendees dress up?)

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

And it's not naked ( well only on a Tues which is naked night!)

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I went to Halloween which was pretty busy. More women dressed up than men ( most men were still in towels ). You get a locker so you can change if you feel over dressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try not to over think. ..go with the flow. ..have fun and most importantly chill and chat x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

What I like about it is that it's a proper play club, people don't stand around for ages looking nervous and waiting for something to happen and I think the dress code ( or the fact that people aren't wearing v much) facilitates that. It's also open during the day so some people will have already been there for a while and played. I'd get there between 8-9.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Many thanks ....hmm, the jury is still out (not for me...the male of the couple - I'd be there in a heartbeat but my wife is still at 'swinging step 1' & I have to choose the venues to meet her needs)

She prefers dry venues, boogie area & plenty of private play rooms (the VA being heavily jacuzzi focused was too overwhelming for her, whereas Jaydees was more in tune with her comfort zone at this point in our swinging journey)

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"The men wear towels and the women lingerie, corsets etc. I never go in the jacuzzi but it's a very friendly place, uou can hang out at the bar, go into the cinema, there's a couples room and a dungeon as well as lots of play rooms. Just go, have a drink, get the layout of the place ( it's a bit of a warren ), chat to people and enjoy! "

I never wear a towel at chams, always boxer shorts for me.

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

Very easy club to just go in and feel comfortable straight away.

You enter a reception area out of site of all then enter bar area which you route straight through to upstairs changing/locker rooms.

Get changed sexy style then get back to the bar and get tipple.

Mellow out, chat and/or scope out the rooms upstairs. See how it goes. NO PRESSURE go at own speed or not at all.

Never been there myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it's the straight into the underwear bit that'll put my wife off ...she likes going out, dressing up, having a drink & boogie...sure later in the evening, she's much more open to the 'kit off' kind of thing...but at 9.00pm it'd surely feel odd to be standing talking to strangers in your bra & knickers (her not me!) at a bar.

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

It's not banned to be nude in the bar area but it's ultra rare.

Deffo has the chill,drink,relax chat bit of music vibe before you go off all adventurous style

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

You want xstasia then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You want xstasia then."

we probably do....but it's starting to stretch it distance wise...& like I say, the sheer number of people attending Chams is appealing (we like busy clubs, not ones where you can hear the squeak of a barman drying the wine glasses at the bar) ...need to have some dialogue with her, perhaps the Themed night might dilute the otherwise 'standing around in underwear' vibe!

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

Chams has a charm in that respect its much more than it reads.

Totally understand the apprehension chams was our first club ever, only couple of years ago and my wife was nervous as hell but the relaxed nature just puts at ease

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Actually my geography is way bad...I'd thought Chams was much closer than Xtasia...but it's about the same.

Therefore probably Xtasia will win the day with my wife....a night clubish format, dancefloor ...folks there for a sexual vibe, what's not to like?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


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we probably do....but it's starting to stretch it distance wise...& like I say, the sheer number of people attending Chams is appealing (we like busy clubs, not ones where you can hear the squeak of a barman drying the wine glasses at the bar) ...need to have some dialogue with her, perhaps the Themed night might dilute the otherwise 'standing around in underwear' vibe!"

The female half could always wear a short dress of some kind, I've done that before. I also sometimes wear underwear with a kimono over it.

I think the thought of chams is loads scarier than the club actually is.

Yes, its a wet club so most people are semi naked, that adds to the atmosphere though, everyone is chilled.

The bar area is rather large with loads of little areas to chill out in without being crowded by a load of strangers.

I think you will be suprised if you go, it's so much more relaxing than people expect it to be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As much as it's appealing to me, I would worry that the notion of entering a bar area without a focal point/distraction, would see us like a ship cut adrift on stormy seas. For example, go into a place that has a dancefloor & music, we can just have a boogie or watch folks dance, but to enter into a bar area with folks chilling in underwear, just sounds a little foreign! I'm sure it's great, but likely going to be a hard sell to my wife!

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

If you went to the pool on your holiday wearing jeans and jumper you'd stand out if you catch my drift

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

If you've both swung once then she will warm very quickly even if shy / newish

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Actually my geography is way bad...I'd thought Chams was much closer than Xtasia...but it's about the same.

Therefore probably Xtasia will win the day with my wife....a night clubish format, dancefloor ...folks there for a sexual vibe, what's not to like?

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I'm a member at both Xtasia and chams. They are both great clubs and both geographically close together.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It's only a small bar area and there's lots of cosy places to sit and chat. I always feel it's like walking into someone's living room! It's done up like a cave so it has a womb like feeling to it

( hard to describe really )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've only been to two clubs....the first one, ended up with an MMF ...it was very exciting.

the 2nd club, it went a bit Pete Tong...wrong format, my wife doesn't like Jacuzzis (she's to practical...feels cold when she gets out the water & therefore doesn't want to go in the water!!!)...the whole club was centred around a Jacuzzi, it didn't have any private play areas nor many nooks & crannies. We were hit on by a couple that didn't particularly float our boat & we left early...disaster.

She's definitely up for full couple swap, but she's not really into the idea of expressly going to a venue to meet a couple...if it happens as the night progresses, it happens.

I therefore want this next (3rd) visit to be as it should...to showcase the excitement of a good, busy swing club so to speak.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"We've only been to two clubs....the first one, ended up with an MMF ...it was very exciting.

the 2nd club, it went a bit Pete Tong...wrong format, my wife doesn't like Jacuzzis (she's to practical...feels cold when she gets out the water & therefore doesn't want to go in the water!!!)...the whole club was centred around a Jacuzzi, it didn't have any private play areas nor many nooks & crannies. We were hit on by a couple that didn't particularly float our boat & we left early...disaster.

She's definitely up for full couple swap, but she's not really into the idea of expressly going to a venue to meet a couple...if it happens as the night progresses, it happens.

I therefore want this next (3rd) visit to be as it should...to showcase the excitement of a good, busy swing club so to speak."

It seems like you are over thinking this tbh. We go to both of these Clubs and they are both great in their own way. You ought to do what we do and go to the Midlands for a weekend. Dancing and shmoozing at Xtasia followed by a chill out at Chams. These are two really great Clubs and complementary to each other because they offer a different experience. Chams is about as chilled out a place to go as you could ever imagine and there are three floors of nooks and crannies to explore lol

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Agree Chams is v chilled. Have seen women there in 'club' clothes (little dresses etc) I usually wear corset, stockings, knickers and heels but loads of women are in less or just a towel

I like Chams for the fact it is a play club. Sure, people socialise, but - for me - the point of Chams is to play. I change, go to the bar, grab a drink, go for a perv and then hit the glory holes to get me in the mood :D

Lots of socialising in the bar and wider area on ground floor - and on the first floor there's at least 5 areas I can think of (not including outside) where people sit and chat/ socialise/ flirt - let alone all the nooks and crannies where similar goes on

Lots of people don't go to the Jacuzzis in Chams - I didn't for about the first 2 dozen times I went. There's plenty of places to wander around, sit about without ever going near them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know you all must be thinking ...why is he so bothered? I'll tell you why. I suggested swinging to my wife over the years, kids got in the way, but we're now finding the odd opportunity where it's just us. We therefore visited a club in June...we went along not to swing at all, just to get off on the sexual vibe....we had a fun time (mainly just the two of us having a giggle, people watching, nice sexual energy in the air, we ended up just the two of us in a private room & then she said "would you like to watch my fuck someone" ....it ended up with an MMF - great).

Next club - disaster, Jacuzzi, open play area, no private play areas ...we ventured into the open play area, but it really wasn't gor her ..... & now her jury is out.

therefore this next visit has to go well or I fear it's "3 strikes, you're out - buddy"!

Clearly all the women contributing here are more into the lifestyle, so you're coming at it from a "what's all the fuss about?", but like I say, we are on the very periphery of swnging...if we attend another club & the vibe is not right & my wife is turned off, then probably that'll be it! (don't get me wrong, there's no pressure on my part i.e. asking her to go to a club against her will ...indeed she has suggested this next visit, but I really want it to be a fab experience for her, else knowing my wife, the shutters will come down!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can try Abfabs near heathrow or Secrets in Devon before attempting Chameleons. Go to Abfabs on a Saturday as that's a couples night.

There are lots of big events so presumably there will be a number of people attending in the run up to Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can try Abfabs near heathrow or Secrets in Devon before attempting Chameleons. Go to Abfabs on a Saturday as that's a couples night.

There are lots of big events so presumably there will be a number of people attending in the run up to Christmas "

I really fancy abfabs, but my wife is more up for 'going away for the weekend' (well, a Saturday overnight hotel stay actually ...darned kids!), because Abfabs is borderline London-ish, it wouldn't feel like we've been out of town at all. She's also massively anxious about bumping into someone we know...highly unlikely bearing in mind it's something like 10 miles away...& this is London! (my argument "but if we bumped into some we know, they'd be there for the same reason as us" ...cuts no ice whatsoever)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you are new to Chams you will be offered a tour of the place, this help settle you in.

When everyone goes they are given a locker key, you will go up to the first floor where the couples and female locker room is, in here you will get changed. The male can wear a towel or boxers, the female can wear a towel or dress up in something "sexy" (lingerie, dress etc) However, as it is a themed night you can both dress up in school outfits, your choice.

When you go in you will walk through the bar area, but not once have I felt I was being stared at upon entering, I just go straight up to get changed.

Social talk tends to go on around the bar area, in the jacuzzis, outside in the smoking area. I wouldn't say the club was focused around the jacuzzis, they are not in the centre of the club and are hidden away at the back of the ground floor, you can't hear people in them when at the bar and can't see them either.

Within the bar area there will be music playing and I've never found it to be playing so quietly that you hear the staff pouring drinks etc. As it's a theme night I presume there will be more people dancing than usual (from experience). Like all the other clubs I have visited playing can take place anywhere within it, be it the bar area or private rooms; but during my times at chams I've never seen anyone getting full on it within the bar area, maybe just a little play/blow job, but tends to be later in the night.

On the ground floor there are no private rooms, but little off sections where some choose to sit, or go and play. On the first floor you have 3 lockable rooms, the cinema, couples room (with one way viewing window), tv room. The round room is somewhere around the 1st floor/2nd floor too, along with the sauna and steam room. On the 2nd floor you have 2 private rooms, the dungeon area, a room which closes but people can view. I'm sure there's another room there, but I can't think of it (mind gone blank). So overall there is a good mixture of rooms and places to socialise and the wet areas are kept out of sight, so out of sight out of mind, unless you intend to go in them.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I've not been to a club yet as the thought terrifies me BUT have plucked up the courage & am going to Xtasia with a friend on 19 December for their foam party.

I figured everyone will be in a great Christmas mood & I can hide in the foam!!!

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"I know you all must be thinking ...why is he so bothered? I'll tell you why. I suggested swinging to my wife over the years, kids got in the way, but we're now finding the odd opportunity where it's just us. We therefore visited a club in June...we went along not to swing at all, just to get off on the sexual vibe....we had a fun time (mainly just the two of us having a giggle, people watching, nice sexual energy in the air, we ended up just the two of us in a private room & then she said "would you like to watch my fuck someone" ....it ended up with an MMF - great).

Next club - disaster, Jacuzzi, open play area, no private play areas ...we ventured into the open play area, but it really wasn't gor her ..... & now her jury is out.

therefore this next visit has to go well or I fear it's "3 strikes, you're out - buddy"!

Clearly all the women contributing here are more into the lifestyle, so you're coming at it from a "what's all the fuss about?", but like I say, we are on the very periphery of swnging...if we attend another club & the vibe is not right & my wife is turned off, then probably that'll be it! (don't get me wrong, there's no pressure on my part i.e. asking her to go to a club against her will ...indeed she has suggested this next visit, but I really want it to be a fab experience for her, else knowing my wife, the shutters will come down!)"
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Do you actually talk about this together or are you engineering a situation on behalf of her?

I reckon you need to talk to her and have an open conversation. As was said just above there is a Christmas foam party on at Xtasia on the 19th December and if you really do want the Club vibe then that will be your night. We are going and will be going to Chams on Sunday afternoon/evening for a post party chill out as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes we talk, but I collect the facts/details first....please don't take the thread that way (there's no engineering on my behalf...she suggested we visit a club, I'm just doing the legwork to make sure it's successful enjoyable night)

On a practical level, if we attend the St Trinians night this coming Saturday, would it be ok that my wife wears

some clothing in the bar area to reflect the night's theme? (I'm thinking some variation of a st trinian's girl, white plunging blouse agape, short skirt).

Will the majority of the wome be dressed 'in theme'?

Do the men bother? (I'm thinking St TRinians is not a good look for most men!)

Also, (again on a practical level!)when there's no theme & folks are hanging around in towels at the bar, I'm assuming

everyone isn't in bare feet so folks wearing flip/flops in the bar area?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"yes we talk, but I collect the facts/details first....please don't take the thread that way (there's no engineering on my behalf...she suggested we visit a club, I'm just doing the legwork to make sure it's successful enjoyable night)

On a practical level, if we attend the St Trinians night this coming Saturday, would it be ok that my wife wears

some clothing in the bar area to reflect the night's theme? (I'm thinking some variation of a st trinian's girl, white plunging blouse agape, short skirt).

Will the majority of the wome be dressed 'in theme'?

Do the men bother? (I'm thinking St TRinians is not a good look for most men!)

Also, (again on a practical level!)when there's no theme & folks are hanging around in towels at the bar, I'm assuming

everyone isn't in bare feet so folks wearing flip/flops in the bar area?"

The reason we go to Chams is because it's totally relaxed and you can do what you want. For a themed night some will dress to the theme and others won't...it'll be whatever makes them feel comfortable. If we were going we would both be in towels as the whole dressing up thing is not for us but each to their own. If you decide to go I hope you have a great evening. xx

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"yes we talk, but I collect the facts/details first....please don't take the thread that way (there's no engineering on my behalf...she suggested we visit a club, I'm just doing the legwork to make sure it's successful enjoyable night)

On a practical level, if we attend the St Trinians night this coming Saturday, would it be ok that my wife wears

some clothing in the bar area to reflect the night's theme? (I'm thinking some variation of a st trinian's girl, white plunging blouse agape, short skirt).

Will the majority of the wome be dressed 'in theme'?

Do the men bother? (I'm thinking St TRinians is not a good look for most men!)

Also, (again on a practical level!)when there's no theme & folks are hanging around in towels at the bar, I'm assuming

everyone isn't in bare feet so folks wearing flip/flops in the bar area?"

Lots of women will be dressed similarly. Have seen guys in full school get up - but also just a 'nod' to it, such as a tie with boxers

On unthemed nights I'd say most guys wear towels, some wear shorts. Women - good mix of underwear and towels, with some women wearing little dresses or a v short skirt and bra or a babydoll type thing.

Most people are barefoot. Some flipflops. Some women in heels

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thnaks.

Another thought just popped into my head for a club with a format like Chams.

presumably 'peak attendance' is 10.00pm to 11.00pm, but at what time does it start getting busy?

Also, how do most play it....assemble., drink, socialize, perhaps find a couple that's compatible...off to play

(either with couple or by ourselves) ...then what do most do afterwards?? (or is that it....keep the play going for a few hours!)

head off home or head back to the bar area for more socializing? Rinse repeat?

When we've been to a club, most of the first part of the evening (say 9.30pm-12.00pm) is taken up just having a drink, boogie, people watching & the likes....

but since there's not much in a dancefloor, I'm thinking here that it probably compresses the night (brings things forward)

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Thnaks.

Another thought just popped into my head for a club with a format like Chams.

presumably 'peak attendance' is 10.00pm to 11.00pm, but at what time does it start getting busy?

Also, how do most play it....assemble., drink, socialize, perhaps find a couple that's compatible...off to play

(either with couple or by ourselves) ...then what do most do afterwards?? (or is that it....keep the play going for a few hours!)

head off home or head back to the bar area for more socializing? Rinse repeat?

When we've been to a club, most of the first part of the evening (say 9.30pm-12.00pm) is taken up just having a drink, boogie, people watching & the likes....

but since there's not much in a dancefloor, I'm thinking here that it probably compresses the night (brings things forward)"

In all fairness, there's no set 'way' of doing it. People do it however they want. I usually arrive around 8ish and already people are playing etc. It sometimes stays quite busy right until the end.

I feel like you're asking us to tell you how your night will plan out, we don't know because we aren't you lol.

I really believe you will regret not trying it, I'm more than happy to send you a couple of face pics so you have at least one person in there that you recognise, I'd be happy to show you around etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To OP... I first went to chams many years ago aand it was my first club. I never ever felt out of place being around undressed people and actually get a bit odd when we have been to more night club style clubs.

So its about finding places that suit your style. And just goinng with the flow.

Hope whereever you go that your journey continues to be a good one x

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By *iss-PinkWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Chams is open from 11am so people are already playing when others arrive in the evening.

Don't overthink it - try it and see

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to you all for contributing, I'll now take all this helpful info & have a chat with her later today

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

BTW XKeeleyX...thanks for the offer (very kind of you ) but there's no need....once we decide & make the leap, we'll be fine

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"BTW XKeeleyX...thanks for the offer (very kind of you ) but there's no need....once we decide & make the leap, we'll be fine "

I really hope you do make the leap, you won't regret it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the dress down element, we get into towels or underwear as soon as we get there, get a drink and just chill out together. We feel it's so much easier to relax without the constraint of clothes and its status symbol.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Thnaks.

Another thought just popped into my head for a club with a format like Chams.

presumably 'peak attendance' is 10.00pm to 11.00pm, but at what time does it start getting busy?

Also, how do most play it....assemble., drink, socialize, perhaps find a couple that's compatible...off to play

(either with couple or by ourselves) ...then what do most do afterwards?? (or is that it....keep the play going for a few hours!)

head off home or head back to the bar area for more socializing? Rinse repeat?

When we've been to a club, most of the first part of the evening (say 9.30pm-12.00pm) is taken up just having a drink, boogie, people watching & the likes....

but since there's not much in a dancefloor, I'm thinking here that it probably compresses the night (brings things forward)"

I'd say that unlike other clubs, people play much earlier, that's one of the things I like about it! I tend to get there between 8-9, I wouldn't go late, there's no need to wait for things to warm up

( and again, I think the lack of formal clothing helps with this)

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

The night goes so fast there.

I bust my neck to get in for 7 then chill get merry before you know it it's 10 very busy and my naughtythought 'o' meter is on 10

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well, as much as I think this may go Pete Tong (in comparison to say a dancefloor orientated club), I'm going to throw caution to the wind & suggest we go to Chams (we sit down & chat about this & look at the logistics later tonight.)

everyone speaks so highly of chams, it always seems well attended (plus I'm havig a torrid time trying to find accomodation for the other clubs I've shortlisted) ...so, if we can get past the inherent 'Well, this is odd' re standing around talking to strangers in our underwear...the night is more likely to have some thrills & spills! Just one thing...if I big up the St Trinians theme aspect (vs. the "Sweetheart, we've got to get undressed & walk about in towels or your underwear")...would it be fair to say that there'll be a reasonable contingent of other ladies in St Trinians gear ...or is it mere lip service paid to the underlying theme & just away to to pull in more of a crowd?!

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

A good majority make an effort.

my misses will wear tarty blouse and black white tartan skirt heels stockings most likely

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A good majority make an effort.

my misses will wear tarty blouse and black white tartan skirt heels stockings most likely"

& you? (or just a towel?)

Also, BYOB ...what's considered ok here (I'm thinking a couple of bottles of wine will be deemed ok ...on the basis we could be in there 5 or 6 hours, whereas a couple 6-packs of stella might raise any eyebrow ...btw only kidding we don't drink stella)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't be dressing up for it, but that's preference, but I will be dressing up and a towel later on probably.

I notice you said for the accommodation, do you mean the rooms at the club? As if you haven't booked one they may already all be all gone, but there are hotels nearby

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I won't be dressing up for it, but that's preference, but I will be dressing up and a towel later on probably.

I notice you said for the accommodation, do you mean the rooms at the club? As if you haven't booked one they may already all be all gone, but there are hotels nearby "

Yes I know, thanks - I meant hotels nearby. What did you mean that you won't be dressing up but may dress up later on? (do you mean you'll be taking a St Trinians outfit & will put it on after a while there?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't be dressing up for it, but that's preference, but I will be dressing up and a towel later on probably.

I notice you said for the accommodation, do you mean the rooms at the club? As if you haven't booked one they may already all be all gone, but there are hotels nearby

Yes I know, thanks - I meant hotels nearby. What did you mean that you won't be dressing up but may dress up later on? (do you mean you'll be taking a St Trinians outfit & will put it on after a while there?)"

No, I will wear alternative clothing as don't like school girl fancy dress. Then after a while if wearing what I am I will probably slip into a towel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great informative thread! As a couple who often talk ourselves in and out of going to a club,(and still not got there),this has answered alot of my questions.. .Cheers guys!

Her x

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

If getting there early ( 7 ) and staying till 2 2 bottles would be in order and bottle spirits

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

We play 8 times out of 10 and if no play still leave having had a good night out ( sometimes things just don't suit ) still no problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If getting there early ( 7 ) and staying till 2 2 bottles would be in order and bottle spirits"

I guess what I'm asking is, do people rock up with much booze (their FAQ says not to), but with no drive home...it seems a bit wrong not to have drink or two (I don't want to get bladdered, but equally, I don't want to run dry if the vibe is good)

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

Take plenty as you say if you run out it can impact.

Can always take back what not used.

We take few cans,wine,spirit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take plenty as you say if you run out it can impact.

Can always take back what not used.

We take few cans,wine,spirit"

So the staff aren't scoping your volumetric stash of aclohol in the receoption area then?

Where is your alcohol stored ...in your locker ....or do they have a nominated area?

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over a year ago


"Take plenty as you say if you run out it can impact.

Can always take back what not used.

We take few cans,wine,spirit

So the staff aren't scoping your volumetric stash of aclohol in the receoption area then?

Where is your alcohol stored ...in your locker ....or do they have a nominated area?"

in the fridges behind the bar with your locker key number on it

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

I'd trust them with my wallet.

They have the same trusted staff always.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford


"I'd trust them with my wallet.

They have the same trusted staff always. "

I agree.

i won't go into details but one night there was a chance we may have needed to get home in a hurry. I explained this to Steve when we got there. He kept my phone on him all night and at one point came running through the club to find us because it was ringing.

The staff are simply superb.

D

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Take whatever alcohol you want. They'll keep it in the fridge for you and you can take it back with you at the end if the night. I hope you do go after all this discussion. And let us know how you get on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only came into the scene a few months ago and decided to try a club almost immediately and we had read bare minimum about any club but jumped in head first and alone into chams on a Saturday night, we really enjoyed it! For our 2nd club visit we went to xtasia and it simply wasn't our thing at all, not into the wearing clothes thing in a swingers club, I think you need to stop thinking about it all too much and just Go for it! You can gather as much information from others as U like but the only way you'll find out if it's for you is by going, dress code for women is towe or provocative wear so as long as what your wife wears is sexy it really doesn't matter about what everyone else is wearing, and ive rarely seen bits flapping about at the bar so doubt you'll have someone's pecker rubbing your thigh at the bar

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

There are several lockable play rooms at Chams. Also, the jaccuzzis are off in an area that you wouldn`t know they were there unless you knew they were!

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By *picyrodMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Firstly Steve not mark top blokes went last year first ever club. Nervous a bit the place was kicking on a Sunday night had a good night didn't play but spoke to loads of people very friendly crowd

Do it without thinking too much

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids

There's even a family party buffet at 11 paper plates sandwiches and cocktail sausages lol awesome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's even a family party buffet at 11 paper plates sandwiches and cocktail sausages lol awesome"

Now that makes it eminently more sellable to my wife...she's quite partial to a buffet

A hearty thanks to all who contributed (& to those who have PM'ed me separately). I'm pleased others have found this thread useful - a dress down club is a big step for many & I certainly couldn't find much info on how these clubs go ... but it's pretty clear now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Since my wife *hates* being cold (it always brings on a scowl & snappy mood!), I take it that in the main areas, the temperature of the club is conducive to being dressed in underwear &/or wrapped in a towel? (apparently this weekend is going to turn a bit Baltic)

In other words, is it warm in chams when dressed down?!!

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

It's very warm!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks - practicalities again, we're likely going to be in a hotel that's a 8-10 minute cab ride away, but since the hotel is somewhat isolated we'll probably head somewhere more central for a meal before Chams, but we'll not want to go back to the hotel after a meal, nor do I particularly want to lug our booze around...is the an off license reasonably close to Chams?

P.S. Had the discussion with my wife about the chosen swing venue to attend a little while earlier (talk about last minute Larries)...the notion of dressing down went down like a lead balloon (I knew this would be the case), but the trip has been saved by the concept of her lashing together something that could vaguely pass off as being related to St Trinians - so it looks like we're on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres an Asda very close by. We often pop in there before going in the club. Its easy walking distance from the car park. Not sure what time it closes though.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

There's also a grocery shop v near the club that sells alcohol. Hope you do both enjoy tonight after all this. I was going to be there tonight but my friend now can't make it! Would have said hi to you otherwise!

But... You've got to come back and tell us all how it went, I'm v invested in this now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's also a grocery shop v near the club that sells alcohol. Hope you do both enjoy tonight after all this. I was going to be there tonight but my friend now can't make it! Would have said hi to you otherwise!

But... You've got to come back and tell us all how it went, I'm v invested in this now! "

Well it's still not 100%, I'd say 90%...depends on the outcome of the St Trinians dress rehearsal later tonight! (we've not pulled the trigger on the hotel yet...& they've only gone & cranked their prices up since this morning!), if we go, it'll be tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread. I'm contemplating going to a club so it's given me some pointers! Although appreciate there's differences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting thread. I'm contemplating going to a club so it's given me some pointers! Although appreciate there's differences. "

Well as is often the case in life, if one person is having trouble establishing info they need, it's likely others will too, so whatever happens to us (i.e. whether we go or not), the thread won't be wasted & should hopefully be of use to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think that you are over thinking it all lol.

Just go, have fun, chill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or not !!!

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By *uncpl83Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Ive (Lou)visited charms twice now and can sympathise with your wife's apprehension as I was feeling the exact same! My worse thought was having to walk through the club and get changd into sexy lingerie then walk back through in front of people, I almost felt as if it was going to be some kind of catwalk lol but my first visit there, although feeling very nervous was amazing! I didn't feel out of place at all, bearing in mind it was our first visit to any club! Don't get me wrong I had a cpl of drinks before we went but wasn't d*unk! It's almost like a pub with half naked people lol everybody is down to earth and easy to chat to, staff are lovely and there is definately no pressure to play when you get there! We didn't play on our first visit, just got the feel of the place and had a nose around, although it's a dress down club it feels so natural sitting there in sexy underwear

I hope whichever you choose you both enjoy, as that's what it's all about! Enjoyment and sexy fun!

Lou X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been to a couple of clubs, but it's been pretty clear beforehand the format....i.e. a dance floor, bit of a party vibe going on, with rooms to go to (open & private). Therefore, the evening goes something like ... enter the club, get a drink, scope the place, have a boogie, speak to others....& if things click.....wehay.

Chams has possibly the most obtuse website I've seen...a couple of photos & that's it. So if there's little in the way of dancefloor, are folk attending, going straight to the play areas, jacuzzi & getting jiggy straight off the bat?

Or is it a bit more social than that...much of a bar area? etc

please enlighten, because it seems to be one of the most well attended, but we want to be sure the format works for us."

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When hubby and I go we get undressed and wear towels. Go down to bar area and have a coffee and sometimes a toasted sandwich we only go daytimes as we don't like evenings there.

We then go in the jacuzzi to chill out and relax. Maybe then go back to bar for a drink, sometimes we take some booze for me but hubby only has non acholic drinks there. Then during the time we are there we just alternate between bar and jacuzzi. If it's a weekend and there is sport on the telli then we will watch some of that. We usually make use of a lockable private room for some fun.Very occasionally we will wander round the club.

Then home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time i went i was very very nervous, mainly cus of my age and size. I thought the towels would be to small and that i was to old etc. Although i never thought of wearing lingerie as thats not my thing at all.

Anyway as soon as i walked in i felt at ease, straight away, and i was a very nervous woman with very low self esteem at the time.

I loved it and i was pleased to see there were people of all ages and sizes and i fitted in fine.

However i never go to socialise with others, only with hubby so i guess that's different to what others do. I never particularily want to exchange chit chat with others there unless they want to talk about sport.

I still have fun though

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!


"The first time i went i was very very nervous, mainly cus of my age and size. I thought the towels would be to small and that i was to old etc. Although i never thought of wearing lingerie as thats not my thing at all.

Anyway as soon as i walked in i felt at ease, straight away, and i was a very nervous woman with very low self esteem at the time.

I loved it and i was pleased to see there were people of all ages and sizes and i fitted in fine.

However i never go to socialise with others, only with hubby so i guess that's different to what others do. I never particularily want to exchange chit chat with others there unless they want to talk about sport.

I still have fun though "

And if you ask at the desk or the bar, they`ll change your towel for a larger one if you so require! Or if it`s excessively wet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The first time i went i was very very nervous, mainly cus of my age and size. I thought the towels would be to small and that i was to old etc. Although i never thought of wearing lingerie as thats not my thing at all.

Anyway as soon as i walked in i felt at ease, straight away, and i was a very nervous woman with very low self esteem at the time.

I loved it and i was pleased to see there were people of all ages and sizes and i fitted in fine.

However i never go to socialise with others, only with hubby so i guess that's different to what others do. I never particularily want to exchange chit chat with others there unless they want to talk about sport.

I still have fun though

And if you ask at the desk or the bar, they`ll change your towel for a larger one if you so require! Or if it`s excessively wet! "

Ah yes very true. I forgot to mention that

Now why would a towel get excessively wet ?

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

So...did you go??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No we didn't ....why?

My wife didn't have an outfit (being a last minute Larry-ette, she deferred discussing the venue until I'd collected all the options ....as guessed, wasn't keen on the dress down & couldn't lash together a St Trinian's outfit that she felt comfortable in as a 44yrd old woman!).

Also late in the day (like very late in the day), I received PM from someone to say that the dress down Chams was a real shock for her (which after all the 'you'll be fine' was definitely a wake up & smell the coffee moment).

So, in the end we visited another club a bit closer to us (which didn't go that well unfortunately ...too cold, not busy enough etc!)

This long thread with many contributions isn't wasted though...plenty of information embedded that's searchable via on on-forum or even google

Thanks to all who contributed.

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Aw that's a shame. Was looking forward to hearing what you thought about it! Maybe one day...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It's a building with a bar and other areas where some folk might be having sex. Treat it like any other pub/club you've been to. It's ENTIRELY up to you what you want to do when you get there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whilst in the club (i.e. that we ended up going to last night), a fat guy with a towel wrapped around him strolled past en-route to the Jacuzzi, my wife turned to me & said "You see, it's not a good look is it?"

It's now totally clear that she only enjoys a 'smart/sexily dressed', dance, flirt, chat, strip, play sequence.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Whilst in the club (i.e. that we ended up going to last night), a fat guy with a towel wrapped around him strolled past en-route to the Jacuzzi, my wife turned to me & said "You see, it's not a good look is it?"

It's now totally clear that she only enjoys a 'smart/sexily dressed', dance, flirt, chat, strip, play sequence."

Was she expecting Brad Pitt in a toga?

I don't mean to sound rude but if she wants all gorgeously swooonworthy men she's in the wrong scene. Yes, there are some men like that but there's also men that she might not find attractive. Unfortunately the scene doesn't cater for just one persons taste. I'm thinking maybe the club scene just isn't somewhere she would feel comfortable. Might be worth trying private parties where the guests are vetted. No offence intended

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"Whilst in the club (i.e. that we ended up going to last night), a fat guy with a towel wrapped around him strolled past en-route to the Jacuzzi, my wife turned to me & said "You see, it's not a good look is it?"

It's now totally clear that she only enjoys a 'smart/sexily dressed', dance, flirt, chat, strip, play sequence."

If you are looking for a 'dressed' club then it sounds to me like Xtasia would be a better option for you (in the Midlands area). Xtasia is also more of a dance/nightclub type of environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst in the club (i.e. that we ended up going to last night), a fat guy with a towel wrapped around him strolled past en-route to the Jacuzzi, my wife turned to me & said "You see, it's not a good look is it?"

It's now totally clear that she only enjoys a 'smart/sexily dressed', dance, flirt, chat, strip, play sequence.

Was she expecting Brad Pitt in a toga?

I don't mean to sound rude but if she wants all gorgeously swooonworthy men she's in the wrong scene. Yes, there are some men like that but there's also men that she might not find attractive. Unfortunately the scene doesn't cater for just one persons taste. I'm thinking maybe the club scene just isn't somewhere she would feel comfortable. Might be worth trying private parties where the guests are vetted. No offence intended "

I agree

Although that would only work if they were deemed suitable for parties where guests are vetted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To some, Some people fully clothed isn't a good look either, but you respect the club rules and accept that people are following it and remember that they're human beings too, so whether it was a good look or not he could have been one of the nicest people, doesn't mean you have to play with him, you can ignore and carry on with your night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

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over a year ago


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist"

No towel in a twist here

I do think it was the only obvious outcome though

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By *ivinefoxWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

Having been to lots of clubs where people are fully dressed, I find people tend to stand around for hours waiting for something to happen. To me, the big advantage of a club like Cham's is that because people are already partially undressed the fun happens much sooner and easier. People seem more reserved when they are fully dressed!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist"

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive. "

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chams is by far the best club we have been.

the dress code

the rooms

the people

the staff

Mingle for a bit have a check of all the rooms and have a play.it's all good

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over a year ago


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off "

If you look at it from a different view you can see how someone could easily be put off going to clubs by the comment.

Someone (couple or single) are contemplating going to a club, see this thread and decide it's a good one to get an insight. They get to that specific comment and they consider themselves overweight, so decide they won't go, due to how others may perceive them.

A good friend of mine is overweight, he's doing something about it, but it takes time. We managed to get him to chams last year, he is very body conscious but still made the effort to go and isn't a guythat would follow you rround the club and probably wouldn't even ask to play, but I know for a fact if he saw this thread he would say see told you I don't suit clubs! Everyone takes comments differently and it has to be accepted that some will shrug the comment off and say well I don't care what they think, whereas others will take it to heart and reconsider going to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off

If you look at it from a different view you can see how someone could easily be put off going to clubs by the comment.

Someone (couple or single) are contemplating going to a club, see this thread and decide it's a good one to get an insight. They get to that specific comment and they consider themselves overweight, so decide they won't go, due to how others may perceive them.

A good friend of mine is overweight, he's doing something about it, but it takes time. We managed to get him to chams last year, he is very body conscious but still made the effort to go and isn't a guythat would follow you rround the club and probably wouldn't even ask to play, but I know for a fact if he saw this thread he would say see told you I don't suit clubs! Everyone takes comments differently and it has to be accepted that some will shrug the comment off and say well I don't care what they think, whereas others will take it to heart and reconsider going to clubs "

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By *rMrsRandyCouple
over a year ago

Mids


"Chams is by far the best club we have been.

the dress code

the rooms

the people

the staff

Mingle for a bit have a check of all the rooms and have a play.it's all good"

This ^

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off

If you look at it from a different view you can see how someone could easily be put off going to clubs by the comment.

Someone (couple or single) are contemplating going to a club, see this thread and decide it's a good one to get an insight. They get to that specific comment and they consider themselves overweight, so decide they won't go, due to how others may perceive them.

A good friend of mine is overweight, he's doing something about it, but it takes time. We managed to get him to chams last year, he is very body conscious but still made the effort to go and isn't a guythat would follow you rround the club and probably wouldn't even ask to play, but I know for a fact if he saw this thread he would say see told you I don't suit clubs! Everyone takes comments differently and it has to be accepted that some will shrug the comment off and say well I don't care what they think, whereas others will take it to heart and reconsider going to clubs "

I've been wanting to go to Chams but feel very self-conscious!!! Comments like above really aren't helpful. I've decided to go to Xtasia's foam party so I can hide if needs be

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over a year ago


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I've been wanting to go to Chams but feel very self-conscious!!! Comments like above really aren't helpful. I've decided to go to Xtasia's foam party so I can hide if needs be "

Such a sad thing to hear, it's not too bad for females at chams as they can dress up, so if like yourself you're self conscious you have the option to wear what you like really. But the towels do cover boobs to knees pretty much and can always get a larger towel if you wanted.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off "

But he specifically mentioned the man's size. That's just rude. Like Kimi says, a lot of people would be put off by those kinds of comments.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"

I've been wanting to go to Chams but feel very self-conscious!!! Comments like above really aren't helpful. I've decided to go to Xtasia's foam party so I can hide if needs be

Such a sad thing to hear, it's not too bad for females at chams as they can dress up, so if like yourself you're self conscious you have the option to wear what you like really. But the towels do cover boobs to knees pretty much and can always get a larger towel if you wanted. "

I'm considering going between Xmas & New Year if I like Xtasia xx

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Bit surprised that the OP is being berated because his wife who previously wasn't fond of the dressed down look still isn't fond of the dressed down look.

If they don't like it they don't like it. No need to get your towels in a twist

It's more about how she made a comment about a gentleman that she didn't know, one that he very well might have found offensive.

TBH we find the towel look not that appealing as well. All she said was that the towel look was not that appealing. Why would the guy find it offensive? Mrs H spends most of her time at Chams trying to encourage the guys to get their towels off

If you look at it from a different view you can see how someone could easily be put off going to clubs by the comment.

Someone (couple or single) are contemplating going to a club, see this thread and decide it's a good one to get an insight. They get to that specific comment and they consider themselves overweight, so decide they won't go, due to how others may perceive them.

A good friend of mine is overweight, he's doing something about it, but it takes time. We managed to get him to chams last year, he is very body conscious but still made the effort to go and isn't a guythat would follow you rround the club and probably wouldn't even ask to play, but I know for a fact if he saw this thread he would say see told you I don't suit clubs! Everyone takes comments differently and it has to be accepted that some will shrug the comment off and say well I don't care what they think, whereas others will take it to heart and reconsider going to clubs

I've been wanting to go to Chams but feel very self-conscious!!! Comments like above really aren't helpful. I've decided to go to Xtasia's foam party so I can hide if needs be "

Please don't hide. x

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