FabSwingers.com forum: Club visit as a single male.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya, I am thinking visiting a club as a single male but I have been reading a lot of negatives here about single guys and am worried that I might be painted with the same brush and ended up not enjoying it. Any advice?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You are there as an equal, speak to both mr and mrs and read the rules

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks you.

It's just that i read some messages that made me questions if single guys are seen differently

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Thanks you.

It's just that i read some messages that made me questions if single guys are seen differently"

By some yes but hey, that's their right.

Never worry about it, they can only make you feel different if you allow it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are very rude to single guys.

Some single guys are very rude to other people.

You have as much right as anyone to be there. Always be polite. Don't touch without asking.

Don't forget to smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can cost lots to get in and don't expect to much.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Only you are responsible for you, just follow the rules, be polite and be sure to chat to people, dont just sit in the corner.

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

"Some people are very rude to single guys.

Some single guys are very rude to other people.

You have as much right as anyone to be there. Always be polite. Don't touch without asking.

Don't forget to smile.

Good advice, unfortunately as with everything, the few spoil things for the majority.

Just go with no expectations and you can't then feel let down... Good manners will get you everywhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys, I think I will be going. I am looking forward to that kind of atmosphere even if don't play.

I really appreciate your advice.

I better start looking for clubs operation tonight lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am glad you mention that because I was so nervous about it I could gone in and sit in a corner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell us how you get on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell us how you get on. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is mate we have too many single men for all the men to be truly single. Loads are just fucking about and that makes them unreliable at best and bastards at worst.

Also some geezers go into clubs with the attitude all the women are gagging for it when it's THEM who are gagging for it.

Last if you are going to go into a club just dress smart be spotless and don't talk to people any other way than you would in a pub.

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

There are some good comments on here- just remember, your toned abs might get a look or two, but it's your personality and attitude that will get couples and ladies engaged with you. Even if you only have a quick chat and finish with 'it was great to meet you both', later in the evening that might get people coming back to you, and the next chat could lead to more.

Ask people their opinions on the night/club and be honest about what you're looking for. See if expectations match.

Good Luck

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"Only you are responsible for you, just follow the rules, be polite and be sure to chat to people, dont just sit in the corner."
Don't worry nobody puts baby in the corner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

singles males or famales can find it hard at first but ha you gotta try it once two be hooked its so much fun .

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Hiya, I am thinking visiting a club as a single male but I have been reading a lot of negatives here about single guys and am worried that I might be painted with the same brush and ended up not enjoying it. Any advice?"

If you are good looking, fit, healthy and have a big cock - as long as you can smile and hold a conversation. You will be fine.

If you can look at yourself in the mirror and know that you will add to the event, you will be fine.

If you go to a Club because you feel that you may be too (delete as appropriate) young/old/thin/fat/shy - you probably should not go as you may well be going out of desperation.

Good guys have the time of their lives in the good Clubs. Just be honest with yourself before you go and prepare yourself - well groomed, trimmed and squeaky clean. Remember that many couples g o singles nights in the hope of meeting a good single guy for a threesome. That is why they go.

On here it is different because there are probably 10 fantasists/fakers/timewasters for every good guy.

Think about it, if you are there in the Club - you are real!

Good luck.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Am glad you mention that because I was so nervous about it I could gone in and sit in a corner."

or you could just take the piss out of the advice that you get offered

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmmm, I was not taking the piss at all. I was so worried about feeling like stepping on someone's toe that I might just sit in a corner.

I thank everyone for their advice and when I finally go to a club I'll let you know how i got on but for the mean time I am have been having a bloody great time here .

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By *apperpapiMan
over a year ago

Chester

"Hmmm, I was not taking the piss at all. I was so worried about feeling like stepping on someone's toe that I might just sit in a corner.

I thank everyone for their advice and when I finally go to a club I'll let you know how i got on but for the mean time I am have been having a bloody great time here ."

Just follow the rules bro, no means NO, basic courtesy will go a long way. if someone or a couple asks you to play, you can say yes or politely say no too. be classy and articulate, creative and dress to impress. Oh and by the way, just look and don't stare.

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By *easehotelCouple
over a year ago

huntingdon,Cambridgeshire

See you tonight

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

We would add to "don't sit in the corner" and say don't feel the need to join in the single guy conga either, we see so many times you get a line of single guys following couples around in the hope of being "picked".

If you're going to approach a couple approach them, don't just sit near them in hope, then never engage them, the worst that will happen is you have a brief conversation.

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Go with the flow.

Talk to people and when talking to a cpl just don't talk to the F half lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why I'm a bit nervous to go to a club on my own. Hearing about the perceived rudeness single guys may get!

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

"That's why I'm a bit nervous to go to a club on my own. Hearing about the perceived rudeness single guys may get!"

We've only ever seen anything like this when single guy's try to take libertys, so touching without asking, being pushy, following people around, basically not following the rules and expecting to be involved.

If you are sensible and respectful there is nothing to worry about.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

"That's why I'm a bit nervous to go to a club on my own. Hearing about the perceived rudeness single guys may get!"

There is absolutely no reason for single guys to be treated rudely if they enter the club with a decent attitude and are respectable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks you.

It's just that i read some messages that made me questions if single guys are seen differently"

The gropers are seen differently as are the guys who talk to my tits and ignore my other half. Single guys who talk to us both are always welcome. We don't meet single guys off Fab but a pleasant single guy in a club quite often gets lucky

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I will say actually my worst experience was with a couple where I had spoken to both but they were as cold as ice.....

Another couple even acused me of being rude when I was in a room watching porn and had door open as I wanted to be watched - if it was a female would anything of been said

Anyway talk to others in clubs, single females couples and be genuine a nice pair of boxers goes a long way as well

Don't be a wandering single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would agree with all of the above. Also add look for clubs with a good reputation and have a limited amount of males, pre book only. That way you have a better chance as the ratio will be better for you. Good luck and enjoy! We love the right single guys in clubs

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By *entleman and SassyPussCouple
over a year ago

We've met some great single males in clubs. As long as you smile, chat to both of the couple, you'll be fine. Don't sit in the corner, or become one of the walking wankers in a line.

Relax, enjoy the atmosphere and have fun. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

If it's a wet club, do engage in light conversation with couples or single women in the jacuzzi. It's really quite unnerving for there to be 2-3 solo men in the jacuzzi who aren't saying anything, but watching for any interaction from others there.

However, please don't assume that a chat means you then have access or permission to touch/grope others! DO wait to be invited. If a woman has her legs closed when sitting in the jacuzzi, it's up to her to open them if she wants to. Trying to prise them open is horrid for the woman!

It's also unsettling for women/couples to be followed out of the jacuzzi by single men who are hoping they'll catch seeing some 'action' from them - unless they're invited!

We went to a club together last week and these are the main things which I disliked at the club that solo men were doing. I'd been to that wet club in the past, but had forgotten those unpleasant aspects.

Be personable, non-pushy and enjoy the atmosphere and experience! x

Ell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't believe what you read about single guys on the Internet! In my opinion Cameleons in Darlaston is the best I have been to. go to the club and enjoy the facilities, like the sauna, the jacuzzi and steam room, if you are polite and patient you will have fun. Plus don't go once try it three or four times then make your decision! I also like the private club in Aston is also good for single guys. But the only opinion that matters is yours. Don't be afraid to try all the clubs because somethings you like others wouldn't and vice versa!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your advice once again. I am all set for the 14th for my first club visit and all these good stuff been passed on will be taken into account. Thank you all.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

"Hmmm, I was not taking the piss at all. I was so worried about feeling like stepping on someone's toe that I might just sit in a corner.

I thank everyone for their advice and when I finally go to a club I'll let you know how i got on but for the mean time I am have been having a bloody great time here ."

ok then ill believe you thousands wouldn't.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"That's why I'm a bit nervous to go to a club on my own. Hearing about the perceived rudeness single guys may get!

There is absolutely no reason for single guys to be treated rudely if they enter the club with a decent attitude and are respectable. "
In an ideal world yes you are correct,but, some people see the single guy as an inconvenience and are very brusque/rude towards them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont arrive after having one too many. Nothing worse wen chatting to a bloke whos had to have a drink to get dutch courage n ended up loud, slurring n stinking of alcohol. Big turn off...thank goodness most clubs will end up turning them away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont arrive after having one too many. Nothing worse wen chatting to a bloke whos had to have a drink to get dutch courage n ended up loud, slurring n stinking of alcohol. Big turn off...thank goodness most clubs will end up turning them away.

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky"
forgot the cheeky wink at the end

Have no fear, as long as you can hold a conversation with a group of people you've just met, treat yourself and others with respect, there's nothing to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky forgot the cheeky wink at the end

Have no fear, as long as you can hold a conversation with a group of people you've just met, treat yourself and others with respect, there's nothing to worry about"

Youll find sitting near the bar is the best place to engage with conversation. Staff will also chat with u n make u feel at ease. Plus u get to see who comes walking through the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky forgot the cheeky wink at the end

Have no fear, as long as you can hold a conversation with a group of people you've just met, treat yourself and others with respect, there's nothing to worry about

Youll find sitting near the bar is the best place to engage with conversation. Staff will also chat with u n make u feel at ease. Plus u get to see who comes walking through the door

If there's a hot tub, that's my fave place to go mingle. People are already naked and they're very relaxing which helps conversation flow

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky forgot the cheeky wink at the end

Have no fear, as long as you can hold a conversation with a group of people you've just met, treat yourself and others with respect, there's nothing to worry about

Youll find sitting near the bar is the best place to engage with conversation. Staff will also chat with u n make u feel at ease. Plus u get to see who comes walking through the door

I have been using that trick for years

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We would add to "don't sit in the corner" and say don't feel the need to join in the single guy conga either, we see so many times you get a line of single guys following couples around in the hope of being "picked".

If you're going to approach a couple approach them, don't just sit near them in hope, then never engage them, the worst that will happen is you have a brief conversation."

Totally agree with you! We are perfectly happy to both approach and be approached. You will never know unless you go and talk to people - some people struggle more than others but being sociable will give you a much better chance - enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, darn it, that was exactly my plan. Foiled again pinky forgot the cheeky wink at the end

Have no fear, as long as you can hold a conversation with a group of people you've just met, treat yourself and others with respect, there's nothing to worry about

Youll find sitting near the bar is the best place to engage with conversation. Staff will also chat with u n make u feel at ease. Plus u get to see who comes walking through the door

I have been using that trick for years

Yes u have!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lmfao,fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've only gone and done it. I went to my first club visit and folkes it takes a lot of balls to take that first step in. My balls were literally detached from me but once I started chatting around and beautiful lady invited me into the dark room,hmmmm my balls suddenly came back and I had the most amazing time friends. Thank you all xxx

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