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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I Really want to start going to clubs such as townhouse an cupids. Reluctant to go on my own as I've never been to a club before so don't really know what to expect etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect nothing, if anything happens then it's a bonus.

If you want to pay for guaranteed sex, there's prostitution, for a fun night out there's swingers clubs.

Hope this helps.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I Really want to start going to clubs such as townhouse an cupids. Reluctant to go on my own as I've never been to a club before so don't really know what to expect etc "

go with an open mind and no expectations.....

if you are adult enough to be on here... aren't you adult enough to go thru a set of doors by yourself?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Others have mainly hit it on the head. Visit and expect little and only to stay for a short time, so that you've gone beyond your current barrier.

You can always go with someone else, if you'd prefer to have someone to chat to. As a female I've found everywhere great and people to be really friendly - and have always gone alone.

If you're fine with just expecting to go, relax, speak to a few people, take a look around, maybe have a drink and then leave, you won't have set yourself up for potentially unachievable things. If you planned on being there an hour but find it's longer, then it's more of a bonus. And once you've done it, your membership is out of the way, and you can go anytime you feel like it.

Possibly post in the meets section on specific days, to see if anyone else might accompany you. Also, look for nights where membership may not be required, so you've not invested a lot of money, putting pressure on yourself.

Good luck!

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I agree with what has been said above, and we like to add that all though you are not guaranteed any action, you are much more likely to get some in a club, than you are sitting at home.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

My advice would be to get in touch with clubs directly or even hosts, both will happily advise about membership and what to expect from a visit.

When there please please please don't go with expectations of guaranteed sex, expect to socialise and always be friendly, make sure you speak to both halves of a couple, do not touch unless invited to, speak to people and most importantly for me take your hands out of your pockets, chin up off the floor and smile. A smile and a friendly hello can often work wonders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice would be to get in touch with clubs directly or even hosts, both will happily advise about membership and what to expect from a visit.

When there please please please don't go with expectations of guaranteed sex, expect to socialise and always be friendly, make sure you speak to both halves of a couple, do not touch unless invited to, speak to people and most importantly for me take your hands out of your pockets, chin up off the floor and smile. A smile and a friendly hello can often work won "
Dont you think the club is going to be a little bit biased it is about money for them at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all clubs are about money.

The club I go to makes everyone welcome, single males are treated the same way a couple would be.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


" Dont you think the club is going to be a little bit biased it is about money for them at the end of the day "

They can tell him what to expect which was what was suggested. They are unlikely to try to talk him out of it, but then again no one on the forum is going to try to talk him out of it either.

At the end of the day, a trip to a club will be a new experience for the OP, hopefully it will be a fub and exciting experience, but even if he goes and hates it, at least he will know what they are like.

Go for it OP

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"My advice would be to get in touch with clubs directly or even hosts, both will happily advise about membership and what to expect from a visit.

When there please please please don't go with expectations of guaranteed sex, expect to socialise and always be friendly, make sure you speak to both halves of a couple, do not touch unless invited to, speak to people and most importantly for me take your hands out of your pockets, chin up off the floor and smile. A smile and a friendly hello can often work won Dont you think the club is going to be a little bit biased it is about money for them at the end of the day "

Actually that is not the case, if it were, most of us would have shut our doors to go and do something more lucrative! The Single Guy page on our website explains how it's not about the money for us xxx

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough

What I was saying is as others have pointed out, clubs are approachable and will be able to offer specific advice for their own club. All clubs have their own ways of welcoming new members and it is respectful and responsible to enquire beforehand, to save any awkwardness and potential embarrassment.

The rest of my post was simply advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would highly reccommend Townhouse on the Wirral. It is such a wonderful club especially for first timers too. Everyone is very welcoming. As above dont expect anything and its an added bonus if something does. Theres a wonderful hot tub and sauna to relax in if you are feeling nervous which is always a good ice breaker to chat. The bar is fabulous and cheap too. Our advice to single guys is to Chat to people.

Any more info you need have a look at the club reviews and forums and you can contact the club direct. And they offer memberships free!

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to one about three years ago. It was my first and only time. I went as a single guy and didn't play. However I did have a really good night. Was a tad nervous at first. But soon relaxed the more I chatted and socialised.

If nothing else you get to chat to a lot of like minded people. And get to watch some fantastic background entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice would be to get in touch with clubs directly or even hosts, both will happily advise about membership and what to expect from a visit.

When there please please please don't go with expectations of guaranteed sex, expect to socialise and always be friendly, make sure you speak to both halves of a couple, do not touch unless invited to, speak to people and most importantly for me take your hands out of your pockets, chin up off the floor and smile. A smile and a friendly hello can often work won Dont you think the club is going to be a little bit biased it is about money for them at the end of the day

Actually that is not the case, if it were, most of us would have shut our doors to go and do something more lucrative! The Single Guy page on our website explains how it's not about the money for us xxx"
abfabs charges £75 for a single guy to get in first visit if they are wanting single guys to go surely this is too costly it put me off and I would have no problem going on my own but what's more to the point sex in a club is more about a visual attraction no real chemistry or emotional connection sex for the sake of sex and in a club not guaranteed if you don't have visual appeal ,it's an opinion women obviously see it differently because as on fab they are in control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget the money argument. Its long been discussed on here. Main thing is to go and enjoy yourself. Be relaxed and not pushy, but at same time get yourself involved in conversations with people. I say that as someone whose never been! It's just common sense. It will be daunting. Just like going into a new pub or vanilla club. But no more so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Really want to start going to clubs such as townhouse an cupids. Reluctant to go on my own as I've never been to a club before so don't really know what to expect etc

go with an open mind and no expectations.....

if you are adult enough to be on here... aren't you adult enough to go thru a set of doors by yourself?"

Useful advice as usual super fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to people in the social areas in the same way as you would in any other bar, if thou get invited to play then it's a bonus if not you will have had a chilled social evening.

It's fine to walk about and have a look at what's going on, but lurking in corridors with you hand under your towel or following any female (be it a single lady or a couple) is creepy and a big no no

Just go simply with the intention or meeting people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly take a deep breath and go. Second, as has been said before, chill and expect nothing. Have a good look round, don't fall into the trap of following people around as it really is annoying. Chat, be cool and just go with the flow.. Remember we only have one life so go live it

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