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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've read a few posts and replies with regards to etiquette and rules that single guys should follow when attending clubs.

The problem that i have however and i like to think im not alone on this; is if you are generally and genuinely shy?

I struggle to talk to women and engage in conversation at normal bars over a drink so what chance does the shy single gentleman have at a club?

Meeting someone online, breaking the ice and aranging a meet is my way forward!

Any suggestions will be most welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain mate I'm the same at bars and nightclubs I'm too shy and can't even talk to any girls sometimes makes me feel like a coward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As in most places, the conversation flows most in smoking areas so grab a drink & go sit where the smokers are.

You'll soon start chatting.

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Understand completely, been in the same situations for years.

I'd love to go to a club and hopefully meet some people, but I've this fear of not being able to talk to anyone and being stuck in a corner :/ lol

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

If it's a wet club the hot tub/ jacuzzi area is usually most relaxed and chatty. Otherwise sit at the bar and you'll find it easier to join in the small talk between staff and customers. Good luck

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I've read a few posts and replies with regards to etiquette and rules that single guys should follow when attending clubs.

The problem that i have however and i like to think im not alone on this; is if you are generally and genuinely shy?

I struggle to talk to women and engage in conversation at normal bars over a drink so what chance does the shy single gentleman have at a club?

Meeting someone online, breaking the ice and aranging a meet is my way forward!

Any suggestions will be most welcome

"

Try a social or a newbie event. Most clubs have them.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

You could try finding a smaller club and going regularly, there doesn't need to be any onus on play straight away and once your face starts being seen, you'll slowly start to get used to people and the rest will fall into place naturally. ... I think lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also a shy guy. But don't tell anyone at the club, I don't think they'll believe you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also a shy guy. But don't tell anyone at the club, I don't think they'll believe you "

Clubs are entirely different to vanilla venues. Jacuzzi is a great way to relax, even better with a cup of tea or cold beer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmmm tricky one however having gone to clubs as a couple I would have no qualms going on my own. I guess it may be not knowing what goes on behind those doors that put some singles off?

Go to Newbie nights that some clubs run once you know the layout and the routine it will all come naturally.

Clubs are great they open lots of doors for other things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the constructive comments. All taken on board.

Will try and look into the newbie approach and find a club close to home. Woking, Surrey, London area. Fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a great post, OP. The standard advice is go along, be sociable and all will be fine.

For some it's harder than others to break the ice and start chatting with people especially if they're already in established groups or conversations. Is it being sociable to join in with a group already chatting or will you be seen as butting in? One persons sociable is another persons rude or boundary crossing...

Those with natural confidence will flourish, those naturally shyer will always find breaking the ice that bit more difficult and awkward.

Good luck OP, I hope you find the courage to dive on in!

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend


"Also a shy guy. But don't tell anyone at the club, I don't think they'll believe you

Clubs are entirely different to vanilla venues. Jacuzzi is a great way to relax, even better with a cup of tea or cold beer"

They don't allow drinks in the Jacuzzi in the local spa lol

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Try being a shy single guy with an E.D. and a hair trigger problem!

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