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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everybody. Just wondered if anybody could give me any advice. Im new to the scene generally and am thinking of going to my first club. Im extremely nervous and wondered when would be best to go to Abfabs as a beginner and how involved Im expected to get on my first visit. Any advice would be much appreiciated. Thanks in advance.

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

You'll be expected to pretty much have sex with everyone who is there...

Baptism of fire is the only way to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on a Monday. Arrive just after 6, get the new member tour and then get your kit off and use the pool or hot tubs. Those who are there already, from when it is Kestrals natuarist spa, will be doing the same. Some of these having been naked all day will get dressed for the evening and many of the evening attendees stay that way so you get a mix of everything from near naked to haute clubwear. Do what feels right for you. Wander around and watch discreetly, make eyeline but don't stare, be polite and friendly.

Expect nothing, just because there are naked people and people having sex, act like your at a social event, say a friends weddding reception. You know nobody but have one thing in common.

Many single men come to clubs, get no action on their first night, complain bitterly and never go again. Those that have patience and build social connections prosper.

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay


"Go on a Monday. Arrive just after 6, get the new member tour and then get your kit off and use the pool or hot tubs. Those who are there already, from when it is Kestrals natuarist spa, will be doing the same. Some of these having been naked all day will get dressed for the evening and many of the evening attendees stay that way so you get a mix of everything from near naked to haute clubwear. Do what feels right for you. Wander around and watch discreetly, make eyeline but don't stare, be polite and friendly.

Expect nothing, just because there are naked people and people having sex, act like your at a social event, say a friends weddding reception. You know nobody but have one thing in common.

Many single men come to clubs, get no action on their first night, complain bitterly and never go again. Those that have patience and build social connections prosper. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go on a Monday. Arrive just after 6, get the new member tour and then get your kit off and use the pool or hot tubs. Those who are there already, from when it is Kestrals natuarist spa, will be doing the same. Some of these having been naked all day will get dressed for the evening and many of the evening attendees stay that way so you get a mix of everything from near naked to haute clubwear. Do what feels right for you. Wander around and watch discreetly, make eyeline but don't stare, be polite and friendly.

Expect nothing, just because there are naked people and people having sex, act like your at a social event, say a friends weddding reception. You know nobody but have one thing in common.

Many single men come to clubs, get no action on their first night, complain bitterly and never go again. Those that have patience and build social connections prosper.

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Very good advice. Read and digest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou very much for the advice. Im going to be trying it tomorrow i think and i will definitely be taking my time and giving it a chance. Im not purely focused on just wanting some action, the social side and making new friends is just as important for me! Thanks again all and maybe i will catch up with some of you in Abfabs soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for the bump but some good advice on here - finally looking to (hopefully) go on Wednesday evening as a nervous newbie but (probably irrationally) worried it'll be a cliquey 'closed shop' for lone males.

Obviously I've read the numerous threads about club etiquette (be respectful, be sociable, don't expect any action, most of all relax and enjoy!) but I don't want to be one of the zombies following couples around all night, and I don't want to feel isolated and alone all evening either, obviously it can be difficult to 'break in' to established conversations / friendships without being rude.

Ideally I'll just have a good social time and make a few new friends with no expectation of anything else.

Is anyone else planning on going Wednesday? Some very kind people offered to show me around a few months ago when I hoped to go but unfortunately my plans had to change at that time.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Go on a Monday. Arrive just after 6, get the new member tour and then get your kit off and use the pool or hot tubs. Those who are there already, from when it is Kestrals natuarist spa, will be doing the same. Some of these having been naked all day will get dressed for the evening and many of the evening attendees stay that way so you get a mix of everything from near naked to haute clubwear. Do what feels right for you. Wander around and watch discreetly, make eyeline but don't stare, be polite and friendly.

Expect nothing, just because there are naked people and people having sex, act like your at a social event, say a friends weddding reception. You know nobody but have one thing in common.

Many single men come to clubs, get no action on their first night, complain bitterly and never go again. Those that have patience and build social connections prosper.

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Loved your 'wedding reception' analogy, but for the wrong reasons, had always thought it was like an airport lounge there, but wedding reception, that's the new description for us ... thanks, is it copyrighted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic advice ... If only more people acted like this... Then single would t be treated like pests haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Loved your 'wedding reception' analogy, but for the wrong reasons, had always thought it was like an airport lounge there, but wedding reception, that's the new description for us ... thanks, is it copyrighted?"

Copyright free please use at will.

Though the airport lounge analogy has a certain resonance. To steal the words of the great Ian Dury all that "blotched and largered skin" makes me think of Gatwick in the school holidays.

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