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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

At a club Friday night was a good night,

The following happened and im not looking for advice.

In the jacuzzi a guy tried it on with me after saying "never saw u here before and you must be new" tried to get it on with me i explained i wasn't interested and to back away

Now lets just say he didn't continued to wank while me and my friend spoke and got close to us many times. No need as jacuzzi wasn't busy.

When i said respect boundaries and peoples space he got funny and said "why its a club people wank"

Instantly i thought "he doesn't understand what i just said" no issue about him wanking

2nd guy didnt understand my friend was sub and continued to push, when she explained that she had to ask permission and the comment came "but your friend is touching" aimed at me, again was clear he thought he could as i was (1st timer in a club)

When i was getting out, towell round me another guy fully dressed decided to lob his cock in my face he was fully dressed just undone his zip

When i said no thanks im not interested he said " i thought ud be up for it as your alone"

I said alone but not desperate

Now im not meeting on here unless they are friends and met before but with the above behaviour no wonder im not meeting

Gents remember attitude and respect in clubs goes a long way as the 3rd guy if he spoke to me i might have played

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By *lewelyn23Man
over a year ago

swansea

People like this are the very reason single blokes are frowned upon, sorry to hear that you've been put off meeting as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

goes the same for couples...

I've been a couple a few times in many years...and couples were the worst..I have a few women that join me in clubs/parties/clubs...and the worst offenders?...mainly couples...

its always easy to point out what single men do..yet brush away innapropriate stuff that couples do...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People like this are the very reason single blokes are frowned upon, sorry to hear that you've been put off meeting as a result. "

Wasnt the reason

Im not meeting as i dont want to. The single men i saw just made me see alot clearer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People like this are the very reason single blokes are frowned upon, sorry to hear that you've been put off meeting as a result. "

we arent frowned upon...some of us know how to behave..but like I always say

100 single guys..a percentage will be arses

100 couples..a percentage will be arses

100 single women..a percentage will be arses

now relatively speaking..imagine it on a scale...single men are the biggest users on the site....

what do u expect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"goes the same for couples...

I've been a couple a few times in many years...and couples were the worst..I have a few women that join me in clubs/parties/clubs...and the worst offenders?...mainly couples...

its always easy to point out what single men do..yet brush away innapropriate stuff that couples do..."

Never had a couple like above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is odd behaviour some guys need to learn etiquette but don't let it put you off we're not all like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That is odd behaviour some guys need to learn etiquette but don't let it put you off we're not all like that

Im not put off at all but with how fab is at times and the messages i get and seeing this in clubs.

Can u blame me ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Did you tell the management

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes"

I did at the start a good night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you tell the management"

The 1st pushy guy they are aware off

The other 2 was new, not a excuse i know but when explained d/s he kinda understood

The third i think was excitement at being in a club

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

You need to be firm and clear in what you say. Don't beat around the bush or let things slide because you think they may not understand and don't be afraid to cause a scene or come across as a Bitch.

i.e: 1st guy = "Yes it's a club but I still have the right to personal space, and you're invading mine, so BACK OFF!". - If they don't listen, tell a member of staff.

2nd guy = "I don't want you touching me. It doesn't matter if she's touching me, I have not given YOU permission, so remove your hand". - If they don't listen, tell a member of staff.

3rd guy = "No". - And would probably get a firm telling off from me anyway, again, for the fact that there was no indication you wanted to play with him.

It's not just men but because there are more of them than couples or single fems, that's where the higher percentage of issues are going to be seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes

I did at the start a good night

I'd just like you to not need to include 'SINGLE MEN' as your headline..2 guys misbehaved one night..

not really much else to say..and not that post worthy

(sorry I'd say the same to anyone)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

2nd and 3rd knew my answer and respected it

Like i said its not advice im after. I can handle my own.

And im not single men bashing but of late pushiness and not accepting no,on here and clubs are getting worse imho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes

I did at the start a good night

I'd just like you to not need to include 'SINGLE MEN' as your headline..2 guys misbehaved one night..

not really much else to say..and not that post worthy

(sorry I'd say the same to anyone)"

Why when its about single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes

I did at the start a good night

I'd just like you to not need to include 'SINGLE MEN' as your headline..2 guys misbehaved one night..

not really much else to say..and not that post worthy

(sorry I'd say the same to anyone)

Why when its about single men"

I hate these two guys or any of the other guys doing the same..they ruin fab for me...

is that what u wanna hear?

hashtag manbash

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes"

Agree: single men always seem to be the easy target. I've seen the behaviour of women in clubs that have been inappropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a simple way to sort this issue out be it with couples singles or whatever.

Put the onus back onto the club owners to do something about it. Too many times people (rightly) get the hump over it and leave without reporting it leaving the club owners unaware. If you tell the club owner straight away they can deal with the issue and if they don't vote with your feet and leave a re_iew.

If more people complained and follow them up then stuff will get done.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

For me, the main bit that sticks out to my mind is the phrase:

"The 1st pushy guy, they are aware of.."

We went to our first club last week, and as we came in, the management were refusing entry to someone. We could tell they were a little embarrassed about causing a scene, but we just found it incredibly reassuring that they would rather lose an entry fee than compromise their reputation.

Club regulars will know better, but I wonder whether the problem is the club rather than one particular group?

Mr ddc

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People like this are the very reason single blokes are frowned upon, sorry to hear that you've been put off meeting as a result.

we arent frowned upon...some of us know how to behave..but like I always say

100 single guys..a percentage will be arses

100 couples..a percentage will be arses

100 single women..a percentage will be arses

now relatively speaking..imagine it on a scale...single men are the biggest users on the site....

what do u expect?"

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I'm with the above posts in that there's always going to be good and bad people but due to the higher percentage of males there's always going to be more bad males than couples and females.

I haven't been to a club but in my mind if the owners knew the guy was a problem already when you said something they should have asked him to leave and banned him.

Doesn't sound a fun place if they're letting in people they know don't behave.

I'm all for second chances but by not reprimanding the guy they're encouraging that type of behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were at a club Friday night. 2 single guys came in the couples room and started wanking right next to us. We and the other couple pointed out that it was a couples room. They carried on. I stopped what I was doing, looked them in the eye and said "No. You have to leave". They left.

It didn't ruin our night. It was a very busy night with lots of single guys wandering around. All respectful. Guys outnumbered the couples by far. It was a brilliant night.

I think it's all about perception. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!"

and wandering hubbies and male partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!"

Well done for grouping all single men as one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!

and wandering hubbies and male partners "

And d*unk females either single or part of a couple who by being the above expect to be above the rules

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and never forget the d*unk female, who knows no bounds....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and never forget the d*unk female, who knows no bounds...."

Snap

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"and never forget the d*unk female, who knows no bounds....

Snap

in 3 years I was involved with a club, d*unk females and guys were the biggest issue

and we were a couples only club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys in couples seem to behave in a far more entitled way than single guys.

In clubs AND on here.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Single men are so desperate to have a sniff at anything

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

That first bloke, he wasn't blond and Swedish was he? If he was I think me and Caz met him last time we were in Chams. He did not respect boundaries in any way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!"

When ever someone posts a negative thread about single men in clubs there is always one 'this puts us off clubs' crap comment!

I have been at events were single men have greatly outnumbered single females and couples. However I could not fault their behaviour (and I would if need be).

This maybe down to the individual club but we all have a personal responsibility to challenge any unappropriate behaviour and that is from all groups of people.

If you are the sort of person who is not strong enough to do that but feel ok saying clubs are not for us do then don't go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only person who has tried to touch me inappropriately in a club has been the female in a couple.

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

It really isn't just single guys. The worst predatory behaviour we have ever seen at a club was by a couple. They were unbelievable and made a poor newbie couple very uncomfortable.

It seems unfair to lump all single blokes under one umbrella

T xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've seen pushy couples the female part being the most pushy, I've seen bitchy single females and I've had the odd guy try it on. To blame one person I.e single males is unfair and pretty unjust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do not go to sex clubs but if we did and got naked in a jacuzzi and started sexually fondling others we would not be surprised if men came round wanting to join in.

Why the shock, horror, probe? The poster above who said make your feelings clear and unambiguous is correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask if it's ok if I'm told no I walk away quietly . That's just me though !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point of the thread is lost on me. Surely your complaint is with the guys on the night? Not all guys frequenting clubs?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately. "

What, all of them?

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!"

They do it's called a 'Saturday night' couples and single females only, in most clubs

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately. "

The same as single women and couples can be cunts also but to keep blaming one set of people for everything. Single men have to jump through hoops and pay sometimes ridiculous prices to get in the swinging scene.

I for one don't meet couples or single females and in my 8 years of being on the scene I can count on one hand the amount of times that single guys were not very respectful.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately. "

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!"
Single male/ couples/ single woman, any can cause problems, it is down to behaviour and social skills, being pervy or oggling pretty natural in a club, again that comes from all, they seem to get a bad name, and i think its because they are looked at first! i have had problems in messages with male halfs, single woman problems at a club, its about how you deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender..."

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too be honist Iv found it's norm drink or drugs that have caused some probs with us single men in clubs . Especially with some off the younger guys .

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we arent frowned upon...some of us know how to behave..but like I always say

100 single guys..a percentage will be arses

100 couples..a percentage will be arses

100 single women..a percentage will be arses

now relatively speaking..imagine it on a scale...single men are the biggest users on the site....

what do u expect?"

I told you, you speak sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

Scarlet you do have a way with words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

Scarlet you do have a way with words.

I've discovered it's before i have my morning coffee

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

Scarlet you do have a way with words.

And a big gob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

Scarlet you do have a way with words.

And a big gob

Yeah. ...can't keep it shut sometimes. ...is that why the nasty men try and gag me? ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That first bloke, he wasn't blond and Swedish was he? If he was I think me and Caz met him last time we were in Chams. He did not respect boundaries in any way. "

No wasnt chams x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender...

What a brave man having a dig at the precious ladies. ..there'll be a pussy power thread now. ..mark my words. .. sisters of the forum unite or some bollocks

Scarlet you do have a way with words.

And a big gob

Yeah. ...can't keep it shut sometimes. ...is that why the nasty men try and gag me? ?"

Probably those single men are terrible I tell you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We do not go to sex clubs but if we did and got naked in a jacuzzi and started sexually fondling others we would not be surprised if men came round wanting to join in.

Why the shock, horror, probe? The poster above who said make your feelings clear and unambiguous is correct. "

We wasnt actually touching each other sexually. Just having alaugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought generally speaking play of any kind wasn't allowed for hygiene reasons. Wanking in their should surely have got him at least a warning? Additionally if a bloke happens upon others getting it on in any situation or location they shouldn't expect to just jump nuts in surely. Theres an etiquette in dogging for example. Are there different rules in a club or something?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"We do not go to sex clubs but if we did and got naked in a jacuzzi and started sexually fondling others we would not be surprised if men came round wanting to join in.

Why the shock, horror, probe? The poster above who said make your feelings clear and unambiguous is correct.

We wasnt actually touching each other sexually. Just having alaugh "

Even so, nobody should just assume that they can touch, attempt to penetrate, wank over or get involved without permission.

I wouldn't tolerate an unwanted hand on my leg out and about so wouldn't expect to at a club either.

Just because it's a swinging/sex club, doesn't mean it's a free-for-all. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been to clubs as a single and as a couple, as a couple i saw lots of this going on and hated it, guys coming up and plonking cock in my chicks face, as a single i noticed its a free for all sometimes and guys like me got fuck all because these guys wade in there and get away with it with weaker women....

ive never been since and wont, i hate clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience of d*unk or sober females either single or part of a couple who believe they are entitled and act accordingly has never led me to prejudge other women.

If it did then I believe my behaviour would be worse than the small minority of rude women that frequent this scene.

Judging a whole group by the behaviour of a few is ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been put off going to clubs for this very reason, they should have couples only events, to prevent the hoards of groping pervy single men !!!

When ever someone posts a negative thread about single men in clubs there is always one 'this puts us off clubs' crap comment!

I have been at events were single men have greatly outnumbered single females and couples. However I could not fault their behaviour (and I would if need be).

This maybe down to the individual club but we all have a personal responsibility to challenge any unappropriate behaviour and that is from all groups of people.

If you are the sort of person who is not strong enough to do that but feel ok saying clubs are not for us do then don't go."

Brilliant post

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We to have had some issues with some single men in clubs and on the forums. As far as clubs, we just dont go to those again, but we see couples as often the worst as they do exhibit a sense of entitlement much more often. A male in one interrupted our play at a club saying he was looking for a woman to join them .... I was mid flow at the time, literally. Women in couples wade in and ignore me, trying to get Mr involved with them, when I am sure they would not like that if I did the same. Its all about people and their nature and their perception of others, but I do find myself being anti couples, which I know is not right ....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately. "

perceptions eh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey what kind of clubs are these. We have been to a few over the last few years and only ever had one guy having a bit of (what I can only describe as) a sad wank in a changing room but most of the guys we have spoken to have been decent.

I can't even imagine what the other half would do if someone shoved their cock at her without her permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

perceptions eh.."

anyone else ever notice couples that often say that single guys are arseholes never even have a verify from a single male..despite it probably being really likely they met one in a club?

I bet even IF they met a nice guy in a club they wouldnt display/or give one....

but will then carry on the charade that all single guys have behaved like arseholes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not our fault you get them single men where you are lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we arent frowned upon...some of us know how to behave..but like I always say

100 single guys..a percentage will be arses

100 couples..a percentage will be arses

100 single women..a percentage will be arses

now relatively speaking..imagine it on a scale...single men are the biggest users on the site....

what do u expect?

I told you, you speak sense.

hahhaa I was d*unk n defensive

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastes"
Totally agree Paddy. I have seen some bloody awful behaviour in clubs, mainly from single women and couples funnily enough

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Either gender can be a pain at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the occasional night where there seems to be a few people that can't respect others... Not always guys either and I have been offended far more by women or couples than single guys.

I did however have while Mr was in a private room a few incidents all within about 30mins that had me heading up to knock on the door because I felt intimidated.. And believe me that takes a lot.

But I think that some nights there are just idiots and its not based on male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well uve been to many a club...and met many single men...and have been here as long as i know...

why give negativity when u know exactly what to expect in many cases....

I'm personally sick to the back teeth having to explain,back up etc stuff...and it gets my fucking goat when I see a post like this.

It isnt easy for a single guy in many cases...its a should I or should I scenario...your either dammed if u do and dammed if u dont.

why dont u give a cumulative account of ur entire club experience instead of highlighting what might just have been a night that u found unsuitable for your tastesTotally agree Paddy. I have seen some bloody awful behaviour in clubs, mainly from single women and couples funnily enough

next time I'll tell the wife to ask before she fondles yer big tasty tits xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

perceptions eh.."

no i agree on here too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have had the occasional night where there seems to be a few people that can't respect others... Not always guys either and I have been offended far more by women or couples than single guys.

I did however have while Mr was in a private room a few incidents all within about 30mins that had me heading up to knock on the door because I felt intimidated.. And believe me that takes a lot.

But I think that some nights there are just idiots and its not based on male or female. "

jeez and that must be bad if u feel that way, as i know u

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

"We have had the occasional night where there seems to be a few people that can't respect others... Not always guys either and I have been offended far more by women or couples than single guys.

I did however have while Mr was in a private room a few incidents all within about 30mins that had me heading up to knock on the door because I felt intimidated.. And believe me that takes a lot.

But I think that some nights there are just idiots and its not based on male or female.

jeez and that must be bad if u feel that way, as i know u "

& some wonder why they get slapped to a well placed knee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are either a nice person or you are not. You either know how to conduct yourself in a social situation or you don't . Sometimes even those that do know can make a mistake or error of judgement. Sometimes those that behave inappropriately are unaware that others are offended by their actions.

The important thing is how they rectify said bad behavior. People will only treat you as you allow them too. This applies to single men, women and couples.

If somebody does something you don't like tell them. If they don't stop then escalate the complaint. No means no regardless of who says it.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Some guy's are just absolute wankers. Most single guys do know how to behave. As always, a small minority giving the majority a bad name.

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

I have to say that i tend to just ignore these single men threads...however, i would much prefer they just mentioned 'people' or even 'men' in general. I speak from the fact that i was at a social recently (from another site) and it was the 'married' mens behaviour that embarrassed me as a single bloke attending....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x"

So why not just start a thread saying what a great night you had rather than focus on one negative aspect??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some guy's are just absolute wankers. Most single guys do know how to behave. As always, a small minority giving the majority a bad name."
only to those ignorant enough to think the behaviour of a minority reflects the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Scarlet. People like to hear positives not negatives. Enough negativity in the world.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x

So why not just start a thread saying what a great night you had rather than focus on one negative aspect??"

as it seems to be a trend of late about singles no respect on here ad clubs

and i did say i had a good time the 1st sentance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x

So why not just start a thread saying what a great night you had rather than focus on one negative aspect??

as it seems to be a trend of late about singles no respect on here ad clubs

and i did say i had a good time the 1st sentance

I wouldn't call it a trend when only a handful agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the moral of the story is

Thou shalt not flob your knob into an unsuspecting lass's gob

Thou shalt not grab a grope when you haven't got a hope

Thou shalt not get schmoozy with two unwilling lasses in a jacuzzi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x

So why not just start a thread saying what a great night you had rather than focus on one negative aspect??"

Great idea, would make a change to read about single guys being considerate and respectful for a change though guess less fun to comment on for some

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"this is just general what i found on friday and to be honest i had a great night x

So why not just start a thread saying what a great night you had rather than focus on one negative aspect??

as it seems to be a trend of late about singles no respect on here ad clubs

and i did say i had a good time the 1st sentance

I wouldn't call it a trend when only a handful agree"

on messages of late i have noticed it ad when i took the time to say no thanks i got "why" and "ur a fat slag anyway"

the trend of singles joining thinking that people will open their legs up straight away, isnt my type of fun and i have been on here years on and off

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"And the moral of the story is

Thou shalt not flob your knob into an unsuspecting lass's gob

Thou shalt not grab a grope when you haven't got a hope

Thou shalt not get schmoozy with two unwilling lasses in a jacuzzi"

Brilliant! Sounds like it could be the words to a 90,s dance song

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And the moral of the story is

Thou shalt not flob your knob into an unsuspecting lass's gob

Thou shalt not grab a grope when you haven't got a hope

Thou shalt not get schmoozy with two unwilling lasses in a jacuzzi

Brilliant! Sounds like it could be the words to a 90,s dance song

lol

turn the tables though, if they wasnt like that, i might have said yes

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

as it seems to be a trend of late about singles no respect on here ad clubs

That isn't confined to single men. The reason we hear about it is because single women/ couples start threads on it when they get annoyed/ upset over it.

I can't say from the one experience we had of a club because everyone we met were respectful but from reading on the forum and knowing that some people in life have no manners, I am surprised it annoys people when they encounter anything from your first post....surely in all the time you have been visiting clubs or reading mails on here you must have encountered it before?

My guess is your _iew of this game is jaded at the moment, maybe time away from it may perk things back up again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My guess is your _iew of this game is jaded at the moment, maybe time away from it may perk things back up again."

actually no not annoyed or angry about it, far from it

jaded no, i know there is good and bad and i know ups and downs with both sexes. i just think if someone reads this as sees their behavior they could change it thats all

i did something a few weeks ago and it taught me something, only me and 2 others know and im glad i saw it as wasnt nice thats why im having a break

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

As I say, just my _iew, but you sound like you are on a downer with single men at the minute, which isn't fair, as we all know they are not all the same.

The people who you are aiming to "educate" probably won't be reading this anyway. Obviously what you describe in the OP wasn't something you think should happen....it is easily solved by saying No thanks, twice if needed then move on. Same as reading any mails you don't want, block and move on.

If things are getting to you, time to switch off the phone/ PC and don't visit clubs for a bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As I say, just my _iew, but you sound like you are on a downer with single men at the minute, which isn't fair, as we all know they are not all the same.

If things are getting to you, time to switch off the phone/ PC and don't visit clubs for a bit."

no downer on singles in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

hang around the forums, you will see questionable behaviour by some of your gender..."

I know and I do hang around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

What, all of them?

No not all of them. I apologise but my post was a knee jerk reaction to something yesterday that occurred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find single guys way more respectable and much better company than couples or single women most of the time tbh

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over a year ago

I think respect, or the lack of it, is down to individuals rather than specific groups. Until last night I (the female half) had enjoyed our few club visits. Unfortunately, there seemed to be 1 or 2 guys in the dark room alone which is against club rules on a couples' night. On the 2 occasions we went in different men were incredibly pushy. They were not prepared to take no for an answer when I didn't like their touch. Fortunately, my partner got me out of there quickly. Trouble is how do you prove any of it in such an environment? Unfortunately, it completely soured the night. Fortunately, I had a good experience in there the week before so will try again (eventually).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive never been to a club but single men generally seem to be arseholes lately.

What, all of them?

No not all of them. I apologise but my post was a knee jerk reaction to something yesterday that occurred "

I think that happens more often than people care to admit. One guy is an arse, suddenly they all are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think respect, or the lack of it, is down to individuals rather than specific groups. Until last night I (the female half) had enjoyed our few club visits. Unfortunately, there seemed to be 1 or 2 guys in the dark room alone which is against club rules on a couples' night. On the 2 occasions we went in different men were incredibly pushy. They were not prepared to take no for an answer when I didn't like their touch. Fortunately, my partner got me out of there quickly. Trouble is how do you prove any of it in such an environment? Unfortunately, it completely soured the night. Fortunately, I had a good experience in there the week before so will try again (eventually)."

I (female half) also had a similar experience. We had gone to visit a club further away than what we normally travel get there and just wanted to chill. Having never been before we went for a look round after our guided tour and ended up laying on a bed in an open room. No one was about then the next thing we know we got pounced on by 4 men. Not one had asked permission and I felt trapped so we got up and left the room pretty quickly. It has put me off a little bit but we are going back to the same club next week so hopefully it will be different.

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