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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So today i took myself off to the Townhouse for there monthly milf monday . Its a great well organised event and for a pleasant change only £10 to get in including guys !

But unfortunately there wasnt many females atall and the place was full of guys in just towels standing around . Now i dont got to clubs often as im not a sexual predator who feels comfy standing watching it makes me feel a bit desperate . I understand now why guys have such a bad name in clubs .

By the way i should add that the Townhouse is a wonderful place with excellent friendly staff .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The club very clearly says they aim for a ratio of 3:1 guys to ladies and it's not the club's fault when the ladies who ask for a place on the guest list don't show up. For a tenner it is the best value event for a single guy, gives you a chance to see a lovely club and "network" for future reference!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The club very clearly says they aim for a ratio of 3:1 guys to ladies and it's not the club's fault when the ladies who ask for a place on the guest list don't show up. For a tenner it is the best value event for a single guy, gives you a chance to see a lovely club and "network" for future reference!!! "

Thats a great comment and i did say what a wonderful club it was ...

It reminded me why i dont go to clubs though .

I watched groups of guys just following girls around . It made me feel desperate and im really not .

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

The ratio today tipped into 3.5:1 as some of the ladies who assured me they would come along didn't This is the first time our ratio has slightly gone awry in 8 months and all I can say is EVERYBODY...only put your name on our list if you can definitely make it!!!

A club can only do so much to take a list of names to try and control the ratio; it's up to you..ALL of you to turn up! 9 ladies did not turn up today but we still had 16 and many were greedy girls, so the majority of guys had a great day actually.

If you are a guy who is initidated by large numbers of guys, then 'MILF' is not for you as we will always go for a 3:1 ratio at the request of the ladies. THAT is the nature of MILF and is stated on the adverts.

Maybe you should try on of our many other events where we limit the number of guys?

xxx

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

*intimidated* even!

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nothing you are unhappy about is to do with the club or the people who attended. It is about how you personally feel so it seems unfair to have started the thread as you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was one of the women there today at MILF Monday. Yes there were alot of men but I wouldn't say that the atmosphere was predatory and as far as I was concerned the fellas were respectful and well behaved.

Alot of the fellas that I spoke to said how much they enjoyed their day and I have had alot of messages along that line tonight.

Putting together an event like this is hard work and hats off to Vicky and Jim for putting on different events to appeal to different needs.

OP if you are not happy with the ratio of males/females/couples then maybe this sort of event is not for you. I am sure if you do your research you would be able to find a club/event to meet your needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't been as the timing is off for us but believed it to be a greedy girl type event.

I'm lookin forward to seeing how my friends found it today... They were some of the ladies that were there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooops i hope I havnt come across as critical of the club i thought the place was amazing. I was stating how men stood around in towels staring at others having sex and masturbating didnt suit me .

As i said the club and staff were amazing

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Ooops i hope I havnt come across as critical of the club i thought the place was amazing. I was stating how men stood around in towels staring at others having sex and masturbating didnt suit me .

As i said the club and staff were amazing"

We have LOADS of different events to suit different 'needs' so maybe take a look at our 'what's on' page on our website and see if anything tickles your fancy? I would stay away from MILF Monday and our Greedy Girl Thurs if the GG thang isn't for you. You could maybe think about coming to a Fab social which is much more balanced or even think about a membership so you can come on a Saturday, which limits the number of guys to 8?

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't been in a long while unfortunately, but when we did, as a couple of noobs shaking like leaves, we were put at ease by Vicky and Jim. I can't recommend the place highly enough, everyone should try and visit there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooops i hope I havnt come across as critical of the club i thought the place was amazing. I was stating how men stood around in towels staring at others having sex and masturbating didnt suit me .

As i said the club and staff were amazing"

I'm not actually a Greedy Girl but still enjoyed the event. As others have said it's often about socialising and building up that network of friends.

OP if you are not into men standing around in towels watching people have sex what were your expectations of a swingers club?

Townhouse is an amazing club. I have been to many different clubs, had great nights and bad nights. This is the one club that embraces single males. Treats them fairly, offers a proper induction to swinging and charges a reasonable rate and STILL that isn't enough?! You can't please everyone and frankly I wouldn't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooops i hope I havnt come across as critical of the club i thought the place was amazing. I was stating how men stood around in towels staring at others having sex and masturbating didnt suit me .

As i said the club and staff were amazing

I'm not actually a Greedy Girl but still enjoyed the event. As others have said it's often about socialising and building up that network of friends.

OP if you are not into men standing around in towels watching people have sex what were your expectations of a swingers club?

Townhouse is an amazing club. I have been to many different clubs, had great nights and bad nights. This is the one club that embraces single males. Treats them fairly, offers a proper induction to swinging and charges a reasonable rate and STILL that isn't enough?! You can't please everyone and frankly I wouldn't want to.

"

What she said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP; what, exactly, was the point of your post please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When is there gong to be a greedy boys night? All I'd require is the cake lol

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"When is there gong to be a greedy boys night? All I'd require is the cake lol"

lol, we did actually have a greedy boy event, but it was a bi/gay event!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When is there gong to be a greedy boys night? All I'd require is the cake lol

lol, we did actually have a greedy boy event, but it was a bi/gay event!! lol "

People can get up to whatever they want as long as there's cake for me hehe

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

I do think some of the comments are a little harsh. I can understand why someone would be intimidated by a lot of men, although the nature of the event does mean a high ratio of guys. One must try these things to establish whether they like it of not.

The nature of the forums is to start discussion and encourage views; I do hope the OP doesn't get frightened off by some of the comments. They are merely supporting a great event and they are happy with the ratios as they are.

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a great afternoon at TH, though I didn't get to play, but it was good to socialise

I can see where the op is coming from, in that there did seem to be a lot of guys, but it would also appear that some ladies weren't able to attend

I appreciate the effort the club has put into these events, but it's not their fault for no-shows

Some of the feeling I got, from some of the newbies, was that they were disappointed, but you only get out what you put in

I'll be coming back again to the next MM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some of the comments are a little harsh. I can understand why someone would be intimidated by a lot of men, although the nature of the event does mean a high ratio of guys. One must try these things to establish whether they like it of not.

The nature of the forums is to start discussion and encourage views; I do hope the OP doesn't get frightened off by some of the comments. They are merely supporting a great event and they are happy with the ratios as they are.

xx"

In my experience these events become self defeating. The concept of MM is an interpretation of a GG event and as such if they are successful then the ratio of guys to ladies or couples will become greater its those market forces at work or simply supply and demand. The demand, in this case, has outstripped supply. The fact that those entering the market promise to supply but fail to do so only exacerbate the situation?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I do think some of the comments are a little harsh. I can understand why someone would be intimidated by a lot of men, although the nature of the event does mean a high ratio of guys. One must try these things to establish whether they like it of not.

The nature of the forums is to start discussion and encourage views; I do hope the OP doesn't get frightened off by some of the comments. They are merely supporting a great event and they are happy with the ratios as they are.

xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree that the concept of milf Monday is based in a greedy girls type event. It is a daytime swinging event - so that attracts mums with school age kids... Giving an opportunity for much needed grown up playtime.

It is over simplifying it to say it can can be distilled to something like economics and "market forces" like supply and demand. The women who go aren't commodities, neither are the guys for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree that the concept of milf Monday is based in a greedy girls type event. It is a daytime swinging event - so that attracts mums with school age kids... Giving an opportunity for much needed grown up playtime.

It is over simplifying it to say it can can be distilled to something like economics and "market forces" like supply and demand. The women who go aren't commodities, neither are the guys for that matter. "
I take your point but most events or gathering can be explained by applying market forces. Most GG events attract those who want adult time using different terminology is fine but its like calling a apple a coxes pippin!

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By *hestercazWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"I do think some of the comments are a little harsh. I can understand why someone would be intimidated by a lot of men, although the nature of the event does mean a high ratio of guys. One must try these things to establish whether they like it of not.

The nature of the forums is to start discussion and encourage views; I do hope the OP doesn't get frightened off by some of the comments. They are merely supporting a great event and they are happy with the ratios as they are.

xx

In my experience these events become self defeating. The concept of MM is an interpretation of a GG event and as such if they are successful then the ratio of guys to ladies or couples will become greater its those market forces at work or simply supply and demand. The demand, in this case, has outstripped supply. The fact that those entering the market promise to supply but fail to do so only exacerbate the situation?"

Have you been to this event or the club even? I don't recall you commenting on other Townhouse or MILF threads. Then again, you have a new account and maybe not been around long enough to have had the chance yet?

From my observation, these events have a great female attendance and the numbers may have been a little lower today but this, I am sure is a one off. If the event has been running for 8 successful months, then people obviously want it! Were else would you get all these people in a club on a monday? What did I read on the ads? 85-100 people?

I am new to clubs but this club is consistently busy and well attended by great people.

I bet the OP would not be moaning if he got a play?! If one of those ladies took him into a room, the thread would be 'Great day at MILF!' Sour grapes I think and as for the previous comment..I smell a rat.

The day I become a commodity is the day I stop. I wasn't there today, but I will be there a future events as will the ladies who couldn't make it today. There is very much a demand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some of the comments are a little harsh. I can understand why someone would be intimidated by a lot of men, although the nature of the event does mean a high ratio of guys. One must try these things to establish whether they like it of not.

The nature of the forums is to start discussion and encourage views; I do hope the OP doesn't get frightened off by some of the comments. They are merely supporting a great event and they are happy with the ratios as they are.

xx

In my experience these events become self defeating. The concept of MM is an interpretation of a GG event and as such if they are successful then the ratio of guys to ladies or couples will become greater its those market forces at work or simply supply and demand. The demand, in this case, has outstripped supply. The fact that those entering the market promise to supply but fail to do so only exacerbate the situation?

Have you been to this event or the club even? I don't recall you commenting on other Townhouse or MILF threads. Then again, you have a new account and maybe not been around long enough to have had the chance yet?

From my observation, these events have a great female attendance and the numbers may have been a little lower today but this, I am sure is a one off. If the event has been running for 8 successful months, then people obviously want it! Were else would you get all these people in a club on a monday? What did I read on the ads? 85-100 people?

I am new to clubs but this club is consistently busy and well attended by great people.

I bet the OP would not be moaning if he got a play?! If one of those ladies took him into a room, the thread would be 'Great day at MILF!' Sour grapes I think and as for the previous comment..I smell a rat.

The day I become a commodity is the day I stop. I wasn't there today, but I will be there a future events as will the ladies who couldn't make it today. There is very much a demand! "
Firstly I am not the OP.

I have attended many similar events at various clubs and was just commenting that as the particular event grows in popularity the ratio that is prevalent to FAB (that is single males to ladies and couples) becomes more apparent. I am afraid if you pay for anything such as an entry fee or buying a bag of chips you are trading in commodities that's just a plain fact of life. I am sure the event was a raging success I was merely pointing out my previous experiences and the interaction of supply and demand!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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From my observation, these events have a great female attendance and the numbers may have been a little lower today but this, I am sure is a one off. If the event has been running for 8 successful months, then people obviously want it! Were else would you get all these people in a club on a monday? What did I read on the ads? 85-100 people?

I am new to clubs but this club is consistently busy and well attended by great people.

I bet the OP would not be moaning if he got a play?! If one of those ladies took him into a room, the thread would be 'Great day at MILF!' Sour grapes I think and as for the previous comment..I smell a rat.

The day I become a commodity is the day I stop. I wasn't there today, but I will be there a future events as will the ladies who couldn't make it today. There is very much a demand! Firstly I am not the OP.

I have attended many similar events at various clubs and was just commenting that as the particular event grows in popularity the ratio that is prevalent to FAB (that is single males to ladies and couples) becomes more apparent. I am afraid if you pay for anything such as an entry fee or buying a bag of chips you are trading in commodities that's just a plain fact of life. I am sure the event was a raging success I was merely pointing out my previous experiences and the interaction of supply and demand!"

what you're not knowing/ understanding is that TH try and organise the ratio of men to women at these events, so that it's not dominated by single guys.

If you have read the thread advertising today's event then you'll see what they have tried to do, by having a restricted, limited guest list.

It was just unfortunate that some people couldn't attend today so that the ratios were skewed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an absolutely awesome day and I want to thank the townhouse staff for putting on again what was an awesome event I think the ratio thing doe sent matter if your confident but polite and do a bit of networking when you are there you can get to play a lot check my veris I was at the same not so over crowded event lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv read and reread the ops post. He hasn't attacked the TH or the event at all. He just said he personally felt uncomfortable.

No one knows how they will feel at any event or situation till they try it. Sadly in every club you get the gus standing around thing. It's the nature of clubs. That's why some couples only go to couples nights.

Each to their own.personally we love GG type events and would try the TH if it wasn't such a drive away as we've heard good things about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an absolutely awesome day and I want to thank the townhouse staff for putting on again what was an awesome event I think the ratio thing doe sent matter if your confident but polite and do a bit of networking when you are there you can get to play a lot check my veris I was at the same not so over crowded event lol"

You weren't that confident you left me all alone hahaha

Have to say I had an amazing day as it was my first milf Monday was quite nervous! It was a great networking event and have made lots of new friends for future adventures

Looking forward to next daytime event xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men, know the difference between meet and meat.

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I cannot wait to try milf Monday.. It just keeps falling on dates I can't meet. I also don't think the op meant any critism to TH, he was just disappointed in his experience due to personal preference. It may be that he is better going to a club with a date, rather than as a single guy.

Loads of guys I know don't like attending clubs as a single guy for the exact same reasons as the op. A single guy probably would feel like this about any club holding any event!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Starting this thread has taught me a valuable lesson !

Keep my big mouth shut .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cannot wait to try milf Monday.. It just keeps falling on dates I can't meet. I also don't think the op meant any critism to TH, he was just disappointed in his experience due to personal preference. It may be that he is better going to a club with a date, rather than as a single guy.

Loads of guys I know don't like attending clubs as a single guy for the exact same reasons as the op. A single guy probably would feel like this about any club holding any event! "
thanks for understanding!

That's exactly what i meant .

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Starting this thread has taught me a valuable lesson !

Keep my big mouth shut .

"

Nooooooo you mustn't do that!!!!

As I said in my previous messages, I do think some of the comments were harsh and starting a forum post is supposed to promote discussion, but it means that some of the discussion will not be in your favour! Nature of the beast I'm afraid.

xxx

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"Starting this thread has taught me a valuable lesson !

Keep my big mouth shut .

"

Don't worry

Some people are quite rabbid about perceived insult to their favourite club and attack.

I read your OP in a favourable way, you seemed to love the club but unfortunately there were too many guys for your liking.

It happens. I help run a night at a club and know that many who have their name on a list and are adamant they will come never turn up. I understand that sometimes life gets in the way but it seems that it is mostly a case that they just can't be bothered and can't even be arsed to send a sorry can't make it message.

I have heard nothing but good things about the Townhouse and hope to get up there at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only comment on my experience I thought it was a fantastic event and the staff as always worked tiredsly to ensure everyone was ok. The only negative is some people aren't great at cleaning up after playing or even telling staff that sheets need changing. But guess u get that everywhere. Keep up good work townhouse 10/10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When is there gong to be a greedy boys night? All I'd require is the cake lol

lol, we did actually have a greedy boy event, but it was a bi/gay event!! lol "

I KNOW!! I was going to dress like a bloke and try to bluff my way in - but I guessed you might see round my cunning disguise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I dont mean to be harsh but I read your post as being critical of the other men, and you playing the white knight card.

Unless the women were objecting to the men masturbating I dont understand your problem. I have seen situations where men prefer to masturbate than have sex. I say different strokes for different folks.

Also the use of the word 'predatory' implying the other men where predatory is a critical comment, as is your comment 'I now understand why single men get a bad name'.

Provided none of the women were being harassed I am not sure what the issue is. Also to avoid the favourite club comment I have never been to the Townhouse.

I accept you may not have intended to be critical but it did come over that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazing day- I left with a pleasant smile on my face. Can't wait for the next one. Seen lots of friendly faces and made some new fab friends- bonus x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When is there gong to be a greedy boys night? All I'd require is the cake lol

lol, we did actually have a greedy boy event, but it was a bi/gay event!! lol "

You guys have the best fun. We need to move north. V xxx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Hmm club that charges the same for single men overrun with men?

Now where have I heard that suggested before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm club that charges the same for single men overrun with men?

Now where have I heard that suggested before?"

You're commenting on something you don't know about, or attended

As TH have stated and been commented on here, they try and achieve a ratio of 3:1

Yesterday, due to a failure of some ladies not attending, that sadly changed, and was not the norm

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"Hmm club that charges the same for single men overrun with men?

Now where have I heard that suggested before?"

I believe they need to pre-book not just turn up at the door. So if the women who had said they were going actually had, then the ratio would have been correct for this night.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm club that charges the same for single men overrun with men?

Now where have I heard that suggested before?"

This proves to me you do not know the club.

If you did you would know this is the case on this event as it is to achieve as mentioned earlier the 3:1 ratio for the type of event it is.

Townhouse on other nights ie Saturday nights limits the number of single guys to 8 established members, new single guys have to attend on a Wednesday to see the place find their feet etc.

Please do not judge before you have all the information.

Personally I love the townhouse and the events and as has been mentioned before if the ladies who has said they would attend had the ratio would have been the ratio they aim for.

Different events suit different people and as has been said before have a look at the what's on at the club you are looking to visit and see what event suits you! You can also look in the events advert page and read about the events!

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, I was at the event also and had a great day with some great friends. I can't tell from your profile pic whether I remember seeing you or not, so I am just honestly asking because I have no idea, did you strike up any conversations with the ladies who were present? You've got a decent amount of verifications according to your profile, so it would surprise me if you didn't as it seems you know what the scene is all about. I ask because there are plenty of private rooms so there was opportunity to not be part of anything that was being watched by "predatory" men. I agree with you whole heartedly about how great the club is and the staff and owners, and I absolutely believe you weren't trying to be critical, but just a little clarification may help us understand where you are coming from.

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