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By *ittenwantstoplay OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

Much as I love the club...there is the inevitable group of sad single guys with zero social skills, let alone sexual ones (!), following the women around all night long, standing an inch away from me with their dicks in their hand wanking away..

Why don't they get kicked out? They are always there being a bloody nuisance!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure this sort of thing would put a lot of people off going. We were warned when we first went to la chambre on a Friday about this sort of thing but didn't happen as we didn't play. Have you not spoke to the staff about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found this a little intimidating the 1st time I ever went on a Friday night but now I have to say a direct, sharp No don't do that seems to be effective.

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By *bfoxxxMan
over a year ago

Crete or LANCASTER

I've never done it, but one certainly wants to be ready if invited to get involved.

That's their problem, they don't get invited.

I've been swinging for about 30 years now, and mainly talk to ladies and couples, and one thing leads to another.

But then there's those who don't and just want a hole to fill.

Takes all sorts, and you'll find them on Fab.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

When I go to Abfabs I firstly try to sit near a cpl or other people and try to socialise. I do not follow females or cpls around the venue but I do look for activity in open play areas. I would much prefer to get to know members in the lounge and go to a _rivate room.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Also it is not easy to know whether a cpl or small group want company. They are often talking to themselves or sometimes cuddling etc. I always try and make an effort in the lounge or other areas to socialise. But in the end you have to rely on open play areas.

Single fems are never on their own in the lounge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why Iv not been to a club yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate the pack mentality..and groups of guys surrounding a woman...

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think


"Much as I love the club...there is the inevitable group of sad single guys with zero social skills, let alone sexual ones (!), following the women around all night long, standing an inch away from me with their dicks in their hand wanking away..

Why don't they get kicked out? They are always there being a bloody nuisance!! "

probably has something to do with the amount they charge a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much as I love the club...there is the inevitable group of sad single guys with zero social skills, let alone sexual ones (!), following the women around all night long, standing an inch away from me with their dicks in their hand wanking away..

Why don't they get kicked out? They are always there being a bloody nuisance!! "

We've seen it many times in the past and it's not nice and far from erotic, and it's no fun spending half the night telling people to F off. Don't get us wrong, we like a few single males around, but these days only we go to club nights where there's a limited number allowed in. OP4F on a Saturday is good for this.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This is why Iv not been to a club yet! "

But this is not what its like most times. We've been to Clubs about 10 times & never felt we were followed by a pack...., now were getting paranoid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Va only let in 10 guys on a Friday..It's great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Va only let in 10 guys on a Friday..It's great "

We haven't been, but we might now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much as I love the club...there is the inevitable group of sad single guys with zero social skills, let alone sexual ones (!), following the women around all night long, standing an inch away from me with their dicks in their hand wanking away..

Why don't they get kicked out? They are always there being a bloody nuisance!!

We've seen it many times in the past and it's not nice and far from erotic, and it's no fun spending half the night telling people to F off. Don't get us wrong, we like a few single males around, but these days only we go to club nights where there's a limited number allowed in. OP4F on a Saturday is good for this."

I'm hoping to go to OP4F with a friend next month, was wondering what their Saturday night policy was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Va only let in 10 guys on a Friday..It's great

We haven't been, but we might now "

I'll be in hugeeee hot tub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Much as I love the club...there is the inevitable group of sad single guys with zero social skills, let alone sexual ones (!), following the women around all night long, standing an inch away from me with their dicks in their hand wanking away..

Why don't they get kicked out? They are always there being a bloody nuisance!!

We've seen it many times in the past and it's not nice and far from erotic, and it's no fun spending half the night telling people to F off. Don't get us wrong, we like a few single males around, but these days only we go to club nights where there's a limited number allowed in. OP4F on a Saturday is good for this.

I'm hoping to go to OP4F with a friend next month, was wondering what their Saturday night policy was."

Their website should have the details, but we've only ever been on a Saturday, and it's always been hassle free (but still with plenty of opportunities )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been to Kestrels / AbFabs several times and never really had an issue with the single guys becoming too predatory.

Whenever we've said "no" they've been respectful and usually maintain a respectful distance.

Our most common observation is the lack of communication and general social skills. The guys we have played with have usually started with a smile and a chat, not because they waved their dick around.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

If I'm honest, we've had both great and terrible nights at Abfabs, but that all depends on who is there. On one visit none of the guys chatted to any of the couples and didn't even speak to us until we collecting our coats (we were just as much to blame as we didn't feel up to chatting much that night either). Another visit we had such polite, chatty guys there we had a hard time making a choice (so we chose 3 of them ).

Like all clubs you get a mixture of both good and bad on different nights. Never really suffered from the following 'gang of wankers' or even guys wanking in our faces as we've played, though guys do tend to wander looking for action and a hopeful "come join in" request.

Kestrels is worse for the 'following you everywhere' guys. We often joke that a walk to the stables should be accompanied by the the Benny Hill chase music as there will always be a line of single guys following along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only went once, it put me off going back

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I have a lot to say on this both from when I have gone to a club as a single male and part of a couple

I will put my thoughts down when I am not on mobile

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ok here we go......

As a single male....

I have been to a number of clubs as a single male and I could be sometimes classed in the wandering men category.

Often I will sit at the bar, and talk to people but sometimes if you get the feeling that no play is going to happen, then what is the problem for going for a bit of a wander. Sometimes as a single guy I have smiled at couples, and have no response, and sometimes i have even gone and chatted to them, and felt more warmth of a ice cube. I would say the best play that I have had is when i have come across a couple playing in a open room, when i have done that.

I agree that wandering around with your cock out following a couple is not good. If a couple is playing in a room, and the door is open, i personally don't think it is that bad to have some self play. Or watch and ask do you mind if i have a wank works as well.....

As a couple

I have been in clubs, as part of a couple and it was actually a huge turn on for us both that men and some women were following us and watching, when my partner had some fun with the men, my partner made me watch but not join in. A massive turn on. I must say all the men that joined in were very respectful.

On respect, I would say my recent experiences I would say the male part of the couple have been the worst. On Saturday I was in a open cinema room, and the male part of the couple was alone whilst his wife was playing. He was bad mouthing not only other people in the club, but said i am going to get other females to join us, i later found out he inapropriatley tried to join in with some play.

Also I was talking to a couple, and the male was just really cold but the female was really chatty, as we both have a similar work life, so he offered for me to touch her bum, which i did, and then about 5 mins later he was frosty as anything. I questioned my behaviour but i had done nothing wrong.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Abfabs is a great club and I think most people enjoy their time there. I think the actions of single people described above happens at some point in any establishment that allows in a number of single men.

As a male who goes to clubs either as a single or on pre arranged meets or to just see what happens l am always polite and respectful and I give women and couples space and speak to everyone politely, however I think single men can be caught between a rock and a hard place. As I do not follow couples into the dungeon at Abfabs, I have regularly found out later that the lady of the couple or even single women have been looking for a lot of fun with a lot of men or a select few. I have spoken to couples who have volunteered when l was talking to them they were not playing today only to walk in later and join in on an open session.

I agree that guys standing around wanking or sticking cocks in peoples faces, or being hit by friendly fire when playing could be off putting but I have also seen couples that enjoy it.

I also think that they may be the silent majority who enjoy this behaviour as single men would not carry out this strategy if it did not work. Always to my amazement I have seen the criticised strategy work on too many occasions.

The problem being is it not always a case of talking to people and forming relationships a lot of the time for single men being in the right place at the right time is equally as important.

I remember being in abfabs on a couples night in the jacuzzi with another couple and we were just chatting. I said it must be nice not having a lot of single men around. The lady said no we prefer fridays, more action.

Another time I saw an attractive lady being shown around by herself. I saw her change and walk past while I was in the jacuzzi.

Half an hour later I wandered into the dungeon to see her with 5 men. When I spoke to her later she had said she had gone down there with two men and got carried away.

Conversely I have been in couples only rooms when the lazy arm swings out that starts stroking your partner without asking. Or have been on couples nights when you are enjoying your partner and groups of people stand around you watching and discussing their holidays or kids.

To conclude generally most clubs are ok as are most single men, but couples nights also depend on who is there.

Swinging is no different from any other kind of establishment, where there are people, there is always the possibility of being annoyed by someone.

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