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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice please on the best way fir an older man in Lincolnshire to get started, am very shy and nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1, step through the door

2, pay your entrance fee

3, enjoy

It really is that simple, its not rocket science

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"1, step through the door

2, pay your entrance fee

3, enjoy

It really is that simple, its not rocket science "

Nothing ever is after the first time xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just walk in and enjoy yourself, you're getting your knickers in a twist about nothing. I'm 40 years younger than you if I can do it then you should be able to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice please on the best way fir an older man in Lincolnshire to get started, am very shy and nervous "

Just relax try a introduction night in a club, try be yourself, dress smart and remember your manners. Talk to people just try not be a pest and follow any lady who shows a bit of flesh. And lastly never think sex is owed because you paid entry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I were forty years younger it would be easier

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Obvious it is but don`t forget to choose a night when the club is allowing single guys in!! Nothing worse than finally plucking up the courage only to be turned away!

But seriously, I would suggest you don`t have any "dutch courage" before you go in and possibly not eat too heavy a meal either!

Otherwise it seriously is indeed as "simple" as the lady suggested!

Once inside, expect nothing, if you get talking to a couple, talk to both partners and make sure you have a supply of condoms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it! Read the reviews and web on the club/ clubs first, try day time first when they're usually quieter.

This will be your only time it's your first time, so chat, use it is a conversation starter and get as much info as you can.

Just think of your visit as a tour and don't expect anything sexual.

Good luck and hope you meet as many lovely people as I've met,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nit many close either so probably Lincoln

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering

Being the same age as you and a regular Friday night visitor to The Vanilla Alternative (like every week!), I can say it's just a case of being yourself, socialising with everyone else and seeing where it goes. In swinging age, with most people, is not a deciding factor (although you have to respect that it is for some). It's down to a personal attraction and often this will just be on a social level. If things go any further then Happy Days! but of course just paying an entry fee does not mean it's open season with everyone else there. Be respectful, make an effort to socialise, don't overstep the mark and remember friendships are often built up over more than one visit. Go with no expectations and if anything good happens, it's a bonus! Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being the same age as you and a regular Friday night visitor to The Vanilla Alternative (like every week!), I can say it's just a case of being yourself, socialising with everyone else and seeing where it goes. In swinging age, with most people, is not a deciding factor (although you have to respect that it is for some). It's down to a personal attraction and often this will just be on a social level. If things go any further then Happy Days! but of course just paying an entry fee does not mean it's open season with everyone else there. Be respectful, make an effort to socialise, don't overstep the mark and remember friendships are often built up over more than one visit. Go with no expectations and if anything good happens, it's a bonus! Have fun."

this is spot on.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Going to a club is a so less stressful then a meet. It is like going to a bar but more fun.

Jeez went to a bar the other week and the most entertaining thing was a TV.... got one of them at home. However I do not have ares in my house where people are getting down to it and a jacuzzi and great banter.... So I go to a club. Once you have been you will realise how the question in this forum was not needed but everyone has to start somewhere. I remember out first visit to a club.... had not even heard of fab. We just turned up, took a deep breath and went in. Ok our first club was a bad move. It was the wrong choice of club and have never returned there since but all the other clubs we have been to have been good. Ya gonna get the odd problem here and there as that is life. Nothing is perfect. In the end you will find a small collection of clubs you like and stick to them. Do not just have one favourite, you never know if that might randomly turn sour so always make sure there are some alternatives to go to. Check the reviews on here. There are some clubs that people will review every week so it is not generally about how many they have but how many different people think it is a good place too. A club could have 1000 reviews but if all from the same person it does not say much... Also remember on here that 1000 reviews does not mean good reviews. They are good and bad. Start reading the reviews and you will work it out. Check each clubs website and see what night you are going to go on. Some events may not be what you would like and a first visit to an event that does not suit you would give a bad first impression. If you do not like the first club do not give up. Whilst we thought our first club was interesting as we had never been to a club before we realised when we went to a better one that the first one was more of a sex club rather then a swingers club. I think that is also the biggest question. Sex club or swingers club. There are clubs where you just jump on the bed and the girls will just do you. Then there are clubs where you get to know people and mutually enojoy the fun. If you just want to cum n go then there are certain clubs for that and if you want to enjoy a night of socialising and some fun too then there are clubs for that.

Going to a club is easy. Just do a little homework in what each club has to offer and pick the right night for yourself.

If you are really that nervous then find a friend on here to go with...

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

P.S. Age has nothing to do with it as firstly there are all ages at clubs and secondly there are people of one age who are interested in people of another age. So you are either going to find someone your own age or someone who likes someone of your age. Failing that, they are great for a social environment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Going to a club is a so less stressful then a meet. It is like going to a bar but more fun.

Jeez went to a bar the other week and the most entertaining thing was a TV.... got one of them at home. However I do not have ares in my house where people are getting down to it and a jacuzzi and great banter.... So I go to a club. Once you have been you will realise how the question in this forum was not needed but everyone has to start somewhere. I remember out first visit to a club.... had not even heard of fab. We just turned up, took a deep breath and went in. Ok our first club was a bad move. It was the wrong choice of club and have never returned there since but all the other clubs we have been to have been good. Ya gonna get the odd problem here and there as that is life. Nothing is perfect. In the end you will find a small collection of clubs you like and stick to them. Do not just have one favourite, you never know if that might randomly turn sour so always make sure there are some alternatives to go to. Check the reviews on here. There are some clubs that people will review every week so it is not generally about how many they have but how many different people think it is a good place too. A club could have 1000 reviews but if all from the same person it does not say much... Also remember on here that 1000 reviews does not mean good reviews. They are good and bad. Start reading the reviews and you will work it out. Check each clubs website and see what night you are going to go on. Some events may not be what you would like and a first visit to an event that does not suit you would give a bad first impression. If you do not like the first club do not give up. Whilst we thought our first club was interesting as we had never been to a club before we realised when we went to a better one that the first one was more of a sex club rather then a swingers club. I think that is also the biggest question. Sex club or swingers club. There are clubs where you just jump on the bed and the girls will just do you. Then there are clubs where you get to know people and mutually enojoy the fun. If you just want to cum n go then there are certain clubs for that and if you want to enjoy a night of socialising and some fun too then there are clubs for that.

Going to a club is easy. Just do a little homework in what each club has to offer and pick the right night for yourself.

If you are really that nervous then find a friend on here to go with..."

Thanks for such a detailed response very helpful

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sure you will have a great time. If you in the midlands don't forget the clubs. Really good.

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