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By *ouste OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newark

We are finding at some clubs that the dress code for single guys is getting really bad. Why do the clubs let them in if they are wearing tee shirt and jogger bottoms. Some of them seem to think they are walking into a knocking shop. Whats other peoples oppinions

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

There is nothing better than a smart guy, who has made an effort and smells good! Why would someone think it's ok to pitch up in jogging pants!! :-/

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By *ikerswingCouple
over a year ago

mcr

totaly agree on this one .we prefer clubs with a dress down time.that way you can see who takes it seriously and has made the effort.weve seen guys turn up in work clothesstrip to a towel and enter the club without even washing let alone take a shower...

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"totaly agree on this one .we prefer clubs with a dress down time.that way you can see who takes it seriously and has made the effort.weve seen guys turn up in work clothesstrip to a towel and enter the club without even washing let alone take a shower..."

Blurgh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are finding at some clubs that the dress code for single guys is getting really bad. Why do the clubs let them in if they are wearing tee shirt and jogger bottoms. Some of them seem to think they are walking into a knocking shop. Whats other peoples oppinions"

Show the class (or lack thereof) of the club not only the patrons who turn up in them for allowing them in.

Money walks and talks via the single guy pound though doesn't it..

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

We've had some guys and I'm sorry to say, some couples who have turned up looking like they've been to the gym! We don't get many scruffy people as we are not that kind of club, but some guys especially have pitched up in joggies and trainers saying that they will dress down straight away. We have turned them away as they have made zero effort before they have arrived, so they will probably make zero effort once in the club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say vote with your feet. If a club has a dress code and can't be bothered to ensure everyone adhere's to it, then I rather spend my time & money somewhere else.

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

We have found the same, some guys really make the effort and i'm sure they will see the difference their efforts make.

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering

At my usual club, Vanilla Alternative, they are quite strict about dress code for the normal party sessions on Fridays and Saturdays. Being an upmarket club in terms of decor, the dress code thing is just an extension of that. Nearly all visitors make a special effort to impress but, as with all things, there is sometimes the exception.

For other chillout sessions or lower key events, more social dress is OK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you guys saying that guys pitch up at a club/event in tracksuit bottoms and trainers?

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

We love to see people dressed up, to be honest we don't tend to visit the club that requires people to put on a towel as soon as they walk through the door. Its nice to see people make an effort!

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Are you guys saying that guys pitch up at a club/event in tracksuit bottoms and trainers?

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Not often as most know better, but some chancers do yes. They get turned away though as we are not an immediate dress down club and we are strict with our dress code. I'll say it again, a man who looks and smells good is irresistable! yum!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We actually quite like it in a perverse way.

It makes it very simple for us to workout where we want to spend our time.

If people can't be arsed to make the effort with the way they dress chance's are they're not going to put the effort in elsewhere.

If a club is prepared to let patrons in dressed like that, then that's not the type of club we want to visit and spend our time in.

We just think that a swingers club is just that... Not a working mans club or a local social club.

Each to their own but we very much prefer it where people and clubs put in the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is as something be else said before money talks, if a guy has to pay £50+ to get into a club a lot of owners will be reluctant to turn them down. Shame as we always make an effort where ever we go

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By *teed99Man
over a year ago

Kettering


"Trouble is as something be else said before money talks, if a guy has to pay £50+ to get into a club a lot of owners will be reluctant to turn them down. Shame as we always make an effort where ever we go"

As a member, it's only £30 to get into Vanilla Alternative on a Friday night as a single guy but maybe London prices are much higher.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

If I am at a dress up club black trousers /jeans and a tight black shirt with shoes and full look the business

If I am at a dress down club then I will get a shower as soon as I get in as for example I often have been out all day, and going to club, I make sure I have shower gell and smellies to make me feel good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I hate the totally outdated idea that a man has to wear a suit to be smart, I still hate seeing people have made no effort. We vote with our feet and its why we will probably never go back to Eureakas on an evening and will never try ab-fabs.

Clubs should enforce their dresscode (whatever that may be) and not doing so is incredibly disrespectful to all those who do make an effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I may offer an opinion....

From a business perspective, given that single males often pay the highest entry and membership prices (and I completely understand the reasons why this is the case), I would suspect that any club may feel reluctant to turn away single males for failing to adhere to dress code (especially if they are likely to be disrobing almost immediately) for the simple fact that they are the most lucrative customer financially.

Of course, gaining entry to a club is no guarantee to getting to play, so perhaps some clubs are looking solely at the financial aspect, and leaving it up to other members to decide for themselves on any interaction with them.

I'm not saying that it's right, but these places have overheads that need to be covered.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"If I may offer an opinion....

From a business perspective, given that single males often pay the highest entry and membership prices (and I completely understand the reasons why this is the case), I would suspect that any club may feel reluctant to turn away single males for failing to adhere to dress code (especially if they are likely to be disrobing almost immediately) for the simple fact that they are the most lucrative customer financially.

Of course, gaining entry to a club is no guarantee to getting to play, so perhaps some clubs are looking solely at the financial aspect, and leaving it up to other members to decide for themselves on any interaction with them.

I'm not saying that it's right, but these places have overheads that need to be covered.

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Nope, we are no money orientated at all and any good business person would know that looking after regular customers is the way forward. In our club, couples are our regular customers and if we start letting scruffy guys in, then we will lose our regulars. A long term income is better than a short term burst of cash. Our guys, for the most part are a credit to themselves and always make an effort to impress and totally understand why we have a dress code

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

One of our pet hates to be honest. If a club has a dress code then they should stick to it. If a dress down club then fair enough but at clubs where guys stay dressed then they should stick to it. I had a discussion with a guy at a club and he was saying his jeans cost over £200, but that is not the point, no denim is no denim no matter how much they cost. We went to Xstasia New Years eve and it was so nice to see so many people dressed so smart, it really added to a sexy atmosphere.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

I can't believe blokes go dressed like that the only time I will wear t-shirt and joggers is at the gym ffs even jeans and a shirt is better surely

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Any guy dressed like that and approaching me gets the "creature from the blue lagoon" look of disgust and horror. They soon learn or head towards someone who couldn't care less

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By *ewcouplemidsCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Depends on if it's a wet club or not

No point turning up in a suit an shirt if all you can wear once inside is a towel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't believe blokes go dressed like that the only time I will wear t-shirt and joggers is at the gym ffs even jeans and a shirt is better surely "

I will always, always enter a club with minimum jacket and tie. Never denim. Ever. I understand that people might find me stuffy wearing chinos, smart shirt with an elegantly tied windsor knot, cufflinks etc. It is who I am and what I wear.

I grew up on a rough estate where football shirts and trainers were the only order of dress and swore that I would leave all that behind.

I always wear shirts, I only wear trainers for running. On the rare occasion I do go to a club, even if I will end up in a towel, i will remain true to myself and make the effort.

Suits outdated? Possibly. But I feel so much more confident and comfortable in one.

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford


"Depends on if it's a wet club or not

No point turning up in a suit an shirt if all you can wear once inside is a towel "

No such thing as lockers then

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By *ouste OP   Couple
over a year ago

Newark

Im happy to see a guy in smart jeans, shoes and a shirt, even a tee shirt if smart. But coming in joggers and trainers is a no, might as well just turn up in a dressing gown if he cant be bothered. Why should any woman give a guy anytime if he has no respect for himself. We have been at clubs too when guys get out of works vans and come in club in work wear. Women make an effort when going to a club if a man cant he should not be allowed entry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clue to good dressing in clubs is not to looks like your about to go to your school disco.

When a man turned up at Libs in Jeans he was allowed entry but asked to change into a towel when he got inside. A compromise of sorts

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon


"If I may offer an opinion....

From a business perspective, given that single males often pay the highest entry and membership prices (and I completely understand the reasons why this is the case), I would suspect that any club may feel reluctant to turn away single males for failing to adhere to dress code (especially if they are likely to be disrobing almost immediately) for the simple fact that they are the most lucrative customer financially.

Of course, gaining entry to a club is no guarantee to getting to play, so perhaps some clubs are looking solely at the financial aspect, and leaving it up to other members to decide for themselves on any interaction with them.

I'm not saying that it's right, but these places have overheads that need to be covered.

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Nope Not the case . We actually turn down lots of single guys from the club I work at.

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

In many European clubs, posh underwear is a requirement for guys as well as girls. Works well.

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

Is it only me that thinks you can tell a lot about a man just from the clothes he wears and how he presents himself? A guy in just a towel is a guy in a towel and gives away nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suits outdated? Possibly. But I feel so much more confident and comfortable in one."

I'm assuming (perhaps wrongly) that this at least indirectly refers to my previous post. I don't think suits are outdated and some people look amazing in them. I just find the notion of clubs settings a dresscode of suits rather than smart casual lazy outdated and a throw back to the 80s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always make an effort when going to Abfab (our local) we only go on couples night so cannot comment about single guys. As others have said it shows that people give a toss about themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion there is nothing sexier than a nicely dressed guy, one of the things I love about Townhouse is standing in the bar at the start of the evening eyeing up who looks best in a suit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New Year's Eve I wore a cream jacket tux, felt very smart and complimented on it a lot more than I expected. The whole club overall was dressed fantastic, and I'm sure that most people appreciated it, I certainly did.

The clubs where people apparently make zero effort, I can't say I've been to, however it's a good way to know who to avoid or chat to, depending on preferences.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Swinging clubs are like normal clubs in some ways. If a place has a dress code I'll avoid it, I'll dress how I want when I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree, we love to see people making an effort as we certainly make an effort when we go to a club. First impressions count and its nice to be in a club and watch well groomed hotties walk in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suits outdated? Possibly. But I feel so much more confident and comfortable in one.

I'm assuming (perhaps wrongly) that this at least indirectly refers to my previous post. I don't think suits are outdated and some people look amazing in them. I just find the notion of clubs settings a dresscode of suits rather than smart casual lazy outdated and a throw back to the 80s.

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It wasn't intended in any way as a slight. I appreciate that some will find designer jeans and t-shirt perfectly acceptable. For me, if I feel confortable, I can be more confident. A suit does that for me. Having a minimum dress code for entry into a club makes sense. Not suggesting everyone wears suits for one minute. There is a certain irony seeing a lady all glammed up, figure hugging dress, stockings and suspenders etc and her fella is in his £120 designer t-shirt.

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